Busting One's Nuts During Anal...Is it for Everyone?

[+ MysticMenace]

Asking for a friend

 

My friend has always thought cumming while getting fucked is hot, but for some reason, it has not happened to him yet. So he asks:

• Is it as good or better than it looks? How is it different, if it is, from a business-as-usual jerk off?
  
• What could potentially impede my friend's ability to bust his nuts while getting fucked? Is it just performance anxiety, the provider's tool is not hitting the spot, or is it something else?
  
• What tips, if any, can my friend apply to increase his chances of this happening to him?
  
• Could this happen to everyone, or should my friend just accept that this may not happen to him and to find other ways to enjoy himself?
  

[big-n-tall]

- I usually have intense orgasms topping (I mostly top), bottoming, or going solo? So, I can’t say if it’s any different or better. I will say I have had tops really get turned on that I orgasm while they top me. However, it’s not because of them solely. I have to jerk off to cum while bottoming. For me, it just doesn’t happen from bottoming without manual stimulation.

 

- Some people just aren’t wired to cum from bottoming. Just like some people get really turned on from nip play and can actually cum from that and others hate their nipples played with. So it could be physical and there is nothing much he can do about that as far as I know. It could also be a mental thing. That he wants to orgasm while being fucked so very much that it’s always a thought in his head. Which, ultimately makes it an impediment to it happening. Also I hope your friend isn’t using porn as an example/guide as to how things will or should happen in a live session. A lot of times the scenes are edited to seem as though the bottom is cumming from anal stimulation solely. Hell, some of the tops can’t cum from strictly topping. Lol!!

 

- The best thing I can suggest is to try not to think about it. Let go and enjoy the session. At the very least he can jerk off while bottoming and that may help the situation. I don’t know if your friend already does or not.

 

- To reiterate not everyone is wired the same. We get turned on by different things. Just because one particular person can cum from strictly bottoming doesn’t mean everyone will be able to. He should enjoy the moment and stop stressing over something that may or may not be achievable for him.

 

I hope that helps.

[Chad Constantine]

Only happened a handful of times for me. When it has happened doesn't feel any different really for me. When Im on the edge is when it sucks because if it doesn't happen then I just can't cum until I cool down. The only time it felt insane was for some reason my dick shriveled up without cuming so the top started jerking me off and it felt like the feeling you get if you keep jerking off after you cum.

 

Wish I had tips but have no idea I am assuming it would be based on the curvature and positioning.

[+ Lucky]

It sometimes amazes me what topics people think up.

[Daverwr]

Remembering the past, I’d “bust one’s nut” a couple of times while bottoming. I can’t tell you what caused it to happen, but it was great when it did.

[+ Reisr30]

When I was able to bottom I usually came while getting pounded. It was an amazing feeling; I really miss bottoming

[+ Yellowrod]

I rarely bottom now and do miss the rush of the no hands orgasm when my ex was deep inside. The best is when my contractions got him to bust his nut deep inside me.

[PetetKsfo]

I can go in both directions. Sometimes when bottoming, my erection will diminish as my sexual energy is focused on my butt and on the cock of the guy I am with - working to get him to cum.

 

But occasionally I will cum while getting fucked. Usually it will be while the guy I am with is on his back and I am riding his cock and then shoot my load all over his chest.

Edited December 6, 2020 by PeterMxM

[Mjonis]

I've been able to cum a few times just from the anal. It helps if I've edged quite a bit beforehand. Also, gotta hit the prostate just right, IMO. It feels totally amazing though when it happens.

[Danny-Darko]

The only times I was able to cum from anal was when I was young and in love with a bf. I'd jack myself to orgasm while he was in me missionary position while he was on top in me and kissing me. Key factor for me was "young and in love". ? I've always envied guys who can come from getting fucked.

[Caliboy95]

I can cum hands free while bottoming almost every time. I say “almost” because there were a few times where something happened during sex that killed the mood for me. Otherwise, I have no problem cumming.

[prof]

I can cum hands free while bottoming almost every time. I say “almost” because there were a few times where something happened during sex that killed the mood for me. Otherwise, I have no problem cumming.

Ah, to be 25 again. Enjoy it!

[NikoLeto]

- Some people just aren’t wired to cum from bottoming. Just like some people get really turned on from nip play and can actually cum from that and others hate their nipples played with. So it could be physical and there is nothing much he can do about that as far as I know. It could also be a mental thing. That he wants to orgasm while being fucked so very much that it’s always a thought in his head. Which, ultimately makes it an impediment to it happening.

 

I've had several experiences where I could feel that I was REALLY close to getting off, but with a dick in me, it just doesn't happen. Interestingly, it's almost better if the top is just playing with my asshole itself, and not penetrating. That seems to be the most successful when another person is involved and I'm the bottom.

 

As a top, I can usually get off fine. Sometimes the anatomy of the bottom just doesn't jive with my dick and I have to finish myself manually, but it's infrequent.

 

I've found that my orgasms are at least 50% mental. I have a little fantasy that I play out in my head when I want to 'focus on me' and orgasm.

 

Still chasing after that hands-free orgasm. At this time, I've been the cause of more than a dozen, but never had one myself. /lament

[jeezifonly]

Time changes these things in us. I rarely got fucked without coming, for like, ever. But in the last few years in spite of the enjoyment of the penetration it sometimes doesn’t align.

I’ve known my share+ of great synchronicity in this department over the years, and am grateful that my past “enthusiasm” for it didn’t kill me. Yet.

[+ Lucky]

The top gets extra pleasure when the bottom comes. The orgasm helps the bottom squeeze the top.

Of course, I have only read about it.

[Guest]

Always interested in hearing everyone's experiences. Most of my life I've been the top, and I always felt selfish if I came before the bottom. When I bottom I can cum pretty easily especially if it's missionary and the top is rubbing against my cock. And when I cum I get super sensitive and can't bottom anymore.

[+ keroscenefire]

I cum pretty easily being fucked...I consider them basically the hottest, best orgasms I can get. Pretty much this is always what I try to go for when I meet with guys.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

As a top, my finish-line is based on whatever motivation the bottom gives me. There's a lot of gray area between being a considerate, caring, gentle top and being a dominant top who's just looking to pound out a hole and get his nut.

 

As a bottom, I cum each and every time. Without fail.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

As a top, my finish-line is based on whatever motivation the bottom gives me. There's a lot of gray area between being a considerate, caring, gentle top and being a dominant top who's just looking to pound out a hole and get his nut.

 

As a bottom, I cum each and every time. Without fail.

[+ MysticMenace]

Thank you everyone for the thoughts, experiences, and insights. My friend is enlightened .

[TruthBTold]

If I bottom, I like the top to cum in me. It takes some calibration for that to happen however because all tops are not the same in what gets them there. Usually there is a lot of kissing throughout. Most times I cum first by jerking off as he fucked me. That will either get him to cum pretty quickly or I will play with his nips or grab his ass and kiss him until he breeds me. That is the ideal.

[orville]

After pulling out, sure why not?

Inside? It's a mix of PrEP and TRUST.

[jeezifonly]

...My friend is enlightened .

Fuck your friend, Joe.

 

No, really.

 

Fuck him hard and get real time reporting..

 

And maybe someday you’ll bottom yourself, and get to see what all the fuss is about.

[thickornotatall]

The only times I was able to cum from anal was when I was young and in love with a bf. I'd jack myself to orgasm while he was in me missionary position while he was on top in me and kissing me. Key factor for me was "young and in love". ? I've always envied guys who can come from getting fucked.

Same for me...I loved my bf so much...he fucked me every day...I insisted!..me on top for full control...he was a very sexy bad boy...with a very dirty mind...I was young..naive and under his spell...He worked for Andy Warhols Interview Magazine and took me to wild places..He screwed me in the lobby of A&P on Christopher St..we both came standing up..

[+ JEC]

For clarity's sake, are you talking about cumming "hands free"? As a top I can tell you this is a major turn on for me if that happens, it means the chemistry is incredible

Edited October 28, 2020 by JEC