Let Me Make It Up To You

[Cestmoi]

Would love some perspective here —

 

Last night, I was traveling and hired a guy who had several good reviews on RM. He came over and we immediately got down to business. And though I tried to control the flow, his pace of fun prevailed and within twenty minutes he got out of bed and was ready to get dressed again. I told him he didn’t have to go and he came back to bed, laid there for another 10 minutes or so and then left. He was a really nice guy, sweet, but because he was so eager to get out of there, I felt like his heart wasn’t really in it.

 

This morning, I log onto RM and leave a middling review, writing nice things about him in the comments, but saying I wouldn’t rehire. A couple hours later, I get a text from him asking if I left that review and why I’d thought that because he thought we’d had a nice time. I told him I was discouraged by how quickly he wanted to leave. (In total, he was in my hotel room for probably less than 35 minutes.) He explained most of his clients want him gone after climax, so he assumed I was that way. (I pointed out that I asked him to come back to bed and that should be proof I didn’t want him to leave, but that piece got lost.)

 

He then offered to make it up to me if I could come see him this afternoon. We went back and forth a bit because I wasn’t really sure it was worth my time. Then I had a weird feeling about the exchange because in my mind, “let me make it up to you” implied fault and he was gonna try and fix it as good customer service. However, after a couple more texts, I realized he wanted me to come over for a second session and expected me to pay his going rate. I told him I wasn’t interested; he then offered to do it for half. At that point, I told him I was disappointed in the previous night’s experience and I had no desire to pay more for another session that could possibly turn out exactly like the first. That was the end of it.

 

The further I’ve gotten away from this, the more I feel like the guy was trying to use me. Am I wrong to be miffed that he offered to make it up to me, but expected me to pay for that “apology?” It’s possible I’m blowing this way out of proportion, but would love an expert’s POV.

[+ nycman]

Too many fish in the sea....just move on.

[+ MysticMenace]

I told him he didn’t have to go and he came back to bed, laid there for another 10 minutes or so and then left.

 

This has happened to me before and has become one of my lessons learned as a client.

If the experience is not going as intended (e.g., your non-negotiable minimum requirements are not met), depending on the situation (safety, appetite for repeating the experience) and comfort-level, discuss the feedback with the provider during the session. As well intended the communications might have been, there could have still been disconnects, and being upfront gives the provider the opportunity to course-correct or agree with the feedback.

 

I would not, however, pay additional fees for him "making it up to you." I guess it could be compared to most service providers, you initially paid for the service, there were issues with the service rendered - most people do not "pay again" to fix the mistake or shortcomings of that service provider. It probably would be best to just move on if he is asking for more money, but going forward, suggest to be more direct with the feedback (i.e., would like for you to stay for the rest of the 25 minutes with me) or have that expectation clearly established during initial contact. Hope that helps.

[+ poolboy48220]

I've never had that. I did text one provider after a lackluster session asking if all had been all right, his reply indicated he didn't see anything off with the session. Closest I've come to this is a provider who missed a session, he'd mixed up the dates, and offered me a discount if we could meet the next day.

[dbar123]

Maybe it’s selfish on my part but if I can’t leave a 5 star review then I won’t leave any review at all.

[coriolis888]

 

 

Would love some perspective here —

 

Last night, I was traveling and hired a guy who had several good reviews on RM. He came over and we immediately got down to business. And though I tried to control the flow, his pace of fun prevailed and within twenty minutes he got out of bed and was ready to get dressed again. I told him he didn’t have to go and he came back to bed, laid there for another 10 minutes or so and then left. He was a really nice guy, sweet, but because he was so eager to get out of there, I felt like his heart wasn’t really in it.

 

This morning, I log onto RM and leave a middling review, writing nice things about him in the comments, but saying I wouldn’t rehire. A couple hours later, I get a text from him asking if I left that review and why I’d thought that because he thought we’d had a nice time. I told him I was discouraged by how quickly he wanted to leave. (In total, he was in my hotel room for probably less than 35 minutes.) He explained most of his clients want him gone after climax, so he assumed I was that way. (I pointed out that I asked him to come back to bed and that should be proof I didn’t want him to leave, but that piece got lost.)

 

He then offered to make it up to me if I could come see him this afternoon. We went back and forth a bit because I wasn’t really sure it was worth my time. Then I had a weird feeling about the exchange because in my mind, “let me make it up to you” implied fault and he was gonna try and fix it as good customer service. However, after a couple more texts, I realized he wanted me to come over for a second session and expected me to pay his going rate. I told him I wasn’t interested; he then offered to do it for half. At that point, I told him I was disappointed in the previous night’s experience and I had no desire to pay more for another session that could possibly turn out exactly like the first. That was the end of it.

 

The further I’ve gotten away from this, the more I feel like the guy was trying to use me. Am I wrong to be miffed that he offered to make it up to me, but expected me to pay for that “apology?” It’s possible I’m blowing this way out of proportion, but would love an expert’s POV.

 

 

There is an old expression that fits the facts as you described them:

 

You Have Only One Chance to Make a Good First Impression

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Would love some perspective here —

 

Last night, I was traveling and hired a guy who had several good reviews on RM. He came over and we immediately got down to business. And though I tried to control the flow, his pace of fun prevailed and within twenty minutes he got out of bed and was ready to get dressed again. I told him he didn’t have to go and he came back to bed, laid there for another 10 minutes or so and then left. He was a really nice guy, sweet, but because he was so eager to get out of there, I felt like his heart wasn’t really in it.

 

This morning, I log onto RM and leave a middling review, writing nice things about him in the comments, but saying I wouldn’t rehire. A couple hours later, I get a text from him asking if I left that review and why I’d thought that because he thought we’d had a nice time. I told him I was discouraged by how quickly he wanted to leave. (In total, he was in my hotel room for probably less than 35 minutes.) He explained most of his clients want him gone after climax, so he assumed I was that way. (I pointed out that I asked him to come back to bed and that should be proof I didn’t want him to leave, but that piece got lost.)

 

He then offered to make it up to me if I could come see him this afternoon. We went back and forth a bit because I wasn’t really sure it was worth my time. Then I had a weird feeling about the exchange because in my mind, “let me make it up to you” implied fault and he was gonna try and fix it as good customer service. However, after a couple more texts, I realized he wanted me to come over for a second session and expected me to pay his going rate. I told him I wasn’t interested; he then offered to do it for half. At that point, I told him I was disappointed in the previous night’s experience and I had no desire to pay more for another session that could possibly turn out exactly like the first. That was the end of it.

 

The further I’ve gotten away from this, the more I feel like the guy was trying to use me. Am I wrong to be miffed that he offered to make it up to me, but expected me to pay for that “apology?” It’s possible I’m blowing this way out of proportion, but would love an expert’s POV.

 

You got screwed. Unless you want someone to be "in charge," you should be in charge and your escort will respect that you are in charge. Neither side likes a ticking clock, but c'mon. His version of customer service is like when you leave a shitty review for a hotel and instead of doing anything meaningful about it the manager posts "well we hope you'll give us a second chance the next time you're in town." Over time, the mediocre review will cost him thousands of dollars in appointments, because if I know one thing that's true about escorting: clients read reviews and hire based off them.