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I was doing maintenence and I accidentally deleted "The Lounge." I am told by the people who wrote this software that there is no recovery.

 

So, if Blade & Boston Guy have a back up of your posts - please load em up here.

 

I am truly sorry. It was a very stupid mistake.

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Sorry, HooMan! If I wasn't such a damn compulsive type one personality who can't stand to see things out of place, I wouldn't have bugged you about placement of postings and you wouldn't have tried to move them and things wouldn't have gotten screwed up. Apologies to Boston Guy and Blade, too (and anybody else who's worked got fucked!).

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HooBoy emailed me and asked me to repost my "Open Letter to Hed." Unfortunately, I had composed it entirely in the Post window a few mornings ago, before hurrying off to a meeting. So it's impossible for me to repost. Perhaps that's for the best.

 

However, I would like to make one small point: I posted that thread in the Escort (Deli) forum on purpose. While it didn't describe or concern ONE escort, it was in direct response to Hed's continuing series of negative posts in that forum, especially Billy's "Turning the Tables" thread. Further, it was also expressing my concern that constant negative posts and unnecessary attacks on both clients and escorts will have a chilling effect on this entire bulleting board -- especially the escorts who, if we are to know who they are, must post using their "public" names.

 

Any skilled writer can use language to attack and the kind of quick, fairly off-the-top-of-one's-head posts that most of us make here are easy targets. It's easy to use language to demean, to ridicule and to make others seem less intelligent or less careful. Emotional posts, especially, are easily attacked by those who wish to ridicule or cut others down to size. And ad hominem attacks can be very effective.

 

But all of that defeats the purpose of this board, in my opinion. We are collectively attempting to create a community here for a purpose and I hope that effort succeeds. I further hope that community will include many posts from clients and escorts alike -- and that the various discussions will be lively, informative and entertaining.

 

But we can achieve that -- we almost have to achieve that -- without the kind of negativity that kills boards and drives away the users. And I will make the point once again that I consider input from the escorts especially valuable (even if much of it ends up being a kind of marketing) and we should strive to make this a place where all feel welcome and all ideas and opinions deemed valuable.

 

Disagreement is healthy. But let's keep it at a respectul level.

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Bravo, Boston! You speak for me as well, and I'll

wager a lot of others. Watching the beating up on

Billy,( erudite as it was in at least one case,) was no fun at all.Just a lot of mean spirited

stuff meant to hurt. I too am interested in hearing from the escorts, along with other views,but if they are going to be attacked like this, why

would they risk it?

So, thanks again, Boston. Nicely said.

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Bravissimo, Boston! What a civilized man you are. As I was reading your post, I wondered what this board would be like -- or maybe we could have just ONE thread -- if we agreed that nobody would criticize, attack, or bitterly disagree with anyone else. I wonder what it would be like if we all agreed that it is safe simply to state one's point of view without having to turn that "point of view" into an effort to demean or cheapen someone else's point of view. There are so few safe places for gay men to talk about things like this -- in fact, I don't know of another one -- and particularly for those who perhaps live in isolated areas without gay friends, or who are just garnering the courage to come to terms with their sexuality, or who are just plain lonely and frightened. As somebody who grew up in the fifties, I find it hard even now to write frankly about my sexual feelings even in the cocoon of anonymity that the web offers. When I first found this site, it looked like the "haven" I had been seeking, a place where nobody was afraid to say what they had to say about the things that gay men think about more or less constantly but can't, usually, say. You are a prince.

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  • 9 years later...

A Lucky Find

 

I wonder if Adam woke up one day and said to Eve "what happened?"

 

This is the very first thread I can find in the Lounge, back when Hooboy was here, and things were just taking shape. I was not to come on the scene for a few more months.

 

It might be fun to go through the old threads and find things that you enjoyed, back in the day.

 

You need to search them in ascending order to get all the way back.

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I believe that the deli has one that is a few days older.

 

I wonder if Adam woke up one day and said to Eve "what happened?"

 

This is the very first thread I can find in the Lounge, back when Hooboy was here, and things were just taking shape. I was not to come on the scene for a few more months.

 

It might be fun to go through the old threads and find things that you enjoyed, back in the day.

 

You need to search them in ascending order to get all the way back.

"Gun Control means using both hands."

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Yes, it does, four days earlier, and I brought it up in the Deli. This thread is about the first post in the Lounge.

 

Interesting that some find the old threads not worth reading. As always, they can skip them if they don't want to read them.

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