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Just wondering if there is a specific reason?

 

No, there is no one specific reason. The reasons are as varied as the escorts themselves. Perhaps he has a boyfriend he like to spend his evenings with, perhaps he sleeps better alone, perhaps he only advertizes one hour session but would be open to longer booking with guys he's comfortable with.

 

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Agree...there could be many reasons. The escorts I know who can't do overnights are limited with time because of day jobs, and some are going to school. In those cases, getting a good nights sleep was important to them, and one escort had no one to care for his small dog overnight. like all of us, escorts have complicated and busy lives.

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... and one escort had no one to care for his small dog overnight

Oh, that's so sweet. As a dog lover, I'm convinced that particular escort must be a great guy! If the escort, and pup too of course, were OK with it, I'd insist that he bring the dog over.

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There is also the fact that even if it is considered the same profession escorting has many different specializations. There are escorts that are amazing with chit chat and social events, some others that specialize in creating the illusion of a deep, intense, intimate friendship, some others who are best at the hard fuck and move on, some others are at their best travelling with their clients, some are great at creating the illusion that they are part of the client's family or even their partner. There are prostitutes who specialize in sexual acts, social escorts who specialize in companionship, travel companions, etc.

 

While there are a few escorts who are comfortable doing all of the above, most of us feel more comfortable doing some and avoid some others. I think the secret of being a successful escort and have career longevity is to figure out which areas of escorting we excel at and focus on those, while avoiding the others at all costs, regardless of how lucrative they might be.

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While there are a few escorts who are comfortable doing all of the above, most of us feel more comfortable doing some and avoid some others. I think the secret of being a successful escort and have career longevity is to figure out which areas of escorting we excel at and focus on those, while avoiding the others at all costs, regardless of how lucrative they might be.

 

Juan,

I'd love to know what areas of escorting you feel you excel at, and those that you avoid. if it's not something you wanna share publicly, and you'd rather reply off forum, you can PM me... although I bet I'm not the only one who's curious.

thanks, sexy man!

D

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I have noticed there are escorts that due not do overnights/extended sessions. They appear to be well established, and well reviewed escorts. Just wondering if there is a specific reason?

 

Not every escort is so diversely comfortable with so many myriad situations, socially AND sexually, as a certain excellent Chicago escort! :)

 

TruHart1 :cool:

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Juan,

I'd love to know what areas of escorting you feel you excel at, and those that you avoid. if it's not something you wanna share publicly, and you'd rather reply off forum, you can PM me... although I bet I'm not the only one who's curious.

thanks, sexy man!

D

 

Hey stud,

 

I have no qualms about sharing this in public. In a way, because of my product's image I am constantly sharing this info in my ads, but is good to be able to say it directly.

 

I love and am really good travelling with my clients and making a trip exciting, comfortable and fun, sharing my knowledge of languages, cultures and cultural awareness. I love going to the theatre, opera, museums, cultural events and sharing intelligent conversations about them. I love the sexual intimacy part and simply adore helping men explore areas of their sexuality and psyche they have not yet visited. I love that spark in their eyes when they learn something about themselves. I love hanging out and developing a close, intelligent relationship of trust with clear and healthy boundaries where we both clearly know where we stand and understand why we come together.

 

By my last post I am an escort, a companion, a prostitute, an educator, an adventure partner.

 

The areas that I avoid at all costs because I don't feel they are healthy for me are being a surrogate partner, making my client believe that I am his boyfriend (or I could be under different circumstances "if only..."), making them believe I am their close friend or part of their family, I am not interested in having a sugar daddy or someone who bathes me with gifts, cars or apartments. In other words, I try to avoid all scenarios where the boundaries are muddled. I love my work and I would hate inviting drama and conflict into it by making things murky.

 

I know some escorts for whom this side of escorting works really well and becomes really lucrative, but I simply don't have the stomach for it. I don't have a judgment for them because I know there is a huge demand for such arrangements, it's just not for me. And as soon as I get the slightest hint that what my client wants is the fantasy blurred lines boyfriend I politely communicate this is not for me and move on.

 

So far after many years escorting I have managed to kept enjoying my work and I think it's because of this awareness. There's something for everyone. But not everything is for me.

 

What areas do you think you excel at?

 

Thanks for asking. Keep them smiling, stud! =)

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I have noticed there are escorts that due not do overnights/extended sessions. They appear to be well established, and well reviewed escorts. Just wondering if there is a specific reason?

 

WisconsinGuy, I'll try to address your question directly and not engage into an endless talk about how great I am. :cool:

 

I understood your question as why some escorts are not available specifically for overnights, whilst they are available for extended sessions during the day.

 

There might be various reasons for that. Among the most common ones:

 

- having a boyfriend or being in a relationship with strict rules (no O/N with clients)

- taking care of a pet at home

- not being able to sleep with a stranger in the same bed

- suffering from sleeping apnea (using a CPAP machine)

- snoring

- no interest in O/N

- ...

 

While some escorts might not be available for overnights on specific dates or over a period of time (due to school, day-time job, family matter), others have made the decision not to do overnights as a rule. I hope this helps answering your question.

 

Happy hunting! ;)

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Dear Juan, A well thought out, and wise response. When I spend a weekend with someone, it simply opens up my life to them, and their life to me. It thus amplifies up the sexual, or "play time" aspect even more. I understand that the escort isn't looking for marriage, but the intimacy sure does add an extra does of erotisism(sp) for me.

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What areas do you think you excel at?

Thanks for asking. Keep them smiling, stud! =)

 

oh gosh, I didn’t mean to ask you that question so that you would ask me that question. but fair is fair, so I’ll take some time to answer you well.

sidenote: I’m very aware of the “question which gets the question back” phenomenon, when it comes to sex work. although I’m not at all ashamed of what I do, I know that telling people often eclipses a conversation, and that’s not always ideal. as a result, I hardly ever ask anyone what they do anymore, thus avoiding the query back to me.

ok, so what do I excel at?

 

< I think I’m good at connecting with my clients. obviously I dont connect 100% of the time, no one does - but when I compare myself to other ‘scorts, I’d like to think I have a higher percentage than most.

 

< on a whole other level, I think I’m pretty creative and spontaneous when it comes to scenes - which makes for a hot time.

 

< I know I’m way more id than ego or superego, which allows me to embrace my animalistic side and let it roam.

 

< it also means that I’m less judgmental, which is a really fantastic trait to have as an escort!

 

< because I never thought I’d get into escorting, in fact fell into it wholly by accident (that part is saved for face to face discussions), and am in it by choice over financial reasons, I bring a different perspective to the table. which often is the bed, but sometimes, yes, there is stuff that happens on tables, too. heh heh.

 

< being an accidental escort also means that I have an entirely different career in my past, which allows me to step in similar realms that you mentioned, including culture - be it high or low, and technologically developed cultures, or tribal groups. that is probably why I’ve been able to expand my work as an escort into the role of a full service traveling companion - comfortable around foreign languages, adventure experiences, and non-western lifestyles.

 

< on a completely different level, I think I’m known for my love of kink and fetish play, but in reality I’m as comfortable with vanilla, cuddly, romantic play as I am with floggers, restraints and glass toys.

 

< I like to laugh - I think I have a good sense of humor - and I don’t take myself too seriously (as an escort). so that’s refreshing, I guess.

 

< like you Juan, I love teaching, and have been told that I’m good at it. these days, with this work, my teaching’s about sex - and yes, there IS a special thrill that comes when a client can learn something life-changing with regards to their sexual sphere.

 

woah, enough going on there - time for me to shut up about how great I am! ;)

 

what is not for me -

 

< well, I dont like people who disrespect me. I’m not talking about being objectified (my dick, my ass, my chest hair, my feet...) - after all, objectification is a fetish in its own right. I mean more about me and my personality; if someone wants a session where there is no connection whatsoever, meaning we can’t even have a few sentences chatting at some point during it, then I dont want to be with them. I’ve told at least a few people I’ve seen that we are not a match because they were unwilling to share even a modicum of their life with me. maybe I should clarify that its not so much about connection, as it is about communication. if someone is unwilling to communicate with me, in either words, or sounds, or even touch - then I end up feeling distant from them - and to me, that’s a boner killer.

 

< on a kink level - well, I don’t like urethral sounding (http://www.shopinprivate.com/vibrating-sound.html), and I am also not really one for electro-play (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_electrostimulation). I remember a really wonderful client who took me to cabo san lucas last year... we had a tremendous time ziplining, drinking tequila, driving baja 1000 racing cars, strolling the beach, and all sorts of sex, from restraint scenes to full on fucking, in marvelous accomodations that he arranged. but - - he tried to surprise me with a violet wand master kit (something like this - http://www.stockroom.com/Violet-Wand-Master-Kit-P4244.aspx), and on some level I felt guilty that I wasn’t able to enjoy his latest toy, or use it on him in any way that showed true enthusiasm.

 

can’t really think of what else is not for me.

 

I wish someone would hire us together for an experience. I would love to meet you face to face.

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I am sorry, I didn't want to put you on the spot. Even though you look quite pretty on it. =)

 

well, I dont like people who disrespect me. I’m not talking about being objectified (my dick, my ass, my chest hair, my feet...) - after all, objectification is a fetish in its own right. I mean more about me and my personality; if someone wants a session where there is no connection whatsoever, meaning we can’t even have a few sentences chatting at some point during it, then I dont want to be with them. I’ve told at least a few people I’ve seen that we are not a match because they were unwilling to share even a modicum of their life with me. maybe I should clarify that its not so much about connection, as it is about communication. if someone is unwilling to communicate with me, in either words, or sounds, or even touch - then I end up feeling distant from them - and to me, that’s a boner killer.

 

I am with you there. There are many clients and escorts and the trick is to find the way to attract the ones with whom you are a perfect fit. For me as well, open communication is very important.

 

I wish someone would hire us together for an experience. I would love to meet you face to face.

 

I hope that too. In the meanwhile, keep them smiling! =)

 

Big hug, Dave.

 

 

 

 

 

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