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I met with an escort last week in Groton. CT.

The session went fairly well. He did everything he promised. Was super sweet. Found out while I was at his place for an incall he was married with a baby and was escorting because he was broke and unemployed.

I only hire and can only afford to hire once or twice a month.

He has texted me daily since asking to get together. Today I told him I was busy with some medical tests and didn't know when I would be free. His response was that he really had fun and enjoyed our time together and wanted to see me again.

I replied, not today. Busy.

He texted back, they're going to shut off my electricity and the baby has no food.

I truly feel bad for the guy and that he needs to do this to support his family. I actually felt guilty while we were together.

I don't want to see him again, I also don't want to hurt his feelings. Would it be wrong to send him a little money or would that be complicating the issue?

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If you send him some, he will continue to ask for more, and the more you give, the more frequently he will ask. Better to refer him to some agencies that can be of help with his electric bills, baby food, etc. If I recall correctly, Groton is a fairly affluent community and I am sure they have some good social service agencies. But am a bit curious if you did an in call at his place, where was his wife and baby? Does she know what he is doing to make a few bucks?

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Sounds like a con but if you are sure he is being honest and want to help, you can buy groceries and leave them or gift him a large number of disposable diapers. You can not save the world, but you cn help this person, should you so chose.

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Would it be wrong to send him a little money or would that be complicating the issue?
oh, HELL NO!

 

this is a huge con.

 

AFDC:Aid for dependent children will fund his kids groceries. Food stamps will fund his groceries, and there is not a utility in the country that doesn't have a program to keep the power on for financially strapped people.

 

If if you have an iPhone, save his number under DEADBEAT and the click Block This Caller!!!

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I did an incall at his place. It as an apartment. There were baby toys everywhere, a crib that had linens in it and a bassanete next to the bed we played on. Afterward I asked where they were and if she know. He said yes and they were hanging out in the club house while is was there. That's why it was so sad for me to watch him try so hard to please me any way he could and knowing he really didn't want this. Only wanted to support his family. Yet he did a gret job, better than some gay escorts I've seen.

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If you enjoyed being with him and want to hire him again, then hire him again -- but on your terms, i.e., when you want to and have the funds to.

 

If you don't want to hire him again, don't.

 

In neither case should you just give him money. As others have said, there are sources of support available for him that don't involve him begging friends or acquaintances or clients for money.

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i am torn on this issue, but i have to agree that once you give money to be helpful they will continue to ask for more. unfortunately he has to figure out how to make it on his own as if you didn't exist. On the other hand if you truly think he needs the help then there is nothing wrong with helping out, but again, he will ask for more.

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The reason I prefer to see professional escorts is because there is a higher likelihood of safety, cleanliness and the absence of drama. With all due respect to this guy's circumstances, there's no place for this level of unprofessionalism and anything you do to encourage it will not only potentially place you in a compromised position, but will reinforce this aberrant behavior. From the sounds of it, you didn't even like him so much...block the number.

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I met with an escort last week in Groton. CT.

The session went fairly well. He did everything he promised. Was super sweet. Found out while I was at his place for an incall he was married with a baby and was escorting because he was broke and unemployed.

I only hire and can only afford to hire once or twice a month.

He has texted me daily since asking to get together. Today I told him I was busy with some medical tests and didn't know when I would be free. His response was that he really had fun and enjoyed our time together and wanted to see me again.

I replied, not today. Busy.

He texted back, they're going to shut off my electricity and the baby has no food.

 

It may well be a con. If he and his family was that close to hunger, you would think he would have applied for food stamps already.

http://www.fns.usda.gov/snap/apply

 

 

Also, CT gives protection against electricity shut offs to customers to whom a shutoff would be life threatening. I'm guessing that having a baby in the house would put them in that category.

http://www.211ct.org/InformationLibrary/Documents/Utility%20Shut-offs%20fj.asp

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I would not send him any money. You do not know whether his wife/starving baby/electricity pending shutoff story is true and, honestly, it is irrelevant. You don't want to see him, so don't maintain any contact with him. Ordinarily I would advise you to just ignore him and wait for him to go away, but in this situation I agree with the other posters: block his number and be done with him.

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Not everyone who is impoverished knows the poverty ropes. There are benefits and programs for people who are poor, but not every poor person qualifies. illegal aliens may be afraid to come forward and apply for such plans. Recently poor may not know the ropes. Do not be so sure that he can get help or knows where to look. if you want to help, there are ways to help him besides giving him money.

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I'm going to be contrarian and tell you to continue to see him, on your schedule. You said "He did everything he promised. Was super sweet". That sounds like reasons to go back.

 

As for "I truly feel bad for the guy and that he needs to do this to support his family. I actually felt guilty while we were together", well, you shouldn't feel guilty. You're not responsible for his situation, so there's nothing to feel personally guilty about. You would be helping him, not hurting him, by seeing him.

 

Pretend like you never even got the message about food and electricity. Tell him you can see him once a month, and that you will contact him when you want a session.

 

Remember, he's new at this. He can't be expected to immediately know what's "professional" and what's not. You might help him by giving him some guidance.

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I agree with rguer, but with a caveat. Forget gay or straight, the guy did his very best to please you, and it sounds like he did a helluva job. I would contact him with the information that FreshFluff provided, plus whatever other local agencies/charities you're familiar with. By the way, think of looking up your local Catholic Charities. Catholic Charities in most cities tends to have an abundance of donations (true in Boston, very much the case in Las Vegas), and will do anything and everything to help people who are willing to help themselves (they don't help, for example, drug addicts who have no interest in getting clean or finding work). If he is happy to learn of this information, then you'll have helped a person who just so happens to be in a tough situation right now. Then tell him that you'd like to get together again, but be honest and upfront about when. If your budget doesn't allow for another session for another month yet, tell him exactly that. Hopefully he'll calm down once he realizes that his family won't go hungry or be left in the dark. On the other hand, if he doesn't seem interested in the assistance and is just looking to make $$, then I have to wonder why his need for cash, as opposed to a helping hand, is so dire. If that's the case, then I wouldn't see him again.

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It may well be a con. If he and his family was that close to hunger, you would think he would have applied for food stamps already.

http://www.fns.usda.gov/snap/apply

 

 

Also, CT gives protection against electricity shut offs to customers to whom a shutoff would be life threatening. I'm guessing that having a baby in the house would put them in that category.

http://www.211ct.org/InformationLibrary/Documents/Utility%20Shut-offs%20fj.asp

 

 

Just a thought, another side of the coin is perhaps he really liked you and is making up excuses to see you again? If its not too personal, did you answer an ad or ? .... Groton is pretty close

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Sounds like a con to me as well... there are usually help organizations around that can help more than you sending him extra money. If you really care then check into these for him and pass the information along, otherwise you are not responsible for anyone else's life. That way you are not looked at as a "cash cow" and you can get on with your life and he his. Hugs and tugs... Scott

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