Can I ask your opinion about overnights?

[kaboom35]

I've only been hiring escorts for less than a year and have had my fair share of some of the Los Angeles escorts. Lately I've been curious about doing an overnight but when I really think about it....what is the point? When you hire overnights aren't you sleeping for most of the time? Are you having sex throughout the night?

 

Just curious what the standard activities are for overnights. It just seems like a waste of money if you and the escort are sleeping for the bulk of it.

 

I would appreciate your thoughts. thanks!

[IntoHotGuys]

Overnight can be from 6PM-6AM. So it's mostly for people who are interested in having a trophy stud by his side to dinner/show and then the bedroom afterward. It makes no sense if your overnight doesn't involve going out at some point. It's good for your ego if you're into that kind of thing. Some people do get off at letting the World know they can afford sex with hot studs.

 

I've only been hiring escorts for less than a year and have had my fair share of some of the Los Angeles escorts. Lately I've been curious about doing an overnight but when I really think about it....what is the point? When you hire overnights aren't you sleeping for most of the time? Are you having sex throughout the night?

 

Just curious what the standard activities are for overnights. It just seems like a waste of money if you and the escort are sleeping for the bulk of it.

 

I would appreciate your thoughts. thanks!

[+ purplekow]

I was surprised on my first overnight, a very enjoyable encounter or three with Steven Kessler. Relaxed dinner, comfortable and slow lovemaking session and then sleep. i awoke in the middle of the night with a great deal of excitement and we had a very aggressive and intense sexual encounter once he was awake and realized I wanted to fuck. Back to sleep, sexually exhausted, only to be awakened early in the morning by a nice moist blow job which led to a third session. Overnight was slightly more money than 3 single hour encounters but the episode in the middle of the night was worth the full expense and the other two encounters were different and fun. Had a nice dinner with an intelligent and thoughtful individual. Pillow talk ranged from sex to politics and religion. Nice breakfast and a cuddly shower and i faced the next day with a spring in my step and a memory induced erection in my pants. When I asked Steven about his reaction to my waking him in the middle of the night, he told me that it was unusual for his clients to wake him for sex during the night. So sex all night is probably not the norm but your results may vary.

So, is it worth it? it depends on the man you are with and the energy with which you want to pursue it.

I have had subsequent overnight encounters, one of which was an asexual disaster where the escort fell asleep while I showered at night and then was not rousable during the night nor in the morning. I knew he was faking being asleep but after awhile it became pointless to pursue anything with him. Yes he was well reviewed and recommended, perhaps he was having a bad night. Good luck with whichever decision you make.

[+ Gar1eth]

It seems to me that I wrote an answer to that question several months ago, but I can't find the thread or my specific post now. I will answer shorter than I did then. Briefly, I spend most of my life alone- even more now that I am jobless- but I'm not really hiring now. So back when I was working, I spent the majority of my time outside work alone for various reasons. Even on vacations, 99% of the time I was by myself on them. I hired overnights because I wanted to be with someone- for sex sure but also for company. The same thing for weekends with escorts. I was tired of being by myself. If your main purpose in being with an escort is for sex rather than companionship, you may not need or want to hire an escort for overnight or a weekend. I will say that I don't think I was ever lucky enough to have one of the escorts I was with wake me up from sleep with a blowjob or sex. On the other hand, I usually had outside the bedroom activities planned, and having play time after that sometimes meant we didn't go to sleep until 2 or 3 in the morning. So they may just have been too pooped to play early in the morning. Also I'm a top, and as for sex, they may not have felt 'cleaned out enough' first thing in the morning.

 

Gman

[wisconsinguy]

I've only been hiring escorts for less than a year and have had my fair share of some of the Los Angeles escorts. Lately I've been curious about doing an overnight but when I really think about it....what is the point? When you hire overnights aren't you sleeping for most of the time? Are you having sex throughout the night?

 

Just curious what the standard activities are for overnights. It just seems like a waste of money if you and the escort are sleeping for the bulk of it.

 

I would appreciate your thoughts. thanks!

I also have been hiring for less than a year. I made the choice, with lots of thoughts, pros and cons, from great posters on this site, to go with extended sessions. This also included caution from the escort! I made the decision to go with my gut, and started out with a weekend, and never looked back. There was a great connection. The escort was sexy, fun, and bright. Who could ask for more? As for timing overnight, it depends on timing. It may include different costs dependent on when you meet. Meals, going out for drinks, stuff like that. As for play time. When I am with my choice of escort, we rarely fall asleep before 3AM. The stuff that happens between is a combo of "play time", and many other things." Simply put, think about your choices, communicate with your escort regarding any questions you/he may have. Respect on both parts goes a LONG way to a more fun extended session. Take care, have fun, and u can PM me anytime.

[wisconsinguy]

I also have been hiring for less than a year. I made the choice, with lots of thoughts, pros and cons, from great posters on this site, to go with extended sessions. This also included caution from the escort! I made the decision to go with my gut, and started out with a weekend, and never looked back. There was a great connection. The escort was sexy, fun, and bright. Who could ask for more? As for timing overnight, it depends on timing. It may include different costs dependent on when you meet. Meals, going out for drinks, stuff like that. As for play time. When I am with my choice of escort, we rarely fall asleep before 3AM. The stuff that happens between is a combo of "play time", and many other things." Simply put, think about your choices, communicate with your escort regarding any questions you/he may have. Respect on both parts goes a LONG way to a more fun extended session. Take care, have fun, and u can PM me anytime.

One more thought(s). Every person has there different quirks like us. If ur in the escorts turf, it would be easier for him to be more comfortable, thus u. I am comfortable in my escorts turf. I am very comfortable with him as a person. We connect on a number of levels. What I'm trying to say is, he is unique as u are. Do your research, think about what u want, and go wy gut.

[down_to_business]

My opinion on overnights. This is from my own personal experience and preferences.

 

I personally have done several overnights, weekends, extended appointments, and hourlies. By far the best has been hourly (for me). but like others have told you, it depends on what you are hoping to get out of the experience. If doing an overnight, it is best to have something planned other than just sex-- even if its just dinner and watching a movie together. You need to ask yourself would you prefer spending 12 hours with the same guy, talking, playing and sleeping-- or would you rather spend the same amount and have 3 different hours of mind blowing sex with 3 different guys on 3 different days all for about equal cost. There are some people that would rather spend that time with the one guy, and there is nothing wrong with that either. Different strokes for different folks. You should go with the option that will make you happy.

 

If you decide to go for the overnight, I offer you a few suggestions:

 

* Go into it with your eyes open and a healthy dose of reality. it will not be sex 24/7. To expect that would be unrealistic and you will be disappointed. Sleep time will consume at least 6-8 hours of your overnight (and maybe more depending upon the escort).

 

* Only try an overnight with someone you have met and clicked with at least twice. Some people on here will try and blow smoke up your ass and tell you that well reviewed escorts that specialize in blah blah blah is all you need to have a good overnight but that is pure bullshit. Anyone might be able to fake it for an hour, but if there is no chemistry, compatibility, common ground with you and an escort the overnight will be a disaster. No one can guarantee chemistry with you before you even meet. It can even happen that the escort is into you but you aren't into the escort.

 

* An overnight should not cost more than 3.5X the hourly rate. A lot of the time will be spent just sleeping.

 

* Be sure and pinpoint the hours that the overnight will cover before making the appointment. Another rule of mine is that an overnight should be at least 12 hours. Anything less is not an overnight. Make sure its clear when the overnight starts. I recommend it starts when the escort arrives at the agreed upon location.

 

Whatever you decide, good luck to you and enjoy the experience.

[Edward]

Down to business hit on the nose. Make sure you know how long an overnight is. Many escorts think an overnight is 6 to 8 hours. That may be ok if you just want a long sex session. 12 hours or more is need if you are going to dinner, a show and then want sex before you go to sleep. And again in the morning.

[ncc1701d]

I've mainly done hourly or days hire, and only recently did my first overnight with someone I had already seen twice, once for an hire (my usual rule of test drive first), then once for an evening (5-6hr) appointment. I agree with the original poster's comment. I found the overnight, while a nice experience, to be not much different than the evening hire (sex/dinner/sex without the sleepover) but more $$. Frankly if I spent that much time playing the night before, the last thing i want to do is to wake up at 5am to send him off. If the two of us clicked that well, then I see no reason to do overnight and would skip straight to day hire (or longer). Then you get both the companionship and fun. As for the waking up in the middle of the night part (no I never woke Steven K up..I knew he liked his sleep !), my recent weekend hire involved that, which was completely unplanned on my part or expected, but our chemistry was so great that he even managed to give me my first internal orgasm at 3am!!! I guess I have to change my mind about being awaken in the middle of the night from now on!

[big-n-tall]

People (escorts and clients alike) are looking for different things when doing an overnight. Which has already been expressed by previous posters to this topic.

 

Some want the companionship... the sex is secondary (and on occasion, not important at all). Depending on the escort and the client, there could be marathon sex sessions, with little to no sleep and short breaks for food, etc. It just varies from person to person.

 

Personally, for me, overnights have varied depending on the escort. I have met escorts I've befriended (to various degrees) and we enjoy spending time together just as much as the sex. Most of my overnights are repeats with them. In my relatively short hiring tenure, I've met only three escorts where the sex was constant during the overnight/weekend. Two have sadly retired from the business. The other lives far away and my schedule is to busy to see him more often.

 

If you're going to do the overnight, research and communication is the key. There are escorts with high sex drives who may come close to doing an all night sex escapade. However, if they've been seeing clients all day, it probably won't happen. It's probably better to bring them to you or go on a trip together (but only after you're sure you two are compatible). This way, you're the only one they focus all their energy on. A better rested escort could lead to more sex encounters during your time together. :-)

 

I think if you're only in to an overnight for non-stop sex... the vast majority of the time you're going to be disappointed. Escorts are only human. Some clients tend to forget that. :-P

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Kaboom,

 

Some people already said it but I will attempt to be as clear as possible.

 

If you want more bang for your buck and think about hiring men in terms of paying them to have sex with you, the overnight session will leave you dissatisfied and will be a really bad deal. There will be sleep time, there will be eating time, there will be talking time. You will find that you are constantly pushing for more and fighting against the escort, wishing he didn't have to eat, didn't have to sleep, didn't have to go to the bathroom. Not a fun scenario at all.

 

If you hire men to practice intimacy and explore your sensuality but also to enjoy the companionship, the talk, the hanging out, the deeper connection that can develop when you spend more time with a human being, then you will find overnight sessions are right for you. It can be a very safe and fun way to connect with someone without the risks and the investment of going on a date. The only secret is to find an escort who is great at them, good at keeping clear boundaries and great at connecting with his clients.

 

As long as you don't measure the overnight's success' by number of orgasms or length of sex encounters and you are able (and willing) to enjoy the intimacy part of it, you will really enjoy those extended periods sharing very private moments with a man that is focusing entirely on you.

 

Word of caution: If you are uncomfortable with intimacy, or if you tend to confuse sexual attraction with infatuation then overnights might not be the best bet for you and it would be best if you stuck to one or two hours sessions. There is no guarantee you will not have the illusion of falling in love with escorts in a short session but the chances are smaller.

 

I hope this answer is helpful, and I hope you will find the perfect length of a session for you.

[jimboivyo]

Hey Kaboom,

 

Some people already said it but I will attempt to be as clear as possible.

 

If you want more bang for your buck and think about hiring men in terms of paying them to have sex with you, the overnight session will leave you dissatisfied and will be a really bad deal. There will be sleep time, there will be eating time, there will be talking time. You will find that you are constantly pushing for more and fighting against the escort, wishing he didn't have to eat, didn't have to sleep, didn't have to go to the bathroom. Not a fun scenario at all.

 

If you hire men to practice intimacy and explore your sensuality but also to enjoy the companionship, the talk, the hanging out, the deeper connection that can develop when you spend more time with a human being, then you will find overnight sessions are right for you. It can be a very safe and fun way to connect with someone without the risks and the investment of going on a date. The only secret is to find an escort who is great at them, good at keeping clear boundaries and great at connecting with his clients.

 

As long as you don't measure the overnight's success' by number of orgasms or length of sex encounters and you are able (and willing) to enjoy the intimacy part of it, you will really enjoy those extended periods sharing very private moments with a man that is focusing entirely on you.

 

Word of caution: If you are uncomfortable with intimacy, or if you tend to confuse sexual attraction with infatuation then overnights might not be the best bet for you and it would be best if you stuck to one or two hours sessions. There is no guarantee you will not have the illusion of falling in love with escorts in a short session but the chances are smaller.

 

I hope this answer is helpful, and I hope you will find the perfect length of a session for you.

 

 

as usual, well said juan

 

overnights, weekends and longer are for those who appreciate more than just a quick, anonymous fuck. there are still some of us here who want quality over economy

[kaboom35]

Thank you all so much for the responses. I definitely have a clearer head on how to approach the overnight thing! thanks!!!!

[+ purplekow]

In my relatively short hiring tenure, I've met only three escorts where the sex was constant during the overnight/weekend. Two have sadly retired from the business. The other lives far away and my schedule is to busy to see him more often.

 

I :-P

Names we want names lol

[down_to_business]

...

 

overnights, weekends and longer are for those who appreciate more than just a quick, anonymous fuck. there are still some of us here who want quality over economy

 

Well quality and economy are not mutually exclusive, but ok. Consumer reports can show you several examples of economy with much higher quality than the popular, higher priced brands.

 

There are some of us here who will pay to play but not pay someone to pretend to be our friend- but whatever floats your boat.

[LookingAround]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned cuddling. I think cuddling can be better than sex. Even both together are great.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Mostly I prefer overnights or extended engagement. My work schedule and volunteer activities take up much of my time, so I don't hire very frequently. When I hire, it is nice to spend time with someone that isn't related to my work life.

[big-n-tall]

Names we want names lol

 

LOL!

 

I'm surprised no one has mentioned cuddling. I think cuddling can be better than sex. Even both together are great.

 

+1

 

I didn't go into to detail of my encounters, but all of my regulars seem to love to cuddle with me. It may have something to do with my body type. I've been called a teddy bear more than once. LOL! One particular regular loves to intertwine his body with mine when we rest/sleep. He does this more so than anyone I've ever met. He's says it soothes/comforts him. I'm not going to tell him no. :-p

[jimboivyo]

Well quality and economy are not mutually exclusive, but ok. Consumer reports can show you several examples of economy with much higher quality than the popular, higher priced brands.

 

There are some of us here who will pay to play but not pay someone to pretend to be our friend- but whatever floats your boat.

 

 

Some of us pay for more than just sex and that's fine

 

Pretend? lol. we obviously don't see the same types of escorts

[big-n-tall]

Some of us pay for more than just sex and that's fine

 

Pretend? lol. we obviously don't see the same types of escorts

 

:-)

 

Not to start another debate on the subject... but I do believe some escorts befriend their clients. I know some people believe otherwise and that's perfectly fine. And I'm not going to rattle off a list of escorts i call friends to prove a point... that'll be like bragging. :-P Not that it's a long list anyway. LOL!

 

I'm just saying its possible.

[bigvalboy]

I've only been hiring escorts for less than a year and have had my fair share of some of the Los Angeles escorts. Lately I've been curious about doing an overnight but when I really think about it....what is the point? When you hire overnights aren't you sleeping for most of the time? Are you having sex throughout the night?

 

Just curious what the standard activities are for overnights. It just seems like a waste of money if you and the escort are sleeping for the bulk of it.

 

I would appreciate your thoughts. thanks!

 

I have done my fair share of overnights, and actually I like them. I love to cuddle, and I love spending social time with an escort. It is important to ask the escort what he considers the time an overnight starts and ends. Some escorts are flexible and will accommodate your wishes, but some escorts have to leave early in the morning, so you might feel shorted. The last overnight I did in FTL, the escort had another job, so he had to leave at 7 am the following morning, so we started the evening earlier. For myself, I like to start at about 8pm. I start with dinner, then I will take the escort out some place, usually to a local club, or bar, or some place of there choice. Then it is home for sex, sleep, and then most escorts will have sex again in the morning, but again, you should be very clear as to what you want to happen.

 

You will spend more money on an overnight, since you have to take into consideration that you will be buying dinner, drinks at a club or the cost of another activity, and if the overnight ends anytime after 8am, mostly likely breakfast also. Again, something to consider if you have those concerns.

 

Over nights might not be the best bang for your buck, but it depends on what you are looking for in a hire situation. Not everything in life should be determined or justified by equating dollar to value ratio. I've recently have been doing all day hires. You do end up spending a lot of time with the escort, so I guess that in terms of getting the most value for your money, it is a win win. I just recently did an all day hire, and it was the best hire I have ever had. It was a long day, but it could not have been more enjoyable.

[+ quoththeraven]

As mentioned earlier in this thread, overnights involve companionship and sex rather than just sex. I had my first overnight (an incall) almost a month ago now after an initial three-hour session that made it clear that we had sexual chemistry and compatible interests/personalities going for us. While some escorts consider 6-8 hours an overnight, most seem to adhere to a 12-hour standard. For various reasons, I opted for 15 hours (6 pm to 9 am), which involved a $100 fee for each additional hour on top of the fee for a 12-hour overnight until the total reached the 24-hour rate. A 24-hour visit would have been more cost-effective, but the escort in question wasn't available for a 24-hour visit then.

 

As for the breakdown between sex and other activities, the first few hours were probably split evenly between chitchat and practical considerations (like where to put my stuff) and sex before we broke for dinner. We got back between an hour and a half and two hours later, talked some more and had another drink, then went at it again for at least an hour, maybe an hour and a half or more.

 

Without my glasses, I couldn't see the wall clock in the corner of the bedroom, but I am certain that we didn't go to sleep until midnight at the earliest, possibly as late as two am, meaning the most sleep either of us got was seven hours at the max. There was no middle of the night sex (though I wouldn't have been surprised by it), but we got sweaty again for an hour or so the next morning before showering together. What we did the night of and the morning after wasn't easygoing, sensual sex either. Cuddling while settling down for sleep was the most vanilla thing we did. So while it might have only involved an hour or so more of sex than the two and half hours devoted to sex during the previous appointment, because of the intensity of it, it felt like we spent all the time we were't having dinner or sleeping having sex.

 

Also, put me in the column of those who believe it's possible for escorts and clients to legitimately be friends if the circumstances are right. It doesn't happen all the time, and not every client or escort wants it, but it does happen.

[buckguy]

I think Juan captured it best, so far. The one consideration that needs to be underscored is that it depends on the guy.

 

Years ago, an escort/porn guy posted here or maybe on Atkol a question about what to do on an overnight. He'd been in the business for several years and had never done one. He clearly projected an image and advertised in a way that didn't pull for that clientele and he really seemed to have no idea how to fill the time. Some guys advertise and price themselves in ways that encourage long appointments. Others probably would rather not--an overnight means not going out with friends, dealing with a day job or school schedule, but providing companionship to someone whom you don't really know. The idea of doing an hour appointment as a test drive ignores the degree to which an overnight or longer appointment represents something very different for both parties. If anything review and other feedback probably is more important than for a quick roll in the hay.

[+ Gar1eth]

At the time I did my majority of overnight and weekends, I lived in a city that basically had no escorts with the nearest escorts being about 120 miles away. And that city didn't really have any escorts I was interested in. So I ended up having to fly most of the escorts in which precluded meeting them beforehand. I think on the average of meeting new escorts my good time percentage was only around 60 percent of having a great time. The percentage of having a good time was a little higher. But these were percentages on meetin new guys. Once I found a few I liked, I invited them back multiple times.

 

Both my overnights and weekends usually involved dinner, going out to the theater, movie, or something similar, going back to the hotel or bed-and-breakfast ( usually I did my hiring in another city as there wasn't really anything to do where I lived plus if I had been seen it might have started questions- and due to work considerations I was totally closeted at the time.)

 

Gman

[down_to_business]

:-)

 

Not to start another debate on the subject... but I do believe some escorts befriend their clients. I know some people believe otherwise and that's perfectly fine. And I'm not going to rattle off a list of escorts i call friends to prove a point... that'll be like bragging. :-P Not that it's a long list anyway. LOL!

 

I'm just saying its possible.

 

I am willing to concede this point with one caveat. I think there is a huge difference between what I consider a friend compared to others on this board. I think some people consider friends what I consider casual acquaintances. I hold the term friend to a much higher standard and don't let many people progress to that level. That doesn't mean there aren't others out there that I don't have cordial feelings towards or even look forward to seeing. I just don't elevate someone to a "friend" so easily, despite what facebook may want me to categorize someone else as . What I have done or would do for a true friend (and likewise what they would do or have done for me) would prohibit having so many, and it is my personal preference to have a few real good ones rather than many. Not that there is anything wrong with having lots and lots of people we consider friends. No friend of mine would require any ongoing financial or business relationship, nor would it end once any client or financial relationship ended.