The young-uns

[+ Funguy]

What the heck? You're 19, gym-built, and have a smile that makes me melt??? Get your sexy self down to Dixie!

 

Oh! Wisconsinguy!!! LOLOLOLOL OLOLOL……..! I, too, have that smile that will make you melt; but alas, I am of the mature variey, kicked around by life, but victorious!

 

And a,

Funguy

[+ Charlie]

I came out in my teens, and for years I thought that there was nothing more sexually exciting than a good-looking, built guy in his 20s. As I aged into middle age, however, I still found younger men attractive, but my tastes evolved into men who were closer to me in age. Now that I am old enough to be their grandfather, staring admiringly at anyone under 30 makes me feel uncomfortably like a pedophile.

[Nvr2Thick]

From a young age I was always attracted to daddy-types. For me the realization came when my age progressed past that masculine ideal -- mature, built hairy men in their mid-30's to 40's. I still seek them out, but sadly, they're not my daddies anymore.

[wisconsinguy]

What the heck? You're 19, gym-built, and have a smile that makes me melt??? Get your sexy self down to Dixie!

I'm (because Funguy outed me on that age thing...I"ll get him back) the first desciption.

[+ quoththeraven]

IMO, it's the first more that the second. Some guys without material success believe they deserve to attract young women, but for the most part, but they, society expects them to be laughed at when they try.

 

The context was my comment that older men expect and in fact, believe they are deserving of attention from younger women or men by virtue of their success in business, life, and the like as well as because they're male. Just because society may consider older (and often less than hot) men without material accomplishments who expect to attract younger and hotter lovers to be laughable losers doesn't mean those men haven't been made to think that they deserve such consideration by virtue of being male. Society is replete with such messages. Moreover, the idea that older men deserve hot younger lovers because of their accomplishments is just as pernicious; it reduces the hot young woman (or man) to a commodity with which the older man is rewarded.

 

Also, while I am attracted by intelligence, accomplishment as such is not that important to me. I'm not interested in slackers, but I am also not interested in those who are so ambitious that they don't have time, energy, or compassion for other people. Steve Jobs accomplished much and studied Zen Buddhism, but there was nothing Zen about his life, and he's exactly the kind of person I'd want to avoid any entanglement with. This quote from cartoonist Bill Watterson describes the kind of person I'd be interested in.

The younger guys, for me, make great eye-candy. But when it comes to getting my motor running, it's usually a guy in their 30's or 40's. When I see the laugh lines, I think character, someone who knows what he's doing, wil be fun, and won't feel any need to play games. I know that guys in their 20's can also have those qualities. It just seems that it easier to find an older guy with them.

 

Agreed. I did not in my earlier response mean to suggest that all attractive young folk are brainless, but they do lack the life experience of someone older, and the kind of intelligence and maturity I'm looking for is more easily found in an older age group. Also, as others have mentioned, sometimes what's most attractive about young folk has little to do with smarts. But in that case I'd be more likely to admire from afar than want to engage in a relationship with them, whether that be a romantic one or merely physical. The whole "feeling like a pedophile" aspect has a bearing as well even though technically pedophilia (which only applies to lusting after prepubescent youngsters) isn't the right term.

[Michael Wayne]

A friend said I should read this thread....so I did. As an older escort I hear the following line from clients daily," oh I would never hire a teenager or a 20 something." The reasons they give vary but the fact is that I am doing better in the biz now than in my 20s. I am not near as cute as I was then. I was a magazine model then but it does not seem to matter. I wish all of us 30s and 40s guys would just advertise our REAL age. I don't want to be the first or the only one to do so. @ http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

[Guest Spanker01]

From my screen name you should be able to tell exactly what I'm into. In my case, a lot depends on the setting. If I am doing a father/son, teacher/student, then a 20 something comes to mind. Otherwise, it can get rather contrived. On the other hand, I have spanked guys well into their 60's and it was fun. Normally, however, when I am hiring I gravitate to the younger guys.

 

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