Why do they use fake names?

[Troyster]

This might be a pointless question but why do the services change the names of the guys when they only give you their first names? Recently I have noticed half the times the guys give you their real names when they arrive anyway. When I am in the throws and want to call out his name I sure like it if he can answer as opposed to looking around for who you are calling to! Stop changing the names when you only give out the first names -- its pointless.

[Rod Hagen]

You have a point. I try to keep my real name a secret, but some times when I am telling a story about something particularily stupid I have done I'll say "Think Chris" (or whatever my real name is). I guess if you feel comfortable with someone, you become a bit too relaxed and your real name just sort of slips out; at least that's how it works for me. Take it as a compliment.

 

Also, I sign emails and messages here "Hagen" which is exactly the opposite of just going by a first name. I do this becuase I think that ROD is a very cheezie name for an escort, and it wasn't until the first time a man moaned "ROD" in bed that I realized the horrible mistake I had made in choosing it! :-)

 

There are those guys who refuse to call me anything but my real name and are RELENTLESS in their insitance: I'm looking at you NiceGuy :-P

 

-ROD

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[BewareofNick]

I think another reason would be that it helps to keep the escort life separated from the real life. For example, if someone has an escort's home phone number, and the escort's girlfriend answers, when the client asks to speak to "Dylan", she can say, "sorry, you've got the wrong the number" Keeps everyone out of trouble :o)

[Guest Philly50]

If there are several guys at an agency with the same name, it could get confusing to refer to Joe #2 or Jim #3. Or perhaps Edward, Ed, and Eddie...

 

And what if a new escort has the same name as a previous escort? A client just asking for Bart (a top whom he used to see regularly 6 months ago) might be unpleasantly surprised by the new, revised edition. :-)

 

Still, some escorts at agencies do use their own names, as long as there is no confusion.

[+ Charlie]

Some escorts also advertise in different markets, and they can tell what ad you're responding to by the name you ask for ("Buck" means you saw the ad in LeatherLoversMonthly, "Billy" means you read Twink Journal, etc.).

[Guest Jason Reardone]

The first year I escorted I used my real name. I then moved to California, WOW what a difference from the small community I moved from. The first month I was here I excercised the same routine, using my real name. After only a few weeks I had a very disturbing event occur that would be enough to make anyone search for their local witness protection program!

 

I was staying in a hotel here in Hollywood (OK don't laugh, I don't want to talk about that lovely experience). One afternoon I heard a knock at the door, very loud, someone insisting that I open the door. Well since LAPD had been there earlier that day taking some guy away (I said don't laugh,) I assumed it was a cop, so I opened the door without looking. Anyhow, niceties aside and long story short, the jerk made an ass out of himself by trying to force his way into my place and almost prompted a second visit by the incredibly good looking Deputy that had been there hours earlier. As much as I welcomed a followup visit from Officer Riveres this guy scared the holy shit out of this Farm Boy. The guy had called earlier in the day to find out more about my services. After phone tagging-it the would-be client managed to trace my call back to the hotel and invited himself over drunk as hell and without a reservation.

 

So let's just say this. Some clients have my real name and true they insist on using it. I am confident however that they will show the same discretion toward my anonymity as I do for theirs. Those that do not understand and enjoy just as close of a friendship as the others. -jason

[Rod Hagen]

and of course after all of this I realize that the person who penned the original question was refering to agencies and not escorts themselves. I'm an idiot. Think Chris, THINK.

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Guest Joey Ciccone]

>I realize that the person who penned the original question was refering to agencies and not escorts themselves<

 

If the agencies keep changing their names, how do clients know where to call? I'm confused.

[BewareofNick]

There could be liability issues involved (Jason Reardone's situation comes to mind) or even reliablity issues. Let's say an escort with an agency had a bad situation happen with a client. Perhaps it was the client's fault and not the escort's. Maybe the client sent in a scathing review to an escort review site. Chances are, potential clients would stay away from that escort, so the agency would change his name in order to not have that situation hurt business.

[Rod Hagen]

And I seem to have confused others along the way. Sorry. When the original poster wrote "but why do the services change the names of the guys when they only give you their first names" 'services' refered to "escort agencies" (I presume). Insert that and the question reads "but wh do ESCORT AGENCIES change the names of the guys when the ESCORT AGENCIES only give you their (the escort's) first name?". Clear as mud, right? :-)

 

 

>If the agencies keep changing their

>names, how do clients know

>where to call? I'm confused.

>

 

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Guest youngblood]

It feels weird for me to utter a name during sex if I am unsure of the guy's real name. In light of this, I usually ask escorts when I meet them if they are using their real first name. If they respond no and then voluntarily tell me their real name, I will use the real name when we are together. If they don't voluntarily tell me their real name, I do not make an issue out of it, and just don't call them anything during sex.

 

I fully respect the privacy of an escort, and hope that mine is respected as well. (I always use my real first name). An interesting dilemma has arisen for me when running into an escort in a social situation while knowing both his real name and his alias. To respect our mutual privacy, should I have 1) ignored him totally; OR 2) used his real name and acted like an acquaintance; OR 3) used his alias so that he could say that I had mistaken him for someone else?

 

Comments please.

[Justice]

>An interesting dilemma

>has arisen for me when

>running into an escort in

>a social situation while knowing

>both his real name and

>his alias. To respect

>our mutual privacy, should I

>have 1) ignored him totally;

>OR 2) used his real

>name and acted like an

>acquaintance; OR 3) used his

>alias so that he could

>say that I had mistaken

>him for someone else?

 

To ignore him would be rude and would imply that you are ashamed of your relationship. I would start off by greeting him warmly. If I was with other people, I would invite him to join us and hope that he would introduce himself. (If he didn't, I would introduce him by his professional name -- which could prove to be awkward if say we were at a party where other people knew him by his real name. So escorts -- please take heed.) I would say that we were old friends, if anyone asked how we knew each other.

[Rod Hagen]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-04-01 AT 00:36AM (EST)[p]>To ignore him would be rude

>and would imply that you

>are ashamed of your relationship.

 

I don't think it's at all rude when clients ignore me in public, or say something like "yeah, I think we work out at the same gym" when we are introduced socially. Actually, I find that REALLY hot. It's like "our little secret".

[Guest Jason Reardone]

I recognized the same thing after posting my thoughts but thought it a good forum to discuss, yet again, sensitive issues that many don't realize we face. I guess that's what the "grain of salt" is for....-jason

[Guest Jason Reardone]

HAGEN!

 

I agree totally. Many times, (especially in small town back home) I have run into clients in public.

 

If I get a warm visual clue from them then I will allow them to approach me, if nothing occurs, then I can usually get the hint and will offer a nodding gesture as if to say hello. If an interlude was welcomed or unavoidalbe I would take the initiative, shake their hand, put the other hand on their shoulder and lean into their ear briefly. I'd say "Good to see you, I didn't want to be rude, It's Jason your massage therapist! Just wanted to say hello!" They immediately knew how to introduce me if they so chose and had an out if not.

 

Hagen you spoke of it being "hot" sometimes, I totally agree. It's something practically no one else in the room shares, it's kinda cool. Sometimes it's the little things, ..... -jason

 

http://www.JasonReardone.cjb.net

[Bilbo]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-04-01 AT 09:01AM (EST)[p]I am a person who has trouble remembering names, anyway. I don't care if I remember your face from church (MCC) or Lone Star Gay Male Nudist Group, or the GLBT history group GCAM, or where. Often, unfortunately, I also forget just where I met someone. Horrible, I know, and age doesn't really forgive it as I've been doing it since probably my twenties. In fact, many times a handsome nonstranger and I have sat down to a happy half hour game of just where do I know you from? (Of course, Houston is a bit bigger than Podunk, Iowa.)So I got a very warm, beloved feeling from picturing you nearly hugging me and reminding me of your name right away. And none of the friends I imagined us being around were at all surprised that I hadn't remembered it. However, of course, I was an escort, not a client, but I suppose that the same kind of thing could have happened in that case. People I knew I liked but didn't remember that it was because they were clients could have whispered just about anything in my ear and I would have played along.

 

 

As an actor, I am used to calling someone any name that the scene calls for. So while I can see where you other guy's are coming from with wanting to call darling by his real name, I feel nothing of it myself. I would usually remember someone's name long enough to use it when whispering sweet nothings, but there are so many other names you could call him, stud. Why make an issue of it. As the old song parody says, "Let me call you Sweetheart, I forgot your name."

[Guest EWC]

One of my favorite responses to this situation, whether you want to relate or not is "I know we know each other from somewhere. Tell me, do you remember your name?"

 

EWC