want more from long time massage therapist

[+ muscleboyinsd]

i can definitely see Dmitri's point about cutting to the chase.. but the build up can be fun too the little moments leading up to the big bang can be nice little memories later on..

 

AND the rest of us are catching our voyueristic (is that even a word?) jollies off this... so PLEASE keep it up!

[+ 7829V]

I am a big believer in not playing games. Maybe "the tease" is exciting for you, or others. We are all wired differently. It would drive me crazy to draw this out over multiple massages. This first massage at his house I would have just been upfront and asked "Can I be undraped?" Pure, simple question. Direct. He can either say yes or no. No games, no guessing.If he says yes...then you know which direction you are headed. If he says no....well, there is your answer. I had a situation similar to yours with a guy that did outcalls to my house. He knew I was gay and was cool with it. I knew he was straight with a girlfriend. After the first massage, I could feel the sexual tension. I just KNEW. I did not draw it out for months.I just cut to the chase and asked to be undraped on the 2nd massage. He said yes. Being undraped was the key. Once the sheet was off on the 2nd massage, he was massaging my ass ALOT. When I was on my front on the 2nd massage he saw my erection, and worked around it. I told him to do anything he was comfortable with. He said he was straight, but also curious. I won't go into all the details, but the massages from then on had a sexual component. This dance of "are we going to or not" could have dragged on for months, and driven me crazy. But by the 2nd massage I had my answer. He still comes (literally) over 2X a month and the sessions are orgasmic!

Sometimes the tease is also sexy and fun. The chase. The unknown. That’s more exciting to me that be upfront. Like Scheherazade in One Thousand and One Nights.

[+ nycman]

I for one am enjoying the dance.

 

For the record, I’ve given and gotten hundreds of massages over the years.

Other than a true accidental brush lasting milliseconds...I’ve never touched

or been touched in the genital region...unless it was intentional. Trust me,

accidents last seconds....they don’t “linger”.

 

We’re all different. If you’re enjoying the dance...keep playing and take it slow.

He seems to be a willing partner so far. Just don’t be upset if you hit a wall.

 

And remember.....sometimes today’s “no way!”...is tomorrow’s “maybe”.....

 

...and when you’re REALLY lucky...it’s might just turn into..... “please fuck me like you did last time bro”.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'm one that enjoys the dance, but not if it's going to last over multiple sessions. That's a bit TOO slow for me. I do enjoy when there's the "Accidental Brushing" during the massage, and continues and builds up to something more later in the appointment, but over multiple sessions? For one, I don't think I can afford that :-)

[PaulM]

OK, I think you got your message....I agree with the others in that a true therapeutic/professional masseur would never have the constant brushes. Also, the no uw under the loose basketball shorts was another green light. My recommendation on having done this dozens of times, is to book again (compliant him on the last massage in your booking text) and if the same scenario plays out YOU have to make the move. When his cock brushes against your hand/arm, reach out to touch it (he clearly is sending you a signal that its ok). He has sent the signal and you have to act....my experience is that once that signal is made that he won't initiate it for fear of losing a good client if he misread what you wanted which is why the next move is yours.....it might not turn into the porno of ur dreams, but you never know unless you start down that path. Who knows over time, it could.....good luck and keep us posted!!!

[+ muscleboyinsd]

Ok - OP here.

 

I saw him last night. Although not the porn scene I was hoping for - it was a little “different” massage than before.

 

If I thought we got close to the line but never crossed it before - well we got closer.

 

We started with some small talk. The other day I realized I don’t think I have ever out right said I was gay - I am sure he know it. So this time I made sure to make it clear in the conversation.

 

The roomset up was more of an area than a room. He said he was working on a screen but, I could still see him when getting naked. I tried to see if he stole a look, but I couldn’t tell.

 

The massage was amazing as always. Same accidental brushing as before, but with him wearing loose basketball shorts with obviously no underwear vs scrubs - I could feel his cock as he would drag it along my arm, leg, top of head. I thought I noticed him getting hard, but that might have been wishful thinking. I was too chicken to touch it. But, It was so fucking hot. I was hard from the minute I got on the table. I made more noise that usuall, especially when his dick was resting on my thigh. Ha. I am sure he knew I liked it.

 

He has always been casual with the sheet, but he was even more so this time - If it goes the same next time I will try and make some joke about “just getting rid of it”

 

I guess all in all it was the same great massage - a little freer. I feel I could push the boundaries a little bit more.

 

Thanks for all the help guys.

What do you think for next time? Push things or just relax and see?

 

Sounds like it went well for being in the new environment

 

Next time, when his dick is brushing or resting against your arm or hand, move your arm/hand enough to create more pressure on his dick - subtle, but clear intent

 

And then whenever you feel comfortable at the start of a massage, ask him if it would be OK to do it without the sheet... He might be fine with that... and it would create lots of opportunities

[Rudynate]

Thanks all. Made and appointment with him tomorrow night. I asked for 5 he said later was better. So we settled on 9. Maybe that’s a good sign? Or it means nothing.

 

I think I’m going to go in thinking it no different than any other time. See what happens.

 

 

Late appointments with massage guy can be interesting. He's been seeing clients all day and, now, at the end of the day, he's ready to get it off.

[+ poolboy48220]

@PaulM makes a good point. Once he's made some move, it's your turn. That's how I used to approach fooling around in the steamroom at the gym, with someone I hadn't seen before; subtle moves, sometimes no more than making eye contact and then looking down at his towel. If he didn't make any sort of response in kind, I'd figure he wasn't interested, and stop.

[sdmassageseeker]

Fuck. When is your next appointment already?! lol

[Guest fm0322]

First home session, pop a stiffy. Let it flow from there

I love the imagery. Such clever language EVdude

[sfguy72]

I generally go for massage with extras, but a few years ago I really messed up my neck and was desperate for a genuinely good massage to help. None of the previous "sensual" masseurs I thought could do the trick. So I looked in CL and found a guy. Handsome in his pic, but more importantly the ad read like he was skilled. So I booked with him.

 

My first session was great and he really knew what he was doing. Focused on my neck, he was very knowledgeable and was able to alleviate the pain. He even gave me stretching exercises to do on my own to continue the healing. He is gay and in person was very sexy. I was there for legit massage and that's exactly what I got. He was fully clothed the whole time and I was draped. I secretly hoped extras would happen, but no. I did get an erection but it was ignored. But I didn’t care b/c I was totally satisfied since the massage was such high quality. So much so that I booked a second session maybe a month or two later.

 

Second session was just like the first: draped, legit, and amazing again. Didn't think I would repeat with provider that didn't provide "sensual" techniques.

 

Third session was much like the first two. At this point I was not even thinking it was more than a really great massage. Well...Half way through the session he brushed up against my hand and I swore he was hard. Thinking it was accidental and telling myself I must be mistaken that he was erect I didn't give it any more thought....until the same thing happened on the other side. Still a little hesitant I waited for the 3rd and 4th "accidental" brush and decided to be bold and rub a little back on his shorts with my fingers. He was definitely hard! Repeated this game a few times. He kept me draped, but with each pass and stroke up my leg to thigh, he went a little higher and the sheet covered less and less until a good portion of my business was exposed... I was obviously very excited. HE and mutual touch occurred, then more excellent massage technique. Felt like I struck gold. In addition he is really sweet, engaging, and smart. We had some really nice conversations.

 

I saw him a number of times after and they were like the third visit. Sadly he has moved away and I think has stopped doing massage. Haven’t found anyone else who matches the skill and fun mixed in.

[Dmitri]

I generally go for massage with extras, but a few years ago I really messed up my neck and was desperate for a genuinely good massage to help. None of the previous "sensual" masseurs I thought could do the trick. So I looked in CL and found a guy. Handsome in his pic, but more importantly the ad read like he was skilled. So I booked with him.

 

My first session was great and he really knew what he was doing. Focused on my neck, he was very knowledgeable and was able to alleviate the pain. He even gave me stretching exercises to do on my own to continue the healing. He is gay and in person was very sexy. I was there for legit massage and that's exactly what I got. He was fully clothed the whole time and I was draped. I secretly hoped extras would happen, but no. I did get an erection but it was ignored. But I didn’t care b/c I was totally satisfied since the massage was such high quality. So much so that I booked a second session maybe a month or two later.

 

Second session was just like the first: draped, legit, and amazing again. Didn't think I would repeat with provider that didn't provide "sensual" techniques.

 

Third session was much like the first two. At this point I was not even thinking it was more than a really great massage. Well...Half way through the session he brushed up against my hand and I swore he was hard. Thinking it was accidental and telling myself I must be mistaken that he was erect I didn't give it any more thought....until the same thing happened on the other side. Still a little hesitant I waited for the 3rd and 4th "accidental" brush and decided to be bold and rub a little back on his shorts with my fingers. He was definitely hard! Repeated this game a few times. He kept me draped, but with each pass and stroke up my leg to thigh, he went a little higher and the sheet covered less and less until a good portion of my business was exposed... I was obviously very excited. HE and mutual touch occurred, then more excellent massage technique. Felt like I struck gold. In addition he is really sweet, engaging, and smart. We had some really nice conversations.

 

I saw him a number of times after and they were like the third visit. Sadly he has moved away and I think has stopped doing massage. Haven’t found anyone else who matches the skill and fun mixed in.

 

Since he was an out gay guy.....and I assume you are also, I am surprised you could both hold back until the third session. I understand you were going for therapeutic, but putting two out gay men in a massage situation like you described, plus you found him sexy, shows much restraint. And he was obviously interested in you, (from how you described your third session.) so he was holding back also. What control you both had the first 2 sessions ....amazing.

[DJla]

Have another appointment tomorrow - going to be a little ballsier this time (I think, Ha)

[matt842]

Something tells me a lot of us are going to be checking this thread frequently tomorrow.

 

Good luck, @DJla!

[Noah]

Anxiously awaiting too...!

[elsalvador92]

Have another appointment tomorrow - going to be a little ballsier this time (I think, Ha)

Anyone just patiently waiting for the update here hehehe ?

[+ poolboy48220]

I wouldn't say "patiently" :-D

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[+ 7829V]

[matt842]

Now I'm even checking to see if @DJla has logged in recently.

[LivingnLA]

Now I'm even checking to see if @DJla has logged in recently.

 

Y'all do know what stalking is right?

[matt842]

Y'all do know what stalking is right?

Guilty!

[DJla]

Ok - so I show up and he is wearing jeans. In my mind I took that as a sign - I feel there is nothing about jeans that say “these might come off”

 

Massage was great as always - maybe the question I need to ask is how can you tell if a massage is viewed as a sensual massage by them and not just me being horny with a good imagination?

 

There was grazing when I was on my stomach with hands to my side and a little looser draping and lots of ass work (more than usual) so I was all hot and bothered as always. But those jeans just made feel he didn’t see this as a “sexy” massage.

 

Am I over thinking?

[topinla]

Was he shirtless? Freeballing?

[+ sniper]

I would take going from freeballing in shorts to wearing jeans as one of two things:

1)He's telling you it's not going to happen.

2)He's telling you that HE will be the one to initiate should it ever happen.

[DJla]

Was he shirtless? Freeballing?

Not shirtless. Couldn’t tell if he was free balling.