Initial contact--what do you want to know

[GeorgiaBob]

I have been hiring for only about nine months-probably only five or six guys. So I guess I've done something right. But I have tried contacting many others without getting a response. Can someone tell me what you really want to hear and know when someone texts or emails for the first time about setting up a meeting? Thanks for helping a new guy.

[tyro]

Welcome GB! I'm sure some of the "working guys" around here can give you some good info.

T

[+ Funguy]

Juan Vancouver gave a wonderful answer in another thread (Vancouver = WTF):

 

"Hey, I saw your ad and liked what I saw. I am not very experienced with men and am thinking of having a session of approximately ____ hrs together at your place. I am curious about trying things such as ____________. My ideal time for meeting would be ________ days around ________ time. Are you available for that time and do you think we are a good match? What would be the rate for that kind of session? You can email me back, text me to the number I include or call me between ____ and ____. Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you."

 

Nothing makes me happier than getting an email like this. It shows that the prospective client is serious, sees this as a engaging with a professional service provider and gives me all the information that I need to give him a clear, concise answer."

[+ azdr0710]

not an escort here, but wanted to add to Juan's excellent suggestion....make sure you don't associate sex with money in any sentence or discussion (that may be the #1 non-starter for an escort)....always be friendly and ask for their "rate for time only" or "contribution amount"....keep discussion of what you want to do very far away from $$ talk and don't dwell on the $$.....also, I ask escorts if they have any questions or requests for me...I usually offer my cell phone number in the first contact to show my earnest interest in the meeting....I also usually give a very quick rundown of my stats....

[adriano46]

Thanks Andrew (you are on a very short list of guys to see but we seem to always be missing each other when you come to NYC or DC!!!)

 

I liked your advice because it is my general approach. First contact - hi, this is me, interested in seeing if you are available on ... date and for 90 min/2hrs/whatever.

 

If the guy responds then I describe things that interest me and usually in an impersonal way (sort of my "without this, no date" kind of thing, which is, admittedly, quite short and limited). If we move to set up the date, then I get a brief bit more descriptive... about ME. I do not expect in e-mails or texts for the escort to be engaged in explicit descriptions.

[GeorgiaBob]

Thanks for the great advice. I appreciate it.

GeorgiaBob

[nate_sf]

Thanks Andrew (you are on a very short list of guys to see but we seem to always be missing each other when you come to NYC or DC!!!)

 

I liked your advice because it is my general approach. First contact - hi, this is me, interested in seeing if you are available on ... date and for 90 min/2hrs/whatever.

 

If the guy responds then I describe things that interest me and usually in an impersonal way (sort of my "without this, no date" kind of thing, which is, admittedly, quite short and limited). If we move to set up the date, then I get a brief bit more descriptive... about ME. I do not expect in e-mails or texts for the escort to be engaged in explicit descriptions.

 

I prefer this approach too. I'd also add that in your initial contact, you could mention that you've read the escort's reviews (if you have). To me that indicates that they are serious and will most likely be a good client.

[Keenan]

The first things to start with are the date, how long the appointment length will be and where. That would allow me to make sure I'm available, if not I can then respond with other dates/times to see what would work better if any. After those initial details are determined then the other details can be discussed such as what the client likes to do, etc.... This is the time to be up front for both the escort and the client about what they like/don't like before the actual meeting to make sure the client gets what he wants.

 

Keenan

 

I have been hiring for only about nine months-probably only five or six guys. So I guess I've done something right. But I have tried contacting many others without getting a response. Can someone tell me what you really want to hear and know when someone texts or emails for the first time about setting up a meeting? Thanks for helping a new guy.

[Decatur Guy]

Escorts are understandably very cautious about discussing specific acts for entrapment reasons. That's where the reviews are so invaluable. Ten reviews or so ought to show a really good pattern by then.

 

I have passed on a few escorts who had vaguely worded ads and no reviews, though. Escorts do themselves a big favor when they make a few specifics clear -- especially top/versatile/bottom. Gosh, if you can't find that out, it could be a real problem. And I've seen ads where you just don't know.

[Michael Wayne]

ok this old school but you asked: HOW ABOUT CALLING? Calling tells me a client is real. I hear his voice. I am sure it is not a kid. Communication is much easier and the two of us can get a feel for whether or not we will be a match. Believe it or not but this biz existed and thrived before texting and even before email with a device called a telephone. this works for me as almost every client who calls books! http://www.rentboy.com/magicmikey

[bigvalboy]

ok this old school but you asked: HOW ABOUT CALLING? Calling tells me a client is real. I hear his voice. I am sure it is not a kid. Communication is much easier and the two of us can get a feel for whether or not we will be a match. Believe it or not but this biz existed and thrived before texting and even before email with a device called a telephone. this works for me as almost every client who calls books! http://www.rentboy.com/magicmikey

I understand the argument, except that most of the escorts that I have hired lately want to communicate only by text. It might be a youth thing, but even masseurs prefer text. I had to insist once that I actually hear the persons voice before I hired him. He reluctantly agreed, and everything ended up being just fine.

 

Additionally many, not all, but certainly many of my friends who are in other cities or out of state communicate via text. I prefer it, as I find it cuts to the chase, you don't have to worry about reception, and you can carry on a conversation with someone while engaged in another activity.

 

I do understand each to his own, as some friends just hate to text, but me...I love it.

[rvwnsd]

I understand the argument, except that most of the escorts that I have hired lately want to communicate only by text. It might be a youth thing, but even masseurs prefer text. I had to insist once that I actually hear the persons voice before I hired him. He reluctantly agreed, and everything ended up being just fine.

 

Additionally many, not all, but certainly many of my friends who are in other cities or out of state communicate via text. I prefer it, as I find it cuts to the chase, you don't have to worry about reception, and you can carry on a conversation with someone while engaged in another activity.

 

I do understand each to his own, as some friends just hate to text, but me...I love it.

 

I agree with you, BVB. I'm solidly in middle age, but I do not often have the time to chat on the phone. For me, email and text are the best ways to communicate.

 

To answer the initial question, I typically send an email to the guy I am considering and introduce myself, describe what I get into and ask something like "what do you think?" or "how does that sound?" If a guy's ad states he is into the things I am, I will simply say something like "I see we are into many of the same things..." and go from there. I usually ask about or confirm rates after a couple of emails. If the rate is not stated in the ad, I will say something to the effect of "May I ask what the rate would be?" If the rate is stated in the ad, I will say "May I confirm that your rate is $xyz?" Only twice did a guy give me grief for asking about his rate. My response was "The ATM requests a withdrawal amount, so I need to know what to enter when it asks."

[scottspearsxxx]

I like to know what a guy wants in the scene. What he is hiring me for in the appointment. I also would like an email and phone number as well. I want to make sure he has the best experience possible so asking for what is expected in advance seems necessary for that.

[Keenan]

Escorts are understandably very cautious about discussing specific acts for entrapment reasons. That's where the reviews are so invaluable. Ten reviews or so ought to show a really good pattern by then.

 

I have passed on a few escorts who had vaguely worded ads and no reviews, though. Escorts do themselves a big favor when they make a few specifics clear -- especially top/versatile/bottom. Gosh, if you can't find that out, it could be a real problem. And I've seen ads where you just don't know.

 

As good as reviews are I have found that not all customers are comfortable leaving a review especially since initially the review asks for personal information such as an e-mail address and a phone number. As such trying to get a customer to leave a review may be hard at times.

 

Keenan