escort relations

[Guest jizzdepapi]

several recent posts have referred to either escort etiquette or disclosure of both escort and client information. seems like these issues center around a larger one...

 

i've always felt free to ask escorts questions about their past, their likes, dislikes, etc. i've relied on my instinct in doing this--i think i know when i'm prying and when a question is appropriate and flows naturally from relations with an individual escort. on occasion, i've withdrawn a question after i've asked it, feeling it was inappropriate; to date, my faux pas have not been met with defensiveness. i've found escorts surprisingly candid and have enjoyed a more relaxed/trusting aspect in our relationship.

 

on several recent occasions, i have found myself socializing with escorts whom i hire regularly and have even met some of the escort's friends in a social setting. They were very friendly but careful not to ask about my relationship with the escort--it was obvious. but i also was not made to feel i was part of some outer circle or that i was "less than" a friend.

 

in return, dates have been much more fun, for me anyway. escorts who know my scene find themself giving much more naturally. and i'm much more relaxed and willing to play in bed.

 

not looking for love or friendship necesarily in escort relations but it seems like some kind of friendship is forming spontaneously.

 

curious about other peoples' experience

 

jizz

[Losgatan]

Jizz,

 

My experiences are very similar to yours. About a year ago, I abandoned the "more is better" scene and decided to concentrate on quality time with just a couple of guys. The result has been amazing. In spite of what many have written in other threads, friendship can develop in an escort/client relationship and it can greatly enrich every aspect of that relationship.

 

I also share your view that many escorts (at least the ones that I'm currently seeing) are willing -- even eager -- to share many aspects of their lives provided that the client is genuinely interested and non-judgemental. Some of these guys -- especially those born outside the country -- have truly fascinating stories to tell.

 

Try it -- I think you like what happens.

[Guest ChicagoCorey]

>In spite

>of what many have written

>in other threads, friendship can

>develop in an escort/client relationship

>and it can greatly enrich

>every aspect of that relationship.

 

>I also share your view that

>many escorts (at least the

>ones that I'm currently seeing)

>are willing -- even eager

>-- to share many aspects

>of their lives provided that

>the client is genuinely interested

>and non-judgemental.

 

I completely agree with this. It's all about being open and comfortable. If I can be more "myself" with a client, I feel like we all have a better time. Also I appreciate a lot of the advice I've gotten from older clients about all kinds of issues in my life.

 

However "non-judgmental" is the key -- if someone, no matter what our relationship, clicks their tongue "tsk tsk" at me after I answer a question honestly or has something disparaging to say about darn near anything I say about my personal life, I tend to cool off towards them. It's disappointing when it happens but it has with clients who I consider friends and it makes me want to scream. (Example: If I have one more client who talks about how eventually I'll be fiscally back on my feet and "out of this business", I don't know what I'll do; it's one of those times I feel like I should just swallow up my pride, but it still stings. I made the choice to do this; if you don't respect that, then why hire me?)

 

Okay, enough of my opinions/experience -- just needed to get that off my chest (I've been cooped up at home all day -- can you tell?)

 

--Corey

 

chicagocorey@yahoo.com

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[HooBoy]

>>>If I have one more client who talks about how eventually I'll be fiscally back on my feet and "out of this business", I don't know what I'll do; it's one of those times I feel like I should just swallow up my pride, but it still stings. I made the choice to do this; if you don't respect that, then why hire me?<<<

 

Good for you Cory! Great post!

 

Besides that, people who do what they do because they love what they do, always do better than those who do things for reasons other than wanting to do it.

 

HooBoy

Email: HooBoy@male4malescorts.com

[Guest trekker]

> (Example: If I

>have one more client who

>talks about how eventually I'll

>be fiscally back on my

>feet and "out of this

>business", I don't know what

>I'll do; it's one of

>those times I feel like

>I should just swallow up

>my pride, but it still

>stings. I made the

>choice to do this; if

>you don't respect that, then

>why hire me?)

 

I could see a friend or someone (non-client) saying that, although it's fairly tactless even from someone like that, but that's really a bizarre thing for a client to say. What can he be thinking?! What kind of opinion must he have of himself?!

[Guest EvilSwine]

People like that are usually shits and hypocrites.

[Guest jizzdepapi]

OMIGOD! right in front of me

 

well, expanding on the idea of friendship with an escort, ON MY PAID DATE Eddie royally fucked his girlfriend in front of me (actually to my side--we were all in the same bed). this was a total surprise.

 

told you i was hanging out with some escorts and their friends. and so i showed off a fancy hotel penthouse that i only rarely splurge for and eddie asked her up. now i know some guys would get totally turned off by this but i was NOT--i found it incredibly sexy and the only time in my life that i wished i was a woman, just to get fucked like that (though Eddie has frequently done me very nicely in another spot). she's been very reticent in the past so just to return the favor i started sucking his dick in front of her as she was leaving. and sure enough, he told me that she later told him she was totally freaked by me doing that.

 

i was really happy that eddie's sex drive didn't let up at all on this date--he was really turned on by all the attention and he kept me very busy on our overnite date.

 

guess i'm learning to let go of my expectations and hangups. all in all, this was a really freaky and fun date and i'm really glad it happened the way it did. wouldn't have planned this date in a million years, i don't think.

 

any thoughts, guys?

 

jizz

[Guest alanm]

I agree with Hooboy, Corey's post is very accurate. Escorts are people just like anyone else. And some of them are really great people. If you like and respect the escort, that will come across loud and clear. If an escort asks me a question about his

personal life, I will give a honest answer. But, I often find my-

self giving the question more thought and modifying my answer the next time I see him. Also, you cannot be judgmental and must try to look at the question from his situation, not your life. While we do this every day with friends, our lives are probably more similar to our friend's lives.

[Guest Nice Guy]

I swear this post just "screams" me!!!!

I always ask a ton of questions. I usually warn the gent before hand, but not always. Part of it is has to do if we CLICK! But in my search for a world according to Garth, I have found and made some wonderful friends and friendships. The down side of this (if you can call it that) is the relationship changes to the point of friendship and in my case ends the business relationship. This has worked seemingly well for both the gentleman and myself. When I am invited into "HIS" world, socially, it is very interesting. The guy actually has to cook and eat and change clothes and pay bills and on and on and on.

WOW, he is just like US!!! SO much for romance.... reality sets in quickly.... and if the guy is worth his salt, it is down right charming. I have lost some great escorts, but have gained some even better friends. I don't have my regulars any more, well except for Mike Grey..... GOD, I couldn't give him up for anything.... but even he is a dear friend and it is hard keeping biz and personal separate. SO, when you meet some wonderful guys as I have, it is hard not to want more than a romp in the hay.... I guess it's a OK trade off.

Nice Guy

[Guest jizzdepapi]

ohno ohno ohno. looking for ways to pay+play. working so far but maybe u know something i don't.

 

jizz

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Los Gatos Man,

 

>Try it -- I think you like what happens.

 

Definitely depends on the client. I have... and I do. But it presents it’s own set of issues/problems as well as rewards... and it is a bit of a slippery slope best traveled by the sure-footed, I think.