When an Escort Wants Your Professional Services

[+ WstVlgChris]

I'm wondering whether any of you have encountered a situation similar to something that's come up for me. 

In the spring, I hired an escort who was very personable and we had a good conversation amid a very good session. It turned out he wanted my advice about the creative field in which I work and soon after the session I spent a couple of hours (3 at most) looking at his work and giving some advice. 

There was a miscommunication at that time--he didn't understand the etiquette of asking for a freebie. Although he later apologized (after he reached out to me asking whether I wanted to book another session, and I pointed out how he had failed), it affected me enough that I didn't feel quite right about hiring him again. Not that I have any animosity toward him. 

Now he's back in touch, asking me to look at his creative efforts more in depth.  

I have the time to do this (and this is what I do for a living, albeit at a far lower hourly rate than the $300/hr he charges). And while we need to talk about the parameters of what level of feedback he wants and/or needs, I'm inclined to do it, to accept this gig.

I'm wondering whether I should bill him at my standard rate and leave it at that. Or should I suggest a barter arrangement?

Is bartering with an escort--your professional services in exchange for me--allowable, or is it somewhat creepy? I really don't know whether my even asking might seem exploitative. If I were to present this option, I would do so respectfully and I  would certainly make clear that he could pay me in cash if he prefers.  

(To put it in perspective: At this point, sight unseen, it's hard to project how much work is involved for me, but at the very least it would be the equivalent of a 2 hour session for him, and it could possibly be as much as an overnight.)

 If anyone has had a similar experience, I'd appreciate any wisdom that you may have. 

[harlow]

Might be the wrong area of the forum for this question.

[jtwalker]

As a general rule of thumb.  I find it better to just hire one another in any business dealing.  Otherwise, trades usually end up out of balance.

[BonVivant]

Congratulations Dahlink!  Why don’t u barter? It’s a fair trade. 😇 enjoy it. Have fun. Don’t overthink. 

Edited November 11, 2021 by BonVivant

[jeezifonly]

I think bartering svc for svc can work, but usually with less amorphous values on what’s offered. One advantage for you is the promo value you gain from “teaching”. If you are good at the consulting he’s after, others might benefit, and he’s likely to want to spread the word, giving you additional clients and income to spend on anyone you like. Maybe him, maybe not. Start by accepting his offer with firm price for your time. If he counters with barter, you have a starting place. Money can’t buy love, but the rest is negotiable.
 

If you would not truly enjoy his fully dressed vertical company, say no. 

[+ StLouisOct]

6 hours ago, WstVlgChris said:

I'm wondering whether any of you have encountered a situation similar to something that's come up for me. 

In the spring, I hired an escort who was very personable and we had a good conversation amid a very good session. It turned out he wanted my advice about the creative field in which I work and soon after the session I spent a couple of hours (3 at most) looking at his work and giving some advice. 

There was a miscommunication at that time--he didn't understand the etiquette of asking for a freebie. Although he later apologized (after he reached out to me asking whether I wanted to book another session, and I pointed out how he had failed), it affected me enough that I didn't feel quite right about hiring him again. Not that I have any animosity toward him. 

Now he's back in touch, asking me to look at his creative efforts more in depth.  

I have the time to do this (and this is what I do for a living, albeit at a far lower hourly rate than the $300/hr he charges). And while we need to talk about the parameters of what level of feedback he wants and/or needs, I'm inclined to do it, to accept this gig.

I'm wondering whether I should bill him at my standard rate and leave it at that. Or should I suggest a barter arrangement?

Is bartering with an escort--your professional services in exchange for me--allowable, or is it somewhat creepy? I really don't know whether my even asking might seem exploitative. If I were to present this option, I would do so respectfully and I  would certainly make clear that he could pay me in cash if he prefers.  

(To put it in perspective: At this point, sight unseen, it's hard to project how much work is involved for me, but at the very least it would be the equivalent of a 2 hour session for him, and it could possibly be as much as an overnight.)

 If anyone has had a similar experience, I'd appreciate any wisdom that you may have. 

I’ve done it, without repercussions. An escort wanted some business advice. I didn’t trouble myself about his rate vs my rate. I said I’ll do the following and you can give me two free hours. He thought that was fair. The next time we met we had a had a normal, exciting two hours in the sack and both of us felt good about the arrangement. Damn, though. I have to come up with cash for our next meeting. 

[+ purplekow]

As a physician, relatives, acquaintances, friends, toll booth cashiers, almost anyone and everyone asks for advice.  Most do not see it as an imposition on your time or good nature.  It is usually a minor annoyance and answering the question is easier than explaining why you are unwilling to do so.  I try to keep the answers brief and usually end my answer with something akin to "but for further  information you need to contact your doctor."   If they attempt to continue the conversation, I politely decline.

Needless to say, with escorts, all sorts of medical questions have been asked.  With those I see regularly, I am generous with my timed advice and again end with a referral back to their doctor.   .   If I know the escort is having financial difficulties, I have offered to see them professionally, free or charge and free of barter.   

I know several escorts who barter their services for dental work, plastic surgery and the like.  Most of the time the exchange there is an equivalent value type of exchange. Still with professional services, it is probably best to have them pay you and you pay them.  In that way, there is little room for confusion as to expectations.  

[+ poolboy48220]

I helped an escort I'd seen with some computer work, designing a flyer for his (non-escort) business.  As we were finishing up at his computer he put his hand up my shorts, and it turned into a fun time; we became fuck buddies for a while.  I agree with @BonVivant, don't overthink it. 

[robberbaron4u]

You don't charge for your time, professional expertise or experience.  "Escorting" is a hard-scrabble business, and, the majority of these boys lead a hand-to-mouth existence in the real world. Too, bartering for "flesh" is, in a word, "tacky". Consider your professional services a gratuity for the escort, and, perhaps, a good deed that will follow you into the Great Beyond. 

[Chance]

Agree wot

16 hours ago, BonVivant said:

Congratulations Dahlink!  Why don’t u barter? It’s a fair trade. 😇 enjoy it. Have fun. Don’t overthink. 

I agree 100% here 

If both of you are charging a fair price then it’s win win 

if you like him and consider him somewhat of a friend you might want to discount your fee - your call 

good luck 

[kenomora]

Although I’ve never been in a similar situation, as a medical professional I agree with what @purplekow and @jeezifonly said. Either do it out of the goodness of the heart or propose a fee. If he wants to barter then you can think about it. Less room for misunderstanding. 
 

Regardless of the approach if you don’t enjoy his companion it may not be a good idea to take the gig. 

[savantsav]

"Hey great to hear from you again, to be honest as you know this is what I do for a professional service as well and my usual rate for reviews is XX$, of course we could come to an agreement of some sort where both of us can end up satisfied... would that be of interest?"

Start with that.

[Islesguy]

On 11/12/2021 at 11:35 PM, kenomora said:

Although I’ve never been in a similar situation, as a medical professional I agree with what @purplekow and @jeezifonly said. Either do it out of the goodness of the heart or propose a fee. If he wants to barter then you can think about it. Less room for misunderstanding. 
 

Regardless of the approach if you don’t enjoy his companion it may not be a good idea to take the gig. 

I had an escort ask me for tax advice one time (used to be a tax accountant but wasn't anymore at the time). I answered his questions and told him to consult his own accountant since not being licensed, I wasn't technically allowed to advise someone.