Hiring "Straight" Escorts

[chrisssand]

I thought I'd ask this question to get a general conscientious on the matter. Many escorts advertise as straight which very well may or may not be true. So with that being said do you feel that straight escorts still can enjoy the work they do/experience or do you feel its purely for the money and that they are just putting up with the encounter? Do you have any positive or negative experiences on this matter? Just curious if straight escorts could still make the best ones.

[+ purplekow]

Straight escorts may have limitations that most gay escorts do not. So your individual preferences may dictate how satisfactory a straight escort may be for your enjoyment. When I first hired, i had encounters with escorts who claimed to be straight but I found them to be receptive to almost everything, except being receptive. One muscular straight escort i have seen numerous times would not kiss and initially would not bottom though he loved assplay. Eventually, a finger became a cock and a straight man became a hot bottom. Another ostenibly straight man loved to kiss and caress and gave great oral but never submitted to my attempts to enter him. His kissing was so good that one time he made me come without taking off my clothes. It was as though I was 15 when he kissed me and the excitement was intense.

Other straight men I have hired over the last 10 years, have not been nearly as exciting nor receptive and I usually avoid straight escorts now.

[Guest borger1582]

I'm a good example of what purplekow says: my interests are such that whether the escort is straight or not, it won't matter - as long as they are willing to play in my 'scene'. I'm not interested in anal or oral, but rather being bound and teased/tickled by a nicely muscled guy (and sometimes doing the binding, although with escorts that's MUCH more rare). There have been a few really well reviewed escorts who tried to make this work for them, but I do find guys who are into the bondage on some level, or the tickling, are much the best; but it really doesn't matter if they are 'straight' or not.

 

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[+ azdr0710]

it's a good discussion point and a perennial topic here....

 

not surprisingly, there are many shades of gray with this....some of the militants around here will claim a "straight" guy couldn't possibly be so if he's kissing and fucking dudes....others will claim bisexuality does not exist at all....still others will say it doesn't matter as long as all are having fun....

 

I prefer "straight"-acting guys and don't mind if a dude claims he's straight, though, admittedly, I do feel a bit funny messing around with him if I do know for a fact he's 100% straight (I think only one guy was that way)....again, so many shades of gray and it took me a while to realize that....one dude who I've seen several times may be a great example: I once asked him to bring a chick to a meeting so I could watch the two of them mess around....they walk in together, he's already hard as a rock, and they put on a red-hot show with him looking like a pro with her....she leaves and the dude asks me, pretty intently, if he could give me head and if I could fuck him, but no kissing!! (I also don't like kissing)....he then gets off in about 30 seconds....incredible!....he's a former Marine and current firefighter, too.....

 

there is also the possibility of a "straight" dude being OK with the hardcore, physical aspect of same-sex intimacy, but wanting only a woman for an emotional, life-long relationship.....does that make him truly straight?...or not?....we all know many guys here on the board are happily married with children....

 

the much-discussed "gay4pay" thing comes up here, too.....though many discount it, I do think some entirely straight dudes would be willing to mess around with another guy for money....in fact, several here on the board have admitted they'd be glad to fuck a chick for a decent amount of money....

 

also, some of the "straight" escorts may only be appealing to clients who prefer "straight" guys....internalized homophobia (in the escort AND/OR client) may be an issue, too.....

 

lots to think about....

[Nvr2Thick]

I hired a hung black guy in Florida who is married with kids and identifies as straight. He's proud of his dick and the attention it brings him. When we met he was engaging and friendly, but when he stripped naked and his dick was hard it was like a whole different side of his personality opened up. When I was sucking him or he was fucking he truly seemed to love what he was doing. It didn't seem to matter who he was with though. I don't mean that in a bad way -- he was very verbal and attentive. The whole scene worked because we had something in common; we both loved his big dick and what it could do.

 

The right straight escort can be a lot of fun. I could give you a dozen similar stories of guys who get off on this kind of attention in spite of sexual attraction.

[mmk123]

here is Pittsburgh there are not a lot of escorts that appeal to me to hire regularly but the 2 or 3 that I do are straight. One was a former dancer and I have found out he is married with a few kids (he does not dance anymore and has a regular job but he will still visit me), and the other 2 used to advertise but do not anymore but still have maintained contact. The last 2 are single but have regular girlfriends but both do suck me and one will fuck me.

[buckguy]

This comes up often and this is one of the more thoughtful sets of responses. My own experience is that something is missing with a "straight" guy even if they seem to perform satisfactorily in terms of carrying out a series of acts. My guess is that reasonably successful escorts are different from the rest of us--more sex drive, more exploration of themselves and yet some of that may be compartmentalized as "work". It may be possible to perform, but isn't their favorite thing to do--analogous to closeted men with families who never look at another woman again once they come out. Others may, oddly, use escort work because it isn't part of their usual experience to explore their bisexuality. Hiring, though, you can't judge what "straight" really means. I pretty much take it as something to avoid.

[bigvalboy]

I can't really remember the last time I asked an escort if he was gay or straight. For myself, as long as he performs, and provides the kind of experience that I am paying for, then whether he is gay or straight isn't really my business. As azdr points out, everyone has strong opinions on the topic. I personally believe that we are all just sexual beings, and that sexuality is merely a scale, from 100% straight to 100% gay, and everything in between. All of us fall somewhere on the scale, with varying degrees of sexual desires.

 

I've hired escorts that I thought for sure they were gay, only to find out otherwise. It comes down to what you feel comfortable with. Straight escorts don't bother me, so for me it is a non-issue, and I think it is entirely possible for a straight escort to perform with gay clients.

[imrthr]

 

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- - as long as he performs, and provides the kind of experience that I am paying for, then whether he is gay or straight isn't really my business. As azdr points out, everyone has strong opinions on the topic. I personally believe that we are all just sexual beings, and that sexuality is merely a scale, from 100% straight to 100% gay, and everything in between. All of us fall somewhere on the scale, with varying degrees of sexual desires.

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Logical, unemotional and pragmatic - great post -

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[seattlebottom]

I used to not hire straight guys but then one day I accidentally hired one via Craigslist. After finding out I tried talking him out of the hire but he insisted on seeing me. Turned out to be one of the most enjoyable hiring experiences I ever had.

[+ newatthis]

I can't really remember the last time I asked an escort if he was gay or straight. For myself, as long as he performs, and provides the kind of experience that I am paying for, then whether he is gay or straight isn't really my business. As azdr points out, everyone has strong opinions on the topic. I personally believe that we are all just sexual beings, and that sexuality is merely a scale, from 100% straight to 100% gay, and everything in between. All of us fall somewhere on the scale, with varying degrees of sexual desires.

 

I've hired escorts that I thought for sure they were gay, only to find out otherwise. It comes down to what you feel comfortable with. Straight escorts don't bother me, so for me it is a non-issue, and I think it is entirely possible for a straight escort to perform with gay clients.

I'm with bigvalboy on this, especially when I'm hiring someone from, for example, a strip club, where I have lots of clues as to how he will approach sex with me. (I've found that my guesses in this situation are sometimes wrong -- more than once I've believed a dancer was straight only to find out during post-coital bonding that he identified as gay.)

 

I do, however, take "straight" in an escort ad as a warning -- an escort who puts that out there on an ad is saying to me that either he wants to appeal to a segment of the gay market that I'm not part of, or he's afraid someone will mistake him for gay.

[Steven_Draker]

Straight escorts don't bother me, so for me it is a non-issue, and I think it is entirely possible for a straight escort to perform with gay clients.

 

For those of you who don't care whether the escort is gay or straight, do you care to know that he likes pussy; do you listen to the stories about his girlfriend and watch straight porn along to get him excited?

[wklucas]

"one day I accidentally hired one"""

 

 

one day I hired one accidentally by design.....on a break outside my office building (downtown Chicago), a great looking guy (in all ways) was sitting on a planter's ledge reading a newspaper....I shuffle a bit closer to check him out & he's reading the classified/help wanted section (back in the 90's guys).....I strike up a convo leading to asking if he wanted to make some money.....it all led to an ongoing arrangement that lasted for over a year......he pretty much let me do whatever I wanted with him & he was willing to do / get into whatever I wanted him to do to me.....the guy will remain among my most pleasurable & memorable hires.....I tried several times to tell him that he could run an ad somewhere & easily get some more clients.....he never did.....but we had our arrangement.....fun (at least for me) / profitable for him.....I was the one who moved away from Chicago first....he apparently moved away too sometime after & I lost track of him.

[bigvalboy]

For those of you who don't care whether the escort is gay or straight, do you care to know that he likes pussy; do you listen to the stories about his girlfriend and watch straight porn along to get him excited?[/color]

 

 

Do you ask your straight clients if they eat pussy ; ;

[Steven_Draker]

Do you ask your straight clients if they eat pussy?

 

My straight clients??

 

If a straight man wanted to "eat pussy", he wouldn't be with me in the first place, silly.

[bigvalboy]

My straight clients??

 

If a straight man wanted to "eat pussy", he wouldn't be with me in the first place, silly.

 

So every single client that has ever hired you is gay? Really? And you know this for a fact because?...Not one straight boy coming out to play? ;

[+ honcho]

I'm wondering how much of this humpty-dumpty-ism ... are we choosing our words to mean what we want them to?

 

I would not want to hire somebody who never enjoys having sex with men and would *only* do it to get paid;

however I'm quite willing to believe there are men who generally *prefer* having sex with a woman (especially in a

long-term committed context), but *occasionally* truly enjoy having sex with other men.

 

Do we call such guys straight? bisexual? Does it really matter?

[jimboivyo]

anyone can call themselves straight

 

it's just another form of role playing for self-loathing gay men

[+ quoththeraven]

Leaving aside questions of identification and where people fit on the Kinsey or any other scale -- which, I think, answers the question of why a man who likes pussy might nevertheless hire a male escort -- as a woman I tend to dismiss escorts who describe themselves as straight without further consideration. Why? Because (a) in many cases the escort in question is clearly not interested in female clients and (b) even if that isn't clear, they're generally on the hypermasculine uber-alpha dominant/role-playing end of things. That's pretty much the opposite of what I'm looking for.

[Steven_Draker]

... as a woman I tend to dismiss escorts who describe themselves as straight without further consideration.

 

As a woman you would dismiss straight escorts and would hire a gay one?

 

It's the world upside down.

[+ purplekow]

As a woman you would dismiss straight escorts and would hire a gay one?

 

It's the world upside down.

 

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls

Its a mixed up,muddled up shook up world

Except for Lola

L O L A, Lola. La la la la Lola.

[+ quoththeraven]

As a woman you would dismiss straight escorts and would hire a gay one?

 

It's the world upside down.

 

No, silly, I'd hire a bisexual one. (And have.) Who is it that you think women hire? There isn't enough of a market for male escorts catering solely to women.

 

The guy I dated in college for a year and a half or so had had sex with his (male) best friend while they were in high school, probably starting when they hitchhiked to Georgia to visit Duane Allman's grave. He considered himself straight, and I had no reason to challenge that self-identification, seeing as he never showed any interest in other men while I knew him, which was until we graduated. The concept of a man who has sex with both men and women is no biggie as far as I'm concerned.

[Nvr2Thick]

For those of you who don't care whether the escort is gay or straight, do you care to know that he likes pussy; do you listen to the stories about his girlfriend and watch straight porn along to get him excited?[/color]

 

Yes and no. I don't like watching and hearing porn during sex in general. When I'm with a straight guy I like the feeling of accomplishment I get when he gets off. Porn diminishes that feeling because it implies I needed help with his pleasure.

 

I used to service a very well hung local guy. He loved the feeling and the attention he got from a good blowjob. He had only let one other guy suck him, but at the time he said I gave the best head he ever had. He liked that I asked about and talked so much about the size of his dick and what it was like for him. He enjoyed being able to tell me about what it was like to find girls who couldn't take it, or didn't think it was that important -- in comparison to the girls who truly appreciated his dick. With those girls he said he didn't have to take it easy or finish quick. He'd tell me how much fun it was to watch a girl enthusiastically struggle to suck him, and that he enjoyed it even if the head wasn't all that good. I ran into him out with his girlfriend, and rather than panic he trusted my discretion and introduced me as his buddy. I truly got a huge charge out of chatting with her; and all the while she didn't know that I knew that she and I had sucked that monster and that she was regularly getting rode hard, long and rough by an oversexed hung straight stud. The next time I got to service him one of his comments while I was working on him was, "I could see how you looked at her."

[Steven_Draker]

The concept of a man who has sex with both men and women is no biggie as far as I'm concerned.

 

All in the wrong places ...

 

[video=youtube;CAUDiGt8O8k]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=CAUDiGt8O8k

[+ quoththeraven]

All in the wrong places ...

 

[video=youtube;CAUDiGt8O8k]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=CAUDiGt8O8k

 

Didn't watch the video. Steven, are you saying that you don't believe there is such a thing as bisexuality? Really?!!