"Dear Daddy," how about a new high?

[RockHard]

Dear Daddy,

 

Since, presumably, you have access to my IP address, I grant you permission to create a post, telling the finer gentlemen on this board that I have never before posted here in the Message Center under any other name. I fully understand this won't stop certain posters from promoting their hateful, negative agenda, degrading rumors, and cockamamy conspiracy theories. But I also understand the term "evil queen" exists for a reason. And, like I said in a previous post, some gay men have earned their right to be miserable.

 

It saddens me to see such hatred on display between gay men in the MC. I've always found the words "hate" and "gay" to be anithetical. Yet, I have enough experience in life to know that some men thrive on destruction (gay or not) and, as I've said in another post, most people don't change. Once evil, always evil. But I have hope.

 

What is it about escorting and being in the presence of really hot young men that turns other men into the devil? Do you think this might have something to do with Eve's apple and that fucking serpent? Or do gay men really get the side effects of menstruation after the age of 40, without the blood? Or is it that damn Berdorf-Goodman price-tag on a WalMart body and mind. Another of life's mysteries, I guess.

 

I view the blatant act of name-calling to be the lowest form of attracting attention to oneself. It's one of the most selfish and uncivilized forms of communication we have.

 

To be at a party with uncivilized gay men is not fun. It's can also be quite painful. After all, our fight for love, acceptance and respect is difficult enough, but when our fellow brothers can't love and respect themselves and others, our hope diminishes.

 

I'm writing you to suggest, once again, the institution of a registration fee. When a registrant is required to pay to belong to this very helpful service you provide, he will be most disinclined to be a troll, become a troll, or behave like a troll.

 

Also, please consider utilizing a stronger moderation process. If you wish to attract the kind of quality-posters this helpful site deserves, blatant name calling must not be permitted. I strongly recommend a policy of one-warning and then banning the username from the board. Many other successful forums utilize this approach.

 

Finally, I know this might be considered a strong-arm procedure but I would not be opposed to forbidding free email addresses in the registration process. If registration requires a paid-for ISP address, I can almost guarantee a very civilized group of participants and zero trolls. Free email address can be used in user-profiles to protect from spam and privacy issues.

 

I see no reason why men who are willing to throw away hundreds of dollars on a chance at orgasm and fake love would not be thrilled to pay a nominal fee to support the cause of this site, especially if the quality and discourse of the registrants greatly improves. So what if you lose a few members in the process? Those tart green apples belong in a 400 degree oven anyway. Can you think of a better way to turn them into sweet-as-pie?

[Guest mbarz]

LMFAO....Dear Daddy, please make me a star, I have no life, except the one I made up on the internet, I want to be loved and all those mean nasty posters are poking holes in my fake stories and well...I want people to think I'm important. All the little kids in my neighborhood make fun of me and hurt my feelings, I want a to come to a place where I can live my made up life without people being mean to me. Can't you just get rid of all those mean posters, who see through my lies and let me go on being delusional. I'll be good, I swear, I've never had an original thought in my life, just ask anyone, I'll be good....please, can you make me a star. love Rockhard (who's feeling a bit flaccid)

[JT Brooklyn]

IMHO..Sadly a Fee, will make no difference whatsoever!

Unfortunately some of those with a Great Amount of Disposable Income, will gladly spend it to continue to be Rude, Insensitive etc. Part of the reason is because they feel, Money gives them the right to, just plain and simple.

I am sure also in their Day to Day Lives they are the same.

I am Positive,they are just as Rude, to any working guys they deal with!

That is who they are to begin with. NOT NICE PEOPLE! Getting Older, Getting Meaner.

They do say Many Men donot Age well Psycologically! Some are here...

ALSO.. probably they would then think, they are getting their monies worth by venting whatever on this site.

Which creates an even bigger A/H... :+

[RockHard]

RE: ignoring mbarz

 

"I'm Chevy Chase and you're not!"

[Guest mbarz]

RE: ignoring mbarz

 

>"I'm Chevy Chase and you're not!"

 

Chevy Chase????....the town out side of DC?

[RockHard]

RE: to JT Brooklyn

 

There's no perfect solution for dealing with vile men. Creating a fee structure to augment the banned-again/re-registered-again turnstile (you know those guys will keep coming back - they're addicts for negative attention) will only make Daddy wealthier. It's a smart business decision.

 

Requiring an ISP email address for registration will definitely do the trick. The number of those email accounts is limited and the cost and hassle of re-registering eventually will wear you out. Daddy could create a tier structure of fees for re-registering. The more you're banned the more it costs to rejoin (from the same IP address).

 

Frankly, Daddy could decide to ban IP account numbers from this site if he really wished to clean it up, which means, in order for the neg-addicts to continue to feed themselves, they need to go out and purchase a new computer.

 

I've been around addicts all my life. Unfortunately, there are plenty in the creative industries. You just can't keep feeding them. It's not good for them and it's not good for anyone else.

[jackhammer91406]

Fighting the good fight

 

Rockhard,

You are a welcome addition to the ranks. At least by me. Sadly, the thing is, it's been like this since I joined in August 2002. We have had many discussions about this very thing: why is it necessary for some gay men to act in such a vindictive way as to paint all of us with the same brush. The country sees all of us as nelly, bitchy, name calling

"artistes". So many previous members have given up and moved on rather than have to wade through post after post dripping with invective and name calling. It's a pendulum that swings from extreme back to quiet and sane (some will say boring). When the really unhappy ones went and started their own place, it was hoped that we would see less of this but of course we haven't.

 

I have given up more than once, but always come back to stay in touch with friends that I have met here and see what's up in other people's lives.

 

By and large, the crowd here is made up of pretty good souls. And while I don't always agree with how things are run here, still, it's one place I like to visit and interact.

 

Hope you will stick it out.

[bigguyinpasadena]

RE: "Dear Daddy," how about a new high?

 

Rock Hard I am pretty good about spotting "old wine in new casks"posters-and I do belive you are indeed a new poster,and a very welcome one.

For some reason the powers that be here seem not to want to "grow"this portion of the website.IMO this is wrongheaded as many eyeballs which scan this site are directed to the revenue producing ads.Most suggestions at changes that would improve this special place in the internet have gone unheeded.Many of us have made the same suggestions you present in your well thought out post-and many more to rescue this once fun and informative site from the downward spiral that has occured within the past year.

Maybe if enough of the good guys (such as yourself)continue on asking for change it might happen-but do not put to much energy into that path.

In the meantime perhaps you will find it usefull to do as I have learned to do-If you see a post by a poster you find intolarable just scroll right on through. It will save you grief and hopefully starve the trolls which,for some wrongheaded(IMO) reason,are still allowed to infect this once great and fun site.

[bigguyinpasadena]

I agree with JT.One of the worst trolls on this site has no problem dumping $$$ into sites so that he will not be kicked off.

[bigguyinpasadena]

from RockHards post

"I view the blatant act of name-calling to be the lowest form of attracting attention to oneself. It's one of the most selfish and uncivilized forms of communication we have. "

And it is supposed to be in violation of "the rules"which were supposed to be implimented in order to make this site a better place.Sadly,,these"rules"have not always been used as well as they could have been.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Our Hollyowod Connection

 

Hey HardRock, ole buddy, could ya cough up a couple of tix for the World Series? Actually, I need 4. Behind the Angels dugout would be best, but we'll take behind home plate if that's all you can do. Autographs would be nice, but meeting the players in their locker room would top that! So, hey, can you come through for me here? I'd really appreciate it!

[AdamSmith]

>men who are willing to throw away hundreds

>of dollars on a chance at orgasm and fake love

 

>Those tart green apples belong in a

>400 degree oven anyway.

 

Respectful query: this is the discourse of love, acceptance and respect?

[woodlawn]

>>men who are willing to throw away hundreds

>>of dollars on a chance at orgasm and fake love

>

>>Those tart green apples belong in a

>>400 degree oven anyway.

 

 

 

>Respectful query: this is the discourse of love, acceptance

>and respect?

 

No. What you are hearing is the sound of a bunch of self-righteous hypocrites bemoaning the fact that other people get to indulge in the same sort of personal attacks that they do. My heart goes out to them, it really does. Life is just soooooo unfair, isn't it?

[Doug69]

Following up on Adam Smith's query, I will simply note that the same person who preached this . . .

 

>It saddens me to see such hatred on display between gay men in

>the MC.

>I view the blatant act of name-calling to be the lowest

>form of attracting attention to oneself. It's one of the

>most selfish and uncivilized forms of communication we have.

 

. . . just yesterday - yesterday - wrote this charming love letter to a few participants here whom he doesn't like:

 

<<There's no amount of money that could keep me alone in a room with some of the posters here, let alone present an opportunity for them to suck my cock (god forbid they wanted to kiss. YUCK!). I don't know how some of you guys manage with this possibility. You can't really know how awful someone is until you see his face and look into his eyes.>>

 

Is this the kind of "quality-posters this helpful site deserves" - for which he thinks we should all have to pay in order to have the privilege of reading?

 

Is there any end to the parade of people who come here and (a) write posts viciously insulting the posters they don't like and then (b) preach about how wrong and bad it is to write insulting posts?

 

It sure seems like the supply of such creatures is infinite.

[Doug69]

RE: "Dear Daddy," how about a new high?

 

Hey, looky here! I found another example of the type of loving, supportive things which Rock Hard thinks should be said to our fellow gay male posters.

 

Yesterday, VaHawk wrote a post talking about a sibling of his who died tragically of colon cancer. Here's what Rock Hard - who today is preaching to us about the need for civility and the evil of name-calling - said to VaHawk in response:

 

VaHAWK: "I have lost a sibling to that disease"

 

ROCK HARD: "Who hasn't lost a relative to some form of cancer? Do you think you're so special, VaHawk? Overly sensitive people are a real pain in the ass. Finding humor in tragedy is great therapy. Induce that dump already, your constipation is tiresome."

 

So yesterday, Rock Hard was responding to VaHawk's discussion of his sibling's fatal cancer by telling him that he was a real pain in the ass" and that he should "induce that dump" because his "constipation is tiresome."

 

Today, Rock Hard came to bemoan name-calling as the lowest form of civilization and to preach about how imperative it is that we maintain a high level of discourse!

 

YES, it is the same person writing both posts! I can't believe it either!

 

I know, I know - for this Board, such behavior isn't really uncommon or notable. But for sane people generally, it's fucking unbelievable that someone can spit out hateful, vulgar insults one day, and then the next day - litearlly, THE NEXT DAY :7 - come back and preach against insults - as though nobody will notice the absurd inconsistency between their preaching and their behavior.

 

How did the human brain devolve to permit this sort of condcut, seriously?

[Guest zipperzone]

>Is this the kind of "quality-posters this helpful site

>deserves" - for which he thinks we should all have to pay in

>order to have the privilege of reading?

>

>Is there any end to the parade of people who come here and (a)

>write posts viciously insulting the posters they don't like

>and then (b) preach about how wrong and bad it is to write

>insulting posts?

>

>It sure seems like the supply of such creatures is infinite.

 

In a previous life RockHard was known as Florence Nightingale.