Soliciting escorts in Strip Clubs...Good/Bad idea?

[BallerBoy]

Hey guys, given the seemingly endless stream of FAKE ads and photos you encounter online, would it be a good idea to invite a dancer back to your hotel while visiting a strip club? I don't attend gay clubs at all, but I would be inclined to visit one when I travel because of the anonymity of a different city. If the guy is dancing right in front of me, I can see what I'm getting, and most of all, I can see that he is indeed REAL. Have any of you tried this method of hiring escorts out of frustration with the alternative?

[tsgarp]

Yes. An easy approach is to ask them if they meet guys outside the club at the end of (or during) a lap dance. They'll know what you mean if they do that sort of thing and they'll probably give you their number. Many do, rest assured. Good luck!

[bigvalboy]

Yes ditto to tsgarp. I routinely do. In fact I just spent the last several hours with a dancer from the Boardwalk. What I usually do is find a dancer that I am attracted to, and I watch how he interacts with other patrons. I like to see how friendly he is and how interactive he is. I then will approach, offer to buy them a drink and then begin tipping. Small amounts. I then ask for a lap dance. Assuming that it goes well, and assuming that he didn't hold back and was very interactive, I will ask if he works off site. Most do. I ask what he is able to do, and what he would charge. Most are less expensive than escorts, and usually by that point you have talked to them, had a little fun behind the curtain, 'felt the goods' so to speak and you will get a fairly good idea how they will be behind closed doors.

 

The dancer from the BW asked me if we could spend the day together. I knew him from before, and many of these guys really enjoy going somewhere off site and doing something that they ordinarily would not be able to do. I bought lunch and drinks, spent several hours on the boat, had tons of laughs, and ended up at my place for some fun. He did not charge for play time. A win win.

 

These guys get asked all the time, so you are not offending them. Some absolutely will not play off site, but they are usually very nice about turning you down....

[BallerBoy]

Thanks for the great advice guys. Now I just need to get over my apprehension about going to a gay bar/club.

[bigvalboy]

Just a suggestion, but why not hire an escort for dinner and companion, and go to a 'gay club' with him. That way he can kind of show you the ropes so-to-speak. Good luck.

[Boink]

Way back in the day, the Nob Hill Theater in San Fransisco used to showcase weekly porn star headliners. The lap dances there were completely nude, and tips were stuffed down the performers' socks as there was no other place to 'stick it.' (Ahem). Whenever I could, I would go to check out favorite porn stars - a surprising many of whom did not advertise anywhere. In such cases, I would attach a small post-it note to my tip money with the question "Privates?" followed by my name and phone number. I think everyone I ever tried that on replied in the affirmative and I had many great pornstar fantasy experiences as a result.

[bigvalboy]

Way back in the day, the Nob Hill Theater in San Fransisco used to showcase weekly porn star headliners. The lap dances there were completely nude, and tips were stuffed down the performers' socks as there was no other place to 'stick it.' (Ahem). Whenever I could, I would go to check out favorite porn stars - a surprising many of whom did not advertise anywhere. In such cases, I would attach a small post-it note to my tip money with the question "Privates?" followed by my name and phone number. I think everyone I ever tried that on replied in the affirmative and I had many great pornstar fantasy experiences as a result.

 

"Way back in the day?" I was there about a year ago and saw a traveling porn star. I had never been so I just had to see for myself. The old Nob Hill might be a little rough around the edges, but I had fun, enough so that I went back a second night to see another porn star. And while I was there I did notice the little cruisey area to left and down stairs was quite busy with some very hunky guys coming and going down to the booths.

[+ poolboy48220]

Another ditto to tsgarp's & bigvalboy's recommended approach, and it's exactly the phrasing I use - "Do you ever see guys outside the club?" I've used it many times after getting a private dance, I don't think I've ever tried it without getting a private dance first. It's both a "test run" to see how far they'll go at the club, a good indicator if they'd be inclined to do more outside, and a way of seeing if I'm really interested in taking it further. There are dancers who have an "a la carte" approach to their dances - "You can suck me for $$ more" - and I'd never try with them, I expect it'd be more of the same at home. The boys who let it go further naturally as the dance progresses are more likely to be more fun outside.

 

I've also met non-dancer escorts at the club - one guy noticed that I kept looking his way, came over & introduced himself. After a while he asked if I was interested in taking him home, but added "You know I'm an escort, right?" I had suspected by that point, and was very willing to go through with it.

[+ poolboy48220]

Just a suggestion, but why not hire an escort for dinner and companion, and go to a 'gay club' with him. That way he can kind of show you the ropes so-to-speak. Good luck.

One escort I saw a few times before he moved offered to do that. I'm a regular at the dancer bar, but don't go to the leather bars much. After a great session (including his restraints which he said were actually from a mental hospital), he offered to accompany me to the leather bar & show me around there. I didn't think it'd be worth it to pay escort prices for that so I never took him up on it.

[bigvalboy]

Another ditto to tsgarp's & bigvalboy's recommended approach, and it's exactly the phrasing I use - "Do you ever see guys outside the club?" I've used it many times after getting a private dance, I don't think I've ever tried it without getting a private dance first. It's both a "test run" to see how far they'll go at the club, a good indicator if they'd be inclined to do more outside, and a way of seeing if I'm really interested in taking it further. There are dancers who have an "a la carte" approach to their dances - "You can suck me for $$ more" - and I'd never try with them, I expect it'd be more of the same at home. The boys who let it go further naturally as the dance progresses are more likely to be more fun outside.

 

I've also met non-dancer escorts at the club - one guy noticed that I kept looking his way, came over & introduced himself. After a while he asked if I was interested in taking him home, but added "You know I'm an escort, right?" I had suspected by that point, and was very willing to go through with it.

 

Now that is hot PB. That has never happened to me, but I wish it had. I did meet a guy at a club one night, and assumed he was an escort. He was just stunning, and I thought that he was "working it." We chatted, had a few laughs, then I offered him money to go home. He just sort of looked at me, and then started laughing and said. "You think I'm an escort?" He wasn't of course, but then began asking in disbelief why guys get so much to go home. He seemed fascinated.

[Boink]

Re: Nob Hill - Yes, 'way back in the day'. Back then, throughout the 1990's, and really right up until 9/11, they used to have a different pornstar visitor every week. And I'm talking every major name from that era. And the headliners performed at least four shows a day for 7 days straight, starting around noon. The rest of the day was filled on the hour or even half hour with a line-up of some hot house dancers. They had a Wall Of Fame gallery with publicity photos of all their headliners and it was a who's who of the porn world. (I wonder if that's still there.)

 

From what I can tell from their website, nowadays they have a visiting headliner once a month at most, performing one or two shows for one or two nights on weekends. Don't get me wrong - I'm glad they still have that, but it ain't the same. I'd love to go there again and try my old 'post-it ploy' with Adam Killian, whom they seem to bring in often but I've never seen him advertise anywhere.

[bigvalboy]

Re: Nob Hill - Yes, 'way back in the day'. Back then, throughout the 1990's, and really right up until 9/11, they used to have a different pornstar visitor every week. And I'm talking every major name from that era. And the headliners performed at least four shows a day for 7 days straight, starting around noon. The rest of the day was filled on the hour or even half hour with a line-up of some hot house dancers. They had a Wall Of Fame gallery with publicity photos of all their headliners and it was a who's who of the porn world. (I wonder if that's still there.)

 

From what I can tell from their website, nowadays they have a visiting headliner once a month at most, performing one or two shows for one or two nights on weekends. Don't get me wrong - I'm glad they still have that, but it ain't the same. I'd love to go there again and try my old 'post-it ploy' with Adam Killian, whom they seem to bring in often but I've never seen him advertise anywhere.

 

Well yes all of that makes sense and sounds like in it's "heyday" it was the place to go. You are correct it is nothing like that now, but It is so funny because I always had heard so much about it that I just had to go. My friends wouldn't even go with me. Of course they know better. The old girl had lost her charm, kinda like Norma Desmond of "Sunset Boulevard"...

[+ poolboy48220]

Now that is hot PB. That has never happened to me, but I wish it had. I did meet a guy at a club one night, and assumed he was an escort. He was just stunning, and I thought that he was "working it." We chatted, had a few laughs, then I offered him money to go home. He just sort of looked at me, and then started laughing and said. "You think I'm an escort?" He wasn't of course, but then began asking in disbelief why guys get so much to go home. He seemed fascinated.

I saw him quite a few times after that, and he ended up staying at my place for a couple weeks when he got kicked out. I didn't assume anything was going to happen, I had a spare bedroom and all, but about a half hour after I went to bed that night he came sauntering in naked & crawled into bed with me. He slept with me whenever he stayed there, sometimes we played and sometimes we just slept.

[bigvalboy]

I saw him quite a few times after that, and he ended up staying at my place for a couple weeks when he got kicked out. I didn't assume anything was going to happen, I had a spare bedroom and all, but about a half hour after I went to bed that night he came sauntering in naked & crawled into bed with me. He slept with me whenever he stayed there, sometimes we played and sometimes we just slept.

 

Wonderful story. I love it!!! Ya know every so often like you say, things just click. No drama, no disappointments, just two people on the same level having a good time. You both got what you wanted... Kudos.

[Diverdan]

I had something similar happen to me a few years ago at the Townhouse in NYC. I had gone there one evening after a day of meetings, just to have a couple of drinks and unwind before heading for dinner and an early night. I struck up a conversation with a 30somthing, who was a real stunner and oh so charming. We had a few drinks and I invited him to join me for dinner. He accepted on the condition that he would pay for his own dinner. I said OK... and off we went. We had a great time over dinner and so as we were about to leave, I asked him if he would like to join me at my hotel for a night cap. He agreed and we ended up spending the night together. Only in the morning as he was getting ready to leave did he tell me that he was an escort and that he had really enjoyed the entire time we spent together. I was very stunned, but told him that I would like to get together again on my next trip to NYC, which we did. Unfortunately, he retired from this business, and went on to become a very successful bank executive. When I get to NYC now, I look him up and we often have dinner together... but nothing more as he now has an equally stunning partner. So, the moral of the story is, be open to what ever comes your way. You never know what a great time you might have.

[msclwrsper]

Bigvalboy, do you mind sharing which dancer was willing to spend time outside the club? I'm always looking for good referrals! It sounds like you found a good one!

[+ SundayZip]

Ballerboy, your question about soliciting dancers in strip clubs makes me smile. That's frequently been my preference for the last few years for the reasons that you describe. Selecting an escort from an online add is a total crap shoot (although this site helps a lot). And I like the "courtship" that happens at the strip club. It's like foreplay... Hey, if it's this much fun sucking his cock during a private at the club, how fun is it going to be in the privacy of my hotel room?!

 

But as of late I've been yearning for a more full service guy. You know... kissing, butt fucking, that sort of thing. Maybe our goal in life should be finding the right balance between the two options. Or maybe finding the right guy that embodies the best of both options(!?). It's all so existential.