OUCH!

[Guest 2004]

Met a distant friend last night for a little play and fun. We have never been in bed together. He is really cute about 6' 150 smooth and an average size tool.

 

I have never been on the bottom of things but felt like trying. He took it really slow but after trying like 10 ten times it just wasn't going to happen for me.

 

Man did that fucking hurt! Next time I'm pushing my cock deep into someone's asshole and begin to drill them only to look down and see a huge smile on their face; I will have a brand new appreciation of what they're doing. I will also wonder how they can smile.

 

---/

Maybe time will help forget that harsh experience, maybe time heals all.

[BewareofNick]

I've often been told that for some guys, bottoming is 10% physical and 90% mental. For some guys, taking a cock means being less of a man. There's a subtle prejudice in the gay community against bottoms (or perhaps not so subtle).

 

It could also be that you were simply not well prepared. I don't know how spontaneous the sex was, but when you decide to try again, use a dildo first to open yourself up. You might try practicing on yourself for a while first.

[ValleyDwellerNorth]

>trying. He took it really slow but after trying like 10 ten

>times it just wasn't going to happen for me.

 

Stop being such a baby.

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[ValleyDwellerNorth]

>I've often been told that for some guys, bottoming is 10%

>physical and 90% mental.

 

If a big dick is up your ass isn't it 100% physical?

[JT Brooklyn]

VDN..Whipped has a "Friend" who can definitely Help with the Finer Points. Bottoming for most, can be a Slow Acquired Taste! Unless of course there is a "Physical" as opposed to "Mental" reason ..why it ain't working..For most, once you have "Enjoyed the Ride"..You Never Look Back! Being "Versatile" is the "Best of both Worlds"..LOL :+

[rocky]

I've always said that I'm more of a top

than a bottom but I'll tell you I've enjoyed

the bottom but with much pain. And this is

very new to me. My first time, not so long

ago, I almost cried because at first I thought

that I now had become a coward who could have

sex in an area that I didn't before. While

my experiences are infrequent I have had some

enjoyment; guess I'm trying to say, OUCH,

but there is some enjoyment..Rocky

[bostonman]

I've never fully enjoyed any of my experiences with anal sex (bottom), and I don't tend to do it very often. Every now and then I get the urge to try again, but probably because I don't do it often, it never works very well for me.

 

Sometimes I've gotten into the experience of getting fucked, because I've had feelings (romantic or lustful) for the guy fucking me - but even then, it's not really about getting pleasure from the feeling of a cock up my ass, it's more about getting pleasure from being with a guy I like and doing something he gets off on (literally...lol).

 

I have several fantasies about situations where I'd really love to get fucked, but they may just remain fantasies...;-)

[Bob]

Never say never. For more than thirty years I was strictly a top. I tried bottoming a few times and OUCH, double OUCH, plus I so enjoyed slipping my cock into another man's ass. Finally one night when I was well into my fifties I found myself in bed with a man who was very sexy and spectacularly endowed and some how, some way I ended up on my back with my legs in the air moaning and begging for more. The feeling, the pleasure was so intense.

 

Since that time I have been on a quest for good tops. They are not always easy to find. Often times tops are so intent on their own orgasm and are not in tune with their partner's needs but when you find a good one he is more more valuable than a precious gem.

 

I agree with the suggestion that you prepare yourself with a dildo beforehand. Most recently when I was with my favorite, well-hung escort I was open and able to receive him from the word GO. Incidently I've become somewhat of a size queen since I've started bottoming. Sucking on a big cock never thrilled me too much but taking one up the ass is beyond description.

[+ Oliver]

Ouch & Double Ouch

 

My first experiences with the “bottom” side were also OUCH and I didn’t think it would ever be something that would make me feel good. My first “good” experience was with a man who was also an excellent bottom. I believe that a truly versatile man knows how to be a good top because he has experienced being a bottom and knows how to prepare his partner, taking his time, and not just “slamming” in. He knows how it feels and what feels good for him, so he tries that much harder (pun intended) to make it feel enjoyable.

 

Since that initial good encounter, I have found my best experiences with such men (a couple – or more }( - of notable exceptions were total tops who, nevertheless, were totally attuned to how and what to do to make it wonderful). As has been suggested, a little self-preparation with a didlo also helps.

 

Frankly the key is extended foreplay (that’s good in and of itself! :9), which just naturally leads to the next step. With the right guy, you want to make him feel good, so you end up (again pun intended!) feeling great yourself!

Try it - you’ll like it!

[JT Brooklyn]

RE: Ouch & Double Ouch

 

Guys..Slow and Easy..Breathe! In and Out..Breathe! LOL With a Hot Guy, I can Definitely be on the Receiving End. BUT..NOT in the Bend Over Smile Position! I Personally find it Enjoyable, when I "Control the Depth" to which I am "Receiving THE Tool". Just Bending Over Gives very little IF any Control. And sometimes it isn't enjoyable..Give me a Top who knows "ALL" the Positions and I am willing to "See Stars" LOL :+

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Ouch & Double Ouch

 

>Frankly the key is extended foreplay (that’s good in and of

>itself! :9), which just naturally leads to the next step.

 

So true. I LOVE oral (give and get) but I automatically shy away from getting fucked...unless someone really takes the time to gently work on me with tongue and finger...if they're good, then I'm fucking begging for it. :9

[+ friendofsheila]

I agree with most posts. For me it took a dildo to get ready for my first few times. Now I still have to ask the guy to take it SLOW at first, no exceptions. And once I started relaxing physically AND mentally, I've finally had a few experiences where it's been good physically AND mentally.

 

And message to the tops out there: the more a guy has made me feel good in the foreplay, the more I'm beggin' for it when I'm there in the moment, unlike beforehand, when it doesn't matter so much to me (go figure).

 

Like anything else worthwhile, it's taking some practice and some support from the right guy(s). I look forward to it getting better.

 

Now I gotta get better at being a top!