Just out of curiosity.... How much does 'full time' cost?

[EastCoastBtm]

If you're comfortable discussing, please do....how does it work? It is exclusive or are there other semi-exclusive relationships..... doesn't have to be what you want or would be interested in....just situations you've seen, or heard about it.  

 

Edited November 28, 2021 by EastCoastBtm
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[+ FrankR]

22 hours ago, EastCoastBtm said:

If you're comfortable discussing, please do....how does it work? It is exclusive or are there other semi-exclusive relationships..... doesn't have to be what you want or would be interested in....just situations you've seen, or heard about it.  

 

Not a provider, but can add that two years ago a regular of mine proposed an semi exclusive arrangement. He proposes to move in with me, share my bed most nights but have his own room. He would not contribute financially to the household but would share some of the chores. He also suggested an allowance so he could go out with his friends, dancing, movies etc. The allowance proposed would have been around $2,000 a month.  He indicated that he had a similar arrangement a few years before.  🤓

Edited November 29, 2021 by FrankR

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, EastCoastBtm said:

If you're comfortable discussing, please do....how does it work? It is exclusive or are there other semi-exclusive relationships..... doesn't have to be what you want or would be interested in....just situations you've seen, or heard about it.  

 

I guess depends on the client, his lifestyle, what he wants in exchange, how easygoing he is and of course is up to the escort to say yes or no based  on his financial expectations, etc.

Not everybody willing to have a kept man / sugar boy looks and has the pockets of Marc Jacobs... Besides is not the same sharing a huge penthouse in NYC or Miami, some locations and places might be more appealing than others, etc. I would suggest all escorts who would accept this scenario to be aware is very unlikely not to last forever. 

 

Edited November 28, 2021 by marylander1940

[Jamie21]

It costs your sanity. No amount of money would persuade me to accept such an arrangement. Unfortunately I’ve never had such an offer to test my resolve!! 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

It costs your sanity. No amount of money would persuade me to accept such an arrangement. 

This.  One hundred percent.

[+ purplekow]

4 minutes ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

This.  One hundred percent.

Small price to pay as to my mind, sanity is way overrated.  

[Rudynate]

Doesn't it turn into something else if it becomes a full-time arrangement?  You go from escort to kept man/boy - different ground rules, expectations, etc.  I think some men who would never escort would acquiesce to being kept.  OTOH, I couldn't imagine someone who has experienced the autonomy of being an escort being happy for too long as a kept man/boy.  As a young man, a couple opportunities to be kept came up, and I just didn't see how I could live with the constraints of being kept.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I like living alone, and could never trust a provider enough to let them live with me.

That being said, I've heard of a lot of men in gay neighborhoods (e.g. Boystown) often have an extra room, often for homeless or financially insecure guys, where it's simply a free room for sex exchange. When I was (much) younger, several of my friends were propositioned for such by both single gay men and couples.

Personally, I think that's a great way to wake up with a knife between your ribs. However, is that still commonplace? I've read recent accounts from homeless guys about that, little of it positive.

[+ FrankR]

17 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

Personally, I think that's a great way to wake up with a knife between your ribs. However, is that still commonplace? I've read recent accounts from homeless guys about that, little of it positive.

Someone has been watching far too many episodes of Dexter!! 😋

[Storm4U]

51 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

 However, is that still commonplace? I've read recent accounts from homeless guys about that, little of it positive.

Yes, those offers are still commonplace.

[lonely_john]

19 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

I loved that movie @marylander1940

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

29 minutes ago, lonely_john said:

I loved that movie @marylander1940

The book was a lot better.  Thorson explains a LOT about that life, but also about his life before and after.

An incredibly sad story, all the way around, but fascinating and odd.

 

[lonely_john]

21 minutes ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

The book was a lot better.  Thorson explains a LOT about that life, but also about his life before and after.

An incredibly sad story, all the way around, but fascinating and odd.

Does the book have the same title as the movie?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

17 minutes ago, lonely_john said:

Does the book have the same title as the movie?

Yessir.

https://www.amazon.com/Behind-Candelabra-My-Life-Liberace/dp/0525246533/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1638149184&sr=8-1

[Guest]

On 11/27/2021 at 6:50 PM, EastCoastBtm said:

If you're comfortable discussing, please do....how does it work? It is exclusive or are there other semi-exclusive relationships..... doesn't have to be what you want or would be interested in....just situations you've seen, or heard about it.  

 

I think the going rate is half of what you own. This arrangement is sometimes also called "marriage". For further reading see Trump, Donald and Melania.

[Alex93108]

Get a boyfriend.  A real boyfriend.  I know that is easier said than done. 

What you are looking for is not real, and frankly not healthy .

Edited November 29, 2021 by jetlow

[Rudynate]

On 11/28/2021 at 11:55 AM, FrankR said:

Someone has been watching far too many episodes of Dexter!! 😋

Not sure about that.  A friend of mine was stabbed to death.  Not by an escort but by a guy he picked and brought home.  His neighbors realized they hadn't seen him in a few days , became concerned and called the police.  The police made an arrest very rapidly and the guy was convicted after only a couple months.

[Ryanwattsxxx]

 

I’ve only been in a semi exclusive Situation. A) I’m married happily and my wife is cool with what I do so long as I am home afterwards and B) even if I was single I couldn’t live with a client. But I could definitely be there for them when they needed me. I just have so many clients that I actually care about for me to really desire being exclusive. 

[+ Tygerscent]

Had the opportunities offered and refused every one: thus also avoiding the jealousy issues, ownership/personal debt issues, control freak issues, anger management issues, expectation to be someone other than who you are based on your looks, insincerity of true emotion and personal loss of autonomy/independence~ Those arrangements come with heavy expectations and demands~ 

 I’ve seen these situations and it always seems that in the end, someone or both/all feel terribly used… especially when the next sugar dad or sugar boy steps in~ 

I have regulars I’ve been seeing for over 20yrs~ There is shared love, (and lust), but, neither of us is exclusive~ Sometimes they say they are exclusive but, then you see them on line every hour, or there’s reviews or you hear things thru the grape vine etc… I honestly don’t think it’s realistic for men to expect exclusivity between each other… They wander but, they also come home… the reality of the way males bond, (why and how), is different than the “relationship” expectation many place on each other~ 

Edited December 9, 2021 by Tygerscent

[+ purplekow]

10 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

Had the opportunities offered and refused every one: also avoiding the jealousy issues, ownership/personal debt issues, control freak issues, anger management issues, expectation to be someone other than who you are based in your looks, insincerity of true emotion and personal loss of autonomy/independence~

 I’ve seen these situations and it always seems that in the end, someone or both/all feel terribly used… especially when the next sugar dad or sugar not steps in~ 

I have regulars I’ve been seeing for over 20yrs~ There is shared love, (and lust), but, neither of us is exclusive~ Sometimes they say they are exclusive but, then you see them on line every hour, or there’s reviews or you hear things thru the grape vine etc… I honestly don’t think it’s realistic for men to expect exclusivity between each other… They wander but, they also come home… the reality of the way males bond, (why and how), is different than the “relationship” expectation many place on each other~ 

 

Edited December 9, 2021 by purplekow
In order for "full time" to work this is an example of what you need.

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/27/2021 at 9:50 PM, EastCoastBtm said:

If you're comfortable discussing, please do....how does it work? It is exclusive or are there other semi-exclusive relationships..... doesn't have to be what you want or would be interested in....just situations you've seen, or heard about it.  

This is an arrangement that is going to come with a lot of emotional baggage mixed in.

Sounds like a relationship where one of you holds all the cards.

Unless you want to feel like a 1950s housewife, with no rights and lots of rules, I would say this isn't gonna work.

[Rod Hagen]

Far from costing me my sanity, I've been close with plenty of clients I could easily imagine spending the rest of my life with were I not already taken.   I don't know if that's quite what you're asking?  

Edited January 18, 2022 by Rod Hagen