What to do about a review request from an escort

[whipped guy]

Adriano you are spot on in your response. In many ways you cut to the heart of the problem with entire review process, and I dare say with the dynamics that are this MF....

Agree totally... and especially regarding the dynamics of the forum and its "prized escorts"... as even the remotest of insinuations even if done inadvertently or in jest can lead to a full court press... not only from the loyal followers, but from the "prized one" as well...

 

Most of us come here for diversion and for some it is their only gay outlet, as such it ideally should be a bit less disagreeable, but them again thats life...

[bigvalboy]

Agree totally... and especially regarding the dynamics of the forum and its "prized escorts"... as even the remotest of insinuations even if done inadvertently or in jest can lead to a full court press... not only from the loyal followers, but from the "prized one" as well...

 

Most of us come here for diversion and for some it is their only gay outlet, as such it ideally should be a bit less disagreeable, but them again thats life...

 

And may I add WG, that your contributions in the fetish forum, and Rich, Unicorn, LBT's and many others contributions in the gallery often provide the most welcoming diversion in an otherwise mundane afternoon. A big "Two Thumbs UP"

[Bosguy]

Frankly, I got distracted from the OP's original question when I got to this quote in Adriano's thoughtful response. It's kind of the flip side of the oft-expressed concern about trusting a bunch of first reviews of a little known escort ... in this case, whether to believe that a "star" escort is all that his reviews say he is or if, instead, his disappointed clients keep their opinions to themselves because they're too uncomfortable to swim against the tide or too worried about being bullied by the escort or his champions.

 

I totally agree. It is not only "prized escorts" but in equal or larger numbers of "PRIZED CLIENTS" who are protected by an insurmountable Protective Entity. God help anyone who questions anyone in either of these groups!!

Doesn't seem right, but that's the price one pays for individuality and expressing their own views!!!

 

Boston Bill

[whipped guy]

And may I add WG, that your contributions in the fetish forum, and Rich, Unicorn, LBT's and many others contributions in the gallery often provide the most welcoming diversion in an otherwise mundane afternoon. A big "Two Thumbs UP"

Shoot!!! Are those the only two body parts!!!??? If so we have not been doing our job!!! I guess that we need to ratchet things up a notch or two!!!!

[Phil_musc]

Wow - the psychological underpinnings of some things expressed here seem, well, odd. Are we all so thin-skinned that a little retaliation for a negative review on the part of a star's coterie of fans just stops the review process in its tracks? So much is difficult to fathom there. For the guys who rabidly (and sometimes viciously) defend their favorites, please take a chill pill and remember that your experience that caused you to emotionally (and irrationally?) form such a loyal opinion of an escort originated as a part of a commercial transaction that maybe exceeded your expectations. That's nice for you but before you feel free to attack another man who posts a review that differs from what your experience may have been, please remember at the end of the day we are talking about a business here and your customer loyalty may be out of proportion to the service rendered. There is no betrayal of anyone - unless bad faith enters into the process. It is amazing to me that emotions would be allowed to run so high that rational discussion and straight forward opinions have to be shouted down. A little diversity of thought might actually be a welcome addition here. I'm not advocating that we return to some of the shoot-from-the hip postings and retorts that have riddled this place in the past (and in some ways were strangely fun to read) but we should also remember that what might work in an arm's length conversation is not necessarily the way to go in a largely anonymous written arena. Tone and body language are all aspects of face-to-face conversation that simply do not exist in the written posting.

 

That said, I too have refrained from reviews of guys who I thought were satisfactory but not memorable. And maybe that's a mistake - if anything we would all benefit by more written reviews in the interest a full disclosure. Of course we are all aware of individual chemistry and how it may impact on our experiences, but there are also some guys who seem to be able to create the chemistry with just about anyone. Shouldn't we read about them? And there are some guys who are more variable in their ability to find the chemistry or foster it with some guys (it does take two, after all, or three or four if your like some of our fortunate brethren here). Shouldn't we read about that also? I'd rather know too much rather than be surprised with disappointment.

[Steven_Draker]

Putting things into perspective, I find the Message Board much more civil nowadays compared to what it was 10 years ago. Our newer Forum members didn't witness some of the less glorious times the M-F went through that "old timers" are referring to.

 

To the original topic:

 

N13,

If you decide not to do a review, I would hope that at least you get back to him privately.

 

Feedback is important for any business, as is CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

[whipped guy]

N13,

If you decide not to do a review, I would hope that at least you get back to him privately.

 

Feedback is important for any business, as is CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

i don't think that N13 should be under any obligation to contact the escort privately... unless he wants to or feels that it would be of value for future sessions... assuming that he would want a future session

 

In any event, I have have offered "constructive criticism" on more than one occasion when I felt that there was potential that had not been totally realized and I thought that we had a certain amount of chemistry. It can be productive at times and at other times not... In one current situation the jury is still out... and time will tell.

[instudiocity]

Wow - the psychological underpinnings of some things expressed here seem, well, odd.

+1, but I edited the quote for brevity...

[bigvalboy]

Shoot!!! Are those the only two body parts!!!??? If so we have not been doing our job!!! I guess that we need to ratchet things up a notch or two!!!!

 

I stand corrected. There are of course many other parts to consider...