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Last week I met with 2 great new "clients" and during the session we ended up talking a lot and I got to know a lot about them. I found it very endearing that they felt comfortable with me sharing very personal details about their lives and what made them hire etc. I've realized a lot of the clients I met they just don't want sex that they really want some companionship and be loved and shown affectionate. Their is such power with showing someone affection even if its for such a short time, it could make their entire day. Although I wonder will they get sad once I leave as we've gotten to talk Im not just an escort to them anymore I'm actually human. Usually Im guarded and try to keep it as escort/business as possible but still be friendly however they are some people like those two who you can let your guard down and talk to them about anything and vice versa. One of them even felt a little ashamed to be hiring someone for company and I tried to make a joke to make him smile and feel confident about hiring whether or not he sees me ever again and I said theirs worse things out there that people pay for lol, so Im wondering if being too friendly can be a bad thing. Also theirs two types of clients, ones that pay you to fuck and u go and theirs others that want more than that. I feel like many of the people that I meet want more than an escort/client relationship, your thoughts guys, do you strictly hire for sex, or do you hiring to for affection? companionship?

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they are two separate people not relating to one another, they are related in the sense where we both talked a lot before during and after the session

 

Thanks!

 

I can understand that. Living alone I can go several weeks without talking to someone and when I do it's usually just a clerk.

 

My father told me this and he was an old man at the time. There were certain times of the month he would avoid going to the bank. He hated it he said because there would be old people there and the teller was one of few people they'd come in contact with and instead of just doing their banking they would carry on a conversation.

 

I try not to be like that.

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[uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] I can say from my limited hiring history, the most compelling experiences I've had are with a guy who is able to be emotionally vulnerable. Or at least it's a very convincing illusion (it being 'real' or not is not something I spend any time thinking about). I enjoy that very much in our sessions, but I don't assume that spills over into the rest of the time. So it should be possible to be more open, with some people...

 

 

I try not to be like that.

 

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Thanks!

 

I can understand that. Living alone I can go several weeks without talking to someone and when I do it's usually just a clerk.

 

My father told me this and he was an old man at the time. There were certain times of the month he would avoid going to the bank. He hated it he said because there would be old people there and the teller was one of few people they'd come in contact with and instead of just doing their banking they would carry on a conversation.

 

I try not to be like that.

I had that experience when I worked for a bank. I did my best to be kind to the older customers who wanted to chat, but we often literally had a line of customers queuing out of the door. It was terribly sad.

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Last week I met with 2 great new "clients" and during the session we ended up talking a lot and I got to know a lot about them. I found it very endearing that they felt comfortable with me sharing very personal details about their lives and what made them hire etc. I've realized a lot of the clients I met they just don't want sex that they really want some companionship and be loved and shown affectionate. Their is such power with showing someone affection even if its for such a short time, it could make their entire day. Although I wonder will they get sad once I leave as we've gotten to talk Im not just an escort to them anymore I'm actually human. Usually Im guarded and try to keep it as escort/business as possible but still be friendly however they are some people like those two who you can let your guard down and talk to them about anything and vice versa. One of them even felt a little ashamed to be hiring someone for company and I tried to make a joke to make him smile and feel confident about hiring whether or not he sees me ever again and I said theirs worse things out there that people pay for lol, so Im wondering if being too friendly can be a bad thing. Also theirs two types of clients, ones that pay you to fuck and u go and theirs others that want more than that. I feel like many of the people that I meet want more than an escort/client relationship, your thoughts guys, do you strictly hire for sex, or do you hiring to for affection? companionship?

 

Thanks for asking this question. As I've gotten up in age, just turned 64, companionship has been my higher priority. I love to find someone to travel with, my treat of course, but visit, have dinner, snuggle and maybe some touching fun. To me it's the relationship and the good talks and fun we can have together.

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I had that experience when I worked for a bank. I did my best to be kind to the older customers who wanted to chat, but we often literally had a line of customers queuing out of the door. It was terribly sad.

It's not just old people. Years ago there was a story in NY Newsday about an actuary who worked from home and lived alone so he would go to the bank EVERY SINGLE DAY and make up some transaction just so he would get out of the house and talk to someone. He wasn't even 40!

I thought it was kind of terrible of the paper to publish the story, because the actuary was too socially clueless to be embarrassed about it.

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Sex is very personal. After experiencing a person physically, it's easier to open up and talk. It's one of my favorite parts of sessions I have with escorts, and the ones who do talk a bit are the ones I'm really interested in going back to.

 

Single gay men often end up being lonely (so do straight men and women, of course).

 

If I could hire some of the men I've seen to just spend non-sex time together, I would. I couldn't afford "in-bed" rates, but I'd enjoy their company.

 

There are people making a business now out of "cuddle-time". Fully clothed, just holding the client.

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Last week I met with 2 great new "clients" and during the session we ended up talking a lot and I got to know a lot about them. I found it very endearing that they felt comfortable with me sharing very personal details about their lives and what made them hire etc. I've realized a lot of the clients I met they just don't want sex that they really want some companionship and be loved and shown affectionate. Their is such power with showing someone affection even if its for such a short time, it could make their entire day. Although I wonder will they get sad once I leave as we've gotten to talk Im not just an escort to them anymore I'm actually human. Usually Im guarded and try to keep it as escort/business as possible but still be friendly however they are some people like those two who you can let your guard down and talk to them about anything and vice versa. One of them even felt a little ashamed to be hiring someone for company and I tried to make a joke to make him smile and feel confident about hiring whether or not he sees me ever again and I said theirs worse things out there that people pay for lol, so Im wondering if being too friendly can be a bad thing. Also theirs two types of clients, ones that pay you to fuck and u go and theirs others that want more than that. I feel like many of the people that I meet want more than an escort/client relationship, your thoughts guys, do you strictly hire for sex, or do you hiring to for affection? companionship?

 

You’re a sweet guy. I know you can be naughty sexually, :p but judging by your topic posts and responses you seem to want to build a connection, if only temporary. I think that is a good thing. Although some just want to fuck and get gone.

 

When I hire it’s initially just for the sex. Many of my hires were because of porn crushes I had. Some were one and done. However, quite a few, I have seen repeatedly and they’ve become on some level, friends. With some of them I wasn’t seeking companionship, but that’s what it has led to. When you start meeting family members or being invited to their private homes or being asked to hang out even if you hadn’t plan to hire... I think sex becomes secondary (although still important) in the interactions... well with me anyway. The escorts I see the most... I get more excitement knowing I’m going to see them rather than thinking about the sex act. I’m not going to turn away a good romp however. Lol!

 

In some rare cases I think being too friendly is a bit of bad thing. You have some people who take certain things the wrong way or misinterpret your kindness for something else. I don’t think it’s rampant though. If you can build a strong connection, you’ll have a client for life (whether sexual, just strictly companionship or a mix of both) imho.

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I'm sorry, but if I just wanted to chat, a would find a drop-in meeting at a local LGBT center, and save myself $300 hr.... I know there are lots of lonely people, but what price companionship ?

 

Shit if they just want to talk, they can call me for $25..... I'm all ears. Maybe i should advertise on Craigs list ?

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I'm sorry, but if I just wanted to chat, a would find a drop-in meeting at a local LGBT center, and save myself $300 hr.... I know there are lots of lonely people, but what price companionship ?

 

Shit if they just want to talk, they can call me for $25..... I'm all ears. Maybe i should advertise on Craigs list ?

 

Or the local senior citizens center. Might not be gay but they usually have alot going on.

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I'm sorry, but if I just wanted to chat, a would find a drop-in meeting at a local LGBT center, and save myself $300 hr.... I know there are lots of lonely people, but what price companionship ?

 

Shit if they just want to talk, they can call me for $25..... I'm all ears. Maybe i should advertise on Craigs list ?

 

You could always join niteflirt. :D

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Last week I met with 2 great new "clients" and during the session we ended up talking a lot and I got to know a lot about them. I found it very endearing that they felt comfortable with me sharing very personal details about their lives and what made them hire etc. I've realized a lot of the clients I met they just don't want sex that they really want some companionship and be loved and shown affectionate. Their is such power with showing someone affection even if its for such a short time, it could make their entire day. Although I wonder will they get sad once I leave as we've gotten to talk Im not just an escort to them anymore I'm actually human. Usually Im guarded and try to keep it as escort/business as possible but still be friendly however they are some people like those two who you can let your guard down and talk to them about anything and vice versa. One of them even felt a little ashamed to be hiring someone for company and I tried to make a joke to make him smile and feel confident about hiring whether or not he sees me ever again and I said theirs worse things out there that people pay for lol, so Im wondering if being too friendly can be a bad thing. Also theirs two types of clients, ones that pay you to fuck and u go and theirs others that want more than that. I feel like many of the people that I meet want more than an escort/client relationship, your thoughts guys, do you strictly hire for sex, or do you hiring to for affection? companionship?

 

I hire for a BFE and hope that includes time to talk and feel a sense of companionship. So I guess my answer is I hire for both sex and companionship.

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Isolation and loneliness are major issues. I was once told by a local government health official that isolation was the biggest problem facing the county.

 

People hire to fill needs. If you're addressing someones need for companionship, thats great. Its not your responsibility to worry about their emotional state after your departure.

 

My initial hires are one-hour. They're NOT for social interaction.

 

My lengthier hires definitely have a social component. I've hired overnights, weekends, etc. Never has an extended session been 100% focused on marathon rutting sessions.

 

I personally wouldn't hire someone for companionship only. But whose to judge? Clients hire for many reasons. And Ive considered Seeking Arrangements.

 

I know established folks who rent out a room with motivations that are not primarily financial. They want company. And I'm certain that some married and partnered people I know are together because they're not wired to be alone. There are people who wont go to a movie alone. People who shudder at thought of sitting down in a restaurant alone.

 

Be happy if you're bringing pleasure or satisfaction to your clients. And, if you have the time/capacity, and genuinely enjoy their company, and you're ok with social perceptions.... consider a modified arrangement.

I wonder what conclusions will be drawn by 22nd Century anthropologists and social scientists who study early 21st Century social media.

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When I hire new guys it is for sex or massage. If we really click, meaning the escorts like to talk and make you feel like a friend, I will go back. I have been seeing an escort for over 4 years that lives a thousand miles away. Now we go on trips and we are friends, never forgetting that there is always the money, but he is fun and we do enjoy each other's company. A year ago I met a massage therapist (he also escorts) that was very friendly, giving big hugs and compliments on my body. The session ran way over and way past a massage. (I want to think not every client gets this treatment, I don't know). He wanted to stay in touch and invited me to join him on a trip. He lives 500 miles from me. Since then we have been to Europe and each other's houses. Yes I think hiring is also about companionship. We still have sex, but be also do a lot more as you would with a friend. Both guys give me a big discount now.

 

So Dominiking I think you as sex worker offer more than sex and you seem to be a nice person that would make someone feel very welcome. I hope to meet you one day.

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When I hire new guys it is for sex or massage. If we really click, meaning the escorts like to talk and make you feel like a friend, I will go back. I have been seeing an escort for over 4 years that lives a thousand miles away. Now we go on trips and we are friends, never forgetting that there is always the money, but he is fun and we do enjoy each other's company. A year ago I met a massage therapist (he also escorts) that was very friendly, giving big hugs and compliments on my body. The session ran way over and way past a massage. (I want to think not every client gets this treatment, I don't know). He wanted to stay in touch and invited me to join him on a trip. He lives 500 miles from me. Since then we have been to Europe and each other's houses. Yes I think hiring is also about companionship. We still have sex, but be also do a lot more as you would with a friend. Both guys give me a big discount now.

 

So Dominiking I think you as sex worker offer more than sex and you seem to be a nice person that would make someone feel very welcome. I hope to meet you one day.

If you meet [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] , I assure you the pleasure will be all yours. :p

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