Drawn to younger boy next door types

[gilbert]

I'm in my early 60's. For a variety of reasons I've never had the courage to come out of the closet. I've been seeing escorts one or two times a year, since I discovered them in the mid 1990's, and to tell you the truth I've never been interested in developing a relationship with a guy, partly because there are no guys I'm attracted to in my area, and because of the issues involved in having a relationship as a closeted gay man.

 

I'm only attracted to well built, younger men with the boy next door look, and so I don't sound completely shallow he needs to have a friendly, engaging personality. That's the type of escort I look for. I keep thinking that if I were ever to decide to try to find someone to be in a relationship with I'd be out of luck, because there's probably a very little chance that an older gentleman like me could come across the type of guy I'm attracted to, and even if I would find such a man the chances that he'd like an older guy like me are pretty slim. Seems like I should be attracted to men closer to my age, but I'm not. I like the muscular, younger men, so I stick with escorts. This may be a stupid question, but at my age can the type of person you're sexually attracted to change? All of this really isn't much of a problem for me. I deal with it okay. I was just wondering if anyone else can relate to my sexual preference issues?

[+ purplekow]

Gilbert you are totally alone and amazingly isolated in this preference. No one on this site likes younger muscular men. We loathe such men. We unclog our noses at them. In fact, the entire escort industry is predicated on men of a certain means, hiring men who are not young, muscular, handsome, talented, with engaging personality and a quick wit. How else can one explain Steven Kesslar?

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

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[thickornotatall]

I'm in my early 60's. For a variety of reasons I've never had the courage to come out of the closet. I've been seeing escorts one or two times a year, since I discovered them in the mid 1990's, and to tell you the truth I've never been interested in developing a relationship with a guy, partly because there are no guys I'm attracted to in my area, and because of the issues involved in having a relationship as a closeted gay man.

 

I'm only attracted to well built, younger men with the boy next door look, and so I don't sound completely shallow he needs to have a friendly, engaging personality. That's the type of escort I look for. I keep thinking that if I were ever to decide to try to find someone to be in a relationship with I'd be out of luck, because there's probably a very little chance that an older gentleman like me could come across the type of guy I'm attracted to, and even if I would find such a man the chances that he'd like an older guy like me are pretty slim. Seems like I should be attracted to men closer to my age, but I'm not. I like the muscular, younger men, so I stick with escorts. This may be a stupid question, but at my age can the type of person you're sexually attracted to change? All of this really isn't much of a problem for me. I deal with it okay. I was just wondering if anyone else can relate to my sexual preference issues?

 

I wonder if you live in a small town or large city...That make quite a difference....My uncle lives a few streets away from me in The Village...We were taking the train uptown and a very cute young guy asked us if we are a couple......I said no.....mind you he is quite a bit older that I am....He was a dancer on Broadway for many years and is in great shape...very active...lots of energy....and almost 80!....I introduced them....The young man just turned 36 years old and is now with my uncle 2 years....Not my cup of tea....But they are out there....Someone for everyone....

[gallahadesquire]

Be still my heart! Another member was telling me of an un-advertised escort in his mid-30's who looks like Kent of Corbin Fisher infamy.

There is the retired Adrian Hart, or the also-retired Matt York [ ... lemme check ... yeah, that's his stage name]

 

I find my desire for eye candy - I'm very visually oriented wrt sex - is well satisfied at the local Gym, especially when all the High School Kids come in after school and do their thing. No, I'm not a pederast, but it's fun to watch them when they're puppies. It's too bad to see what they grow up to be.

[gallahadesquire]

Gilbert you are totally alone and amazingly isolated in this preference. No one on this site likes younger muscular men. We loathe such men. We unclog our noses at them. In fact, the entire escort industry is predicated on men of a certain means, hiring men who are not young, muscular, handsome, talented, with engaging personality and a quick wit. How else can one explain Steven Kesslar?

 

+1.

[gilbert]

Purplekow......Okay, most of us are into the guys i described, but that's all I'm interested in. Older men don't appeal to me. Many men can like that type of guy, but also other types. I mean, you are attracted to who you are attracted to, but I wonder if tastes for a lot of men change or evolve over the years because mine haven't. In fact, talking to one of my former escorts from 15 years ago I told him I wasn't involved with anyone, but hired a hot young escort a couple times a year. He sounded like he thought I should have moved on to older men by now. He wasn't being ignorant or anything, he just figured the type of guys i was attracted to would have changed over the years. Thickornotatall....I live in a small town outside a big city. The only gay men are closeted gay men, so you really don't know who they are. I could always head into the city bars, but I'm not into that scene. Your uncle meeting the dancer sounds so awesome. Yes, I've heard there are actually quite a few younger guys who prefer older men.

[TruHart1]

My tastes have definitely changed from my younger years. I was always drawn the most to those masculine looking Marlboro Man types when I was a teenager and in my twenties. When I branched out years later to meeting and hooking up with closeted married men online, I usually enjoyed the beefier masculine types, like the former football linebacker who's become slightly out of shape. Twinks were never on my radar at all, at any age!

 

Then I began hiring escorts and all of a sudden, I found myself enjoying sex with so many different types of guys! I now find that I enjoy men with defined swimmer's bodies, men who have built up their bulk to be competition body builders, average guy next door types who have cute faces and men who might seem average looking but who have great personalities! My entire life I have always sought out alpha males who feel comfortable being in charge. I still do not tend to be attracted to young twink types but have found myself immensely enjoying guys who are on the cusp, that is, just developing out of a twink body to a more defined (and therefore more masculine) swimmer's body!

 

With this hobby giving me the ability to hire so many different men, all so varied in body-type and ethnicity, I actually do feel my life is now a banquet running the gamut from comfort food to haute cuisine with so many delightful and surprising adventures in between! I am enjoying the variety of men I find myself experiencing at this stage of my life more than ever before! Yes. My tastes HAVE evolved a lot over the years and I personally am absolutely enjoying the hell out of this great experience!!!

 

TruHart1

[+ WilliamM]

My tastes have definitely changed from my younger years. I was always drawn the most to those masculine looking Marlboro Man types when I was a teenager and in my twenties. When I branched out years later to meeting and hooking up with closeted married men online, I usually enjoyed the beefier masculine types, like the former football linebacker who's become slightly out of shape. Twinks were never on my radar at all, at any age!

 

Then I began hiring escorts and all of a sudden, I found myself enjoying sex with so many different types of guys! I now find that I enjoy men with defined swimmer's bodies, men who have built up their bulk to be competition body builders, average guy next door types who have cute faces and men who might seem average looking but who have great personalities! My entire life I have always sought out alpha males who feel comfortable being in charge. I still do not tend to be attracted to young twink types but have found myself immensely enjoying guys who are on the cusp, that is, just developing out of a twink body to a more defined (and therefore more masculine) swimmer's body!

 

With this hobby giving me the ability to hire so many different men, all so varied in body-type and ethnicity, I actually do feel my life is now a banquet running the gamut from comfort food to haute cuisine with so many delightful and surprising adventures in between! I am enjoying the variety of men I find myself experiencing at this stage of my life more than ever before! Yes. My tastes HAVE evolved a lot over the years and I personally am absolutely enjoying the hell out of this great experience!!!

 

Excellent post. My tastes have evolved as well. I am not longer mush attracted to the masculine Marlboro Man.

I was just in rural West Virginia on vacation, and met two guys at a neighborhood swimming hole. who had graduated high school and were now in the military. The cuter one asked if I wanted to take his picture, "Everyone seems to want to take my picture!"

 

Years ago they would have been too young, but not now. So I agree that variety in all different shapes and sizes is a wonder to behold.

[big-n-tall]

I like all types of guys. Although I do have a predilection for certain features. I never rule out body type, race, or what have you. I'm not really into twinks though... although I've seen some that could change that, but they tend to be more in the twunk catergory.

 

To drive my point home, as it were...

There is a retired escort, I see on occasion who was very beefy and muscled when we first meet. He decided to change his lifestyle in terms of bodybuilding and whatever that entails. So he lost a lot of weight/size and became a little chubby/beefy. The last time we meet I hadn't seen him in a while. He was actually worried I wouldn't ever want to see him again because of the body changes.

 

I told him it didn't matter. I said that he still was handsome, he still has the same sexy deep raspy voice, that he was still a great kisser, and generally fun to be around. (None of that changed with the body type shift.) We can't or shouldn't deny who we are attracted to. Yes, I initially gravitated toward him because of his awesome body, but he failed to realize it takes more than that to make and keep it interesting. He assumed I wouldn't like him for other traits.

 

So yes, it's ok to like who you like, but realize expanding your horizons with different types of men... well it's just awesome. And btw, to the op... there is something for everybody. You might have to search harder, but (as has been suggested) there are young next door types looking for older men to.

Edited June 13, 2015 by big-n-tall

[Atlantagaguy]

To answer your question, yes your preference can change. I was similar to you, I came out in my mid-thirties, and didn’t have sex with a man until then. My first was a very well-reviewed escort when Hoo boy was running the website. Since then I have always gone after the younger guys, I also think a lot of my desire for that type is because I never had the experiences as a gay man in my teens or twenties. A couple of years ago I met my 25 year old in a local bar, we started a conversation on type of men we like he like daddies but not as old as me and of course I told him the younger boy next door. We hook up that night and ended up dating for about 6 months. We are no longer Boyfriends but we are f**K buddies. What I found was I needed more in a relationship than having a good looking boy next to me and great sex. I am now dating men closer to my age that I have more in common. The sex is better, my whole life is more complete. I owe a huge part to my ex BF who sometimes will join me in threesomes and he is happy because he get two daddies!

[MsGuy]

This may be a stupid question, but at my age can the type of person you're sexually attracted to change?

 

Operant conditioning is your friend.

 

And a good orgasm is a powerful reinforcer.

 

Find a guy who looks more or less like whatever type you wish to become attracted to and who gives good sex.

 

Human neural circuitry remains fairly plastic even into ages much older than your own.You might be surprised how fast your taste in men broadens.

 

Anyway it worked for me.

[ZhenXBear]

Gilbert you are totally alone and amazingly isolated in this preference. No one on this site likes younger muscular men. We loathe such men. We unclog our noses at them. In fact, the entire escort industry is predicated on men of a certain means, hiring men who are not young, muscular, handsome, talented, with engaging personality and a quick wit. How else can one explain Steven Kesslar?

 

LOL, you are so gonna get spanked when he reads this....but wait, perhaps that's the point.

[gallahadesquire]

Personally, I find it somewhat odd that I know what I like to look at, but that's not the same as being with.

The OP presented a kind of young fellow who would spin my head around. I've noticed, though, that when I've actually had encounters with guys, it's everything else that gets into my head, not their body type.

 

I was surprised that a certain well-known escort wasn't as built as I had expected, but he was beyond hot for days. Socially, I had an encounter with a 6', 140# soaking wet fellow who was similarly incredibly hot.

 

And my live-in is short, but a cub in training.

 

If I'd get my head out of my tush, I'd have a lot more fun.

[AdamSmith]

Anyway it worked for me.

 

Me too!

 

 

[+ purplekow]

Gilbert, there is always the choice to "roll over" and think of England.

[Epigonos]

Generalizations are exceedingly dangerous especially when it comes to hiring escorts. What floats ones guys boat does absolutely nothing for the next guy. In reality that is fortunate because it would be an absolute bitch if we were all chasing the same type of guys.

 

Now do our tastes in who we hire evolve – for some, certainly for others, maybe not so much? Again it is whatever floats your boat. I hired my first escort in the fall of 2002. Not only was he the first escort I had ever hired, he was also the first man with whom I had ever had sex. That escort was Steven Kesslar and I’m still seeing him professionally today and we are now certainly BOTH older. A few weeks ago I hired a well-built young stud in his mid-20’s – he was lots of fun. I have my regulars, who have aged along with me, but I throw in a new young stud now and then to add variety to my life. Did I start out doing that, certainly NOT but I do now. Does this behavior indicate an evolution in my hiring; I don’t know and I really don’t care – all I’m looking for is a good time and that is exactly what I’m having and I feel NO need what-so-ever to explain it to myself or for that matter to anyone.

[+ purplekow]

Generalizations are exceedingly dangerous especially when it comes to hiring escorts. What floats ones guys boat does absolutely nothing for the next guy. In reality that is fortunate because it would be an absolute bitch if we were all chasing the same type of guys.

 

Now do our tastes in who we hire evolve – for some, certainly for others, maybe not so much? Again it is whatever floats your boat. I hired my first escort in the fall of 2002. Not only was he the first escort I had ever hired, he was also the first man with whom I had ever had sex. That escort was Steven Kesslar and I’m still seeing him professionally today and we are now certainly BOTH older. A few weeks ago I hired a well-built young stud in his mid-20’s – he was lots of fun. I have my regulars, who have aged along with me, but I throw in a new young stud now and then to add variety to my life. Did I start out doing that, certainly NOT but I do now. Does this behavior indicate an evolution in my hiring; I don’t know and I really don’t care – all I’m looking for is a good time and that is exactly what I’m having and I feel NO need what-so-ever to explain it to myself or for that matter to anyone.

Epigonos, first congratulations on your diligence in giving work to Mr. Kesslar. Further congratulations on continuing to add variations on the theme of your life. No need to be in a rut when rutting. No need to be over the hump when humping. No need to be screwed in place when screwing. After all, we all only have so many orgasms assigned to us and you might as well share yours with as many partners as you please. And I know I please all my partners,, as long as I pay them.

[Epigonos]

Damn purplekow I am in TOTAL agreement with EVERYTHING in your last post.

[curiousnomore]

Purplekow......Okay, most of us are into the guys i described, but that's all I'm interested in. Older men don't appeal to me. Many men can like that type of guy, but also other types. I mean, you are attracted to who you are attracted to, but I wonder if tastes for a lot of men change or evolve over the years because mine haven't. In fact, talking to one of my former escorts from 15 years ago I told him I wasn't involved with anyone, but hired a hot young escort a couple times a year. He sounded like he thought I should have moved on to older men by now. He wasn't being ignorant or anything, he just figured the type of guys i was attracted to would have changed over the years. Thickornotatall....I live in a small town outside a big city. The only gay men are closeted gay men, so you really don't know who they are. I could always head into the city bars, but I'm not into that scene. Your uncle meeting the dancer sounds so awesome. Yes, I've heard there are actually quite a few younger guys who prefer older men.

OP, you're not alone

[curiousnomore]

Op, you're not alone. My "Perfect Man" hasn't changed in 30 years. I went into hiring escorts looking for that guy, but all the early 20s jocks I contacted were, well, flaky. I ended up hiring a 33yo and a 37yo that first weekend. Wow!!!

 

While they met my "they're attractive" minimum threshold, I was still nervous. In person, they blew me away. Good looking And experienced? That combo beats 20s hot and self absorbed any day.

 

I'm still gonna meet Rey tho. Early 20s, hot and into Daddies is someone I can't miss out on meeting, lol.

[ZhenXBear]

Epigonos, first congratulations on your diligence in giving work to Mr. Kesslar. Further congratulations on continuing to add variations on the theme of your life. No need to be in a rut when rutting. No need to be over the hump when humping. No need to be screwed in place when screwing. After all, we all only have so many orgasms assigned to us and you might as well share yours with as many partners as you please. And I know I please all my partners,, as long as I pay them.

 

Like California...I better start rationing before the well goes dry....

[gilbert]

Thanks for the interesting responses. It would help so much if I didn't live in a small town where, for certain reasons, I have to hide who I really am. But, who knows, what could happen, even in a small town? You never can tell who just might come along and pop into your life. I just have to be smart enough to see it. I keep kicking myself because in 2001 I had an escort in New York City called Overnight John or John Overnight. He was quite a sweetie. When I got home from New York he sent me his real name so we could be friends outside of his escorting. For whatever reason I ignored the situation, at least until it was too late. he retired from escorting and I lost track of him, before I could connect with him again. It would have been nice to have had a casual relationship with him. I'm really not down for any serious relationships at this point in time. Not that I really have to worry about it. God bless escorts! Thanks again for your reponses.

[Guest]

I have seen ads on rentmen.eu recently where they provider describes themselves as 'boy next door'.

A boy next door in my parts doesn't have a fucked-up hair cut, backwards baseball cap, beard and body odor!

Edited March 9, 2021 by Oaktown

[Epigonos]

I would definitely agree with you Oaktown except regarding the backwards baseball cap - very "boy next door" in my neck of the woods.