Sensitive Bottom

[Jamesh]

I am a middle aged bi and dont often hire escorts (2-3x year) but when I do, I want to bottom. Problem is I have to take it slow, since i am tight. I always make it a point to stress to the top that I am looking for taking it very easy, no fast pumping. Since I have hired escorts in the past ten years, only 2-3 tops have really done a good job in understanding this - surprisingly one was Trevor Knight. But in the past few years, the tops always say sure they understand and it is obvious they dont. I end up asking them to stop. I was watching some porn and saw a very sexy clip on Mormongays where this top daddy eases into Elder Ence - it is such a turn on.

 

I was wondering if there is a particular way to describe this to an escort so that they could understand it. If I could have that sort of sex I would probably pay double their rate. Any recommendations?

[HotWhiteThirties]

How about just sending the provider you hire, or are hiring, the clip that you’re referencing and ask him to review it? You can add a few specific comments about why it in particular is appealing to you. Sounds pretty hot to me....feel free to share it. Hehe.

 

However, even with limited bottoming experience, you have to know that so much of the “battle,” if I can call it that, is a mental one. The more apprehensive and anxious you remain, the harder it will be to enjoy it - no matter how gifted your top is.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Just hire me! I specialise in experiences like the one you’re looking for. My rate’s already about double the going rate tho... so no need to double it again!!

 

I have a lot of reviews written by ‘sensitive bottoms’ on TER from before I started my transition if you want to read all about it...

https://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/show.asp?id=190835

 

I agree that a lot of the battle can be mental. But there are ways for an escort to hold your hand through that part too, in addition to giving you the gentle approach that you need to enjoy it.

[MartyB]

One of my all time favorite men the great Antton Harri told me something that has always been with me ever since. The bottom is in control. If the session is not just physically appealing but your mind has to be into it as well. Any escort that I've been with understands what each man is capable of. Have someone spend plenty of time working on you whether rimming using their fingers good lube and if necessary a little anal ease. But chemistry has to be there. And yes there will be a bit of discomfort at first but also figure out which position works best. I would also use the forum here and DM members to see if if a particular escort will work for u. Good luck

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Again, an easy problem to solve... Just cut & paste what you wrote here and send it to the perspective escort.

 

Or, as a more fun option, you could wear a nametag like this when you meet:

 

[Jamesh]

Thanks for the advice and the option - especially from a sexy guy like you!

[Bearofdistinction]

Again, an easy problem to solve... Just cut & paste what you wrote here and send it to the perspective escort.

 

Or, as a more fun option, you could wear a nametag like this when you meet:

 

 

And Stick one on each cheek!

[+ Lance_Navarro]

It sounds like you are already doing all you can in communicating that your tight and need things to go slow, but I'm curious if you are doing anything to exercise your hole to make it easier on both you and the top. Do you play with your ass much with fingers or a toy? As someone with a large dick, i have gotten very good at taking my time, but there are those bottoms that I'm just not going to be able to open up enough to fuck unless they stretch their hole a bit in advance. I think that often guys will rush to push it in because they will lose their hard on if they don't, especially if they are wearing a condom.

[TruthBTold]

I have found that, as others have mentioned, have the top exercise you with fingers and tongue. But also you can start by being on top. You go as slow as you want. You go as deep as you want at first. Wet his appetite. Watch his eyes and you can see he is going to be grateful was you go further and further toward him. Once you get all the way down, stop for a minute so you get used to the girth, then slowly back up. Drives the top crazy. Then take it in the direction you want.