Would You Quit?

[RandyVue]

Would you stop being an escort/massuer if a client asked you to move in with him and be exclusive to him if he made sure your needs were met?

[Storm4U]

Yes, I would. This was on the table for me fairly recently and I would’ve done it, but the problem is the guy lives in Palm Springs and its just too hot there for me for nearly half the year. It’s literally over 100 degrees.🥴

Edited August 23, 2021 by Storm4U

[Jamie21]

No. I couldn’t be exclusive. It’s impossible for me. 

[Alexphilly]

Not for me either I like the rush I get doing this , Also I don't want to be anyone's or take on anyone's baggage. I did that once and it worked out well supported me etc etc, but in the end the compatibility disappeared  Because I still wanted to chase that rush again , But we are still good friends I've moved out living on my own not under a contract or agreement I like it this way but that's just me.

Edited August 23, 2021 by Alexphilly

[+ Lucky]

16 hours ago, Smurof said:

I could only see this kind of arrangement working if it was brought forward the other way around. Otherwise, I would feel like I was trapped at all times, and most people don't enjoy being in that kind of situation. 

Most people? I don't know anyone who likes being trapped in an arrangement.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 8/21/2021 at 1:52 PM, Storm4U said:

Yes, I would. This was on the table for me fairly recently and I would’ve done it, but the problem is the guy lives in Palm Springs and its just too hot there for me for nearly half the year. It’s literally over 100 degrees.🥴

lol I been discussing this on Facebook while I’m in Phoenix: A dry 100 degrees in Phoenix/Palm Springs is not the same as a humid 90 degrees in Miami or Orlando. Or even Kansas City for that matter lol. I seen trees from Florida being sold at Home Depot lol. It’s hot, but I notice I don’t sweat as much. And in the shade, the breeze is nice.

However 110 degrees is crazy hot. And the pavement at night, I noticed it would be at 105+ degrees even at 10 p.m. at night. Though not sure it would factor in much on whether I’d accept a lifestyle
 

 

[+ Charlie]

We have to be tough old guys to live in the desert. 😁

[Walker1]

On 8/21/2021 at 3:43 PM, RandyVue said:

Would you stop being an escort/massuer if a client asked you to move in with him and be exclusive to him if he made sure your needs were met?

I am not an escort, but I think it would be subjective? If the client lived in a trailer and feeds you Taco bell and Mcdees-would that mean your needs are met? What if the guy tires of you in two years and asks you to leave? What if escort loses interest in sex and becomes fat and bald?

Edited September 3, 2021 by Walker1

[Lazarus]

53 minutes ago, Walker1 said:

I am not an escort, but I think it would be subjective? If the client lived in a trailer and feeds you Taco bell and Mcdees-would that mean your needs are met? What if the guy tires of you in two years and asks you to leave? What if escort loses interest in sex and becomes fat and bald?

There are worse things that can happen besides becoming fat & bald. 

[LJinSouthFlorida]

So I basically had an arrangement like this for a few years, which is why I had stopped escorting for awhile. It worked well until it didn’t. Long story that has to do with the guy himself, but in the end things ended pretty badly. I wouldn’t do it again. It also never felt like a real romantic relationship and I existed in this weird realm where I wasn’t single but wasn’t emotionally attached to anyone, so it felt pretty lonely a lot of the time.

[RadioRob]

Not an escort, but if an escort asked my advice on it...  I personally would not do it.  However if you're comfortable enough, I would keep a backup plan regardless.  No matter how good things are, and how great you get along...  things can and do change.  Be ready to be able to get out of the current situation quickly (within a day) and be prepared to immediately start taking care of your own needs.  I would also suggest talking about a LOT of things first.  What are your expectations of each other?

• Do you share similar sleep schedules?
• What are expectations around cleaning and interaction around the house?
• How do you interact with each other's friends?  
• Since you're not paying a physical rent check, what are both parties getting and how often?  What happens if that schedule can't be met?  (Sickness, vacation, etc)
• Have you had several overnight sessions with the other person and understand their personality outside of some short encounters?  (The other person could have nervous/bad habits that drive you InSaNe!)

I've had friends/roommates for years...  it's hard to find someone you're actually compatible with, even when it's not coming from a predominantly sexual origination.  If you have to do this, start with a short term (a week or two) agreement first.  Figure out those "devil in the detail" things and decide if it makes sense to continue to explore further.  

 

[Talented]

Been there, done that, story of my life lol I quit so I could just be taken care of by one guy. It’s so much easier and less stressful now not having to worry about if I can eat the next week. And now I get to do the hiring! We’ve been living together for 4 years now. Has its ups and downs but I personally find it better to the alternative. Now I know I’m lucky and most guys would not be able/willing to do this sort of arrangement but it works for us! What can I say? I’m a materialistic bitch! The trips to Europe and my Tesla X are worth the sacrifice of me being poor and with the man of my dreams. Life is constantly changing so I know I’ll have that man someday. I don’t mind the wait. In the meantime I can go shopping and don’t have to look at the price. I can just get whatever I want. 

[Alex93108]

10 hours ago, Talented said:

Been there, done that, story of my life lol I quit so I could just be taken care of by one guy. It’s so much easier and less stressful now not having to worry about if I can eat the next week. And now I get to do the hiring! We’ve been living together for 4 years now. Has its ups and downs but I personally find it better to the alternative. Now I know I’m lucky and most guys would not be able/willing to do this sort of arrangement but it works for us! What can I say? I’m a materialistic bitch! The trips to Europe and my Tesla X are worth the sacrifice of me being poor and with the man of my dreams. Life is constantly changing so I know I’ll have that man someday. I don’t mind the wait. In the meantime I can go shopping and don’t have to look at the price. I can just get whatever I want. 

@Talented You probably then are a more discerning hire than most of us.  My standards are quite high, but you don't quite know the deliverable until after the hire.. I would say the best engage in part acting, part performance theatre, and part endurance sport. It gives me an appreciation for Japanese geisha entertainers, who study for years the art of entertaining . ( without the sexual component ) .   Anyone can fuck,  the ones that shine put on a show, create a fantasy/illusion, and deliver on it, then walk away.  The best then can do it again, and again, and demand an encore performance from a loyal following.

I am diverging here , but It would be curious to know what turns you off a hire, or amateur tell tale signs.

Edited September 14, 2021 by jetlow

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

13 hours ago, Talented said:

Been there, done that, story of my life lol I quit so I could just be taken care of by one guy. It’s so much easier and less stressful now not having to worry about if I can eat the next week. And now I get to do the hiring! We’ve been living together for 4 years now. Has its ups and downs but I personally find it better to the alternative. Now I know I’m lucky and most guys would not be able/willing to do this sort of arrangement but it works for us! What can I say? I’m a materialistic bitch! The trips to Europe and my Tesla X are worth the sacrifice of me being poor and with the man of my dreams. Life is constantly changing so I know I’ll have that man someday. I don’t mind the wait. In the meantime I can go shopping and don’t have to look at the price. I can just get whatever I want. 

A gilded cage is still a cage. 

To be frank, I wouldn't call that lucky.

[Talented]

5 hours ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

A gilded cage is still a cage. 

To be frank, I wouldn't call that lucky.

You’re entitled to your opinion and that’s fine. But I know I’m in a much better position now than I was 5 years ago. My mental state is better. Physical state is better. Haven’t had an std in years! Used to have to go to the clinic a few times a year to get treated for chlamydia or get that shot in your ass for gonorrhea. And I would always felt disgusting for awhile afterwards and it definitely effected my mental health in a negative way. Now I have not had to deal with any of those issues in a long time. And to be clear, it’s not like I’m stuck in a cage. I have an apartment in Brooklyn and can leave anytime I want. I choose to be here. For me, it’s a better life. And I am attracted to him. He just turned 42 and you know that stereotypical saying, “Black don’t crack,” so he does look much younger and has very pretty features. We also have a lot of fun together. That’s one of the reasons why I think I’m lucky because we are probably one of the few pairs that have this arrangement and both equally enjoy it.

[Talented]

9 hours ago, jetlow said:

@Talented You probably then are a more discerning hire than most of us.  My standards are quite high, but you don't quite know the deliverable until after the hire.. I would say the best engage in part acting, part performance theatre, and part endurance sport. It gives me an appreciation for Japanese geisha entertainers, who study for years the art of entertaining . ( without the sexual component ) .   Anyone can fuck,  the ones that shine put on a show, create a fantasy/illusion, and deliver on it, then walk away.  The best then can do it again, and again, and demand an encore performance from a loyal following.

I am diverging here , but It would be curious to know what turns you off a hire, or amateur tell tale signs.

I would like to think I’m discerning 😀 Although I did give one guy the benefit of the doubt and he fooled me with fake pics. So now I’ve learned that I should do a video call to confirm their identity. Yes I would say my standards are high as well. I’m an attractive guy, only 32 but everyone still thinks I’m in my twenties. Just the other day my neighbor asked me if I was in college. I had to laugh and told her I was 32. She was just as surprised as I was when I heard her question lol so I can definitely go on some hookup app and easily find someone but they may not be exactly what I am looking for. I find that if I’m going to hire someone I should get exactly what I want. We should both be happy with the outcome, not just him getting paid and me being left disappointed. Now what turns me off is if they put pnp in their profile. Definitely won’t be meeting them. I know some guys don’t care but I also won’t meet someone without seeing a recent pic of their face and now I learned to just have a quick video chat. But some guys even want to charge for that but it’s seem like most are onboard to do a free quick one to prove they are who they say they are. Although one idiot proved that he was not who he said he was. I highly suspected he was not who he was pretending to be as this guy is sort of famous and is straight. But had to see for myself. Then the asshole tried to tell me he was that guy and that it was just bad lighting lol I couldn’t believe it. There are certainly lots of wackjobs on these sites trying to make a quick buck. I suggest you trust your gut. Never fails me. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

5 hours ago, Talented said:

You’re entitled to your opinion and that’s fine. But I know I’m in a much better position now than I was 5 years ago. My mental state is better. Physical state is better. Haven’t had an std in years! Used to have to go to the clinic a few times a year to get treated for chlamydia or get that shot in your ass for gonorrhea. And I would always felt disgusting for awhile afterwards and it definitely effected my mental health in a negative way. Now I have not had to deal with any of those issues in a long time. And to be clear, it’s not like I’m stuck in a cage. I have an apartment in Brooklyn and can leave anytime I want. I choose to be here. For me, it’s a better life. And I am attracted to him. He just turned 42 and you know that stereotypical saying, “Black don’t crack,” so he does look much younger and has very pretty features. We also have a lot of fun together. That’s one of the reasons why I think I’m lucky because we are probably one of the few pairs that have this arrangement and both equally enjoy it.

Ah, but now you're painting a different picture.

Before, it was how materialistic you are and how being kept played into having everything you wanted.  You were willing to put off love for a Tesla.

Now, you say that escorting made you feel dirty and that your mental health was deteriorating because of it. 

It's easier for me to see why you made the jump...  And I say that with zero judgement. Health is wealth.

I just wish there was less bravado in your initial posts so we could have gotten to the point more quickly.

[+ Coolwave35]

On 9/7/2021 at 10:56 PM, RyanChambers said:

I would definitely…..I was once offered the opportunity of a lifetime and I turned it down…..wasn’t ready for the change in my life at that time but if it was ever offered again I would take it in a snap

You must really be enjoying planning our Hawaii trip if you’re prepared to give up your career to be a kept man. Lol!! 

[Talented]

9 hours ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

Ah, but now you're painting a different picture.

Before, it was how materialistic you are and how being kept played into having everything you wanted.  You were willing to put off love for a Tesla.

Now, you say that escorting made you feel dirty and that your mental health was deteriorating because of it. 

It's easier for me to see why you made the jump...  And I say that with zero judgement. Health is wealth.

I just wish there was less bravado in your initial posts so we could have gotten to the point more quickly.

Never said escorting made me feel dirty!  Also never said escorting deteriorated my mental health. Reading comprehension is key. It was the stds specifically that made me feel disgusted. Bravado?! I don’t need to impress anyone. Gotten to the point more quickly? My point was made in my very first sentence of my post. I quit so that I could just be taken care of by one man. Pretty simple! 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

12 hours ago, Talented said:

Never said escorting made me feel dirty!  Also never said escorting deteriorated my mental health. Reading comprehension is key. It was the stds specifically that made me feel disgusted. Bravado?! I don’t need to impress anyone. Gotten to the point more quickly? My point was made in my very first sentence of my post. I quit so that I could just be taken care of by one man. Pretty simple! 

I'm getting whiplash from this constant vacillation.

 

[Talented]

On 9/15/2021 at 10:53 AM, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

I'm getting whiplash from this constant vacillation.

 

I think you just don’t know how to read. Because I’m not backtracking on anything 

[RadioRob]

Back to the topic or this will be closed.

[Pd1_jap]

On 9/14/2021 at 7:47 PM, Talented said:

Never said escorting made me feel dirty!  Also never said escorting deteriorated my mental health. Reading comprehension is key. It was the stds specifically that made me feel disgusted. Bravado?! I don’t need to impress anyone. Gotten to the point more quickly? My point was made in my very first sentence of my post. I quit so that I could just be taken care of by one man. Pretty simple! 

We all need to chill. Chemistry between two people define the nature of the relationship and the benefits determine the level of comfort. We all walk our own path. If you look too hard and long on another's path you will lose light of your own. 

That being said, I find this thread fascinating. I would love to be taken care of by a Daddy but seeing I'm already in my forties(and fat and bald), I think I missed the boat on that. I'm currently trying to save up enough money so when I retire I can be Daddy for someone. 

Providers, what are the benefits that entice you into being a kept boy? What are the minimum expectations?

[marylander1940]

On 8/21/2021 at 4:43 PM, RandyVue said:

Would you stop being an escort/massuer if a client asked you to move in with him and be exclusive to him if he made sure your needs were met?

 

Depend$!

[Jamie21]

I’m too old to be kept as a boy. My perception is they need to be in their 20’s but I could be wrong. Since working as a provider I’ve learned to assume nothing about the intricacies of human sexuality.

If I was kept, it would need to be on the basis that I’m not exclusive. It’s impossible for me to be monogamous. I need variety and lots of it.

It would also have to be where I can be kept in luxury (I like nice things), intellectually stimulated and where I have the opportunity to indulge my exhibitionist side (filming porn / group sex parties that sort of thing). Oh and continuing to do sensual massage /sex work. So actually it’s my current life (although I’d hope bit more luxurious….swim pool, home gym, cinema room- that sort of thing) but with a keeper to look after me. I’m not bothered what he’s like, any age or look but he must be kind and not do any drugs or drink. If there’s a rich guy out there offering that proposition I’m listening…