Strange Encounter!

[Atlantagaguy]

Today I ran into a local escort at Costco that I hired a couple of years ago, I knew he was straight, but it was so strange to see him with his wife and daughter. Now I don’t think I could hire him because I have seen him with his family. Is that strange?

[tom1980]

I don't think it's strange. If you've been waiting two years, I'm guessing you weren't raring to hire him again anyway, so it's probably not really an issue.

 

I wonder if the inverse situation would lead to a similar result. A couple years ago, I saw an escort I had hired twice while I was shopping with my wife and two of my children at Whole Foods. I don't know if he saw me, and I didn't hire him again after that (I also stopped hiring local escorts for several months after that and still limit the number of locals I hire). If he had seen me, I wonder how it would have changed his perception of me and if he would've been any more or less comfortable having sex with me if I had asked for another appointment.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I was out at a cabaret and bumped into a guy who I had received a massage from the previous weekend. He came up and said "hi." Since I'm usually the one in the group who never bumps into someone I know, the other guys asked who he was and I'm sure I blushed as I took a sip of my cocktail and pretended I didn't hear the question.

[+ Gar1eth]

About 9 years ago, I hired an escort from LA who was originally from the New York area. I flew him to me in Texas where I lived at the time. We went inner-tubing in New Braunfels. While we are in the river, he runs into the sister of one of his former best friends from NYC. The friend was deceased, and he hadn't seen the sister in years. She was visiting some friends of hers who were originally from NYC but had moved to Texas.

 

Gman

[jawjateck]

Not strange. Reality brings the fantasy to an end.

 

On numerous occasions, I met previously-hired escorts in a public place. It's always interesting. They tend to have more discretion concerns than I do. At least 3 times, I ran into escorts I had never hired, but had noticed their ads, and in all 3 cases, the glimpse of them killed my interest. Reality was not as impressive as the fantasy.

[BSR]

If it was 2 years since you hired him, you weren't going to hire him again, regardless of your brief encounter. One time I was picking up a guy at his place (he didn't have a car). He was out & unfortunately didn't have a cell (this was before the days of free cellphones). His girlfriend was home, however, and informed me he wasn't home. When I tried to ask something else via the dysfunctional intercom, she just came outside to answer since their unit was close to the door. She answered my question & then started making small talk. It was awkward, but not excruciatingly so. When I decided to leave, she insisted I wait a bit longer because she knew I had driven a fair distance. Whaddya know, he arrived about 10 minutes later, quickly changed clothes, and we were off for dinner & fun. When I mentioned later that I felt uncomfortable talking to his girlfriend because I assumed she would feel resentful or angry toward his clients, he responded that she was the one who was all in favor of his escorting. She was unemployed at the time & he wasn't making much in a fast-food job. His escorting was the only way they could make ends meet. I continued seeing him a couple of times a month until I left Boston. Whether the escort is gay or straight, I don't have any fantasies that he wants & desires me. All I care about is that he's hot & eager to please. This guy definitely fit the bill, and the couple of other times I ended up interacting with his girlfriend (he wasn't the most punctual), small talk was much more relaxed & comfortable.

[marylander1940]

Today I ran into a local escort at Costco that I hired a couple of years ago, I knew he was straight, but it was so strange to see him with his wife and daughter. Now I don’t think I could hire him because I have seen him with his family. Is that strange?

 

Congratulations! You've hired a straight escort who is actually straight... so many times they called themselves that way and they "purse comes out of the mouths" every time they talk.

[mmk123]

One guy that I will hire every now and then I know is married and has a few kids. He used to be a male dancer and that is when I met him a few years ago.

Another guy that is still for hire who advertises on Rentboy primarily for massage is married and his wife does know about his extra circular activity. I know he mainly does massage so I am not sure how many times his massages lead to other activities. Also, the guy I do see on a somewhat regular basis doe shave a longtime girlfriend of around 8 years but she does not know about his side activities.

[+ poolboy48220]

This has happened to me a few times. I ran into a dancer that I'd hired outside the club a few times at the gym. He was a bit uncomfortable with it, said something like "My worlds are colliding". I saw him leaving later with his two young daughters. I hired him a few times after that and I made sure he knew I'd never mention anything that might expose him.

 

A favorite escort that had retired saw me at a restaurant/bar, he came up and said hi. He was with his boyfriend. We've met up a few times since, turns out the boyfriend isn't really into tying him up like he likes so I'm his outlet for that. :-)

[Steven_Draker]

Today I ran into a local escort at Costco that I hired a couple of years ago, I knew he was straight, but it was so strange to see him with his wife and daughter. Now I don’t think I could hire him because I have seen him with his family. Is that strange?

 

What did you find strange? The fact that you bumped into the escort in a public place or that he was accompanied by his wife and kid?

[bigvalboy]

This has happened to me a few times. I ran into a dancer that I'd hired outside the club a few times at the gym. He was a bit uncomfortable with it, said something like "My worlds are colliding". I saw him leaving later with his two young daughters. I hired him a few times after that and I made sure he knew I'd never mention anything that might expose him.

 

A favorite escort that had retired saw me at a restaurant/bar, he came up and said hi. He was with his boyfriend. We've met up a few times since, turns out the boyfriend isn't really into tying him up like he likes so I'm his outlet for that. :-)

 

+1...I routinely run into some of the dancers that I have hired from the club. Mostly at the gym, but always let them know that discretion in public will always come first.

[marylander1940]

+1...I routinely run into some of the dancers that I have hired from the club. Mostly at the gym, but always let them know that discretion in public will always come first.

 

Good, that's what gentlemen do!

Discretion goes both ways.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

The lie is his business, but the shame is a turnoff

 

This happens sometimes. No issues nowadays, even in benighted AZ.

 

But circa 1990 (in New York) I had an experience that made me immediately break off contact. The guy was gay in both his professional identity and desires. (Hard to fake then, pre-viagra...) One day I ran into him out shopping with his wife, who was pushing a stroller. I avoided eye contact, as we did back then, and moved on. Later he called and begged me not to out him to his wife. Of course I didn't. I also never hired him again. It wasn't that he was lying to his wife. You never know what's going on in somebody else's marriage. What bothered me was his shame. It was a complete turn-off.

[MiamiLooker]

About 4 years ago a guy came over, and upon his arrival, asked if his wife could come in and wait in the living room while he and I were in the bedroom. He’d left her sitting in the car in my driveway. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with that, and so she sat in the car for the hour (this was about 3:30 am, so she probably didn’t have anywhere else she could go)…

[Steven_Draker]

(this was about 3:30 am, so she probably didn’t have anywhere else she could go)…

 

She could have stayed home ... ;-)

 

Isn't that like inviting yourself to a party where you're not welcome?

 

The same goes if you invite an escort to your place and you have family/friend/husband/wife/ex-boyfriend/roommate or another sex partner(s) present at the same time. It's common courtesy to communicate this to your guest/escort ahead of time.

[Epigonos]

A number of years ago I ran into one of my regulars (Todd/LA) in a parking lot near his apartment. I lived all the way across town but was in the neighborhood to go to the movies and he was on the way to his gym in the same building complex. We were both alone, we smiled, said hello and went about our business. I hired him many times after the incident and we always laughed about what a small world it was. He is now long retired and I have sadly, to this day, been unable to find a replacement for him -- damn he was good.

[+ friendofsheila]

What did you find strange? The fact that you bumped into the escort in a public place or that he was accompanied by his wife and kid?[/color]

 

Maybe it was that some portion of fantasy had evaporated with the encounter.

[+ Gar1eth]

About 4 years ago a guy came over, and upon his arrival, asked if his wife could come in and wait in the living room while he and I were in the bedroom. He’d left her sitting in the car in my driveway. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with that, and so she sat in the car for the hour (this was about 3:30 am, so she probably didn’t have anywhere else she could go)…

 

If things were starting that late, I have no doubt you were really 'up' for the appointment, but knowing his wife was there just outside might have been a mood killer for me.

 

Gman

[MiamiLooker]

If things were starting that late, I have no doubt you were really 'up' for the appointment, but knowing his wife was there just outside might have been a mood killer for me.

 

Gman

 

LOL. Well, 11:00 pm is late for me nowadays (as well as four years ago). As I recall, our appointment was for around midnight. I don’t remember exactly why he was so late other than he was working at a local club, training to be a manager, I believe, and finished a lot later than he’d anticipated. He was a beautiful (in both looks and spirit) young latin guy, so I was able to wait up for him with not much effort. It made me uncomfortable that his wife was with him, but I would have felt much moreso if she’d been waiting in the living room rather than in the car while we played. They didn’t live nearby so she couldn’t go home and nothing was open at that hour. She knew what he was doing; they often advertised as a couple for hire, as well. I believe she participated for his benefit. Now, four years later, they both have regular jobs and four kids. He’s still as handsome as ever. She’s quite Rubenesque. They seem to be very much in love.

[+ Gar1eth]

LOL. Well, 11:00 pm is late for me nowadays (as well as four years ago). As I recall, our appointment was for around midnight. I don’t remember exactly why he was so late other than he was working at a local club, training to be a manager, I believe, and finished a lot later than he’d anticipated. He was a beautiful (in both looks and spirit) young latin guy, so I was able to wait up for him with not much effort. It made me uncomfortable that his wife was with him, but I would have felt much moreso if she’d been waiting in the living room rather than in the car while we played. They didn’t live nearby so she couldn’t go home and nothing was open at that hour. She knew what he was doing; they often advertised as a couple for hire, as well. I believe she participated for his benefit. Now, four years later, they both have regular jobs and four kids. He’s still as handsome as ever. She’s quite Rubenesque. They seem to be very much in love.

 

I guess I can relate after all now that I think about it. There was a bi guy I hired once in Dallas. He and his girlfriend also offered couple therapy. I met him at the hotel they were staying at. It's been several years, so I don't remember for sure, but I may have passed her in the hall as she was leaving. In any case I knew she'd be returning after I left.

 

Gman

[+ purplekow]

I met Sean Knight in the city and noted a man coming form his room as I approached it. When I got there, he said his BF had just called to say he saw the client, me, in the hall. After our session, I was down on the street walking to my car and they passed by me. Neither one notice me. So even though I had a great encounter with Sean, I went home feeling a bit down in being passed in the street like that. I got over it and hired him again a few weeks later.