It’s wrong

[Roguealpha]

why do new clients ask this rather stupid question “why do you do this, I mean, you are well educated and smart, why do you escort? Why?

[+ VictorPowers]

I wouldn't take offense to that question. I have in fact answered it a few times. I have my career goals, and doing this is just a pit stop in that journey.

[+ Avalon]

why do new clients ask this rather stupid question “why do you do this, I mean, you are well educated and smart, why do you escort? Why?

 

It pays more than minimum wage.

[+ StLouisOct]

I admire Victor's self confidence, but I think the question is incredibly rude and I'd never ask it. I'm a lawyer who's had an ethical career in which I helped a lot of people, but I wouldn't want to hear a client ask, "Why are you a lawyer? They're all blood sucking liars. Why?"

Edited January 31, 2018 by StLouisOct

[+ nycman]

I have in fact answered it a few times.

Ahhhh....now I feel bad I didn’t ask Victor “why” when we met....

 

Then again....once I saw that smile and that ass...

I didn’t give a fuck WHY he was doing it...

I was just incredibly thankful that he WAS doing it.

[escortrod]

I admire Victor's self confidence, but I think the question is incredibly rude and I'd never ask it. I'm a lawyer who's had an ethical career in which I helped a lot of people, but I wouldn't want to hear a client ask, "Why are you a lawyer? They're all blood sucking liars. Why?"

Since I got my law degree I get more negative reactions to my intention to practice law than my sideline as an escort.

[BaronArtz]

Since I got my law degree I get more negative reactions to my intention to practice law than my sideline as an escort.

 

I am sure you are quite the sexy barrister! Do you wear black robes and a wig in court? Pictures please ...

[MartyB]

Never asked that question. However, When an escort became a regular over a long stretch it was inevitable we would talk about futures especially escorts who are/were on the mature side of this business. It was always mutual never butting in on my part.

[nsguy45]

I once asked that question to an escort who was smoking hot, a great kisser, well hung and sucked, rimmed and fucked like a porn star. He was also married to a female, had two young daughters and was a Marine who had just returned from a tour in Afghanistan. He admitted he was totally closeted and fulfilled his desire to be with men by escorting. He said all his friends were either jocks or military and he had no one in his life to confide in. After we were through, had dressed and I paid him, he asked if he could hang out with me for a while and talk. We talked for an hour, three beers apiece, and then he left. Very sweet guy, unlike any escort I've ever been with, before or since.

[+ StLouisOct]

Since I got my law degree I get more negative reactions to my intention to practice law than my sideline as an escort.

A solicitor perhaps?

[escortrod]

I am sure you are quite the sexy barrister! Do you wear black robes and a wig in court? Pictures please ...

StLouisOct is correct, I'll be practicing as a solicitor rather than a barrister, so no robes or wig for me.

[+ VictorPowers]

Further thoughts:

I give the client the benefit of the doubt in this situation. I look at the question as a simple inquiry, and not one with a negative connotation.

Perhaps they are complimenting you in a way. The client may see your great qualities and other strengths that another career choice can highlight.

[jjkrkwood]

Further thoughts:

I give the client the benefit of the doubt in this situation. I look at the question as a simple inquiry, and not one with a negative connotation.

Perhaps they are complimenting you in a way. The client may see your great qualities and other strengths that another career choice can highlight.

 

We thank you for "feeding the hungry" with your delicious ASS buffet !

[BasketBaller]

I confess to having asked a similar question, more along the lines of "How did you get into this business?" But not as a new client, I've only talked about "the career" with those I'd connected with enough to have a conversation about ourselves.

[KennF]

Without another topic, talking about the things you know about each other are very natural. Asking an escort why he chose his profession is no different than asking a teacher, barber, or accountant why they chose their profession. It is a normal icebreaker, since the client knows the escort's profession.

 

The phrasing you use can be taken as an insult, but I'm not sure that the question is really rude. You can ask a lawyer "why a lawyer? I mean you have such potential in business." Or, you can ask them, "why a lawyer? how did you choose that as a career?" The first implies a negative impression of a lawyer, the second is about curiosity and conversation.

[P Gren]

I admire Victor's self confidence, but I think the question is incredibly rude and I'd never ask it. I'm a lawyer who's had an ethical career in which I helped a lot of people, but I wouldn't want to hear a client ask, "Why are you a lawyer? They're all blood sucking liars. Why?"

What if it just "why are you a lawyer" with genuine curiosity, without any preconceived judgement

Edited January 31, 2018 by P Gren

[+ nycman]

How did this devolve into a discussion about

the career choices of “filthy dirty whores”?

 

And by “dirty filthy whores”....I mean lawyers.

 

Grin

[+ StLouisOct]

Note though that the question described at the start of this thread is not “tell me about yourself..” or “what do like about being an escort?” It was, “why do you do this? YOU’RE WELL EDUCATED AND SMART, WHY DO YOU ESCORT? WHY?” I can see why that wording would not be received positively by an escort.

[crushme99]

You can ask a lawyer "why a lawyer? I mean you have such potential in business." Or, you can ask them, "why a lawyer? how did you choose that as a career?" The first implies a negative impression of a lawyer, the second is about curiosity and conversation.

 

I've only hired four times, twice with each of two guys. I really never asked that specific question, but both were not at all hesitant to share some insights into their motivations and where escorting fit into their "real" lives. My questions were meant as friendly curiosity and I guess they took those questions as intended. I don't see what's wrong with being interested in the person being hired - whether he's a lawyer, a teacher, or an escort. I think showing an interest in who that person is, with no negative labeling, can be a sign of a sincere client. If the person being hired sees it differently, he's free to change the subject.

[+ pitman]

Most of the escorts I have met are well-educated, smart, and confident. Some had corporate careers which they gave up in order to be full-time sex workers. All of this just makes them even more attractive to me. Knowing that they have chosen this work when they had other options gives me a woody.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

The connotations in the phrasing of the question in the OP are offensive, period. The phrasing reveals the client’s prejudice that only stupid people are escorts. It shows that he has a low opinion of the companions he hires in general. And they usually ask a question like this AFTER we’ve had sex. AFTER we’ve been physically, emotionally, and intellectually intimate. So as an escort, it’s incredibly awkward to suddenly realise that we are in bed with someone who doesn’t respect people in our profession (enough to be surprised by our intelligence). And degrading, really, if you think about it. I don’t feel dirty or devalued getting paid for sex, but I sure have negative feelings about fucking someone who doesn’t even respect me enough to consider that I might be an intelligent, talented human being and STILL choose to escort...

 

Honestly if someone asks this question phrased in this way then any chance of real chemistry we have is ruined.

 

Please note: I don’t feel this way about clients asking WHY I escort in general, how I got into the industry, or any other related question. But expressing surprise that an escort is intelligent or a well-rounded human being and still chooses this career is wrong.

 

I was one of those kids who read the extra (unassigned) sections in my textbooks, asked teachers advanced questions out of curiosity (which they often couldn’t even answer), got 98-100% on my exams without studying, and tutored my classmates on sections of subjects that teachers seemed unable to explain clearly. I grew up with everyone in my life declaring proudly that I was smart and talented enough to do anything I wanted when I grew up.

 

And I did! Just probably in the last way they might have expected...

Edited February 1, 2018 by FTM Zachary Prince

[Walker1]

Some had corporate careers which they gave up in order to be full-time sex workers. All of this just makes them even more attractive to me.

I don't know which is worse-a soul crushing corporate career or a job where you get your rocks off and get paid for it?

Is marrying for money worse or sleeping with someone for money and being honest about it?

 

It is about time it is legalized.

[+ Avalon]

It is about time it is legalized.

 

YES INDEED!

[+ g56whiz]

Further thoughts:

I give the client the benefit of the doubt in this situation. I look at the question as a simple inquiry, and not one with a negative connotation.

Perhaps they are complimenting you in a way. The client may see your great qualities and other strengths that another career choice can highlight.

 

Now I REALLY hope to get to that pit while you’re stopped in it!!!

[Rudynate]

why do new clients ask this rather stupid question “why do you do this, I mean, you are well educated and smart, why do you escort? Why?

 

 

Because they're bone headed and lacking manners.