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How in the world could anyone answer the OP's question? Finding love can happen anywhere. Looking for an Asian, it would increase the odds to look in an Asian city, or a place with a strong Asian population. But what would make the spark does not depend on the city, but the individuals.

Anyway, I found mine in San Francisco.

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I want to express a caution, here!!

 

Some Asian men are looking for a way to improve their life, and a man with money will be a way out of poverty for them. I totally understand their motivation.

 

If its a true love match, I say go for it. But be very cautious.

 

I would suggest that you look in cities where professional men gather, like Singapore, Tokyo or Taipei. Or even in cities in your country where AsIan gay men gather in larger numbers. I would avoid places like Bangkok, Bali, HCMC!!

 

Maybe join some Asian gay groups, and go from there.

 

But do guard your credit cards, bank accounts etc, until you have a very clear understanding of your partners values. A pre nup is a good idea.

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Why is it that suggesting an Asian boyfriend brings up calls to watch your wallet? Yes, we have set up a system in Asia, mainly Thailand, where Asian men who would otherwise not get near you will have sex with you for money. That's the deal and you subscribe to it when and if you enter the market.

But to suggest that Asian men in general are out for your money is no truer than any other group of people. Eastern European? Hispanic? White? They all have gold diggers, but they are not the dominant representatives.

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Why is it that suggesting an Asian boyfriend brings up calls to watch your wallet? Yes, we have set up a system in Asia, mainly Thailand, where Asian men who would otherwise not get near you will have sex with you for money. That's the deal and you subscribe to it when and if you enter the market.

But to suggest that Asian men in general are out for your money is no truer than any other group of people. Eastern European? Hispanic? White? They all have gold diggers, but they are not the dominant representatives.

There has been countless stories on this and other gay forums of Westerners who have visited countries like Thailand, the Phillipines, Morocco, Brazil seeking true “love” and have found true grief. There is not the slightest suggestion on my part that Asian men that you meet in a Western country are automatically after your money. Compatibility, mutual interests, attraction are the basis for long term relationships and race has nothing to do with it.

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There has been countless stories on this and other gay forums of Westerners who have visited countries like Thailand, the Phillipines, Morocco, Brazil seeking true “love” and have found true grief. There is not the slightest suggestion on my part that Asian men "that you meet in a Western country" are automatically after your money. Compatibility, mutual interests, attraction are the basis for long term relationships and race has nothing to do with it. (subquotes added)

But, Asian men that you meet in Asia are all after your money?

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But, Asian men that you meet in Asia are all after your money?

I have told numerous stories (as have others) on other threads relating to rip offs by boys in Asian countries so I won't repeat myself here. I'm not saying that it may be possible to find a meaningful relationship, I know of one from my circle of acquaintances. Mind you he's a mega mega millionaire which has help sustain an 18 year relationship not withstanding a 30 odd year age difference.

A final word. Farang (foreigners) are not known in Thailand as walking ATM's for nothing.

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I live in Australia and most of the gold diggers here are from Asia. Due to our geography we see very few Eastern European or Hispanic people.

 

Gold diggers can exist in any form!!

 

The OP asked about how he could start a relationship with a man from Asia, so commenting on the perils that could occur is relevant.

 

If anyone took my comments as being racist, they certainly are not.

 

As a gay man who has been judged and badly treated by prejudice for 60 years, (as i am sure many on here have), i judge people by one criteria. “How do they treat me?” when i meet someone new I treat them with respect and dignity, if they act that way towards me, then it continues, if they back stab me or treat me dishonourably then I judge them accordingly.

 

I have met some beautiful men in Asia, who just wanted to spend time with me, for the joy they found in me, maybe it was my bear body or my blonde hair that they loved, and those memories are wonderful.

 

However many men in Asia are looking for improvement to their world. I have seen so many people bring a new lover from Asia to Australia, pay all their expenses, and just to be ripped off, the partner is out playing around when their relationship is not open, and it all ends badly.

 

So i was just saying exercise caution.

 

Life is Asia is different and more difficult that in the west, so many people see trading sex for a lifestyle improvement as a valid transaction. Its when one partner has different expectations that issues arise.

 

We have a home in Bali, which we greatly enjoyed before Covid, and hope to enjoy again when we can travel again, ( our borders are closed, we need permits (hard to get) to exist and permits to re enter then do quarantine at a cost of $4K,) but I know that most Balinese see us as walking ATM.

 

When you spend what they earn in a month on a single nice meal, or some shopping its normal for the jealousy or envy to exist.

 

I can remember many years ago, I wear a Cartier fragrance, as my signature smell, it retailed in Sydney for around $550 a bottle, so I buy it when I am in Asia. I walked into a department store in Bali, I saw it, saw the price was 880,000 rupiah, which is about $88 AUD, so I asked how many bottles they had, 6 was the answer, could I please purchase all 6 bottles, The response was do you know how expensive that is Sir, yes that’s fine. So in that one transaction i paid, the equivalent of about 5 months income to the shop assistant, but to me it was a saving of at least $2500. Its all relative.

 

I am sure I was much talked about not just in the store but in their families and friends. What the locals do not grasp is that we work hard to travel and have international holidays, at that stage of my life i was working 6 x 12 hr shifts a fortnight, as standard employment, and most fortnight’s i was working 3 x 12 hr overtime shifts, so I just worked, slept and counting the $$. Hence when we went away we shopped, clothes, shoes, etc, but the locals could not grasp that, they just saw us as rich people with plenty of money.

 

the rent boy scene in Bali is full of boys from all over Indonesia, they charge 600 000 rupiah for an overnight, you met them in the bars, but in those days the monthly income was about 1 million a month, its about 3 times that now, so they were living well. For us to buy a hot man for the night for $60 was nothing, so we do get the reputation for being walking ATM.

 

I hope the OP finds the love of his life and he does not get ripped off, hopefully our suggestions which come from a place of love and concern are considered and assessed in the spirit they are given

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Gold-diggers are everywhere -- even here in the USA! I have friends in Brazil, India, and Philippines who are gay locals there and tell me their dating pool for LTRs tends to be tiny there compared to what they see in the US or other western countries. I met all of them here in the US while they were getting their MBA here.

One friend even told me he prefers to date gay men who live in the same neighborhood as he does so at least they're both in the same socioeconomic class.

Anyways, love is love and I hope you find what you're looking for, V-Vhitner!

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If you're looking for a boyfriend it probably makes sense to find one where you live, not going to Asia to snatch one off the street for a whole host of reasons.

 

Where I live (Washington, DC) there's a fairly active group for Asian men and their admirers. But from what I understand there is a lot of stigma. Lots of socially awkward older white men looking for twinky Asian boys. But relationships do form. I also know several Asian guys who have white partners including a pair of doctors. I think finding some one in your socioeconomic class as noted above is probably key to something that lasts.

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Just get on some apps in your own city. A lot of asian guys love older white guys. When I was in my 40s I was messing around with three different asian college students. And none of them wanted anything money wise.

 

If you are in good shape and generous you should have no issues finding someone. I sure wouldn't look overseas for something permanent. Too many issues bringing them back here to live and you are putting a lot at risk.

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On 1/18/2021 at 6:03 PM, sydneyboy said:

An older fit daddy will have no difficulty in finding a beautiful young Asian husband who will bleed him dry. The internet is full of stories by naive Westerners seeking “love” in Asian countries. I know a few from my own circle of acquaintances.

Where are those Western men meeting Asian guys in Asia? Rentmen? Other escort sites? Massage spas or adverts? On the beach? 

When I travel to Asia, I meet people through friends or activities. At concerts. On campuses. You can even meet people at the food courts which are everywhere. Chances are I'm not going to find a sugar baby if I learn first about their family, occupation, education, etc. If someone from the Philippines or Ghana or anywhere else contacts me out of the blue on Romeo or another meetup site, I pretty much know they're a gold digger. 

Western men who look only in the wrong places are going to find the "wrong" boyfriends. 

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On 1/24/2021 at 3:47 PM, sydneyboy said:

I have told numerous stories (as have others) on other threads relating to rip offs by boys in Asian countries... 

Your sample size is minuscule. It also consists of anecdotes rather than data.

Why do you think you haven't told us anything about the much more numerous stories of Western-Asian couples (who met in Asian cities) that are not in Sugar Daddy relationships -- and never have been? 

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