Appointment confirmation

[Guest leftbench23]

What is the standard for confirming an appointment with an escort? I had an 8pm appointment with one guy, but he left me a voice mail at 12noon asking for confirmation. Since I was at work at noon and cannot have my cell phone on, I didn't get the message until I left at 6pm. When I called him then, he said he had already booked another client since he did not hear from me. It ticked me off because it was hard to schedule with him.

[ericwinters]

I have had that same issue with a very very well reviewed escort here that travels. I wanted to post a negative review but everyone else has such awesome things to say about him I thought it would be pointless.

 

I'm in healthcare and cell phones are just BIG NONOs.

[Kevin Slater]

There is no standard. When you originally set it up, he may ask you to confirm the day before, that morning, or what have you. For me, an appointment isn't confirmed until the address has been exchanged or hotel room given. After that point, the default is it's a go unless one party communicates otherwise.

 

Kevin Slater

[Michael Wayne]

agree with kevin big time. For me an appointment is an appointment and no confirmation is necesaary. In the attempt to confirm sometimes there is alot of confusion and needless cancellations arise. I plan way ahead so i cannot depend on a confirmation. Actually if a new client insists on a confirmation before the booking is definite i CLEARLY tell him that our appointment is TENTATIVE and that my book is still open for a DEFINITE. It is just biz 101.

[Juan Vancouver]

Sorry this happened to you, and I hope you will be able to meet him soon.

 

In my case, I will only consider an appointment confirmed when I have all the relevant information; phone number that I called back, address, specific time and duration of the session, but more importantly, I only consider an appointment confirmed after I speak with the client on the phone and we satisfy all our questions and then exchange the words: "So, do you want me to consider the session confirmed for _____ at _______ for the duration of ____________?" If he responds that yes we are confirmed, then I put that on my schedule and I will save that time and honour the session. Unless he cancels, I will be there at that time, ready to go.

 

Lately it has happened a few times that people will write to me saying something like: "I have been wanting to meet you for a long time, I'll see you Tuesday at 9". After I respond that in order to book and confirm an appointment I need to speak on the phone, sometimes they ask me to consider the session confirmed without a call. (They can't talk because they are in space, having surgery, in jail, you name it) but they they will for sure, for sure, show up at that time. I make it very clear then that we do not have an appointment, and that we won't have one until it is confirmed in a specific way.

 

I know that some of us are not very good at keeping schedules, and thats why I would strongly recommend you to confirm, check and double check before every session. With the most experienced escorts that might not be necessary, but double checking will take you very little time and will save you a big disappointment.

 

And if you are going to meet an escort that night, I would strongly recommend checking your phone during the day -just to make sure that everything is going as planned.

[down_to_business]

What is the standard for confirming an appointment with an escort? I had an 8pm appointment with one guy, but he left me a voice mail at 12noon asking for confirmation. Since I was at work at noon and cannot have my cell phone on, I didn't get the message until I left at 6pm. When I called him then, he said he had already booked another client since he did not hear from me. It ticked me off because it was hard to schedule with him.

 

One of the more frustrating things about this "hobby" is that there are no standards for anything. Not what a confirmed appointment is, not what hours are covered in an overnight, not what activities are going to occur in a session, not whether phone contact will be required, not even how or when any exchange of any "consideration" will occur. Some will tell you that every single detail and specific need to be discussed beforehand- yet others will immediately cease communicating with you when you try to communicate specifics with them.

[Steven_Draker]

We all run at different speeds.

 

Some people are connected 24/7 and expect an instant reply, while others can access their 'special' accounts and phones only at certain times. It's impossible to put everyone in the same 'mold'.

 

If the appointment was scheduled longtime in advance, it would be wise to touch base and (re)confirm 24 hours prior to the meeting.

 

But I hear you, leftbech23. Miscommunication and misunderstanding could happen. Don't sweat it. Get in touch with the escort and try to find a solution.

 

[+ poolboy48220]

True - walking the line between escorts who are wiling to discuss specifics, and those who are impatient with "endless back and forth", can be frustrating. I try to be wary of guys who are willing to talk vs ones who will answer in monosyllables, but sometimes the little head does the thinking.

[rickp]

I do generally like to touch base with my client either the day before or the day of the appointment if it's an evening appointment.

However, if a client told me that for whatever reason he was unable to answer the phone or email because of his job and that the appointment was most definitely confirmed and did not need further confirmation that would be fine with me as well.

[tom1980]

I'm sure Juan tells clients up front that a phone call is required to confirm an appointment but my pet peeve is escorts who do not tell me a phone call is required until I'm ready to head to their hotel. For guys who cannot make calls (and will not go through the steps of obtaining and carrying an extra phone that could lead to questions from a wife), it is very frustrating when I'm heading to my car and get a text or email demanding a phone call to confirm an appointment. It's also frustrating when escorts ask me to explain why I will not call them and even more so when they try to tell me ways I could change my hiring methods to accomodate them. [End rant]

[rvwnsd]

Although I am not required to turn off my cell phone while I am at work, my schedule often limits to time I have to make/take business calls, let alone personal calls. Here is what i do when scheduling an appointment on a worknight:

 

 

1. Ask the escort how he likes to confirm appointments
   
2. If he likes to confirm by phone call, I let him know that I cannot always make/take calls during the day and suggest a previous evening chat and a same-day text or email. If he likes to confirm by text/e-mail, then we just do that.
   
3. If he insists on same-day phone call, then I confirm after work. If he insists on confirming by phone earlier in the day, I explain that doing so is not always possible and suggest meeting on a weekend or passing on the appointment.
   
4. I always give myself at least two hours between the end of my workday and an appointment
   

 

I can't say this approach will work for everyone, but it works for me.

 

In short, up-front communication and clear expectations are essential.

[adriano46]

Often when I set up an appointment with an escort ahead of time I inform him (because I too cannot respond to text messages or phone calls while at my job) that I will CONFIRM with him at a particular time either the evening before or day of the date, and I also ask if this is OK with him. I even give him my cell phone number to ID me when I do text or call him. As many of the escorts who responded here show, it is all in the communication before the date that is important. I generally like to here or receive a confirmation within 24 hours of the date if we set it up ahead of time (or he is form out of town), and because I give him ample head's up time of when I will contact him it generally works out.

[SteveEscort]

What is the standard for confirming an appointment with an escort? I had an 8pm appointment with one guy, but he left me a voice mail at 12noon asking for confirmation. Since I was at work at noon and cannot have my cell phone on, I didn't get the message until I left at 6pm. When I called him then, he said he had already booked another client since he did not hear from me. It ticked me off because it was hard to schedule with him.

 

I will ask clients in advance when they can confirm in and leave it at that. If they say the day before I always decline and respectfully ask for a confirmation on the day. A lot can happen overnight before an appointment. If we've spoken at length then a simple text message on the morning will do, or at a time he's agreed to confirm. I never telephone clients for a confirmation if they forget. I will always send a discreet text saying "Hi Its Steve, not heard from you today". Its ambiguous enough if he's been taken ill and his wife gets the message by mistake and its discreet enough for him to reply without feeling I'm being pushy.

 

The only time I ever phone a client is when he's phoned me and said he's on his way and not shown, so I can give directions if he's lost, if he's left glasses or personal belongings behind by mistake and I've noticed them moments after he's left or if I arrive at a hotel and can't see him in the bar or have difficulty finding a suite that is a name rather than a room number. Other than that there is no need for any escort to initiate voice contact with a client.

[Becket]

I recently had an appointment in a southern city with a well known escort. When I called to confirm a few hours before, he chewed me out. Scared the crap outta me so I cancelled. Then he sent me five or six very rude, almost threatening texts. It was not a fun experience. Like Forrest says, "life is like a box of chocolates. Never know what you're gonna get."

[BryanKnight]

First, I'm sorry to hear about your experience. It was an innocent event and its frustrating.

 

To your question, there is no single standard of confirmation, it varies from professional to professional.

 

However, when a professional makes a specific need clear, it's usually because there is precedent for the protocol to be necessary.

When the protocol is not met, for whatever reason, the professional takes the steps in the interest of preserving the business.

 

Personally, I do not take visitors who do not provide telephone numbers to contact them, or who do not reserve by credit/debit card in the instance of the first condition. In almost every instance I have arranged to meet someone who does not provide contact information, they have either not shown up (about 70 percent of the time), or have been personally unpleasant (20 percent of the time). So to avoid 90 percent of a problem demographic, I have to sacrifice the other 10 percent (who do not understand why I would not take them).

 

Try scheduling with the professional again.

[Decatur Guy]

From a client's perspective:

 

Unless the appointment is last-minute and there's no time to go through a confirmation process, I am proactive about it and simply announce my confirmation plans to the escort, who can then let me know if that will work or not. This is typical for me:

 

I have appointment this Friday that I made on Monday. We have yet to determine the place or exact time, but we have a general agreed-upon time range (in the evening). On Thursday, i will call and set the exact time and place so there will be adequate warning on that. On Friday around mid-day, I'll text simply to confirm the plans are still on. And since the escort is driving here, I've asked he call or text me as he's leaving. Given the horrendous, unpredictable traffic in Atlanta, the I'm-on-the-way call is an important extra confirmation. I request it if someone is driving to me, and I place the text or call if I'm the one doing the driving.

 

So typically if I make an appointment more than 72 hours out, there will be three confirmations -- a day (or two) out, a day of and then a on-the-way. And that's generally how I do it and no one has ever gotten mad about it. And if I'm meeting someone with an appointment made say a month ahead of time, I'll add in a confirming e-mail about one week out.

 

Any escort who deals with me knows I tend to err on the side of overcommunicating, and I let them know I appreciate their patience with that. But I never want to be guilty of leaving them hanging and wondering what the foook is going on. I can see why an escort would get mad over being stood up or poor communicators, but the very worst that can come from someone doing a trifecta of confirmations is you get a couple of extra tests or e-mails or calls that take two minutes of your time, tops.

[Frequentflier]

From a client's perspective:

 

Unless the appointment is last-minute and there's no time to go through a confirmation process, I am proactive about it and simply announce my confirmation plans to the escort, who can then let me know if that will work or not. This is typical for me:

 

I have appointment this Friday that I made on Monday. We have yet to determine the place or exact time, but we have a general agreed-upon time range (in the evening). On Thursday, i will call and set the exact time and place so there will be adequate warning on that. On Friday around mid-day, I'll text simply to confirm the plans are still on. And since the escort is driving here, I've asked he call or text me as he's leaving. Given the horrendous, unpredictable traffic in Atlanta, the I'm-on-the-way call is an important extra confirmation. I request it if someone is driving to me, and I place the text or call if I'm the one doing the driving.

 

So typically if I make an appointment more than 72 hours out, there will be three confirmations -- a day (or two) out, a day of and then a on-the-way. And that's generally how I do it and no one has ever gotten mad about it. And if I'm meeting someone with an appointment made say a month ahead of time, I'll add in a confirming e-mail about one week out.

 

Any escort who deals with me knows I tend to err on the side of overcommunicating, and I let them know I appreciate their patience with that. But I never want to be guilty of leaving them hanging and wondering what the foook is going on. I can see why an escort would get mad over being stood up or poor communicators, but the very worst that can come from someone doing a trifecta of confirmations is you get a couple of extra tests or e-mails or calls that take two minutes of your time, tops.

 

And if the client is booking a hotel room, since I'm guessing a fair amount of appointments are in the evening, a confirmation would seem even more important in case the escort isn't going to make it so the room can be cancelled without cost (I think most hotels say by 6 PM and some say 6 PM the day before).

[Decatur Guy]

And if the client is booking a hotel room, since I'm guessing a fair amount of appointments are in the evening, a confirmation would seem even more important in case the escort isn't going to make it so the room can be cancelled without cost (I think most hotels say by 6 PM and some say 6 PM the day before).

 

Absolutely.

[bostonnycguy]

If you guys have jobs that don't let you make/take a 2-3 minute call or text during the work day then you probably don't make enough money to really be hiring on a regular basis!

 

What kind of job could you have that you can't take the phone into the restroom for 2 minutes and return a text or call?

 

STRANGE!

[jimboivyo]

If you guys have jobs that don't let you make/take a 2-3 minute call or text during the work day then you probably don't make enough money to really be hiring on a regular basis!

 

What kind of job could you have that you can't take the phone into the restroom for 2 minutes and return a text or call?

 

STRANGE!

 

+100

 

unless you're all surgeons who are in ER all day, there's no excuse to not be able to send a quick message at some point

[adriano46]

bostonguy and jimboivyo - I generally agree with much that both of you post here, but on this - you are both way off base and a bit insulting.

 

I myself and others I know have responsible jobs and positions that are not wedded to teenage obsessions with iPhones. Rather, we are mature and assured enough to know that our work, our jobs, our clients and our positions demand our attention when we are on the job (be it in medicine, in politics, in law, in business, in academia, in sports, in service industries) and we are big boys who learn to either turn the damn phone off while working so we give our work full attention (think pilots, drivers, surgeons again, people in professional sports [how many players did you see on the fields over Thanksgiving with an iPhone in their back pocket??]), or we put in on silent mode and check in maybe once an hour or so when we are able to take a break, and not necessarily run down a hallway to a bathroom... Hell, often I am not within quick walking distance to a bathroom when working, part of the job...

 

When I am in a restaurant (service industry) and see a waiter/waitress interrupting their "service" to start texting or taking 5 for a phone call, I consider it rude. The customer is there to be served, not to wait on you getting time for your personal, private life in order....

 

How many accidents and deaths have occurred because some dimwit could not do without their iPhone to text, tweet or chat with someone while they were supposed to be driving (I am amazed to this day how many of such oblivious people can afford the iPhone and not afford a blue tooth, hands free device)... ???!!!!

 

What of professors in universities during lectures? Do you think they should just say, "Oh, excuse me, while I step into the hallway and take two minutes to respond to this hot escort."

 

In most of the professions mentioned here I think such people have more than enough money "to hire an escort" on a regular basis. I doubt the majority of clients that most escorts see are multi-millionaires sitting by their private pool in their oversized villa waited on by their half-dozen staff.

 

I sit often in board meetings with international clients and I know that if anyone starts trying to quietly check messages or text while we are discussing important matters or undergoing negotiations it is considered rude and can often contribute to losing a contract. Not everyone is wedded to their phone. I have been in offices of other corporations where most people leave their phones on their desks while in board meetings or negotiations precisely to avoid such interruptions.

 

So -- if either the client or the escort is in need of confirmation, I repeat what my own advice was above - noting there is no standard mode of operating, as Kevin Slater so wisely wrote -- I tell the guy that "We are going to meet Friday. I will text you sometime [late Thursday or Friday morning early] to reconfirm, and hope you can get back to me with a text by [fill in a time]." I also always leave open to them a time when I know I am free and that I can field a confirmation phone call.

 

I take issue with the throw-away comment about "If you guys have jobs that don't let you make/take a 2-3 minute call or text during the work day then you probably don't make enough money to really be hiring on a regular basis! What kind of job could you have that you can't take the phone into the restroom for 2 minutes and return a text or call?" That was a little too much for many others here who do hire.

[tom1980]

+100

 

unless you're all surgeons who are in ER all day, there's no excuse to not be able to send a quick message at some point

 

In general, I agree. However, there are times when I'm in court all day, and there are judges who fine lawyers as much as $1,000 for emailing/texting in the courtroom. Some judges even have a policy that does not allow phones inside the courthouse.

 

I have had a couple occasions where I'm either in court or stuck with another lawyer or a client from 7:00 a.m. until the minute I leave for an appointment. During such days, everyone goes to the bathroom and eats lunch or a quick snack together during brief recesses, and there really isn't time to send a discreet text. But I also know when I'm going to have a day like this, and I tell the escort/masseur that I'll be in court/with clients all day and won't be able to send or respond to any texts so that he doesn't freak out if he sends something and I don't respond. I've never had a problem confirming the night before in that situation. If the escort had a problem with it, I'd tell him to be prepared for a text at 6:30 in the morning before I go dark for the next 12 hours.

[Frequentflier]

I think from what others have posted a good suggestion has made - the client and escort should agree whether another confirmation is needed before the session, how far in advance of the meet time and what form that should take. If either party adds a hurdle that wasn't understood by the other and then effectively cancels, I think its their foul not the other persons.

[scottspearsxxx]

Most of my clients make well ahead appointments. I try to touch base with them the day before an appointment to make sure everything is on schedule for them and me based on whether they use the cell phone, text, or prefer email. I then let them know that I am on my way or if there is a traffic problem that would prevent me from arriving on time. I make my best effort to be where I should be on the agreed time.

[seeker630]

bostonguy and jimboivyo - I generally agree with much that both of you post here, but on this - you are both way off base and a bit insulting.

 

I myself and others I know have responsible jobs and positions that are not wedded to teenage obsessions with iPhones. Rather, we are mature and assured enough to know that our work, our jobs, our clients and our positions demand our attention when we are on the job (be it in medicine, in politics, in law, in business, in academia, in sports, in service industries) and we are big boys who learn to either turn the damn phone off while working so we give our work full attention (think pilots, drivers, surgeons again, people in professional sports [how many players did you see on the fields over Thanksgiving with an iPhone in their back pocket??]), or we put in on silent mode and check in maybe once an hour or so when we are able to take a break, and not necessarily run down a hallway to a bathroom... Hell, often I am not within quick walking distance to a bathroom when working, part of the job...

 

When I am in a restaurant (service industry) and see a waiter/waitress interrupting their "service" to start texting or taking 5 for a phone call, I consider it rude. The customer is there to be served, not to wait on you getting time for your personal, private life in order....

 

How many accidents and deaths have occurred because some dimwit could not do without their iPhone to text, tweet or chat with someone while they were supposed to be driving (I am amazed to this day how many of such oblivious people can afford the iPhone and not afford a blue tooth, hands free device)... ???!!!!

 

What of professors in universities during lectures? Do you think they should just say, "Oh, excuse me, while I step into the hallway and take two minutes to respond to this hot escort."

 

In most of the professions mentioned here I think such people have more than enough money "to hire an escort" on a regular basis. I doubt the majority of clients that most escorts see are multi-millionaires sitting by their private pool in their oversized villa waited on by their half-dozen staff.

 

I sit often in board meetings with international clients and I know that if anyone starts trying to quietly check messages or text while we are discussing important matters or undergoing negotiations it is considered rude and can often contribute to losing a contract. Not everyone is wedded to their phone. I have been in offices of other corporations where most people leave their phones on their desks while in board meetings or negotiations precisely to avoid such interruptions.

 

So -- if either the client or the escort is in need of confirmation, I repeat what my own advice was above - noting there is no standard mode of operating, as Kevin Slater so wisely wrote -- I tell the guy that "We are going to meet Friday. I will text you sometime [late Thursday or Friday morning early] to reconfirm, and hope you can get back to me with a text by [fill in a time]." I also always leave open to them a time when I know I am free and that I can field a confirmation phone call.

 

I take issue with the throw-away comment about "If you guys have jobs that don't let you make/take a 2-3 minute call or text during the work day then you probably don't make enough money to really be hiring on a regular basis! What kind of job could you have that you can't take the phone into the restroom for 2 minutes and return a text or call?" That was a little too much for many others here who do hire.

 

+1