Escorts - a regular or many.

[Edward]

Do you prefer having a regular guy you hire or many? I have a regular that I feel comfortable with. I have looked at Rentmen and dont see any I like better. I have in the past hired many.

[natmas02]

I have 2 escorts that I'm a regular with - one of them I've been seeing for 3 years now and I do one overnight a week. The other one I see for a multi-hour appointment once or twice a month. It guarantees that our time is well spent and I know what I'm getting into. The weird thing is that these guys are have girlfriends,etc which is can be a huge negative for many, but for me it keeps my brain and feelings in check with these 2 so I'm able to keep viewing these relationships as FWB then catching feelings.

 

I hire new guys if I'm traveling but it does get a little tiring having to do the research on here and the initial nervousness of seeing a new guy.

[+ Axiom2001]

During the past five or six years, I've resorted to engaging the services of only two or three escorts on a regular basis, but, if I had the extra $$$'s to spend, I more than likely would hire many others throughout a given year!

 

Last year an escort, whom I'd seen many times and who had since retired , contacted me desiring company. I gave in and saw him on two or three occasions. During my last contact with him, we met, but I did NOT like our sexual involvement and stopped in the middle of play. We parted company civilly. From that time to this date, he has NOT sent me any emails; I am a happy camper in his NOT doing this!

[KeepItReal]

When you find a regular and you are satisfied by the repeat experience, there is nothing better. That is my preference. You have to make sure the boundaries that your are both comfortable with are in place for a repeat - I've had some unfortunate experiences where those boundaries were not respected and it soured the relationships. You can probably guess what I am referring to; becomes too clingy, becomes entitled, etc.

 

Similar to @natmas02, I usually only search for a new companion when I am traveling.

 

No relationship is perfect, whether it be with a new companion or a repeat. Be prepared for the curve ball that life will doubtless send your way in due course. Good luck!

[big-n-tall]

I hire rather infrequently. However, there are a number of guys (I consider regulars) I always try to see when they visit my area. If I’ve known the guy long term and time permits, I try to schedule an overnight.

 

The only guy I’ve known for some time and have never gotten the chance to do an overnight with is Tristan B. Our scheduling rarely syncs up in a way to allow it to happen.

 

On occasion a “new” guy will pop up that I want to meet... schedule permitting. If he is in my area, I’ll meet for an hour or so.... if it’s someone I have to bring here... of course an overnight or more.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I like to have as many regulars as possible. I wish I could afford meeting them more often. Right now I consider regulars 5 guys, and have many candidates to be promoted but I just cannot afford meeting everyone regularly.

[nsguy45]

The downside of seeing a regular often over time is that familiarity can sour what was once a totally satisfying relationship. The sex can become mechanical, routine and no longer exciting. After numerous meetings, you're bound to learn much about each other's personal lives, which tends to destroy the fantasy aspect of what hiring an escort is all about.

[+ BlueSky]

I much prefer regulars. I'm anxious when hiring a brand new guy, even if he is well reviewed. I just have more fun with a guy I know. I know he will communicate well, show up, will be into things I like, won't watch the clock etc. With a new guy you never really know.

 

But like others here I've had long term arrangements sour or just fade away. It's natural I think.

[+ Pensant]

“But like others here I've had long term arrangements sour or just fade away. It's natural I think.”

 

True. One of my all-time faves now has a bf; nonetheless, I’m happy for him, but will be seeing him ASAP if he becomes single again.

[rvwnsd]

Do you prefer having a regular guy you hire or many? I have a regular that I feel comfortable with. I have looked at Rentmen and dont see any I like better. I have in the past hired many.

I like to have a regular or two, but I also like to hire other guys to experience new things.

 

The downside of seeing a regular often over time is that familiarity can sour what was once a totally satisfying relationship. The sex can become mechanical, routine and no longer exciting. After numerous meetings, you're bound to learn much about each other's personal lives, which tends to destroy the fantasy aspect of what hiring an escort is all about.

I also like to hire different guys to avoid this.

[MikeyGMin]

I much prefer regulars. Ideally two at any given time. I have never had an arrangement go sour or stale, but I have had them end of course. Usually because they move or just retire.

 

I've been seeing one guy for close to 3 years now. It is always good, it is always fun, and it is always comfortable. It honestly couldn't be any better.

 

I recently lost the other one to retirement. I've interviewed a couple possible replacements, but found myself fantasizing about him the entire time. I guess I'm not quite ready to move on.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I much prefer regulars. Ideally two at any given time. I have never had an arrangement go sour or stale, but I have had them end of course. Usually because they move or just retire.

 

I've been seeing one guy for close to 3 years now. It is always good, it is always fun, and it is always comfortable. It honestly couldn't be any better.

 

I recently lost the other one to retirement. I've interviewed a couple possible replacements, but found myself fantasizing about him the entire time. I guess I'm not quite ready to move on.

 

If the one you lost Is Fabian, I recommend you Isaac Powers as a replacement.

[Gymowner]

Just remember these escorts are really 1099 workers that you hire for a service. You can be "friendly" with a worker but best to never think of them as friends. On the plus side especially if you are with a straight escort is that when their comfort level with you increases so many times does their interaction and services with you. Always though stand your ground with getting the minimum that you pay for. On the flip side the familiarity can make them get lax and when activities escalate many times they get a change of heart and don't want to always included the escalated activities. That's where ones mental stability has to kick in. If they provided the minimum services agreed upon all the time...great. if more is involved at times...great but don't expect those to be the new standards unless verbally agreed upon and negotiated into the price. Just like a 1099 worker for any service. Keep your services at this level and you will always have a good time. And please, please, please keep your emotions out of the involvement. If you need to be emotionally involved with some stranger you are paying, please seek professional help to get your emotions in check.

[MartyB]

I am very fortunate that my regular escort that I've been seeing now for over 15 months has been just great. The sex gets better and better. Occasionally I've drifted when the itch suits me and that's a good thing I think. I prefer to be with a regular when the chemistry is right and the escort is flexible and changes up what we do depending on our mood plus he is unreasonably fair in his fee which means in can see him as often as I wish. I've reviewed him on this board and rentmen as well.

[MikeyGMin]

If the one you lost Is Fabian, I recommend you Isaac Powers as a replacement.

Yes it was and Isaac might just make me get over it. Thanks!

[+ José Soplanucas]

Yes it was and Isaac might just make me get over it. Thanks!

 

He is arriving to DC tomorrow.

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[BabyBoomer]

 

I've been seeing one guy for close to 3 years now. It is always good, it is always fun, and it is always comfortable. It honestly couldn't be any better.

 

 

 

~Boomer~

[natmas02]

When you find a regular and you are satisfied by the repeat experience, there is nothing better. That is my preference. You have to make sure the boundaries that your are both comfortable with are in place for a repeat - I've had some unfortunate experiences where those boundaries were not respected and it soured the relationships. You can probably guess what I am referring to; becomes too clingy, becomes entitled, etc.

 

@KeepItReal I had a bad situation with a regular who became extremely entitled. We started off great and then he would ask for money in advance to help pay for bills, etc as he stopped advertising and would put it towards our future time and then unfortunately he took advantage of me and I got burned. It was a very expensive lesson learned for me - at the end of the day, we can enjoy each other's company all we want but it's still a business transaction.

[Gymowner]

Natmas02 my point exactly from above. I have found the more one stands their ground and does not deviate or "cave in" the more respect and ultimately a better time one has with an escort. Do you think a child respects a parent who caves in and gives the child everything they want? No way! Same here. When the escort asked you to advance them money and you did... The respect for you went right out the window. The escort knows he would never front someone he hired any money so in turn doesn't respect those who do. Negotiate your minimum requirements, you as the client stick to those requirements and don't try to pull a "fast one", show up at stated times ON TIME, give the escort the agreed upon payment, no tips (otherwise the escort if you are a regular may assume each time and get to the entitled position you speak about) and do not deviate. The good ones will have a very high level of respect for that client.

Edited January 14, 2018 by Gymowner

[TruthBTold]

The downside of seeing a regular often over time is that familiarity can sour what was once a totally satisfying relationship. The sex can become mechanical, routine and no longer exciting. After numerous meetings, you're bound to learn much about each other's personal lives, which tends to destroy the fantasy aspect of what hiring an escort is all about.

 

That is so true. It is so hard to know what to do because at a certain point you build up a loyalty that you is hard to break and to try another guy is cheating on the first guy. And you know what that feeling engenders. It is particularly hard if you someone becomes a regular and you reach a point where things do become very mechanical but then you have one really great sex session but then you sort of glide back into the routine. It is like the worst aspects of being married.

[BluDay]

I have a couple of regulars, and I like the ease of set up (simple messages, they know what I want, so I don't have to explain). But I also like getting a chance to explore someone new. Regulars are my bread-and-butter, others are a special treat.

 

You have to decide what you want. If it's a parade of new, hot men, go for it. But someone who already knows your buttons and how to push them (these are the good buttons, not the ones that make you angry), what a time you can have.

[liubit]

I have a couple of regulars, and I like the ease of set up (simple messages, they know what I want, so I don't have to explain). But I also like getting a chance to explore someone new. Regulars are my bread-and-butter, others are a special treat.

 

You have to decide what you want. If it's a parade of new, hot men, go for it. But someone who already knows your buttons and how to push them (these are the good buttons, not the ones that make you angry), what a time you can have.

Exactly like he says.

[natmas02]

The downside of seeing a regular often over time is that familiarity can sour what was once a totally satisfying relationship. The sex can become mechanical, routine and no longer exciting. After numerous meetings, you're bound to learn much about each other's personal lives, which tends to destroy the fantasy aspect of what hiring an escort is all about.

 

You got a point, but I don't think learning about each other personally is a downside (unless the escort is a hot mess in his personal life or if the client starts developing romantic feelings) and like everything, it varies client to client. Escorting is about connections after all - a lot of just want the sexual connection but there's also the whole "boyfriend experience" that a lot of us hire for both sex and emotional connection with another person as well.

 

I think at some point in having a regular you're going to end up having to talk about your real life after a period of time, you can only shoot the shit and talk about mundane stuff for so long before it gets even more mechanical.

[KeepItReal]

@KeepItReal I had a bad situation with a regular who became extremely entitled. We started off great and then he would ask for money in advance to help pay for bills, etc as he stopped advertising and would put it towards our future time and then unfortunately he took advantage of me and I got burned. It was a very expensive lesson learned for me - at the end of the day, we can enjoy each other's company all we want but it's still a business transaction.

I couldn't have said it better myself, in fact, I suspect that if you poll the readers of this forum, most of those that have regulars will have experienced this... We live and learn!

[TruthBTold]

I couldn't have said it better myself, in fact, I suspect that if you poll the readers of this forum, most of those that have regulars will have experienced this... We live and learn!

 

Luckily, I have had situations where this could have arisen and did not. I have offered gents money when bad situations for them have arisen in their personal lives and I have always been turned down. I was always surprised. In some ways I expected not to be repaid but they always chose to weather through. I suppose they had the funds stashed away but they could have taken advantage of me but did not.