A client's advice for escorts

[Boston Guy]

The following are notes I've casually accumulated in various airplanes over the last couple of weeks. I apologize for the long length of this post and the accompanying one.

 

One client's advice for escorts:

 

Be honest. The next client you meet may end up being your best friend and it's awkward telling people later "Well, I wasn't really honest with you." No one expects you to tell all to everyone you meet; simply choose what you want to reveal to your clients and to other escorts and be honest about those details. Keep the rest for yourself, your family and your friends. If possible, use your real first name: it's tough getting to know someone and then, after months of getting together, having them tell you "By the way, my name isn't really George; it's Hector." Our names are bound up in the identity that others build for us as they get to know us and it's better to be as honest as possible. If your real name is Bill Smith, consider using Billy Butt or Willy Wood.

 

Be open. While it may be difficult, try not to become cynical. Be open to people and judge each new client and each new person as an individual, someone to be valued instead of just one more in a long line of clients.

 

Be clean. Avoid scents and practice good hygiene. Take a shower before seeing a client. If you're coming from another client, try to take a shower at the earlier client's place after the appointment -- it's better than walking in and asking to take a shower. But walking in and asking to take a quick shower is better by far than walking in with the smell and bodily fluids of a previous appointment and doing nothing about them. Be considerate of your clients and remember that cleanliness is next to godliness. Never underestimate the power of Certs. And never overestimate the turn-off that many guys will find in a smoker's breath, kiss and clothes. If you smoke, at least be aware that many of your clients will realize it and many will find it unpleasant.

 

Be drug-free while escorting. This is simply common sense. It's also a matter of respect for your clients and, in some situations, can be a matter of safety for you. Remember that the police will frown doubly on you if you end up in their presence while on some kind of illegal drug.

 

Be friendly. You may see many clients a week, but most clients see far fewer escorts. Remember that clients are usually anticipating your arrival, are looking forward to seeing you, and are hoping to have a good time. Be friendly when you arrive and easy-going. Be casual, be relaxed and give off good vibes. You have the ability in many instances to set the tone for the time you will spend with the client. If you walk in with a big smile on your face, shake his hand, give him a brief hug and act as if he's a long-lost friend, you'll put most guys at ease right away.

 

Be a good businessman. Recognize you are in business and be honest about that. Be clear about your limits and your expectations. Be clear about your prices. Remember that most businesses thrive on repeat customers and repeat customers are built through good service. Whenever you have a chance to give a little extra, do so -- you'll be amazed at how much you get back for being viewed as someone who has the client's interests at stake.

 

Be fair. Deliver on what you promise. And don't be a clock watcher. If you book an hour appointment, stay 10 or 15 minutes extra if you possibly can. If you book a two-hour appointment, stay two and a half. Remember that you are being paid very high wages to make your clients feel good about themselves. Most clients will greatly appreciate the extra time and if you let them know that you're staying because you enjoy their company, you'll double the good feelings and begin to build a stable of satisfied customers who will look forward to seeing you again and again. Try to schedule your appointments so you have a few minutes extra. You'll find life is more enjoyable when you give yourself time to breathe.

 

Be fun. Don't be mechanical and don't treat clients like machines. Or, heaven forbid, like ATM machines. Laugh. Be funny. Remember a few good jokes and use them occasionally. Treat your clients like friends. Who knows -- if you treat them that way, they may become friends.

 

Be discreet. Don't tell all. Remember that being able to keep a secret is a very good trait and will allow people to confide in you. Never share information a client gives you with other clients or escorts.

 

Be healthy. Be healthy in your own lives and practice safe sex. Care about your own health and the health of those you encounter. Don't let clients talk you into having unsafe sex. The HIV epidemic is NOT over and, in some cities, is getting much worse. HIV still kills and the side effects of the cocktails are long-lasting and very unpleasant. Do you really want to have diarrhea for five years?

 

Be considerate. Take the time to listen to your clients and try to understand why you are there. Why did they hire you? What do they want? Sometimes clients think they want one thing while in reality they really want something else. The guy who says he just wants casual sex may in reality be very lonely and may be seeking human contact. The next guy may need reassurance that's he's still attractive to other people. Remember that there are two types of clients: Whammers, who are looking more for sex than romance, and Charmers, who are looking more for romance than sex. Where does your new client fall on this line? If you can figure this out, you may satisfy your client more and have more fun yourself.

 

Be prompt. Make appointments that you can follow through one. And then do so. And when you are going to be late, for God's sake, let the client know as soon as possible. It's a lot better to call before the time of the appointment and say you are going to be 15 minutes late than to call ten minutes late to say you will be late. And when being late is unavoidable, try to give the client something extra to make up for it. Perhaps you can stay a little longer or be a little nicer or give him a discount on your next appointment.

 

Be neat. Remember that most clients are looking forward to seeing you and are anticipatng your arrival. Try to arrive looking a little bit put-together, especially for clients you haven't met already. Clean clothes without holes in them are generally better than the alternative. If you are going to a hotel room or are meeting in some other public place, a casual look that won't attract attention is generally going to be in better taste than bright yellow spandex. Remember that the client may not want to let the world or even those around him know that he has hired an escort. Don't try to attract attention to yourself. Follow your client's lead if you go out.

 

Be nice. Remember that each client is a person and each client has feelings. Treat them like you'd like to be treated. Being nice doesn't cost anything and it can easily bring you repeat business. If nothing else, it will make you feel good.

 

Be careful. Remember that your business involves risks. Protect yourself and your clients. Don't take unnecessary risks and be wary of clients who ask you to do things your gut says are risky. Listen to your gut -- intuition isn't something that only women have. If you think something is risky or a situation is one you shouldn't be involved in, you're probably right. There are always other clients and other times.

 

Be good at follow-up. You'd be amazed at how much mileage you'll get out of a short, simple email the day after you see a client. Simply saying "Hi, just wanted to say thanks, I had a good time and hope to see you soon." is enough. Most escorts fail to do this. It's a good habit to adopt.

 

Be aware of the effect of your marketing. Everything you do through your escort persona may affect your escort business. If you have a Web site, ask someone else to proofread it for you -- preferably someone who can spell. When in doubt, ask the guys at M4M to look it over for you and report back how it can be improved. You might get some annoying feedback but you might also get some good ideas. Don't send in fake reviews: they get found out. And when responding to a bad review, be candid, honest and sincere. Anger will only make others think less of you. If someone sent in a bad review, simply say "I acknowledge that this happened and I'm sorry I couldn't satisfy this guy. I tried but didn't succeed. No one can satisfy everyone but I'll keep on trying as hard as I can." Arguing with clients over a review or in the Message Center will usually not end up helping your business. But apologizing and being nice will amaze your friends and confound your enemies.

 

Good luck.

[+ nycman]

Dear Lord! After that thesis I feel like I ready to sit for my Doctorate in Escorting. Whew!

 

Seriously B-guy, that was an excellent and well thought out post. Hopefully many escorts and clients will read it and put the words you wrote into practice.

 

Of course, I said the same thing two weeks ago in a much more musical way....hit it Eloise honey....

 

"Every girl that lives here knows Miss Mona's No-No rules...."

 

(I'll spare you all a repeat performance....smile)

[Boston Guy]

Thanks, NYCMan. I know I've never posted anything that long anywhere on the Internet before (much less in duo-form!) and I hope and expect it will be a long time before I do so again -- sentiments that I expect will be echoed by many here. :-)

[Guest cp8036]

Very good post.

 

We live in age of email, so use it. Best guy I hired sent quite a few emails before the date... to see what I was looking for, what I liked, and to confirm time. Took bit of typing, but showed he was professional and did his research.

[Guest Jason Reardone]

HEYYYYYYYY! YOU STOLE MY NOTES!!!!!

 

<STANDING OVATION>

 

Let's market a copy for clients too, we'll be rich! Well informed at best! I will put excerpts from it on my site if that's ok! -jason http://www.JasonReardone.cjb.net

[Guest Jason Reardone]

http://www.JasonReardone.cjb.net

 

.>" Take the time to listen to your clients and try to understand why you are there. Why did they hire you? What do they want? Sometimes clients think they want one thing while in reality they really want something else. The guy who says he just wants casual sex may in reality be very lonely and may be seeking human contact. The next guy may need reassurance that's he's still attractive to other people. Remember that there are two types of clients: Whammers, who are looking more for sex than romance, and Charmers, who are looking more for romance than sex. Where does your new client fall on this line? If you can figure this out, you may satisfy your client more and have more fun yourself."

 

 

I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW WONDERFUL IT WAS WHEN I INTERNALIZED THIS CONCEPT, IT CHANGED THE WAY I DID THINGS ULTIMATELY INCREASING MY LEVEL OF SATISFACTION FROM EACH CLIENT. -jason

[Guest Jason Reardone]

http://www.JasonReardone.cjb.net

 

Yet again another plan foiled, just found your client to client notes, I'M LUV'IN IT -jason

[Boston Guy]

Jason, feel free to use excerpts as you wish. :-)

 

My only goal in writing it was to try to produce something that might be a little useful to guys who might be new to escorting or to hiring escorts. I'm glad you found it worthwhile and I appreciate your comments.

 

Have a terrific day!

[Guest loverboy]

Boston Guy, please see my posting with comments about your two threads and my suggestions which is on your "advice to clients" thread. I had posted it here also at the same time, since it applies to this advice as well and there is something here that I think you should check; it came up on the other thread a while ago, but it has not appeared here. Apparently, I got "moderated." (I don't recall slandering anyone there.)

[Guest trekker]

>My only goal in writing it was to try to produce

>something that might be a little useful to guys who

>might be new to escorting or to hiring escorts.

 

It's that for sure, for new escorts and new clients. But it's also a good thing for old hands on both sides of the transaction to read.

[Guest MattAdams]

Very good work.

 

Matt Adams

Author of Hustlers Escorts and Porn Stars

http://www.whatshotnews.com

[Boston Guy]

After reading the "Is it normal for a CLIENT to stand you up??" thread, I thought it might be useful to resurrect this thread from eight years ago.

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

Just a thought....

 

After reading the "Is it normal for a CLIENT to stand you up??" thread, I thought it might be useful to resurrect this thread from eight years ago.

 

 

After commending Boston Guy's outstanding memory in the other post, I decided to forgo doing it here, too.

 

[Guest greatness]

wow

 

You are really an expert!

 

 

The following are notes I've casually accumulated in various airplanes over the last couple of weeks. I apologize for the long length of this post and the accompanying one.

 

One client's advice for escorts:

 

Be honest. The next client you meet may end up being your best friend and it's awkward telling people later "Well, I wasn't really honest with you." No one expects you to tell all to everyone you meet; simply choose what you want to reveal to your clients and to other escorts and be honest about those details. Keep the rest for yourself, your family and your friends. If possible, use your real first name: it's tough getting to know someone and then, after months of getting together, having them tell you "By the way, my name isn't really George; it's Hector." Our names are bound up in the identity that others build for us as they get to know us and it's better to be as honest as possible. If your real name is Bill Smith, consider using Billy Butt or Willy Wood.

 

Be open. While it may be difficult, try not to become cynical. Be open to people and judge each new client and each new person as an individual, someone to be valued instead of just one more in a long line of clients.

 

Be clean. Avoid scents and practice good hygiene. Take a shower before seeing a client. If you're coming from another client, try to take a shower at the earlier client's place after the appointment -- it's better than walking in and asking to take a shower. But walking in and asking to take a quick shower is better by far than walking in with the smell and bodily fluids of a previous appointment and doing nothing about them. Be considerate of your clients and remember that cleanliness is next to godliness. Never underestimate the power of Certs. And never overestimate the turn-off that many guys will find in a smoker's breath, kiss and clothes. If you smoke, at least be aware that many of your clients will realize it and many will find it unpleasant.

 

Be drug-free while escorting. This is simply common sense. It's also a matter of respect for your clients and, in some situations, can be a matter of safety for you. Remember that the police will frown doubly on you if you end up in their presence while on some kind of illegal drug.

 

Be friendly. You may see many clients a week, but most clients see far fewer escorts. Remember that clients are usually anticipating your arrival, are looking forward to seeing you, and are hoping to have a good time. Be friendly when you arrive and easy-going. Be casual, be relaxed and give off good vibes. You have the ability in many instances to set the tone for the time you will spend with the client. If you walk in with a big smile on your face, shake his hand, give him a brief hug and act as if he's a long-lost friend, you'll put most guys at ease right away.

 

Be a good businessman. Recognize you are in business and be honest about that. Be clear about your limits and your expectations. Be clear about your prices. Remember that most businesses thrive on repeat customers and repeat customers are built through good service. Whenever you have a chance to give a little extra, do so -- you'll be amazed at how much you get back for being viewed as someone who has the client's interests at stake.

 

Be fair. Deliver on what you promise. And don't be a clock watcher. If you book an hour appointment, stay 10 or 15 minutes extra if you possibly can. If you book a two-hour appointment, stay two and a half. Remember that you are being paid very high wages to make your clients feel good about themselves. Most clients will greatly appreciate the extra time and if you let them know that you're staying because you enjoy their company, you'll double the good feelings and begin to build a stable of satisfied customers who will look forward to seeing you again and again. Try to schedule your appointments so you have a few minutes extra. You'll find life is more enjoyable when you give yourself time to breathe.

 

Be fun. Don't be mechanical and don't treat clients like machines. Or, heaven forbid, like ATM machines. Laugh. Be funny. Remember a few good jokes and use them occasionally. Treat your clients like friends. Who knows -- if you treat them that way, they may become friends.

 

Be discreet. Don't tell all. Remember that being able to keep a secret is a very good trait and will allow people to confide in you. Never share information a client gives you with other clients or escorts.

 

Be healthy. Be healthy in your own lives and practice safe sex. Care about your own health and the health of those you encounter. Don't let clients talk you into having unsafe sex. The HIV epidemic is NOT over and, in some cities, is getting much worse. HIV still kills and the side effects of the cocktails are long-lasting and very unpleasant. Do you really want to have diarrhea for five years?

 

Be considerate. Take the time to listen to your clients and try to understand why you are there. Why did they hire you? What do they want? Sometimes clients think they want one thing while in reality they really want something else. The guy who says he just wants casual sex may in reality be very lonely and may be seeking human contact. The next guy may need reassurance that's he's still attractive to other people. Remember that there are two types of clients: Whammers, who are looking more for sex than romance, and Charmers, who are looking more for romance than sex. Where does your new client fall on this line? If you can figure this out, you may satisfy your client more and have more fun yourself.

 

Be prompt. Make appointments that you can follow through one. And then do so. And when you are going to be late, for God's sake, let the client know as soon as possible. It's a lot better to call before the time of the appointment and say you are going to be 15 minutes late than to call ten minutes late to say you will be late. And when being late is unavoidable, try to give the client something extra to make up for it. Perhaps you can stay a little longer or be a little nicer or give him a discount on your next appointment.

 

Be neat. Remember that most clients are looking forward to seeing you and are anticipatng your arrival. Try to arrive looking a little bit put-together, especially for clients you haven't met already. Clean clothes without holes in them are generally better than the alternative. If you are going to a hotel room or are meeting in some other public place, a casual look that won't attract attention is generally going to be in better taste than bright yellow spandex. Remember that the client may not want to let the world or even those around him know that he has hired an escort. Don't try to attract attention to yourself. Follow your client's lead if you go out.

 

Be nice. Remember that each client is a person and each client has feelings. Treat them like you'd like to be treated. Being nice doesn't cost anything and it can easily bring you repeat business. If nothing else, it will make you feel good.

 

Be careful. Remember that your business involves risks. Protect yourself and your clients. Don't take unnecessary risks and be wary of clients who ask you to do things your gut says are risky. Listen to your gut -- intuition isn't something that only women have. If you think something is risky or a situation is one you shouldn't be involved in, you're probably right. There are always other clients and other times.

 

Be good at follow-up. You'd be amazed at how much mileage you'll get out of a short, simple email the day after you see a client. Simply saying "Hi, just wanted to say thanks, I had a good time and hope to see you soon." is enough. Most escorts fail to do this. It's a good habit to adopt.

 

Be aware of the effect of your marketing. Everything you do through your escort persona may affect your escort business. If you have a Web site, ask someone else to proofread it for you -- preferably someone who can spell. When in doubt, ask the guys at M4M to look it over for you and report back how it can be improved. You might get some annoying feedback but you might also get some good ideas. Don't send in fake reviews: they get found out. And when responding to a bad review, be candid, honest and sincere. Anger will only make others think less of you. If someone sent in a bad review, simply say "I acknowledge that this happened and I'm sorry I couldn't satisfy this guy. I tried but didn't succeed. No one can satisfy everyone but I'll keep on trying as hard as I can." Arguing with clients over a review or in the Message Center will usually not end up helping your business. But apologizing and being nice will amaze your friends and confound your enemies.

 

Good luck.

[Boston Guy]

You are really an expert!

 

Thanks... but I just rely on the kindness and knowledge provided along the way by many other good people.

[+ nycman]

Eight years later......

 

I still think it's an incredible piece of work.

 

Thanks again BG!

[seaboy4hire]

This post needs to be pinned to the top of the forum.

[Guest adnyuki]

BostonGuy,

 

I remember well your previous thread back years wgo and more recent ones.

 

Much of what you wrote (well, pretty much ALL of it) is advice I have handed on to a few European escorts who have come here to the US to work - since the etiquette in Europe is quite different on so many fronts. I have been amazed how often these guys - for lack of linguistic skills - are taken advantage of, deceived, and often find themselves in pretty dangerous situations. They are victims to both their "sponsors" or guaranteers here and to some unscrupulous clients who feel they can do what they want with these guys.

 

So I took the time to translate your rules here for them, and explain them in detail. Hopefully it would improve both their service, and their clientel!!

[Guest greatness]

so humble too

 

You are humble too. Are you in academia? It's like reading a lecture note. lol....

 

Thanks... but I just rely on the kindness and knowledge provided along the way by many other good people.