3rd party hire

[Alex93108]

Hi - so a good friend of mine is having a stressful time  in his life, and unfortunately for him, he is not getting any at home either. i was considering hiring a pro as part of his recovery therapy ( on me) 

My standard MO is always pay after. How do you suggest going about this?  I thought of meeting the provider before the appointment, perhaps near the appointment location butt I wondered what the pros think of this. 

 

 

Edited September 9, 2021 by jetlow

[Jamie21]

Before considering the payment methods I think you may have overlooked that your provider will almost certainly only want to deal directly with the client.

I occasionally get guys asking me to service their wives or boyfriends etc and this is fine but the booking and contact has to come from the said wife or boyfriend. There’s no way I’m doing a surprise visit or one where the client is not fully aware and in agreement to the arrangements. I suspect other providers have a similar approach. 

[Alex93108]

No my friend would be in the whole thing ( not a surprise visit) .  I would be the one paying tho. A detail I omitted : friend has never hired before. 

Edited September 9, 2021 by jetlow

[+ Cash4Trash]

Best to address this to the escort you'd like to hire and work out terms with him. Better yet, if you have a go to escort you like and he's appropriate work out details with him because he knows and trusts you. 

[Jamie21]

9 hours ago, jetlow said:

No my friend would be in the whole thing ( not a surprise visit) .  I would be the one paying tho. A detail I omitted : friend has never hired before. 

Just give your friend the money to pay the escort? Or have I missed something. 

[Alex93108]

It’s kind of like going out to dinner and arguing about who is going to pay - wanted to avoid this 

[Jamie21]

16 minutes ago, jetlow said:

It’s kind of like going out to dinner and arguing about who is going to pay - wanted to avoid this 

Well you did ask! 

[cany10011]

Can you just have your friend pick out the escort, work out the details with the escort directly and then tell you how much it will cost? You can just give the money to your friend before the appointment. 

[marylander1940]

19 hours ago, jetlow said:

Hi - so a good friend of mine is having a stressful time  in his life, and unfortunately for him, he is not getting any at home either. i was considering hiring a pro as part of his recovery therapy ( on me) 

My standard MO is always pay after. How do you suggest going about this?  I thought of meeting the provider before the appointment, perhaps near the appointment location butt I wondered what the pros think of this. 

 

 

Noble intentions without a doubt. 

How will you introduce him to the escort? Will you give him any warning time for him to get ready?

however you want approach this the moment you tell an escort "I would like to hire you to have sex with a friend of mine" he'll think you're 99% likely to flake on him. 

the moment he walks out of your friend's place unpaid he'll think he got screwed the wrong gay. Just make plans with him, tell your friend your plan so he's horny and ready to have sex, and pay the escort the moment he meets your friend. 

1 hour ago, cany10011 said:

Can you just have your friend pick out the escort, work out the details with the escort directly and then tell you how much it will cost? You can just give the money to your friend before the appointment. 

Bingo!

[adventurous old guy]

20 hours ago, jetlow said:

No my friend would be in the whole thing ( not a surprise visit) .  I would be the one paying tho. A detail I omitted : friend has never hired before. 

So this is how I started many years ago.  My boyfriend then -- husband now -- hired someone for me as a birthday gift because I was on a high stress gig professionally and couldn't be home for the birthday.  He vetted a few guys, talked to the one he thought I'd like, got a good vibe, told him I'd be nervous and asked him to take a call from me.  After that call went well, my boyfriend arranged payment in advance.  The conversations had given the boyfriend enough confidence that the provider wasn't a flake, in fact a very sweet man.  Hope that helps.  it was a peak experience, btw.  Ye gods, 2001 -- 20 years ago!

[cany10011]

My friend took me to the WhyNot Bar in Amsterdam pre 2000s. I as a newbie had never really hired before. The bar functioned as a brothel with guys available milling about the bar and if those did not tickle your fancy, there was an “album” of sorts and you could select a guy and the bartender would call them if they were available to entertain you in the rooms above the bar. My friend offered to treat me to a session and I picked the guy from the catalog, he came and we went upstairs. My friend paid the fee and I had an hour of hot sweaty sex with a cute Dutch guy. I think it was 70 guilders or something like that. 

Miss those days!

[MAFL]

5 hours ago, cany10011 said:

My friend took me to the WhyNot Bar in Amsterdam pre 2000s. I as a newbie had never really hired before. The bar functioned as a brothel with guys available milling about the bar and if those did not tickle your fancy, there was an “album” of sorts and you could select a guy and the bartender would call them if they were available to entertain you in the rooms above the bar. My friend offered to treat me to a session and I picked the guy from the catalog, he came and we went upstairs. My friend paid the fee and I had an hour of hot sweaty sex with a cute Dutch guy. I think it was 70 guilders or something like that. 

Miss those days!

Reminds me of years ago in some NYC 'hustler' bars. Good way to see the person in real life before selecting.

And the album catalogue and upstairs accommodations would be perfect additions. 

I don't suppose anything like this exists or ever could in the U.S.?