Welcome, Rock Hard!

[RockHard]

RE: The BIG TENT

 

Thank you, jackhammer. I appreciate your kind words.

 

I also appreciate the men who have written me privately. It didn't take long to discover (by surprise) this site offers private message capability (the little birdie is kinda cute) and I was pleased to hear from many with their constructive words of support and advice. This gives me hope. Several guys found my yahoo email address and sent great messages there, as well. I like resourceful men.

 

I sense from the info I've culled that many viewers of this site don't post. There's no mystery why they don't and I think that's a shame and desperately needs to be addressed. More voices, more ideas, and more experience shared would be a great thing here. But that won't happen if things remain as they are. Nobody worthwhile wants to go to a party where the guest list never changes and a bully remains as gatekeeper.

 

Only insecure men with low self-esteem cling to a bully and nobody with any self-respect wishes to deal with a bully. Bullies are the guys we hated on the schoolyard, we hated in the cafeteria, we hated in the boy's lavatory, and they're the ones we hate at work and in politics. There's good reason why bullies are attracted to hate and destruction. Makes me ponder the purpose of a cancer cell.

 

The most interesting advice I recieved from a member here was, "Try not to take the MC so seriously." And, of course, I had to laugh because I'm known for taking EVERYTHING seriously, especially the opportunity to have (non-hateful) fun. The years of passion missing from my sex life, thanks to two AIDS-ridden decades, has manifested a strong desire to live a great life by itself.

 

Life is too short, too precious, and too wonderful to spend one minute of it in the company of an asshole.

 

Notice I mentioned no names. Take special notice of those who respond.

 

Best wishes!

 

Rock

 

ps Being an ass-man myself, no pun intended. :-)

[Lookin]

RE: The Company We Keep

 

"Life is too short, too precious, and too wonderful to spend one minute of it in the company of an asshole."

 

While I support pretty much everything you've written, I think you're casting too wide a net here. I, for one, have spent some delightful moments in the company of an asshole, and hope to have many more opportunities.:9

[Rick Munroe]

RE: The Company We Keep

 

>I, for one, have spent

>some delightful moments in the company of an asshole, and hope

>to have many more opportunities.:9

 

My type of guy (although, Lookin, I hope you do more than just lookin'. }( )

[Guest msclonly]

Finding recent postings is getting Byzantine, as well

 

Convoluted is the nicest think I can say about the recent postings on this string!

 

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[RockHard]

RE: Finding recent postings is getting Byzantine, as well

 

It's easy for me to blame the DCForum software. I'm beginning to get the hang of it but, if this forum were mine, I'd switch without looking back.

 

I really don't like the tree structure with not-so-easy-to-read broken chronology and the undulating message boxes drive me nuts. It's very difficult to make sense of it all.

 

I prefer chronological, same-size-box postings and a one-button click that takes you right to the new posts you haven't yet read. I also desire more fun icons. The posters on this board would have lots of fun with the bouncing banana icon that's quite popular elsewhere. Some x-rated icons would be fun, too.

 

I would recommend SMF 1.0.5 to Daddy but I hear there's a significant learning curve (in spite of how easy everyone says it is). In order no avoid added expense, he'd have to learn the software inside-out or be able to afford admin/tech help if something went wrong.

 

Any forum costs some money to manage and maintain. But a great "free" forum, one with upwards of 500,000 registrants, is very attractive to more generous advertisers. You can't even dream about those numbers unless you get serious about quality moderators, site content and design, and the ability to attract and welcome new registrants.

 

Is it worth it for a site that caresses the uncut-head of illegal activity? Since I view male companions as nothing less significant than nurse practicioners who are willing to work in the nude, everyone knows my answer. :9

[GuntherCory]

Poor Dougy.

 

The self-loathing, and deep-rooted need to purge himself of bile by spewing it on other people, grows more apparent every day.

 

No one who had any self-esteem or a satisfying, happy life, would spend so much time obsessing over total strangers on an anonymous internet board.

 

It's sad to watch, and I, for one, am EMBARRASSED for him.

 

[GuntherCory]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

In all fairness to Mr. Hunter, he pretty well has to use a photograph from way back in the 1970s.

 

That's the last time he looked half-way decent.

[+ deej]

Wow. It's me. Depending on who you listen to.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Finding recent postings is getting Byzantine, as well

 

>Is it worth it for a site that caresses the uncut-head

 

Mmmm...I love to caress an uncut head and gently peel the skin back with my tongue and wet lips. :9

 

Btw, RockHard, I have been meaning to tell you that your name gets me salivating.

[GuntherCory]

Deej, you must never listen to--or feed--the trolls, LOL!

[jackhammer91406]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

And he apparently hasn't paid his Gaydar bill since his link goes to an inactive profile. Maybe time to change his signature, hmmm?

[Rick Munroe]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

Oh well, I liked the pic anyway. But maybe I don't know what the hell I'm talking about, as usual.

[Alan Hunter]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

Thanks Rick. And thanks to Big Guy too. I had forgotten about the auto signature. That and my profile have just been updated... along with the age - now 38 ! Rick, I will send you some pics privately - at least you will see that but for the fact I now have longer hair the look is still the same. I still have the white T shirt - but its so tatty its worn only to the gym these days. Cheers ALAN

[Txpaytoplay]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

Enjoy your posts Rock....keep it up.

[jackhammer91406]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

Hey Rick,

I didn't say I didn't like the pic, of course I like his look. I just said his link had expired. Course, I would gladly gaze at you and Derek (just my way of sucking up).heheh }(

[Rick Munroe]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

>Course, I would gladly

>gaze at you and Derek (just my way of sucking up).heheh }(

 

Jack, you've got it all wrong. You have to suck it down, not up! (Uggh, you incorrigible total tops)

[Rick Munroe]

RE:Alan Hunter

 

>I still have the white T shirt - but its so tatty its worn

>only to the gym these days.

 

Here in NYC, that's actually considered proper theater attire.

[RockHard]

RE: Taking my quotes out-of-context.

 

This is actually a respectful reply to AdamSmith from the "Dear Daddy," how about a new high?" thread. It seems better suited here.

 

When someone's words are taken out-of-context, I suppose they could mean just about anything. No need to just pull quotes from my posts. Feel free to quote any journalist on the subject of homosexuality and let's see what impression one can create. Conservatives love to take jabs at gay men with out-of-context lies and distortions. They do it all the time to feed their anti-gay agenda. Frankly, I'm surprised someone here didn't accuse me of being Hitler with my "oven" comment.

 

Describing a generic group of men with creative wording, men we all know exist, is not the same as denigrating any "specific" person on this board. We ALL know scammers exist among escorts but not ALL escorts are scammers.

 

If individual men (posters) respond defensively to a generic expression intended to present a negative impact, when no specific user-names were offered, then I would offer there's a possibility that the defensive poster is defensive because he sees himself as the type of man described and takes the writing personally.

 

I can't take responsibility for the way any man sees himself. That's his self-esteem issue and not mine.

 

If you can't tell the difference between, "men who are willing to throw away hundreds of dollars on a chance at orgasm and fake love" or, "Those tart green apples belong in a 400 degree oven anyway" when compared to, "You self-righteous, stupid, asshole, hypocrite, pig!" then I would say there's little hope for you. Apparently, someone didn't work very hard in school when they had the chance and it's time for a Continuing Education course in writing and reading comprehension.

 

In post #92176 on Sat Oct-15-05 01:15 PM, Charter Member, N.N. quoted me as follows:

 

> ... favorite Rockhard moments – add your own!

 

"I have a history of HIV tests that date back to their inception."

 

"Thank God I have a 22-year-old who thinks I'm the greatest man who's ever walked the planet."

 

"I love a great bathhouse, and I've been to many all over the world."

 

I had a good laugh at his extractions. It was a very good example of how "out-of-context" can manipulate your audience. Hateful assholes LOVE the destructive art of manipulation. They tend to be control freaks, too. After all, it's probably the only power they can get their hands on.

 

Consider this when reading the above quotes:

 

My closest friend in life, my first NYC love, died at the age of 25, before the introduction of the HIV antibody test was approved by the FDA in 1985. My three other best friends, my entire NYC family, all died before 1990. I wasn't anywhere near sexually active as they had been but I was scared and scarred, nonetheless. I've had an HIV test every year since 1985.

 

Regarding my son and his image of me: I also implied in the same paragraph that he was dumb to place me on so high a pedestal. The truth is, he's not dumb. My son knows everything about me. I prefer open, honest relationships with those I love.

 

As for my bathhouse appreciation...maybe that takes on a different perspective when you include the quote, "I've never had an STD." Straight people have had their private clubs through the ages. Nobody bothers and judges them and what they do behind paid-for, closed doors. I support a gay man's right to do the same.

 

I don't enjoy some of the activity that goes on and nor do I participate in much of it. I'm not there to judge but I am one who knows how to have tons of fun without overindulging in lustful whim or reckless abandon.

 

When you're on-the-road working; outside of some hickster gay bar, there aren't very many places to visit that offer a variety of gay men, naked to boot. So, instead of going to the gym in my hotel, I seek my "work-out" amongst my own.

 

I enjoy watching people and their behavior, always have. That doesn't make me a self-loathing slut looking to bareback 30 times in one night at a bathhouse (a vibrant stereotype, for sure). Just call me Chauncy Gardner. "I like to watch!"

 

Another quote to consider:

 

>He behaves like the quintessential internet troll. I've never witnessed a worse example and I participate in three other "free" forums. He's a disgrace.

 

Again, calling someone an "internet troll" and suggesting that someone behaves like an internet troll are two different things. I believe most intelligent men with no agenda see the difference.

 

The line grows finer with, "He's a disgrace," and this thread is one that would have been pulled on any other forum where I participate. I did take advantage of the blurred line here. I could argue that I don't personally know the poster so how can I truly judge him, the man? I could also argue that within the context of the writing, a sharp reader would understand that it was the poster's online behavior I was judging as a disgrace and not the man himself. After all, I've only been exposed to the online behavior and not the man. It's presumptuous to assume I'm judging the man.

 

But why argue over semantics? This could go back and forth forever and trolls are longing for that. I accept a guilty verdict here. If this were my board, the thread would have been pulled, including my comments.

 

This, my good gentlemen, is the delicate balance of good forum moderation. When a prick-troll intends to piss you off, the tendency is to fight back and defend yourself. The prick is counting on it. Before you know it, the prick has manipulated you into the fight he's looking for. It's a classic troll game and, unfortunately, good forums will die a slow-but-sure death if troll-prick-dom isn't monitored and controlled.

 

Of course people say you can "ignore" the pricks but when the pricks are persistent -- as controlling, manipulative pricks often are (and we all know misery loves company), "ignoring" becomes "selective participation." Selective participation, in the company of such negativity, becomes no participation. No participation = death.

 

Gentlemen, I urge you, write Daddy and tell him you'll give him a $10 annual registration fee to clean up this fine board. Thank you for reading my posts.

[Yeswell]

RE: Taking my quotes out-of-context.

 

A $10 annual fee will do nothing. People who can afford to hire escorts can afford an extra $10 a year.

[RockHard]

RE: Taking my quotes out-of-context.

 

"A $10 annual fee will do nothing."

 

I disagree. In the words of Donald Trump, "Yeswell, you're fired!"

 

A mere $10 per year at 5000 regitrants equals $50,000. That's more than enough money to pay for four "great" part-time moderators with cash left over for a vacation. Moderators shouldn't be paid anyway. They should be volunteers who receive a generous annual gift. These are Daddy's decisions, anyway.

 

At a minimum, seancody.com is charging $20 per month. That's $240 per year per member and that's the bottom on his fee scale. Feel free to do the rest of the math. I realize he's offering online live-action porn, but you can't hire those guys. You can't write about your experiences with those men here. Is the service here not as valuable to many of us? It is to me.

 

Lastly, $10 was an arbitrary figure. Make it $20, $30, or $400. Like Benjamin Nicholas said, "Whatever the market will bear."

 

The trolls got so bad at one point on one of my favorite 'free" forums that when I found out there was a private-club-website-with-forum that catered to one of my favorite subjects, I didn't hesitate to pay their $100 annual fee to become a member. There are NO trolls there, no name calling, no class warfare, and I get the most up-to-date information available in the market place written by terrific contributors.

 

In order to make it big, you have to think big.

[Yeswell]

RE: Taking my quotes out-of-context.

 

I think that would be a terrible way to do things. I would rather have no controls on what is posted at all. Who would decide what the guidelines were? For instance, I would recommend banning anybody who watches that pompous blowhard Donald Trump.

[RockHard]

RE: Try and Trump this.

 

"Who would decide what the guidelines were?

 

Well, that's simple...me, of course. :7

 

The man (or corporation) who owns the site creates the rules.

 

ps I don't like Donald Trump's hair but between Donald and Burnett, my investment is paying nicely.

 

pps Don't you know, unless you aspire to be Mother Theresa, every self-made millionaire will have his "pompous blowhard" finger-pointing accusers. Now that I think of it, even Mother Theresa had idiot critics.

[RockHard]

RE: A Star is Born

 

I just received an email from someone telling me I had achieved cult status at some site called escortspeak. Say what?

 

So I went over to see what he was talking about. Nice Martha Stewart colors. Messages there are a little easier to read.

 

I quickly perused some of the posts... It's a good thing my Blackberry works while I sit on the toilet. It was so easy to flush such sad nonsense down the drain. What a waste of hosting funds. I'll bet NOBODY would pay to join there.

 

The biggest laugh came with the use of the word "pathological." Addicts are in such denial.

 

Like I said, misery LOVES company. And to think someone once told me, "Don't ever cross an evil lesbian." Well, at least they have a home. Nobody should be homeless in this country. I'm sure their tea-room is decorated with plenty of you-know-what.

 

The OP is a lawyer? Yikes. A Roy Cohn wannabe, maybe.

 

The thing I love most about the internet (and the press, in general, I guess): so many people wouldn't know truth if it was a baseball bat shoved up their non-lubed ass. Doubting Thomases and human nature? I suppose a lot of both. It's a cynical world, Mary.

 

Was there anything to learn over there, you ask? Well, considering what I don't know about Daddy, HooBoy, Foxy and this site, I know enough to mind my own business. The most valuable thing I learned is whom to ignore here. See, a little good can come from flushing some shit. :-)

 

Thank you all for reading my posts.

[Yeswell]

RE: Try and Trump this.

 

There are already some rules here and I think we should all be concerned that new rules might be worse. Of course, they might be better, but I think things work quite well here. I should point out that to call Donald Trump--who, by the way, was born rich and is thus not a self-made millionaire, although he has certainly made lots more money--a pompous blowhard is a statement of fact not an accusation. To pair him with Mother Theresa is simply grotesque.

[RockHard]

RE: New Rules

 

(Pardon me, Bill Maher)

 

"There are already some rules here and I think we should all be concerned that new rules might be worse."

 

Fear is always your worst enemy. (Unless you engage in unprotected sex.)