Jump to content

Is it really that hard?


xyz48B
This topic is 1262 days old and is no longer open for new replies.  Replies are automatically disabled after two years of inactivity.  Please create a new topic instead of posting here.  

Recommended Posts

Is it really that hard for an escort to answer you with a “I’m not interested in providing what you’re looking for?” So much fucking ghosting...Particularly on RM messenger.

 

They ask you what you’re looking for. You tell them. You ask them, professionally, to tell you one way or another if they’re interested. And you then see they’ve read the message, and hours have gone by since they’ve logged in, but they never respond. Clearly they’ not interested, but it’s a pattern. Not interested in providing that? Don’t even fucking bother to say so. Ignore.

 

This ghosting thing is a phenomenon I see among many about 27 and under. Just ignore whatever you don’t feel like dealing with. It doesn’t even have to be escorting. Just in general.

 

God – I sound like an old man. But courtesy seems to suggest that if you’re in business, you’d want to cultivate a good image, even among those who you don’t want to hire you. I can say that if and when I see the name of a particular provider who’s ignored/ghosted me come up here, I’ll be sure to relay how poor communication was. Bad for business.

 

tenor.gif?itemid=11617228

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Replies 36
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

Top Posters In This Topic

Just because it’s happening doesn’t make it good – nor does it mean it should stay. I was just talking with my friend yesterday about ghosting. As you say, probably here to stay, at least for a generation. In 60 years time we’ll have a bunch of geezers who won’t respond to anything anyone says to them unless they see an immediate payout. The new, younger generation might respond however with accountability. One can hope...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

this is a huge issue with many, as stated under 27. i have a regular that is a really nice guy. he starts a short text conversation with a question. i reply, ask a question or so back and then many times silence from him. i have even asked in person why this is the case and i get the answer "yeah my parents say the same thing. i really need to work on it. i much prefer talking on the phone than texting." so when he goes silent, i call... goes to voice mail. i have explained that making a general statement doesnt necessarily need a response back but when one asks a specific question it is proper and RESPECTFUL to answer back! i have even so much as said at times "if i dont get a reply back shortly then forget about our next session". then i get a response. i also know guys of the same age that are punctual, text back with answers to questions and just goes about this form of communicating in what i would call a normal manner. is it selfishness? laziness? lack of proper upbringing? control issue? i wonder how they feel when they are in the same position and someone ghosts them? are they upset or do they just figure this is normal. god help them if thats the case.

 

our society has created this with i believe our modern ways of communicating ie.... texting, emails, etc. when you pick up the phone and the person answers you start the conversation and end the conversation. very effective!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Is it really that hard for an escort to answer you with a “I’m not interested in providing what you’re looking for?” So much fucking ghosting...Particularly on RM messenger.

It's the way it has been for a long time now. I'm older than you and I have already accepted it and almost embraced it. When a provider leaves me unsatisfied and dares to message me for a 2nd meeting I just ignore him. They get the message.

I don't know if this serves any consolation but those are the kind of providers that get reduced to a niche (less business) or don't last in the market.

I wonder how they feel when they are in the same position and someone ghosts them? are they upset or do they just figure this is normal. god help them if thats the case.

They know what they do but they also lack any sense of shame.

The youth lacks social and communication skills and are also short-sighted, that's a fact.

The excuse of being used to impersonal ways of communication is just that.

They can ignore you for months but will text you back just when they need something from you. I ignore them back ?

 

Edited by orville
Link to comment
Share on other sites

They can ignore you for months but will text you back just when they need something from you. I ignore them back ?

I’m pointed about it. You ignored me before. No session. Some have even plead with me. I know business is tough for them when that’s the case. Here’s a tip: be responsible and professional, deliver quality service respectfully, and you won’t need to beg clients for our money.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

They can ignore you for months but will text you back just when they need something from you. I ignore them back ?

its lack of empathy and unfortunately a little bit of lack of respect. i dont think they look at it like that but that is how it comes across to the one being ghosted. they honestly dont put themselves in others shoes nor look at the situation as to how they are affecting others from creating this sort of action. if A ROD were texting them do you honestly think they would ghost or blow him off? no way!

 

the flip side is one also cant throw the baby out with the bathwater. if one ghosts you.... and you ignore every single one that does so, then you will be relegated to only speaking and associating with those over 70! lol so i look at it as do you want to win the battle or win the war? if i ever thought it was personal that people that ghost me only do so towards me, i would be done with those people in a nanosecond! these young un's do this to everyone! its not right but most of the time its not personal guys.

Edited by Gymowner
Link to comment
Share on other sites

if one ghosts you.... and you ignore everyone single one that does so, then you will be relegated to only speaking and associating with those over 70!

I know it's not personal but I also have no personal obligation to reply back after they have ignored me.

And believe me when I mentioned about those who fall in niches or don't last in the market.

I have quite a few providers who are below 30 and are very responsive and respectful, and because of this, obviously smart.

They get my dollars.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I have quite a few providers who are below 30 and are very responsive and respectful, and because of this, obviously smart.

They get my dollars.

It’s not rocket science. For all the lambasting about clients who waste escorts’ time, there’s an equal share of providers who can’t be bothered to be respectful.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

This isn’t to say that I always respond immediately to something whenever I see it, text, email, message, or otherwise. But I eventually get back. And if I know at the outset that a simple direct answer will satisfy the inquiry or close down the discussion, that’s what I do. A simple acknowledgment of receipt is courtesy.

 

Courtesy is sadly I believe something of a dead social expectation. If I know once I’ve seen something I don’t have time in the moment to respond, but I will later, I am even going to send you a message stating so much. Again, it’s a matter of courtesy.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

@Gymowner – It has a lot to do with what the initial communication is like. If they just drop off in the middle of the conversation, with no explanation, I don’t owe it to them to give them any kind of attention later on. Granted, I started out by talking about being ignored after sharing what I’m looking for. But some guys will continue to engage you after that and in the middle of the conversation just drop off. Only to reappear later, weeks or months, as if you should be honored they’re reaching out.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I agree somewhat. As an example I get these sorts of convos all the time. "Hey! What's up? How was your day?" "Good here. How was yours? Training hard? What day do you want to get together this week?" Silence.... until the day before he wants to get together. So in this sort situation I dont view it as a "well since he didnt respond I wont ever respond back" but a "he doesnt have a concrete answer yet". Many lack the skills to follow up with a "I dont know my schedule yet this week. O.k. if I get back to you in a few days" and instead just respond back when they do want to set something up.

 

This is the sort of example of when I say dont throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I don't get why some defend this disrespectful, self-centered behaviour.

It's clear that if the client is texting them to try setting something up, it's to GIVE THEM MONEY.

They are considering you a less important client at the moment, or are uninterested in you, or don't think you deserve a 1-line polite reply.

This is not the lack of a skill, it's just being stupid.

Edited by orville
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I’d add rude as well.

 

@orville – Don’t you know the escort is always in the right and we clients ought to feel blessed they take our money? (That’s how some of the clients here seem to think, anyhow.)

It probably applies to clients with low self-esteem, i.e.: some of the submissives into muscle worship.

Or those into ONLY a very specific/scarce type of provider, i.e.: straight, or less than 25 yo, or big ripped muscles, or X" inches.

Once the providers realize some clients are willing to allow such disrespectful acts of disinterest, they make it a behaviour.

Of course, it's also a duty of us as clients to mark the limits and in doing so, teaching the escorts that there is only so much that we'll tolerate.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

orville and xyz ... both calm down. i for one am not defending anyones behavior. i said it comes across to us from a different generation as disrespectful. for some they purposefully mean to be that way. let them go then. for others i dont think thats their intention. these providers lack empathy. hopefully over time, with maturation and being burnt enough times themselves, they too will grow up and complain about the short falls of that young generation.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

orville and xyz ... both calm down. i for one am not defending anyones behavior. i said it comes across to us from a different generation as disrespectful. for some they purposefully mean to be that way. let them go then. for others i dont think thats their intention. these providers lack empathy. hopefully over time, with maturation and being burnt enough times themselves, they too will grow up and complain about the short falls of that young generation.

Lol, I'm calmed down. I was just expressing my opinion. I just don't think it's ok to normalize wrong behaviour or deem it as acceptable or comprehensible. I see you are now saying "some they purposefully mean to be that way" and not only "he doesnt have a concrete answer yet". It's all good, I don't mean controversy but rather sharing my POV and helping others, who might be going through the same ordeal as the OP, to realize that it's not an industry-standard that one as a client must accept, because there are providers out there who are responsive and reliable, regardless of their age range.

Edited by orville
Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

×
×
  • Create New...