Asking those who reviewed for feedback

[Chance]

Newish habit of asking those who have been with an escort to share a little of their experience.  Most always I get decent insights outside of the boilerplate.  Not this time lol 

I hope karma is a real thing 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

While it certainly wasn't the nicest reply, sending an unsolicited message to someone is always risky.

Remember that the cornerstone of this business with many clients is often less is more

[Chance]

12 minutes ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

While it certainly wasn't the nicest reply, sending an unsolicited message to someone is always risky.

Remember that the cornerstone of this business with many clients is often less is more

Not sure what you mean.  Can you elaborate ?  If you post a review with the ability to have someone contact you isn’t it a given that someone might ask you to elaborate ?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

17 minutes ago, Chance said:

Not sure what you mean.  Can you elaborate ?  If you post a review with the ability to have someone contact you isn’t it a given that someone might ask you to elaborate ?

I don't believe you can review on that site without creating a profile, so it's a bit of a double-edge sword if you want privacy.

My main point here was that just because you can doesn't always mean you should. 

That said, I believe that if someone doesn't want to be bothered, the best way to handle it is to not reply at all versus messaging something negative.

Edited July 13, 2021 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, Chance said:

Not sure what you mean.  Can you elaborate ?  If you post a review with the ability to have someone contact you isn’t it a given that someone might ask you to elaborate ?

I suppose we never know how a person is going to react when reaching out - even on this forum at times.  That was a pretty curt response he gave you, but at least he didn't leave you guessing how he felt about being contacted!

[Ghadd]

I've been asked once for more details about a review I left. I didn't have the time to reply right away, but eventually did and everyone was happy. And I've had a few good experiences asking reviewers a bit more details about the escort. It's always understood that it's only if they have the time. Some were more forthcoming than others, while some never replied, which I totally respect.

Replying with "don't waste my time" seems excessively hostile. I mean... who do they think reviews are for?

Edited July 14, 2021 by Ghadd

[HotWhiteThirties]

I've been personally contacted regarding experiences. In all instances - both on this site, RM (when I had a profile there...took it down when the pandemic happened), etc. I can recall replying to each. How I replied was dependent upon how I was approached, but never like the message above. 

However, on more than one occasion- several actually- the party inquiring began acting as if they were owed every detail. Not appreciated, and I quit responding. Quite a few of those got pervy looking at my pics and a provider's pics and started hounding for details to get off and trying to imagine our "encounter." Shut that down pretty fast. Not totally the same, I know, but these experiences actually helped me understand a little how providers might feel sometimes when folks are just "fantasizing."

Bottomline, it all depended on the approach of the person asking. Expecting multiple messages was annoying. One reply and a follow up should do it. I assume you asked nicely, and if so, the response was that of a jerk, but lots of folks are, and as pointed out, is a hazard of asking. 

Edited July 14, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties
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[+ MysticMenace]

same with @HotWhiteThirties. I am pretty generous with my feedback to those who ask nicely or politely. but rude folks that reach out via RM messenger will just have to see that I have read their message without a reply (if not blocked).

[shawshini]

I was recently contacted by no less then 5 guys after leaving a review on RM. First time hiring, so it was a little jarring, but I didn’t mind responding.  One pushed for quite a few details, including the rate, but I just kept my response positive (it was a VERY good experience), and vague.  I didn’t feel comfortable sharing the rate, but again, it was my first time, so not sure if that’s commonly done.

Edited July 14, 2021 by jtmick
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[HotWhiteThirties]

21 minutes ago, jtmick said:

I was recently contacted by no less then 5 guys after leaving a review on RM. First time hiring, so it was a little jarring, but I didn’t mind responding.  One pushed for quite a few details, including the rate, but I just kept my response positive (it was a VERY good experience), and vague.  I didn’t feel comfortable sharing the rate, but again, it was my first time, so not sure if that’s commonly done.

Sounds like you did well. 

I have usually kept rates and extensive details private. Out of respect to the other party involved, I refrain from sharing details that they don't openly indicate they do...if any...and in some instances the rate was different for one reason or another and consequently prefer leaving those details out and not put them in an awkward position. Rates change and since I prefer longer engagements, it was often different. Those are questions for provider to answer directly is my thought.

Questions like would you repeat? Did he look like his pictures? Was he welcoming and accommodating? Did he do the things you requested? Was there anything negative that you are willing to share that would keep you from repeating. Those are examples of questions that are well in bounds. 

[+ RJD]

1 hour ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

Sounds like you did well. 

I have usually kept rates and extensive details private. Out of respect to the other party involved, I refrain from sharing details that they don't openly indicate they do...if any...and in some instances the rate was different for one reason or another and consequently prefer leaving those details out and not put them in an awkward position. Rates change and since I prefer longer engagements, it was often different. Those are questions for provider to answer directly is my thought.

Questions like would you repeat? Did he look like his pictures? Was he welcoming and accommodating? Did he do the things you requested? Was there anything negative that you are willing to share that would keep you from repeating. Those are examples of questions that are well in bounds. 

Same here.  I’ve been contacted on RM and this site about guys I’ve hired.  I’ll reply, “what do you want to know?” and let them ask questions.  I’ll answer those with which I’m comfortable.   I won’t divulge graphic details and when asked about rates I simply tell them they should discuss that with the provider.  I pretty much stick to a few regulars.  I don’t want to create an awkward situation for them if they’re providing me with a lower rate for my repeat business.  

[dbar123]

I never mind being contacted. It often catalyze some of the most interesting conversations with random strangers 

[+ keroscenefire]

I've started to copy and paste responses about specific guys that I get asked about over and over. Weirdly it always seems to be exactly two and it always seems to be the same questions: "Does he look like his photos?" and "What was the experience like?" It's rarely any more specific or varied than that.

[rvwnsd]

I've asked reviewers for feedback several times and they've always been very friendly and willing to share. Every time I've been asked for feedback (save for one time) I do the same.

That one time I did not share feedback was on RM. The guy asking for feedback was a little creepy and rather aggressive. My reply was "thanks for reaching out but I prefer the details of appointments to remain private."

[BaronArtz]

On this forum, I don't mind responding to inquiries from established posters.  If the inquiry is rude, intrusive or from a total newbie ... sorry, no response.  

[lonely_john]

21 hours ago, Chance said:

Newish habit of asking those who have been with an escort to share a little of their experience.  Most always I get decent insights outside of the boilerplate.  Not this time lol 

I hope karma is a real thing 

If this negative answer came right after your 1st message, it was uncalled for. If it came after your 5th question, it was completely appropriate.

[Kippy]

Cuts down on the washline gossip!

 

 

[BuffaloKyle]

I believe I've only contacted guys who have left a negative review so I can hear exactly why and all but once have I gotten a reply back. I always ask politely as well. Saying I hope you don't find this message to be bothersome or an intrusion on your privacy but I'd like to know about the negative review you left for so and so. 

[Guest davebk]

When I hear from people who are asking something specific, I always try to answer it, because I find that helpful sometimes.  For example "it says he kisses - is that something you guys got into a lot, it's important to me?"  I know they want the best experience and many providers will say they do some things but not really be into it.  So in those cases, I try to give a pretty specific answer and help them make a good decision.

The whole "give me the Penthouse Letters narrative" I tend to avoid because every experience is different.  For example, suppose I was really into ws and I tell him in great detail how the provider hosed me off and left it to dry, marking me with his scent like a dirty pig, and that's something I really wanted.  And the new client has no interest.  The provider might have done that because I asked, not because it is something he normally does, and it might make the new client shy away from the provider.  In that case, the provider did something to make it especially hot for me, but might actually cause the new client to walk away from the provider without reason.  You know, uh, just as an example.

[Jimjaxon3]

I have always tried to respond and answer as much as I can. I feel it helps the renter and the escort .. if what I say can help them make a decision and have a more + experience that helps both . I have also helped when I left neg reviews because is something was off with an escort it would be helpful to know before making contact. 
 

unfortunately, I’d say it’s 50/50 if I get a response back from other clients on RM. it ticks me off because I think .. can’t take 5 mins to help me out. But oh well .. is what it is 

[+ luckydog]

I have received inquiries and the people asking have always been nice and appreciative for feedback on my experiences.  I’ve actually had a few really good back and forth conversations with some where we both shared beyond the initial question.  I also figure part of my leaving a good review on RM is for the benefit of the provider, so if I can provide feedback to help them get more clients because they are worthy then happy to do so.  

[Epigonos]

The review part of this site became worthless, in my opinion,  several years ago, thus I stopped submitting reviews.  I now simply post a very brief statement in the Deli along the line of - "Had an outstanding get together with x.  If anybody would like more information P.M. me".  If someone contacts me I put together a rather detailed report of my experience and send it.  I save the report and if others P.M. me I simply send them a copy.  Over the last few years I have answered dozens of approaches in this manner and don't mind them in the least. 

Edited July 15, 2021 by Epigonos