Why I Hire...

[tenderloin]

I have recently been vividly reminded as to why I hire. I am a decent-looking guy, early fifties in ok shape, sometimes told I am handsome. Recently I have been dipping the toe in the online (non-escort) hook-up world, and wow what a psychotic place it is!

 

Getting into lengthy back and forth with people who aren't who they say they are, or flake out at the last minute, or I guess just get their jollies by exchanging dirty talk via text and email...it is endless. Seriously, there are a lot of people out there with too much spare time LOL. Suddenly the option of reaching out to a guy, fixing a time, and getting off and getting out is soooooo attractive.

 

Sorry, just had to vent.

[marylander1940]

I have recently been vividly reminded as to why I hire. I am a decent-looking guy, early fifties in ok shape, sometimes told I am handsome. Recently I have been dipping the toe in the online (non-escort) hook-up world, and wow what a psychotic place it is!

 

Getting into lengthy back and forth with people who aren't who they say they are, or flake out at the last minute, or I guess just get their jollies by exchanging dirty talk via text and email...it is endless. Seriously, there are a lot of people out there with too much spare time LOL. Suddenly the option of reaching out to a guy, fixing a time, and getting off and getting out is soooooo attractive.

 

Sorry, just had to vent.

 

Escorts keep telling me about having more young clients in recent years.

[MartyB]

I have recently been vividly reminded as to why I hire. I am a decent-looking guy, early fifties in ok shape, sometimes told I am handsome. Recently I have been dipping the toe in the online (non-escort) hook-up world, and wow what a psychotic place it is!

 

Getting into lengthy back and forth with people who aren't who they say they are, or flake out at the last minute, or I guess just get their jollies by exchanging dirty talk via text and email...it is endless. Seriously, there are a lot of people out there with too much spare time LOL. Suddenly the option of reaching out to a guy, fixing a time, and getting off and getting out is soooooo attractive.

 

Sorry, just had to vent.

For this man hiring a pro is the way to go. I'm not looking for a relationship. I want great sex. Hot raunchy sweaty etc. Nothing better. I hear what your saying. Good thing were in NYC where the choices are as varied as we all are.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I have recently been vividly reminded as to why I hire. I am a decent-looking guy, early fifties in ok shape, sometimes told I am handsome. Recently I have been dipping the toe in the online (non-escort) hook-up world, and wow what a psychotic place it is!

 

Getting into lengthy back and forth with people who aren't who they say they are, or flake out at the last minute, or I guess just get their jollies by exchanging dirty talk via text and email...it is endless. Seriously, there are a lot of people out there with too much spare time LOL. Suddenly the option of reaching out to a guy, fixing a time, and getting off and getting out is soooooo attractive.

 

Sorry, just had to vent.

 

After my last LTR imploded four years ago I pretty much decided hiring was better for me. I also don't have the patience anymore for the online hook up app games.

[+ José Soplanucas]

After my last LTR imploded four years ago I pretty much decided hiring was better for me. I also don't have the patience anymore for the online hook up app games.

 

If I were rich I wouldnt be investing any time on hooking up on line. Unfortunately I am as poor as a shithole country immigrant, if I want to have all the sex I need I have to get it for free.

[cautious]

I’m married, generally happily, but definitely lacking in the intimacy department. I thought hiring was the fool proof, drama free method - pay a fee, know what to expect - no rejection or disappointment. Unfortunately as I’ve learned (and I’m sure countless others have as well), it’s not fool proof. When it works it’s great, but you can still experience disappointment and rejection.

[tenderloin]

I’m married, generally happily, but definitely lacking in the intimacy department. I thought hiring was the fool proof, drama free method - pay a fee, know what to expect - no rejection or disappointment. Unfortunately as I’ve learned (and I’m sure countless others have as well), it’s not fool proof. When it works it’s great, but you can still experience disappointment and rejection.

 

My situation exactly. And yes, there are downsides to hiring, no question. And I still find that sex with a guy who is with you because he WANTS to be there (as opposed to someone who you are paying to smile and moan) is the hottest. That's what I have been trying to get back to, but I have spent way too much time wooing, and not enough fucking. I've made all sorts of arrangements (canceling meetings, changing travel plans, etc.) to meet someone only to have them flake out at the last minute. I am now so cynical I won't believe someone is real until they are in my apartment with their trousers down.

 

I misspent much of my youth in the closet, admiring but not touching. Now, in NYC, with an understanding husband, I am like a kid in a candy shop. Yes, there are some misfires, but generally the biggest obstacle is finding the cash.

[Rudynate]

My reasons are the same as anybody else's. But I also like paying men for sex. It is erotic in and of itself. If an escort offered me a freebie, I would certainly be flattered, but wouldn't otherwise be that interested.

[youngboldone]

I understand you completely. Am in a sexless marriage and have been given permission to open up the relationship and get my needs met elsewhere. I'm not rich, so I initially tried Grindr, Scruff, and Growlr. Absolutely NO luck on either Grindr or Scruff. I'm met some nice people on Growlr, but all they seem to want to do is talk. There's one guy in particular - figured out we actually only live about 3 miles apart. His situation is the same as mine: married to a guy, but they have an open relationship. He has initiated late night sex chatting numerous times, and then after he gets off, I don't hear from him for 4 or 5 days. Rinse and repeat. I finally asked him if he wanted to meet and actually have sex in person rather than over the phone. I've gotten a range of excuses.

 

I've hired three times, and only one of those times has been what I'd call a home run. The other two were very lackluster. Ironically, the lackluster guys got me to cum, but the session I had the best time in, I didn't cum. Figure that one out. So hiring isn't foolproof, but the odds are certainly better I'll have a good time versus trying to woo one of these guys on an app to actually meet. I think, contrary to popular belief, technology has actually made hooking up MUCH more difficult!

[Rudynate]

I think, contrary to popular belief, technology has actually made hooking up MUCH more difficult!

 

There's nothing like seeing what you're getting in the flesh. In bars, sex clubs and bathhouses, the men are right there - less room for disappointment when he's standing right there in front of you and you can see exactly what you're getting. I think guys have lost their sense of proportion when they only have an online profile and a chain of text messages to go on. If everything isn't absolutely perfect, they move on. And moving on in the online world can be done without a second thought.

[tenderloin]

By the way, I tried a site called "Be Naughty" because it was listed somewhere... It is a total credit card scam. Fighting with them for ongoing charges. Fucking nightmare.

[Chuckball]

I 've tried bars, bathhouse and strip joints and always disappointed. I moved to Craigslist but most were no shows. I tried Rentmen and have met 4 great guys there. I always make an appointment and ay the ull fee but over and above the escorts have become friends. We text and communicate by telephone on other matters. As I said, sexual matters are on a business basis. But I enjoy the friendships as much as the sex.

[+ WilliamM]

Unfortunately as I’ve learned (and I’m sure countless others have as well), it’s not fool proof. When it works it’s great, but you can still experience disappointment and rejection.

 

Exactly why good escort agencies were popular decades ago. A good agency accepted complaints, and was training for guys were not ready to escort on their own.

[+ Gar1eth]

For this man hiring a pro is the way to go. I'm not looking for a relationship. I want great sex. Hot raunchy sweaty etc. Nothing better. I hear what your saying. Good thing were in NYC where the choices are as varied as we all are.

 

Well you have the greatest pickings in the USA. But even so if I were there I wouldn’t usually be able to find my very favorite types. I really like tall muscular blond Nordic types or muscular redheads. Both preferably without tattoos or piercings. Those kind of guys for some reason are in very short supply even in the abundance that is NYC. Now for guys whose favorite types are Latino, Mediterranean, and similar types there are defintely a lot to choose from.

 

Gman

[+ Pensant]

A most rewarding hobby, indeed. Always end up with a small group of regulars, some travel weekenders, others local multi-hours. All lean, smooth and hot; bright, gregarious and adventurous. Not many duds and no fakes over the past few years, thank heavens, although sad but happy when they move on and get a bf.