Trading of pictures prior to booking

[Guest blankman]

A recent post explains that a client and an escort contacted each other by email and traded pictures before getting together.

 

How many people think it is normal or acceptable for the escort to expect or request a picture of the client?

 

Aside from the fact that I don't have any .jpgs of myself and really don't feel like creating any, I guess I find it strange that the client should have to "impress" the escort with or even inform the escort of his appearance prior to arranging a date.

 

Or maybe the trading pictures is just for fun? I will confess that I decided not to contact a certain very hot looking escort because a reviewer said he traded pictures with the escort prior to their meeting. I thought, "is he going to expect that of me too?" Maybe it was an unjustified inference, but my reaction was, to quote Traveller, "scratch."

 

Are there escorts out there who are in such demand that they routinely pick and choose their clients on this basis?

 

I'm interested in peoples' experiences and attitudes in this matter.

[Losgatan]

Blank,

 

Many of the "cyberhustlers" on AOL routinely make similar requests in the profiles (send me your pic and I'll send you mine). I think the main reason is to weed out the pic collectors who haunt the service. And since most of these guys are "part-timers" they can be more selective about who they agree to see.

 

While most of the professional escorts I know do screen their clients, most choose to do it by phone. I think that's a much better approach since a phone conversation will usually reveal more about the client than a "g-rated" photo.

[Guest MrB]

I've never had an escort ask for my pic, but I sometimes offer. I agree with you that it would be awkward if he did.

 

 

MrB

[Guest jizzdepapi]

various threads have referred to escorts who were selective in accepting dates; it would only work for them if the client were in very good shape and, posibly, of a certain age. i can understand this; in my younger days i could only have sex with men i was attracted to. now that i'm older, i might think that this sucks but it is reality.

 

think that's why they ask for pics and i guess it's their right.

 

also think that weeding out AOL pic collectors is a valid reason for escorts hesitating to send pics. hint: if u have a serious IM chat with an escort who claims he will only trade pics, i've found that he will usually change his mind by the time u talk $$ and a date for an appointment.

[guyinsf]

I don't have a problem trading pictures with an escort after chatting for a while to determine whether I'm even interested. Based on past experience, however, I will not send my picture first. I think there are also some "pseudo-escorts" on AOL -- guys who want to collect pictures of other guys looking for escorts. After a few times of not having so-called escorts return a picture to me -- or even chat with me after I sent them my picture -- I became more cautious.

 

The reason I will send a picture, if asked, is that I'd rather save my money and time: If an escort looks at my picture and decides that he really would not want to have me as a client, I'd rather know that then than have him show up at my door and leave or, worse yet, perform poorly while he's with me because he doesn't want to be there.

 

I sent my favorite escort a picture of me before we first met. All he said was "nice smile." I've seen him several times since, so sometimes it works out okay.

[Guest albinorat]

True, AOL hustlers are likeliest to ask for pix or "stats". I usually IM back, "I look like Jabba the Hut and intend to pay, if you're looking for Brad Pitt you're in the wrong biz."

 

I've just had a bad experience with an AOL freak -- I had to threaten to hit him with my phone upside the head to get him to leave (I'm not talking my cell phone either). I threw $20 after him. Worst smelling human (?)my olfactories have ever recoiled from. They almost blinded me to the physical hideousness.

 

Sometimes it's tempting to flirt on AOL, and some of those guys are legit, even the part timers (some full timers reviewed here keep a presence on AOL). But this has cooled me considerably. I hate AOl anyway.

 

As for client pix why would a client want to be trading his pix with a stranger who might be a vice cop? How would the escort know if that's really the client's picture (I know an escort who showed up expecting a plump, bewhiskered middle aged man and got his 14 year old son and the son's five best friends instead. They snapped pix of the poor guy as he ran. The escort swears he had a phone conversation with a shy man with a deep voice. I guess one of those kids could do a quasi-basso-profondo!)

 

Al

[Guest MrMan]

I've never asked a client for a picture--to me that's tacky,

bordering on insulting. Yes, there are escorts who do pick and

choose who they will see based upon how the client looks. A

client's appearance is never an issue with me. The only reasons

that I won't see a client are matters of hygiene and attitude.

I can handle a guy who's 5'10" and 400lbs. because I choose to

focus on what is on the inside. I've met some of the most

"beautiful people" who some other escorts would have refused.

 

I do occasionally ask for a physical description so I know how

much to mentally prepare myself (or how much Viagra to take)

and any good escort who puts alot into his job will tell you

that some clients are more "work" than others, just a simple of

fact our business.

 

I think a client should think twice about seeing an escort who

requests a picture. He's probably not the sort of guy you'd

want to spend time with anyway.

[Guest]

>also think that weeding out AOL

>pic collectors is a valid

>reason for escorts hesitating to

>send pics.

 

I disagree. An escort needs to decide whether he will market himself with pictures, or try to get customers with a description only, and suffer the financial consequences. I have enough experience with escorts that I see no reason to hire an escort whose picture I haven't seen. And, yes, I "collect" a lot of pictures of escorts I don't end up hiring, but that's just tough. I don't send money to every charity request I get in the mail, nor do I buy from every ad I see on TV either. It's called marketing expenses (which are not that great for escorts--I mean how much does it costs to send a picture by e-mail?).

 

Since I happen to be handsome, AFTER I decide to hire an escort, I may send my picture in order to raise his enthusiasm (especially if I think the price is negotiable). But I don't think I've ever aquiesced to demands that I send my picture first.

 

Another reason that it's silly for an escort to demand the client's picture first, is that there's no guarantee the picture he's getting is that person's. It could even be another escort's. In fact, someone who was just "collecting pictures" and not serious about hiring would be more likely to send a fake picture that the serious client.

[Traveller]

>I do occasionally ask for a

>physical description so I know

>how

>much to mentally prepare myself (or

>how much Viagra to take)

>

 

or how much Viagra to take....God, it's great to start a Friday with a laugh.

 

Later.

 

PS. It's a three day weekend. Get ready to bump and hump. Especially with the bleak weather we're supposed to get.

[Guest Merlin]

I would write off an escort who asked for a photo. I am not looking for a judgmental escort.

[Guest ChicagoCorey]

I've had future clients send me pictures in their introductory emails, and when I first started doing this online, it freaked me out. Invariably they were on the older yet handsome side and I often thought, "Are they looking for a discount? What's the deal?" I never would have expected people to offer a picture without my prompting.

 

But then I realized that it's about what guyinsf mentioned. There are so many dudes out there with attitude "in the business" that they don't want to waste time if the guy is going to get all prissy.

 

But for a guy to "demand" a picture *shakes head* -- at that point I have to agree with the "Jabba the Hutt" line from above.

 

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[Guest DickHo]

>The reason I will send a

>picture, if asked, is that

>I'd rather save my money

>and time: If an

>escort looks at my picture

>and decides that he really

>would not want to have

>me as a client, I'd

>rather know that then than

>have him show up at

>my door and leave or,

>worse yet, perform poorly while

>he's with me because he

>doesn't want to be there.

 

I do the same...I usually send my pic without them asking. Since I usually wanna get fucked, I wanna make sure that they are not going to have a problem delivering. I've had a couple of escorts turn me down (saved me money and time) and I've been having a hell of time with the others--I believe in no surprises.

 

On the other hand, I won't hire anyone without a picture. And only very seldom will I hire someone without a face pic. If I can demand this of them, I have no problem supplying mine.

[Guest]

>I can handle a guy who's

>5'10" and 400lbs. because I

>choose to

>focus on what is on the

>inside. I've met some of

>the most

>"beautiful people" who some other escorts

>would have refused.

>

>I do occasionally ask for a

>physical description so I know

>how

>much to mentally prepare myself (or

>how much Viagra to take

 

200# => 25 mg Viagra

250# => 50 mg Viagra

300# => 100 mg Viagra

350# => 100 mg Viagra + MUSE suppository

400# => 100 mg Viagra + MUSE + papaverine injection

 

[Guest Nocturnal]

As someone who has picked up more than his share of escorts on AOL, I would NEVER send my photo to an escort. I am not so worried about the cops but for the future. If someone doesn't show, then they have your photo and your e-mail address and maybe your phone number. That is crazy! However, I do give a very honest and accurate description of myself before each encounter.

[Guest MrMan]

Unicorn, I've had a few clients who have injected themselves in

my presence--thought I was going to pass out. I really never had

much of a problem erectionwise, but Viagra allows me to focus

more on technique and the client's pleasure. I take probably

1/2 a 25mg, a Viagra "nugget" if you will as an "enhancer". It

is also quite handy on those busy days (3 or more clients)when

everyone wants fucked.

 

Now, back to the original topic on trading pics. For me a

client's looks aren't a determining factor, but his weight

can be because sometimes past a certain weight it becomes

very difficult, if not impossible, unless you have a 20" cock.

It's not an easy task to perform consistently with so many

different types of guys. This is what separates the professionals

from the amateurs.

[Guest MrMan]

", this is

>such useless statement offering zero protection

>from arrest and protection"

 

What I meant to say was, "from arrest and PROSECUTION".

[Guest trekker]

> though I still like not knowing

>who's going to be on the other side

>of that door: )

 

Glad you feel that way, Mattie. We're all just doing our jobs.

 

-- Inspector Doright, Vancouver P.D. :-)

[Guest trekker]

>as for the Aol boys demanding pix upfront, well I think

>the majority of those guys are young, and doing this

>part time, so they don't want their friends to find

>out, or worse MOM!! Of course there is no guarantee

>that the pic they get is a legit client pic,

 

It's Mom, acting on a tip and sending a pic of her high school chemistry teacher...

[Guest trekker]

>I don't have a problem trading pictures with an escort after

>chatting for a while to determine whether I'm even interested.

> Based on past experience, however, I will not send

>my picture first. I think there are also some

>"pseudo-escorts" on AOL -- guys who want to collect pictures

>of other guys looking for escorts. After a few

>times of not having so-called escorts return a picture to

>me -- or even chat with me after I sent

>them my picture -- I became more cautious.

 

Even if you send it second, you have no way of knowing if the pic you got first is for real.

 

>The reason I will send a picture, if asked, is that

>I'd rather save my money and time: If an

>escort looks at my picture and decides that he really

>would not want to have me as a client, I'd

>rather know that then than have him show up at

>my door and leave or, worse yet, perform poorly while

>he's with me because he doesn't want to be there.

 

This is a good point.

[Matt_Vancouver]

I will admit I've ocasionally asked for a photo, but it has never been a demand, and it has absolutly no bearing on whether I will see the client or not. It's mostly after chatting for a while, my curiosity is peaked. If they say no, it's no big deal. If they say yes, it gives me something to fantasise about until we do meet. Sounds cheesy, but it is part of the fun sometimes, though I still like not knowing who's going to be on the other side of that door: )

as for the Aol boys demanding pix upfront, well I think the majority of those guys are young, and doing this part time, so they don't want their friends to find out, or worse MOM!! Of course there is no guarantee that the pic they get is a legit client pic, but it probably helps to weed out some of the flakes, and there are many in chat rooms.

That is part of the reason I stopped advertising in news papers, I didn't like the constant cold calls, you know the guys, they scan the ads, call every single one, asking all the details, sometimes for stroke material, sometimes looking for the right match. I much prefer to do business online, you see my pix, you ask some questions, we hook up, easy, more fun for both of us.

matt(thinks he knows everything)

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[Guest bigjake80]

Has anyone considered that asking for a photo is a good way to weed out cops? An undercover agent is NOT going to send you a photo of himself, as that would jeoprodize his undercover status as well as his safety. However, they may send you a photo of someone else, which would make it very easy for you to excuse yourself at the door when you realize that this person has lied to you. I think I may start doing that when I am uncomfortable in a situation. Sometimes you get clients that just insist on asking all the wrong questions about money and sex, and it has nothing to do with anything else but them not knowing any better. Usually I just walk awy from those people, now maybe I can just say "Look, I'd like to be able to answer you a little more candidly, but I need to know who Im talking first." Any opinions on this?

 

Jake

[Guest alanm]

I have been asked for a picture and hotel by some selective

escorts. I respond with an accurate physical discription and the hotel (if I have chosen a hotel at that point). So far that's been fine with the escort. It's not fine with me though, because

while I can pass the description test, an over weigh person might not and I don't like that. I've always thought less of the escorts who have made the requests.

[Guest loverboy]

This is a good point, and it had not occurred to me before. My general inclination on this subject and in reading this thread has been that I don't like the idea of an escort asking for a picture, for a number of reasons, but I have to admit that what Jake says makes a lot of sense. But my approval is limited in the way that he himself limited the practice, namely, when the escort feels uncomfortable about a particular situation. I would *not* approve of it as a general practice. But in those special situations, it might just help the client not to get turned down because of the red flags that he was unwittingly sending up through naivete, inexperience or ignorance.

[Guest MrMan]

>Has anyone considered that asking for

>a photo is a good

>way to weed out cops?

>An undercover agent is NOT

>going to send you a

>photo of himself, as that

>would jeoprodize his undercover status

>as well as his safety.

 

Big Jake, I doubt whether any law enforcement officer or

undercover agent would send a pic of himself. I do know that they

will lie when asked if they're affiliated with any law enforce-

ment agency. I've had three friends who were arrested all of

whom asked the "client" if they were law enforcement--they all

lied. These escort/ friends all made the same mistake of letting

the "client" take control of the conversation and lead the con-

versation toward money/sex. I've left motels/hotels when I felt

like I was being set up. Trust your instincts. I always ask

questions of a client the first time I see them if I feel the

least bit uncomfortable.

 

>Sometimes you >>get clients that just insist

>on asking all the wrong

>questions about money and sex,

>Usually I just walk awy

>from those people, now maybe

>I can just say "Look,

>I'd like to be able

>to answer you a little

>more candidly, but I need

>to know who Im talking

>first." Any opinions on this?

 

The best advice I can give(10 years full-time escort and I've

never been arrested)is never discuss sex with a client. I give

them my stats and I say that I'm versatile and passionate. I

think it's stupid to mention any specific sex act in the same

conversation with money. Oh, and while we're on this, to all

escorts who say, "I don't charge for sex, that is illegal, I

charge for the time we spend together and anything else that

occurs is a private matter between consenting adults", this is

such useless statement offering zero protection from arrest and

protection.

[Guest DCescortBOY]

<<I do occasionally ask for a physical description so I know how

much to mentally prepare myself (or how much Viagra to take)

and any good escort who puts alot into his job will tell you

that some clients are more "work" than others, just a simple of

fact our business.

>>

 

i loved this one!

i ALWAYS ask for a physical description. why shouldn't i have some idea of whom i will meet? MrMan is pretty dead on the money when he says that it helps to prepare, both mentally and pharmaceutically.

i have, on a couple of occasions, declined appointments when i just didn't think i could perform adequately. i'm a small guy (short, thin) so there are times when someone is JUST too big. (ever see a guy who weighs 115# try to hold up the legs of someone who weighs 300# and just HAS to get fucked on his back??? it is a comic treat!)