What would you do?

[Atlantagaguy]

Last night I stopped by one of the local strip clubs in Atlanta. It was early 8:30pm; there were 3 customers and about 10 cute dancers. All of the dancers were either talking to another dancer or on their phone. Not one of the dancers approaches any of the customers that were in the bar. I had one drink and then I left at 9pm, one of the other customers did the same thing. The club was left with one customer. I was ready to spend money and ended up going to the other clubs and had a great time. Should I have said something to the management? It was such a negative experience.

[+ poolboy48220]

I stick with my one favorite club so it's unusual that I don't strike up a conversation with one of the dancers I know already, but if I'd been in your situation, I would have sat at the bar next to one of the dancers that caught my eye, offered to buy him a drink, and see where things went from there.

[Atlantagaguy]

But is it my place to work the dancer? I go to the clubs for the fantasy that these beautiful boys are interested in me!

[Decatur Guy]

I think you spoke to management by leaving. I don't do the strip clubs -- all I can think is maybe it's like a party where they say "Party starts at 8!" But what they really mean is "Come at 10."

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

I seriously think you should have spoken to management. Some managers are on the premises and walking around to make sure the guys are circulating. They lose business obviously when customers walk out. I always compliment a dancer who stops by to say hello or introduce themselves. If a new dancer is outstanding, I will usually make a positive comment to the manager. But on the other hand, when customers are being ignored, the management needs to be aware of this as well. So many strip clubs are going out of business, we need to do all we can to insure they stay open. :-)

[Steven_Draker]

I read often in other threads that patrons don't like to be approached in an obvious manner or being 'pushed'.

 

Is there something like juste milieu, a happy medium?

[EZEtoGRU]

I read often in other threads that patrons don't like to be approached in an obvious manner or being 'pushed'.

 

Is there something like juste milieu, a happy medium?[/color]

 

.....and this is exactly the problem. Too often in these clubs all the guys approach quite aggressively one after the other. This happened to me just this afternoon at Campus in Montreal. I entered the club and was bombarded by guys wanting to do a dance. It was rediculous....I hadn't even ordered a drink yet. I actually left without ordering a drink. The guys were way too aggressive. I much prefer that they leave me to approach them. I know what kind of guys I like and I'm not afraid to approach them.

[+ Gar1eth]

And here is a shout out to the recently departed Unicorn Club in Indianapolis. The physical layout was a dive and smallish. The customers would line up around the wall and at the few tables. After each of their sets, most of the dancers would come around in their skivvies to each customer going around the line. You actually got to talk to the dancer and put your hands around his... er... waist. And even if the guy wasn't your type, if he was friendly you would still pit a dollar or two in their shorts. If you came in frequently often the dancers would recognize you. And while there were no private spaces if you tipped the guy and were discreet you could jack them off a bit. A few times they almost jacked me off. A few guys would undo the buttons of my pants- I'd have to rearrange myself and my clothes frequently. I miss the place. I'm sorry it had been about 2 years since the last time I was able to make it to Indianapolis. I just started thinking- that song from Best 'Little Wh*orehouse In Texas' fit the Unicorn Club very well. 'It was just a little bitty pissant country place/Nothing Much To See'. But boy did I have some nice times there.

 

Gman

[imrthr]

 

I go to the clubs for the fantasy that these beautiful boys are interested in me!

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How about money, instead!

[+ FreshFluff]

Last night I stopped by one of the local strip clubs in Atlanta. It was early 8:30pm; there were 3 customers and about 10 cute dancers. All of the dancers were either talking to another dancer or on their phone. Not one of the dancers approaches any of the customers that were in the bar. I had one drink and then I left at 9pm, one of the other customers did the same thing. The club was left with one customer. I was ready to spend money and ended up going to the other clubs and had a great time. Should I have said something to the management? It was such a negative experience.

 

Either the management knows (likely) and/or they've taken their eye off the ball (ie are not on site for the majority of hours the club is open). In both cases, there's very little you can tell them that will help.

 

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How about money, instead!

 

Well, he did say fantasy. In any case, it's their job to make the customer believe it's true. If they're not doing that, they're probably not getting tips.

[Becket]

If you're talking about SR's in Atlanta my experience is hit or miss. Sometimes it's fantastic. I get lots of attention and have a great time. Other times I'm ignored for a while and I just leave. Gotta remember that most of these guys are straight, some not even "gay for pay." It's work, it's the job. And like most of us, they do a better job some days at work than others. I'd definitely go back and try again.

[Samai139]

To answer your quetion: No, you should not have spoken to the management. You did exactly the correct thing: you left, with your wallet intact, and had a good time at another club. Fortunately, for you, there was an alternative and you made the most of it. If there had been no alternative clubs to visit, perhaps a word to the management might have been appropriate.

[geoffk]

I have left a club because the dancers seemed more interested in partying among themselves instead of with the customers. But most often dancers will approach me to chat and ask for a private dance. I always feel good when they approach me and I can always say not right now if i want. Perhaps it is good to take dancer for a private early because once the rest of the dancers see you are willing they become interested in you too. In writing this i am also thinking that perhaps the time i left a place it may also have been because none of the dancers really interested me. If one had i would have let him know i was interested.

[Atlantagaguy]

I stick with my one favorite club so it's unusual that I don't strike up a conversation with one of the dancers I know already, but if I'd been in your situation, I would have sat at the bar next to one of the dancers that caught my eye, offered to buy him a drink, and see where things went from there.

 

I took your advice and went back on Saturday, I sat next to a cute dancer at the Bar, ask him how his night was going he answered then started playing a game on his I phone, another dancer comes up and both leave for the VIP booth. The VIP area is an open area and not a private room; I could see them sitting there. For those that know the clubs in Atlanta this is Bliss. I have been a huge proponent of the club about year ago, the club lost their manager and it had gone down a bit as far as quality of dancers. I have just grown tired of BJ and SR and wanted something different. To my surprise Bliss had some really cute boys; my conclusion is cute boys with attitude. I went back to BJ’S where all the boys except a couple always want to talk and accept my tips. And I do get a lot of Private dances!

[Guest boiworship08]

Do the boys at these clubs also escort?

[+ poolboy48220]

I took your advice and went back on Saturday, I sat next to a cute dancer at the Bar, ask him how his night was going he answered then started playing a game on his I phone, another dancer comes up and both leave for the VIP booth. The VIP area is an open area and not a private room; I could see them sitting there. For those that know the clubs in Atlanta this is Bliss. I have been a huge proponent of the club about year ago, the club lost their manager and it had gone down a bit as far as quality of dancers. I have just grown tired of BJ and SR and wanted something different. To my surprise Bliss had some really cute boys; my conclusion is cute boys with attitude. I went back to BJ’S where all the boys except a couple always want to talk and accept my tips. And I do get a lot of Private dances!

In that case I think you did the right thing. I'd heard good things about Bliss too (maybe from you ), that's disappointing to hear.

[+ poolboy48220]

Do the boys at these clubs also escort?

 

Many do, some officially with ads on Rentboy or Men4RentNow, some are just available if you ask nicely. After a good dance, I've asked boys if they ever see guys or give dances outside the club. Some do, some don't, but I don't remember that I've ever offended anyone with the question.

[robberbaron4u]

Stick a one hundred dollar bill behind each ear with chewing gum; I assure you, you will be the center of attention. Please note that this ploy works best at the end of the month when the rent is coming due and payable.

[adriano46]

Stick a one hundred dollar bill behind each ear with chewing gum; I assure you, you will be the center of attention. Please note that this ploy works best at the end of the month when the rent is coming due and payable.

 

Now THAT is both hilarious and a priceless picture to remember! I have never been inside one of these clubs in the US but the old and infamous Blue Boy Club in its heyday was one where the boys did have to be nice to patrons but it was never overly aggressive. Once you got in off the (often cold, damp dreary) street, and adjusted your eyesight to the low lighting and the warmth of the downstairs dance bar or the upstairs one which had a more laid back atmosphere, you had a chance to order a drink and then check the action.

 

Granted this was long before cell phones and so the only distraction of the dancers and waiters was each other; and the manager made SURE they did not do that often, literally barking at them to get out their and sell themselves or else!!! I enjoyed especially the waiters who also danced but made money also serving drinks and then trying to get you interested in THEM. I had one strapping, lightly tanned and smooth-muscled Brazilian who was bringing me my Scotch on the rocks and as he set the glass down, hoisted his scantily clad muscular thighs over my knee and stuck his tongue forcefully down my throat. As much as this was a bit AGGRESSIVE it worked, but my eye (even while his tongue was bathing my tonsils) was on a Russian dancer on the bar dancing away. He noted my "distraction", excused himself, spoke to the dancer, and 15 minutes later I was in a warm room upstairs with both of them for my very first 3-way.

 

But I digress... I wish I knew robberbaron's technique! That is one for the books.

[Steven_Draker]

Stick a one hundred dollar bill behind each ear with chewing gum.

 

Oh dear ... a chewing gum? What an abomination, darling.

 

Just fold it neatly.

 

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[rvwnsd]

I took your advice and went back on Saturday, I sat next to a cute dancer at the Bar, ask him how his night was going he answered then started playing a game on his I phone...

 

I wonder why management allows the dancers to keep their phones with them. Where do they put them when they are dancing? Wait! I don't really want to know.

 

if business is as bad every night as you describe, the club won't be there very long. Then the problem will be solved.

[robberbaron4u]

Please, Mr. Draker, inform us that the attachment is is not a recent photograph of you!

[Atlantagaguy]

I wonder why management allows the dancers to keep their phones with them. Where do they put them when they are dancing? Wait! I don't really want to know.

 

if business is as bad every night as you describe, the club won't be there very long. Then the problem will be solved.

 

I don’t want it to close; Bliss had some very cute dancers. The type SR would not hire and for some reason they won’t go to BJs to dance. The more I think about BJ’s it is more of a bar with dancers, where you need social skills to make it. Maybe the dancers at Bliss have no social skills. I do believe because of the tech industry, texting, grinder and others has been a determent to many young men social skills

[Daverwr]

Last night I stopped by one of the local strip clubs in Atlanta. It was early 8:30pm; there were 3 customers...

 

That's the problem with so many gay clubs; They assume all the patrons are night owls! I went to Swinging Richards in Atlanta once around 8:30 pm. They open at 6:00 pm so I thought I was coming at a respectable time. The place was dead customer wise. And like your experience all of the dancers were talking to each other. It was as if I came before the curtain went up. I left to get something to eat and came back at 9:30 pm. What a difference an hour makes. The place was hoppin'. And the same dancers couldn't have been friendlier. To paraphrase Decatur Boy, "Opens at 6:00" means "Come at 9:30."

[rvwnsd]

I don’t want it to close; Bliss had some very cute dancers. The type SR would not hire and for some reason they won’t go to BJs to dance. The more I think about BJ’s it is more of a bar with dancers, where you need social skills to make it. Maybe the dancers at Bliss have no social skills. I do believe because of the tech industry, texting, grinder and others has been a determent to many young men social skills

 

The management should make the dancers leave their phones with their clothes.