Sugar daddy help

[muscles30]

Need some help, my boyfriend has a sugar daddy, and my bf has changed and is acting very spoiled, I’ve noticed it and others have noticed it, how do I tell him with out starting a war??

[+ sniper]

Short answer: you can't. What are you getting out of this arrangement?

[cany10011]

Did your bf tell you he has a sugar daddy? Is yours an open relationship? Are there any boundaries to what you two can do? Would be important to have a discussion.

[Xavitv]

DM the sugar daddy info and I’ll replace your bf

[caliguy]

Need some help, my boyfriend has a sugar daddy, and my bf has changed and is acting very spoiled, I’ve noticed it and others have noticed it, how do I tell him with out starting a war??

Is this actually real or an opening for a joke? Lol

[marylander1940]

Need some help, my boyfriend has a sugar daddy, and my bf has changed and is acting very spoiled, I’ve noticed it and others have noticed it, how do I tell him with out starting a war??

 

do you mind him having a sugar daddy or his attitude? What truly bothers you?

 

Do you get any benefit$ from him having a sugar daddy?

[+ Charlie]

Perhaps you should ask "Dear Abby."

[+ bigjoey]

Best advice for dealing with sugar daddies:

I posted Ethel Merman’s version rather than Carol Channing’s for @WilliamM who likes Ethel.

[+ WilliamM]

Wouldn't "My Heart Belongs to Daddy" by Mary Martin" be appropriate as well. The song made Ms. Martin a Broadway star on opening night of the musical "Leave it to Me"

[EastbayMike]

Dump him! Then sabotage his relationship with the sugar daddy. Once their relationship ends, offer the sugar daddy your shoulder to cry on. Slowly start spending more time with him and offer occassional simple gifts "just because." Soon the sugar daddy will be all yours!

[+ WilliamM]

Best advice for dealing with sugar daddies:

I posted Ethel Merman’s version rather than Carol Channing’s for @WilliamM who likes Ethel.

Believe me, if you had seen Ethel Merman in "Gypsy" you would have respected her too. Mary was more likeable, but not always.

[Cooper]

@muscles30. One thing I can tell you about a sugar daddy relationship is that they don’t last too long. So, if you don’t want to start a “war” with your bf, just be patient, this too shall pass.

[+ friendofsheila]

Need some help, my boyfriend has a sugar daddy, and my bf has changed and is acting very spoiled, I’ve noticed it and others have noticed it, how do I tell him with out starting a war??

 

I think it's impossible to tell someone they've changed for the worse without starting a war.

 

Like: "Honey, you're too fat now."

 

It IS possible to react to specific things, though:

 

"Honey, I don't feel like sex now."

Said often enough, it might start a conversation about how YOUR sex drive has changed. "Well, back then you were slim and I found that sexy."

[CalTec]

@muscles30 How long have you both been together in relation to the SD? Is this his first SD? Does he come from money or not so much?

A while back I was with a boy who didn't come from much but could have easily signed a lucrative contract with porn studios...he just didn't know it/have the confidence. His SD flew out to visit him, go out shopping daily (he even bought me stuff when I hosted him in my condo). For some, especially those new to the concept, SD's instill confidence and worth...to a point. It's a slippery slope, but if you truly care about him, let it run its course and if it's meant to be he will see you as the rock and SD's as transient but pleasurable blips ?

[JayCeeKy]

You're not in charge of your BF's behavior or the Sugar Daddy's behavior, just your own behavior. You can share with BF how his new behavior makes YOU feel (be specific, give recent examples, don't do archaeological digs by bringing up ancient history) - use "I statements" not accusatory "You statements" - and stick to facts, not mind-reading or conjecture. Maybe he is unaware of how his behavior is affecting you. Whether he chooses to make changes or not it's HIS decision. If he doesn't change, then you must decide whether you can accept this new behavior, or make your own changes, including whether to continue the relationship. Usually, changing your own behavior will cause your partner to make changes also. Having done couple counseling for many years, I had waaay too many folks drag a partner into therapy and say "Here, change him, make him act like I want." It doesn't work that way.