First name in email

[Tighty]

Say you send an escort and sign it as John. When you meet, you are still John. Later, when they send you email, do they begin with 'john, blah blah' or do they don't address you and just write the content? It seems like the latter is more prevalent, probably so they won't make a mistake in addressing you as some other guy?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've found usually when I get a note, it has a personalized salutation. While many times it is "Dear John" other times it might be an affectionate nickname that could be used for all clients, such as "Hey Big Guy" or "Hi Sexy."

[tom1980]

It all depends on the escort. Like Sam, I get a lot of emails or texts that address me as Tom, but I also receive many that begin with "Hi stud" or some other generic greeting. It really doesn't matter to me. Although when I contact someone, I like to address the person by name. When I email or text an escort, I begin the message with his name. If it's a text, my name comes next so he knows who he's dealing with. If it's a guy I haven't met, I say, "I'm Tom." For guys I've met before, I provide a reminder of who I am, e.g., "This is Tom. We met a few months ago when I was visiting New York."

[irishjock]

So far, all I get is 'hey man' when the local guy deigns to answer my enquiry (!) -- which kind of bugs but this corner of North America isn't big on niceties -- the one guy has called me "bro" and asked me when did I want to "chill"... how did he know I am sucker for American frat boy talk?

[Guest]

I don't see the reason or need to give a fake name to an escort. I don't see much of a purpose for the escort either. I will rarely re-hire an escort who won't at least tell me his real first name (which is especially ridiculous when I hire the escort at his place). If the escort can't figure out pretty quickly that I'm no psycho stalker or black-mailer, he can find some other clients. I feel quite ridiculous calling someone by a fake name, especially during sex, and especially when I see the guy repeatedly. And I would feel silly having someone call me by a fake name: "It was a pleasure servicing you, Zac Efron!"

[Steven_Draker]

I like to address the person by name.

 

What he said.

 

That may be a real name, an alias or any other chosen name for the occasion.

 

"Hey sexy" and "Hey stud" sounds too generic and a bit forced/fake in the circumstances.

[Samai139]

Tighty---iI don't think the lack of salutation is a fear of using the wrong name, rather the common technique of those who text a lot or use devices which encourage speed rather than the nicieties of corresponding, IMHO. I've noticed that younger people, male and female, tend to begin with the body of their message immediately, no salutation.

[Guest Starbuck]

I don't see the reason or need to give a fake name to an escort. I don't see much of a purpose for the escort either. I will rarely re-hire an escort who won't at least tell me his real first name ...

 

Interesting thread, and Unicorn's comment struck a chord with me. For the first time with my last hire, I was not told the guy's real first name. I asked directly and he said, "You can call me 'X.' That would be great." I took that to mean that it was not his name and didn't press the issue. I understand why escorts and clients alike want to protect their true identities, and that some of us are more open about this than others, but I always use my real FIRST name with the gentlemen I meet and find it kind of cold not be told theirs. (Of course, it's only my GUESS that this is the first time that's happened to me.) As to nicknames and slang talk, the sexy/flirty stuff is fun but, for me, being called "dude" or "bro" would tell me I've accidentally hired someone outside of my preferred "demographic."

[geoffk]

I'm gonna repeat what RuPaul says, who cares if they call me a he or she, Just as long as they call me.

 

What's the bid deal any way. It's hard to remember names sometimes.

 

I know people who don't even try to remember a name so they call you and everyone "honey" or "pal" or whatever.

[Tighty]

So far, all I get is 'hey man' when the local guy deigns to answer my enquiry (!) -- which kind of bugs but this corner of North America isn't big on niceties -- the one guy has called me "bro" and asked me when did I want to "chill"... how did he know I am sucker for American frat boy talk?

 

Haaay girl, when are we going to do our nails together again?

[Guest Starbuck]

What's the big deal any way. It's hard to remember names sometimes.

 

I know people who don't even try to remember a name so they call you and everyone "honey" or "pal" or whatever.

 

As usual, my personal inclination is to believe that some of the fundamental courtesies of "the real world" ought to apply. In a professional business encounter, I would be damn sure I knew--and used--the name of my client or prospect. It's the most basic "personal touch."

[leigh.bess.toad]

I usually get emails addressed to my real first name. Every once in a while it will be ssomething like "hey stud", but that's a term of affectation from someone who knows my name well.

 

I know the name of each of my escorts and they know mine. Since I've seen each of them many times, i I think that's pretty normal. What geguest fun is that my partner has met each of them on more than one occasion (yes, he know my relationship with the guys) and he knows their real name. At least primarily. So when we go to forum events like the luncheon next month, I have to make sure he can do the translation from real name into working name.

[maninsoma]

I don't tend to use salutations in online communications, though if I'm responding to someone who uses a salutation I will include one in my response. It has nothing to do with not remembering a name (frequently people's names are part of their email addresses); it just seems silly to use a salutation when the entire communication is only a few sentences long.

[+ purplekow]

My dearest fellow posters and afficianados of masculine pulchritude:

 

I like using a salutation and a closing.

 

Yours, Joyfully and insatiably pursuing the ultimate in man to man sexual pleasure

 

Purplekow

[+ Charlie]

"To Whom It May Concern:"

[irishjock]

Haaay girl, when are we going to do our nails together again?

 

Yeah. No.

[unsub2O17]

Almost every escort that I've met has volunteered, at least, his real first name on the first or, at most, second meet. One guy told me his entire real name, but, then, said that he'd always hated his real first name. So, from then on, I happily addressed him by his first (escort) name. I do use my real first name. I think that I wouldn't always respond to an unfamiliar name.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Say you send an escort and sign it as John. When you meet, you are still John. Later, when they send you email, do they begin with 'john, blah blah' or do they don't address you and just write the content? It seems like the latter is more prevalent, probably so they won't make a mistake in addressing you as some other guy?

 

It's not that hard to remember the name of the person you're talking to if you're using a modern email client, especially since many people sign their emails with Hey... blah blah blah... Thanks, John, or the email you're replying to has a continued thread that has the previously mentioned client name.

 

From my perspective, clients are much more likely to play the sudden name-change game, or send you an email that is from JohnSmith_54321 and sign it "Jerry" or have "John Smith" in the title line and sign it as someone completely different. I just assume when someone's email is MyNameIsTom@yahoo.com, their name is Tom. And then they'll surprise me and sign their email as "Carlos."

[Epigonos]

I certainly understand why some clients and some escorts seek anonymity, however, I personally could care less. My email address contains my first name, my middle initial, and my last name thus, for me, anonymity is shot to hell.

[tom1980]

Almost every escort that I've met has volunteered, at least, his real first name on the first or, at most, second meet.

 

I've found that the more professional guys who have been doing this a while generally tell me their real fist names when I meet them. We shake hands and say our names. If the name provided is different from the "stage name," then I assume he's giving me his real name. That happens a lot with experienced guys, but it rarely happens with guys who are fairly new to the business.

[+ azdr0710]

all about trust and respect, of course......

 

the email I use for this stuff has a very generic fake name and I use it until a real meet happens and I've decided the escort is trusty, then I quickly disclose my real first name....he sometimes will tell me his....it's ranged from one very popular escort telling me his full real name within minutes of first meeting to another guy saying "no" after I asked him his real first name at the end of our second meeting....

[Zapped]

Say you send an escort and sign it as John. When you meet, you are still John. Later, when they send you email, do they begin with 'john, blah blah' or do they don't address you and just write the content? It seems like the latter is more prevalent, probably so they won't make a mistake in addressing you as some other guy?

 

Email culture is changing. We used to write email messages as if they were letters, and in some business correspondence this is remains the case. But more and more people are writing email messages as if they were texts. The dean of the school in which I teach sends very short, cursory emails that sometimes don't contain a complete sentence. In his case, it's because he's very busy and it saves times. 10 years ago we gave freshmen talks about email etiquette. No point in that now, when they get sentence fragments from the dean!

 

Texting is taking over. Many of our students don't even read email regularly.

 

So I think the lack of "Dear John" represents the change in how people write email rather than a don't-use-the-wrong-name strategy.