Initial contact with an escort

[Aaron_Bauder]

P.S. No one can say with 100% certainty they will connect with someone they don't know. Impossible. It's fair to expect your chosen guy to be present and energized, but there's no way to predict the future and guarantee you'll get everything you want, even if you text back and forth and speak on the phone. So, please, do *not* demand such a guarantee. If you have been doing so, that's a valid reason to be blocked. A good escort is not going to knowingly overpromise. I would self-check make you aren't accidentally flashing "control issues" when expressing your needs, because control issues are one of the worst red flags.

 

You and he can only promise to put your best selves forward, but if you can't accept risk and relinquish some level of control, hiring is not for you. I enjoy the risk as an escort; I sometimes take on...difficult clients for the personal challenge and professional growth. Being able to will myself to perform and satisfy and end up geniuinely enjoying myself and connecting where others could not gives me a rush. But even the best escorts have an occassional dud, and it's nobody's fault.

 

If you are anxious, do your due diligence in picking somone who has a track record of leaving clients satisfied in the way that you are looking for, then relinquish control, jump in, and let the chips fall where they may. Clearly, hiring a hot-looking rookie with no track record is not the best idea for you yet, but that also means you're going to be dealing with escorts whose patience with your worries will have tighter limits. I believe providers have a duty to be polite and friendly to all inquiries, but within reason. A new client looking for just an hour probably won't get an excess of unpaid-for time and attention from an escort with competing priorites and several other potential hires. Just sayin.

[crushme99]

Can a potential client somehow check to see if he's been blocked by an escort on rent.men?

[MikeyGMin]

Can a potential client somehow check to see if he's been blocked by an escort on rent.men?

Yes. You can only be blocked if you are logged into your account. Just log out and then try to view the profile it again.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

I'd suggest reflecting on feedback about adjusting expections. The post reminding clients that they are not the center of the escort's world -- that he has other legitimiate responsibilities and priorities -- was spot on. Your response -- that a pro should be able to make you feel like he is the center of the world when he's with you -- is true, but think about what you're saying. You want the escort to center you *before* he's with you. As has been pointed out, this is not fair, and even if it were, it's not really possible for a guy that's in-demand due to that thing called time.

 

Some clients seem to forget, or not care, that we too have to eat, sleep, groom, medicate, socialize, call mom, workout to keep that rockin body you expect, run errands, do household chores, work on life goals, AND be emotionally present available for our already-scheduled appointments. Expecting an escort to *also* commit emotionally to the demands and small talk of the army of complete strangers texting and emailing him daily is disrespectful, especially when experience has taught him that 90% of them are flakes, weirdos, and/or pic collectors.

 

I think most mature, well-adjusted adults can understand that. And a popular, seasoned escort is not going to, and doesn't have to, waste energy on those who can't.

 

My thoughts exactly.

[Chandler Midas]

This is spot on

[Abe Froman]

Hmmm, I’d call that over cautious.

Here is why:

- I have hired over 150 different people on 4 different continents. Not a single time did I reached the wrong person.

 

- I don’t think escorts hand over their phone to their boyfriend to have a look at the texts from clients.

 

- Sure, in theory a brand new escort could have typed the wrong number and put up someone else’s # by mistake on RM, but if the ad has been up for a couple of weeks or more, he had all the time to correct it once he realised he wasn’t getting a single text, from any client at all!

 

So I safely assume the number gets to the right person, I would only worry for a completely new and inexperienced escort.

There's always the chance of you misdialing. Don't want to text "how much for a blow job" and get the response "who dis?"

[+ Tarte Gogo]

There's always the chance of you misdialing. Don't want to text "how much for a blow job" and get the response "who dis?"

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