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[+ WmClarke]

I’ve made a promise to a friend that I would only go bare with him. I’m not going to go behind his back and breed someone. I’m not perfect, as you all know here, but I try to be a man of my word

Do you really think you’re “friend” only barebacks with you? That’s incredibly naïve. Talk to him and explain that there may *occasionally* be other “friends” you want to bareback.

[+ Gar1eth]

Do you really think you’re “friend” only barebacks with you? That’s incredibly naïve. Talk to him and explain that there may *occasionally* be other “friends” you want to bareback.

 

He may be lying. But as far as I know I’m his only f-cking partner.

 

Gman

[marylander1940]

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Finally, there is a guy on Bear411. He says he is new to it and finds it a bit overwhelming. I’m assuming it’s because he’s both new online and an attractive guy, so I’m betting a lot of guys are contacting him. The troubles are he lives 125 miles from me, and he says work is really busy for him right now.

 

He says he’s interested in meeting. I hate trying to arrange things with guys on Bear411. Since it’s a website and not an app, it doesn’t alert you to messages unless you are logged into it. I’ve missed messages for days from forgetting to log into it. I explain that to him, and give him one of my emails. I also tell him-which I’m sure y’all all know is that the longer ‘conversations’ go on -much like escorts often tell us with long correspondences from potential clients- with these apps an inertia sets in. And it’s less likely a meeting will ever occur. (Just a note of clarification here-I’ve been talking with this guy off and on for weeks. I didn’t spring the ideas of communicating by email on him at once, nor the idea of inertia. We’ve been ‘talking’ on and off since probably at least the 2nd week of December). I tell him I’m not trying to push him though if he’s uncomfortable. He replies ‘ok’. But I’m guessing he’s a lost cause-distance and his own insecurities with a meet-up app coming into play.

 

If you're interested on someone just exchange cellphones and make plans that way, be more proactive, make it happen.

 

...The sad thing is I really only appeal to guys who like bears. But I’m not really into my fellow bears (for the most part with an occasional exception) unless they are the skinnier otter types or what some might call ‘wolves’-the muscular bear types. And while there is an ‘over abundance’ of my type of bear. There is definitely a dearth of the kinds of guys I like spread over too many me-types.

 

That's very unusual, bears usually are proud of who they're and attracted to other heavier, hairy guys. I guess to each his own.

 

I’d say gay men on apps are scum. But I think it’s just men on apps in general.

 

Have you tried alternative ways to meet other men? You're in city that not only has a scene but also a great gay culture.

[+ Gar1eth]

 

Finally, there is a guy on Bear411. He says he is new to it and finds it a bit overwhelming. I’m assuming it’s because he’s both new online and an attractive guy, so I’m betting a lot of guys are contacting him. The troubles are he lives 125 miles from me, and he says work is really busy for him right now.

 

If you're interested on someone just exchange cellphones and make plans that way, be more proactive, make it happen.

 

I appreciate the suggestion. But this guy is, he says, new to all this. He says the experience of being on Bear411 is “overwhelming”. I don’t know, if he’s telling the truth, whether he’s just shy, been in a relationship for a long time and not needed the apps, closeted/married to a woman, or what. I almost gave him my number. I decided a better course of action was to give him my email. He hasn’t responded and has even backed off from our previous communication where he said he would like me to top him. He never would have gone for exchanging phone numbers.

 

 

The sad thing is I really only appeal to guys who like bears. But I’m not really into my fellow bears (for the most part with an occasional exception) unless they are the skinnier otter types or what some might call ‘wolves’-the muscular bear types. And while there is an ‘over abundance’ of my type of bear. There is definitely a dearth of the kinds of guys I like spread over too many me-types.

 

 

That's very unusual, bears usually are proud of who they're and attracted to other heavier, hairy guys. I guess to each his own.

 

I think you are overgeneralizing here. There are lots of bears only looking for otters (skinny hairy guys), chasers, or non-bear types. As for me I love hairy guys-I like smooth too. I like some bears. But I don’t like guys bigger than I am (usually as there might always be a rare exception). Part of this is due to personal tastes. Part of it is also due to my (under) endowment. It is extremely difficult for me to top guys with large buttocks. I can’t get anywhere even close to where I need to be. And no I’m not going to bottom.

 

In general I like handsome chasers ( as long as they aren’t too young and aren’t overly twinky), otters (= skinnier hairy guys), what some would call ‘wolves’ (muscular bearish guys), average guys, athletic guys, bodybuilders, and jocks.

 

As for being proud of being a bear, I know I’m not the only one who isn’t that fond of being as large as I am. And please don’t go on about how I could change my body type if I wanted to. Yes it’s in the realm of possibility, but it’s probability approaches zero-or shows like The Biggest Loser wouldn’t be so interesting. If everybody could take the pounds off easily, there’d be no show.

 

 

 

IHave you tried alternative ways to meet other men? You're in city that not only has a scene but also a great gay culture.

 

Yes, I have. But I live 32 miles from Seattle. There is nowhere near as much going on where I live. I went for a time to the local gay community center on a regular basis but that never really led to anything. When I was first coming out -well I’m not exactly out now-but I’m not exactly closeted either-I went to a group in Seattle for exploring problems of older gay males. There was only one guy there close to my age. Most seemed much older. Most of them had been married and had children. One guy fell asleep during the meeting. I didn’t have much in common with them. So I didn’t go back. I also tried the Bear Movie Group. But most everyone going always came with someone else or knew several people there. I always came alone and didn’t know anyone. Only a few people would introduce themselves. For the most part they would watch the movie and then leave immediately afterwards without stopping to get a few munchies afterwards. So there was no chance to get to know the people. Since there was no chance to get to know people, I quit going.

 

Now I don’t have the money to go out. So even if I could find a group, which I can’t , I couldn’t do anything.

 

Gman

Edited January 23, 2018 by Gar1eth

[+ Tygerscent]

... I’d say gay men on apps are scum. But I think it’s just men on apps in general.

 

Gman

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[+ Pensant]

[YoungAD]

Now I don’t have the money to go out. So even if I could find a group, which I can’t , I couldn’t do anything.

 

Gman

 

As usual I do not understand the point of posting yet another negative diatribe about what cannot be done or accomplished in your situation as a gay man. You are an adult, so either do something about your problems or shut up.

[+ Gar1eth]

As usual I do not understand the point of posting yet another negative diatribe about what cannot be done or accomplished in your situation as a gay man. You are an adult, so either do something about your problems or shut up.

 

Well aside from the fact that you’ve used the word diatribe incorrectly (could you have possibly meant jeremiad by any chance?), I was answering a question.

 

Gman

Edited January 24, 2018 by Gar1eth

[caliguy]

My experience has been if something looks too good to be true it usually is. If your red flags aren't up then it's on you. Plus, if you're just into guys who are clearly out of your league then get used to it.

[YoungAD]

Well aside from the fact that you’ve used the word diatribe incorrectly (could you have possibly meant jeremiad by any chance?), I was answering a question.

 

Gman

 

Perhaps I should have said “pointless whining” instead. This is not the first time you have shot down every positive suggestion for self-improvement that has been directed your way, nor will it be the last given your posting history.