Response Time

[The Dude]

Don't you just love when you text a guy and he takes hours to respond, then gets snippy when you've already moved on and made other plans?  How much time do you give a provider to respond until you cut bait and move on?

[Guest Strip4me]

I admit to enjoying a session myself and being pleased that a provider didn’t check their phone during…

So I’d say 3 hours. But I’m curious to hear others’ thoughts.

Edited July 22, 2021 by Strip4me

[lieut_kije]

I once had the following experience. I sent a text to two recommended providers which was descriptive of myself and what I was looking for; you know, some variant on old man wants to enjoy the company of a hot younger man. I politely asked for a response even if they were declining so I could look elsewhere. After about four hours, I got suspicious and tried a naughty experiment. I sent both providers another text from another number with a different scenario: a guy roughly their age with nice stats wants to enjoy their company. I got a response from both in about 15 minutes. I put both on my no-no list. I suppose folks will object to my experiment, but it was educational.

[Luv2play]

3 hours ago, The Dude said:

Don't you just love when you text a guy and he takes hours to respond, then gets snippy when you've already moved on and made other plans?  How much time do you give a provider to respond until you cut bait and move on?

I always undertstood the cut bait part was waiting.😃

[dentjusay]

I guess it depends on when you are planning to meet (within a few hours, days, weeks, or months). If you are looking for someone within the next couple hours, then it should be understandable that you've "moved on" to look for other providers given that they haven't responded. If you're planning a session months in advance, they might feel less inclined to respond quickly versus someone looking to meet within the week, but that's just my opinion.

I've usually booked sessions about a week in advance, and most providers generally respond within two hours of my initial inquiry.

[Hlparx]

Ha.  I reached out via RM to some about meeting up on one of two days last week (Monday or Wednesday).  Both days pass without a response.  He responds on early Monday morning (2:00 a.m.) and says that he may be able to do this upcoming Wednesday.  I message him back at 9:00 a.m.  He hasn't even logged in to check to see if I responded back.

 

Edited July 23, 2021 by Hlparx

[jeezifonly]

Next time my first text will include:

My lead time for meeting never less than 24hrs

What’s yours?

 

[lonely_john]

I tend to be more empathetic because life happens but I apply the WhatsApp principle mixed with the 24hr response time benchmark that most businesses apply nowadays: If my message has double check (delivered and seen) - hence acknowledged - and he doesn't reply until next day, I move on.

[rvwnsd]

Given the very justifiable criticism escorts receive when they check texts and messages during a session I always give a guy 12 - 24 hours to respond. Most guys will respond within a couple of hours. That said, I am rarely looking for "right now" and usually am looking for the next day/next few days Additionally, when texting guys I start out with my name and where I found him. (e.g. "Hi, name's rvwnsd and I'm texting about your RM ad." When they reply I get into more details. It avoids the embarrassing situation of entering a wrong number and asking Sister Mary Chastity about an escort appointment.

[Epigonos]

Depends on how much I want to get together with the guy.  The more interested I am the more time I allow.  I usually plan get togethers quite far in advance thus I usually allow the guy several days to reply.  Since I never do last minute meetings quick replies are not necessary. 

Edited July 23, 2021 by Epigonos

[dbar123]

Figuring that some guys might be in the air flying, I give an 8 hour window...after that I deem them non-responsive and an automatic "no"

 

[mike carey]

9 hours ago, Hlparx said:

He hasn't even logged in to check to see if I responded back.

I wouldn't make that assumption. Yesterday I sent an RM message to a guy in NZ who I've chatted with intermittently about meeting for a while (he was previously in Oz but in a different city, and now, well 'Delta') and he responded within two hours. His RM ad says he last logged in on 31 May. Since then he has also activated his 'Available Now' notice multiple times. So, it's clear they can do stuff without being 'logged in'.

Edited July 23, 2021 by mike carey

[Cliff]

7 hours ago, dbar123 said:

Figuring that some guys might be in the air flying, I give an 8 hour window...after that I deem them non-responsive and an automatic "no"

 

Same

[+ ButchAtl]

Twice recently I have reached out via RentMen app for next day appointment for a specific day and time and received the reply, "Yes, I should  (  italics mine)  be available then."    What?

 I replied immediately to try to confirm it,  only to get a message four hours later that they aren't available at that time.   

[rvwnsd]

5 hours ago, mike carey said:

I wouldn't make that assumption. Yesterday I sent an RM message to a guy in NZ who I've chatted with intermittently about meeting for a while (he was previously in Oz but in a different city, and now, well 'Delta') and he responded within two hours. His RM ad says he last logged in on 31 May. Since then he has also activated his 'Available Now' notice multiple times. So, it's clear they can do stuff without being 'logged in'.

It sounds like the guy was using the RM messenger app. 

[Guest leftbench23]

If I'm looking for same day appointments, I'll message three or four guys at once that catch my eye and see who can fit me in when I want to be seen. 

[Dallas Jayson]

16 minutes ago, leftbench23 said:

If I'm looking for same day appointments, I'll message three or four guys at once that catch my eye and see who can fit me in when I want to be seen. 

I often do this, as well. I think it's funny when guys respond 2 weeks later and get pissy that I ask them, "who is this??"

Escorts are not the only folks who have lives, get busy, and gave things to do!

[Guest Strip4me]

On 7/22/2021 at 10:02 PM, rvwnsd said:

Given the very justifiable criticism escorts receive when they check texts and messages during a session I always give a guy 12 - 24 hours to respond. Most guys will respond within a couple of hours. That said, I am rarely looking for "right now" and usually am looking for the next day/next few days Additionally, when texting guys I start out with my name and where I found him. (e.g. "Hi, name's rvwnsd and I'm texting about your RM ad." When they reply I get into more details. It avoids the embarrassing situation of entering a wrong number and asking Sister Mary Chastity about an escort appointment.

I have to say, I’m leaning toward much more lead time the next time I’m looking. Seems to be better and more organized all around. I’ve mostly only looked for same day. 
 

Patience is a virtue I’m learning 😉

[Jostar]

On 7/23/2021 at 9:38 AM, Dallas Jayson said:

I often do this, as well. I think it's funny when guys respond 2 weeks later and get pissy that I ask them, "who is this??"

Escorts are not the only folks who have lives, get busy, and gave things to do!

You are so right. I had guy respond to me a month later, get angry at me because I said who is this??? 

I'll tell him I already moved on. Like am gonna wait for his sorry ass. Wtf is wrong with these guys like am gonna wait that long for him. 

[Jostar]

Here another one I text a hot dude on last week Friday to set something up on the same day. He text back, we agreed to see each other later the day. I ask him for his location,  no response. I text couple of times nothing. Just ghost me. After that point I moved on. All of sudden he text me back his location yesterday. I didn't bother to reply back. Not wasting my time with someone who doesn't know what he doing. They be a lot of guys on RM that don't take this serious 

[lieut_kije]

Keep in mind that the transmission of a text message can be delayed for various reasons. The carrier (phone company) might not have successfully sent it or the sender lost reception; either way, the message can get delivered much later than when "sent". Text messages can result in real problems, especially when someone proposes a change and gets angry upon arrival because they assumed an agreement exists without receiving an explicit "OK" text response. This is an advantage of a phone conversation - it's real-time and two-way.

[Dallas Jayson]

Unfortunately, I find that very few - nearing zero - providers ever want to chat via phone.

[Jostar]

1 hour ago, Dallas Jayson said:

Unfortunately, I find that very few - nearing zero - providers ever want to chat via phone.

You exactly right. A lot of guys in RM don't do phone calls. A lot of their profile demand only text and message on RM.  

[+ tassojunior]

Catch 22

If a guy is hot and in demand he's busy with clients all day.

If a guy readily responds he doesn't have much business. 

[David1024]

I have never tried to set up a meeting within hours and always make an inquiry at least a day ahead, so a response within a few hours is usually fine. I can usually tell how serious the guy is by his response. Shortly before Covid, I was in Madrid for a few days for work and lined up a great guy from RM for my first night which was an amazing experience.  He was leaving town the next day otherwise I would have booked him again.  The next night I found myself back in my hotel around 9pm and contacted another guy by WhatsApp whom I’d been eyeing to see if I could meet him the following night. He responded within minutes “sorry, I can’t do tomorrow, but I’m available now if you like”. I told him my location and he said he could be there in 20 minutes, leaving me just enough time for a quick douche and shower, followed by a flip-fuck that blew my mind,  barely an hour after sending the first message. Madrid is now one of my favorite cities 😉