The unappreciated beauty of black men!!

[Walker1]

I am posting an ad here from rentmen (https://rentmen.eu/Kobe).

 

Oh my God!!!!

[+ Gar1eth]

I think I’ve only been with three black escorts in my hiring days-and two were of some type of ‘mixed’ heritage. I will admit to being attracted to some few black escorts. But invariably the ones I am attracted to always advertise as tops. And it’s not like I see that they are tops and then I’m attracted to them. It’s I see their pictures, am attracted to them, read the ad, and find out they are tops.

 

Gman

 

Almost all blacks in the US are of mixed race. Separating whether or not someone is "black" or of "mixed race" is a misnomer. The identification of whether or not someone is "black" is more a product of our culture rather than skin color.

 

I think one of them had blue eyes. And I’m pretty sure I remember the other saying his mother was Asian.

 

Gman

[Rudynate]

When someone says, categorically, that he isn't attracted to blacks, it always sounds to me more like a decision than a realization.

[+ Gar1eth]

When someone says, categorically, that he isn't attracted to blacks, it always sounds to me more like a decision than a realization.

 

Well as I indicated above I’ve been attracted to some. But I’ll admit they usually have to be what I consider incredibly attractive and muscular.

 

And of course this poster set my 14 year old gay heart beating (even though I don’t think I knew for sure I was gay at the time).

 

 

Of course my heart also went pitter patter for Perry King on the left too.

 

Gman

[bigvalboy]

Well as I indicated above I’ve been attracted to some. But I’ll admit they usually have to be what I consider incredibly attractive and muscular.

 

And of course this poster set my 14 year old gay heart beating (even though I don’t think I knew for sure I was gay at the time).

 

 

Of course my heart also went pitter patter for Perry King on the left too.

 

Gman

 

Have you seen the movie as an adult?

[+ Gar1eth]

Have you seen the movie as an adult?

 

No I haven’t. Is it laughable?

 

Gman

[bigvalboy]

No I haven’t. Is it laughable?

 

Gman

 

Well no...lol. It's a horribly racist piece of shit, exploitative and insensitive, but then again, when I first saw it, I had the same reaction that you did. Thankfully as adults we see the world differently.

[Aaron_Bauder]

So young gay black men just need to go off in search of the right kind of white folks to validate them?

 

"go to Asia, go to Africa."

 

We always prefer to ignore that which does not fit with our preferred narratives, don't we?

 

Young gay black men, who are routinely devalued and invalidated by whites first beauty standards in Trump's America, should defintely travel the entire world to discover a broader pool of individuals who value them as attractive human beings with something to contribute. Absolutely 100% they should.

Edited February 17, 2018 by Aaron_Bauder

[Rudynate]

"go to Asia, go to Africa."

 

We always prefer to ignore that which does not fit with our preferred narratives, don't we?

 

Young gay black men, who are routinely devalued and invalidated by whites first beauty standards in Trump's America, should defintely travel the entire world to discover a broader pool of individuals who value them as attractive human beings with something to contribute. Absolutely 100% they should.

 

 

I agree that they should travel, see the world, meet different sorts of people, etc. Turning it into a search for validation might not be the best motive. I remember reading about the experiences of some American blacks when visiting Africa in the 60s and 70s. Understandably, t h e y had very high expectations and were disappointed to find out that they didn't have as much in common with black Africans as they thought they would.

[Aaron_Bauder]

There are thousands of ways to add value to one's life and self-image, and international travel is as good as any. Disappointing experiences are also often learning experiences that add value. I can certainly see the value in African-Americans learning they are a unique people, distinct from Africans, however intially disapppointing such a revelation may be.

[Rudynate]

There are thousands of ways to add value to one's life and self-image, and international travel is as good as any. Disappointing experiences are also often learning experiences that add value. I can certainly see the value in African-Americans learning they are a unique people, distinct from Africans, however intially disapppointing such a revelation may be.

 

 

Agree completely.

[Aaron_Bauder]

What about the underappreciated Black Beauty?

 

http://www.loyalbooks.com/image/detail/Black-Beauty-Anna-Sewell.jpg

 

This book is, was, and always will be phenomenal. #threadwinner

 

You're simplifying it too much. It is possible not be attracted to black men and not be a racist. Racism has a definitive definition. It is the belief that one race is superior over another. People become defensive and intertwine and confuse preference with racism, but they are wholly different. The OP observed that there appeared to be a lack of appreciation for black men, and pondered the reasons. "Many gay men seem to be proudly prejudice." That is certainly part of it, and more prevalent that one would think, but preference is part of it also. It's a fine line. Many claim they have a preference, when in fact they are prejudice, while others claim that some are being prejudice, when in fact it is really a matter of preference.

 

I think most people's preferences are too subconcious to be described as racist in the way we think of active racism. However, it's obvious that preferences are affected by culture. Think of the doll tests, where children of all races as young as 2 describe white dolls as "pretty" and "smart" and an identical doll with brown skin as "ugly" and "stupid." That shows that our kids are bombarded with racist messages from birth in was we cannot even imgaine. American gays grow up in a racist culture. Of course, what we find attractive is going to be affected, how can it not?

 

Preferences are what they are -- are they racist in and of themselves? Probably not. But let's stop denying they aren't influeced by racism in American culture. It just is what it is.

 

Integration is the key to breaking this conditioning, but many gays are fine leading segregated lives, where they interact with one race 99% of the time. If that's your cup of tea, fine, but let's stop pretending to be so inclusive and #LoveWins and progressive when our interpersonal relationships look like a Hitler Youth meeting. I mean, come on.

Edited February 17, 2018 by Aaron_Bauder

[bigvalboy]

"go to Asia, go to Africa."

 

We always prefer to ignore that which does not fit with our preferred narratives, don't we?

 

Young gay black men, who are routinely devalued and invalidated by whites first beauty standards in Trump's America, should defintely travel the entire world to discover a broader pool of individuals who value them as attractive human beings with something to contribute. Absolutely 100% they should.

Agreed 100%. Travel is the great educator...

[bigvalboy]

Preferences are what they are -- are they racist in and of themselves? Probably not. But let's stop denying they aren't influenced by racism in American culture. It just is what it is..

 

Spot on...

 

and I would reiterate that too many gay men hide behind the argument that their racism is merely preference. Honest intellectual discussions usually reveals otherwise.

Edited February 17, 2018 by bigvalboy

[TruthBTold]

Brazilians are definitely a mix of all races to all degrees. They are also exceptionally gorgeous in my view. It is nice to get an appreciation of all types by sleeping with them.