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One of the recurring themes here at M4M, and one that is being discussed right now on a couple of different threads, concerns the reasons why people hire escorts.

 

One school of thought -- the "Wham-bam-thank you, Ma'am" folks (henceforth to be known as the Whammers) -- holds that you hire escorts for sex, good sex and nothing but the sex. The Whammers tend to believe that fantasizing the encounter is silly and fraught with danger.

 

But the guys in the Prince Charming school (the Charmers) view that as being too coarse and too physical; they're looking for a knight or a prince on a white horse, if only for an hour or an evening. They hope to find a prince who will well and truly enter their lives, sweep them off their feet and make love to them on a regular basis, if not forever after.

 

Those of you who have been following M4M for long enough may recall that I tend to be more of a Whammer than a Charmer, and generally hire escorts as a way of escaping the boredom of yet another hotel room. I know why I hire escorts, I know what I want from the encounter, and I usually end up pretty satisfied. I don't set high expectations and I don't expect the escort to be the most wonderful guy I've ever met. (But I do expect him to be on time, clean, friendly, bright enough and interested in making me happy.) Oddly enough, I tend to become somewhat friendly with the guys I hire.

 

Sometimes we'll go to dinner before or after. Beyond this, however, I don't view hiring an escort as having a 'date' and I think I used to be more judgmental about guys who did.

 

However, listening to people here describe why they hire escorts has helped me to understand that the reasons why we hire escorts are many and varied. And today, when thinking about this, I remembered my father. He used to manage theaters and he would often ask his employees what they were selling. Usually they'd asnwer "movies" and he would immediately correct them.

 

"No," he would say, "we are selling entertainment. We're selling fantasy, romance, action, adventure, intrigue, mystery and comedy. People come here for two hours to forget their lives, forget their troubles, and become part of a world that is fun, interesting, romantic and funny. Everything we do should be thought of as setting the scene so their two-hour trip can be as enjoyable as possible, because we want them to come back again and again."

 

And he was right. People knew they weren't the one kissing Garbo or Rock Hudson; they knew they weren't jumping out of planes or shooting down the enemy. But they enjoyed the movies nonetheless. For two hours, they could be the hero or the villain or the romantic lead or the leading lady. For two hours, the rest of the world didn't matter.

 

When they left the show, the glow would linger for a little while and slowly fade as the real world intruded once again. They all knew it was make-believe, but that was okay. And sometimes a little later or the next day, they'd remember a scene from the movie and smile a little smile as if they had just had a glimpse of an old familiar friend.

 

And I find myself thinking how much hiring an escort can be like going to the movies. Whammers seek out action-adventure with tough-guy heroes and Charmers are looking for Casablanca. We have different tastes in movies and different tastes in escorts. And it's all okay, I think, so long as we can each remember why it is that we ourselves go to the movies or hire an escort, can continue to distinguish between fantasy and reality, and don't end up as stalkers.

 

And so long as the escorts continue to understand their role as actors and don't forget their lines.

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Guest LG320126

Nicely put Boston - you really ought to consider being a charmer, you definitely have the qualities. I, personally, am one of the charmers you refer to who likes to be swept off my feet in a "carpe le diem" style and escape the reality of the business world that I have become a victim of for so many years. The sexual part of the encounters I undertake are very much second hand to the rest of the relationship, although not so second handed that I forget to enjoy that aspect also.

 

I have a "Prince Charming" escort who I have "fallen" for to the extent that we consider ourselves more like friends than client/escort. We enjoy each other's company, we have dined together, gone to amusement parks together, sat and talked for hours together and I have even met his parents and enjoyed their company. Do I know that this is fantasy/make believe? Sure, I am the same age as the escort's father. When I leave him after spending a weekend together I am actually saddened for a moment until it is time for me to slip back into the world of reality and wait until it is time to "go to the movies" again. :)

 

I promise you that I will not become a stalker or ever lose track of who I am or who he is, but I would like to continue seeing him whenever either of us has the opportunity. And oh yes, we have watched a movie together while lying across the bed of my hotel room and when it was over, we looked at each other only to find we both had tears in our eyes from the sad ending and then we both started laughing like hell. :) What a charmer!

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After some of the other topics on this site, it is great to hear

this subject discussed so thoughfully for both sides. The three

previous post have really said it all. I remember a reviewer of Leo in Philadelphia said about a month ago that "I tell him things I don't tell my closest friends." That's probably going a little too far, because you always have to remember that it is

not a real relationship. But, I must have a special relationship. My one dissent would be about the sex being secondary. For me that has often been the case for a night

or several nights, but I still have to be strongly attracted to the escort sexually for the "friendship" part to work.

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Guest LG320126

Alan, if I were attracted to this escort any more sexually, I would be a magnet or a pair of lycra shorts on his ass! :)

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Boston Guy--

Once again you have demonstrated your knowledge and sensitivity. I thank you for expressing the issue so well.

As a card carrying member of the Charmer faction, I can't wait until I get a chance to attend another feature attraction at my favorite movie theatre.

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Guest Hanover

Would you say that these categories are mutually exclusive? Granted, it is asking a lot for an escort to satisfy both mind and body, let alone "soul". But, in my experience, it IS possible. Rare perhaps, but possible.

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Guest Fin Fang Foom

>can continue to distinguish between

>fantasy and reality

 

And therein lies the rub.

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