Overnight

[Hercules_lover]

So I don't have any experience on the subject and I definitely need some words of wisdom here.

 

What exactly is an "overnight" session? Does it means that the escort will come over and we'll spend the entire night doing... what? I know I sound very stupid asking this but I'm honestly not sure.

I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?! I know I sound ridiculous...

The way I imagine it is that he comes over, say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do". The in the morning he will leave.

Is this correct?

 

I honestly feel kind of embarrassed asking you guys this... and I think I've rambled on enough.

 

Thanks in advance

Edited September 14, 2020 by Hercules_lover

[RuffLeatherPig]

No need to be embarrassed. I think you should be in full communication with this person. You should clearly lay out what you expect, what you want, and ask what can be delivered on. For an over night I would expect hang out time and at least 6 hours of being present and attentive.

 

Twelve hours together minimum with actual sleep involved after your request have been met

[+ RJD]

It all depends what you work out with your guy. Typically, an overnight will start early evening and go until morning. The exact times, what you do, what you want, his expectations for sleep, etc., should be clearly communicated with the provider before you schedule.

 

I do overnights with a regular because I hate feeling rushed. Mine usually start around 6PM, we have a glass of wine, make out, have some fun in the bedroom, shower, eat, more making out and fun, sleep, wake to some more fun, shower, breakfast, and he leaves.

 

Again, each provider is different and has his own idea of how many hours defines an overnight. If you want an entire night of “fun” you need to communicate that as well upfront.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

So I don't have any experience on the subject and I definitely need some words of wisdom here.

 

What exactly is an "overnight" session? Does it means that the escort will come over and we'll spend the entire night doing... what? I know I sound very stupid asking this but I'm honestly not sure.

I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?! I know I sound ridiculous...

The way I imagine it is that he comes over, say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do". The in the morning he will leave.

Is this correct?

 

I honestly feel kind of imbarassed asking you guys this... and I think I've rambled on enough.

 

Thanks in advance

 

If you search overnight, you'll see a plethora of this exact question, asked and answered (and argued).

 

Bottom line, overnights are a block of time that's yours to manage. I wouldn't recommend asking a group of random, faceless internet posters... Talk with your escort about your needs, wants, fantasies and what his own experiences have been like in an overnight situation. What you're really not going to find here is the end-all, definitive answer as to what an overnight constitutes.

 

The only thing I can say with some certainty is that in terms of time, an overnight is usually in the 12-15 hour range.

 

This should definitely be a dialogue between the two of you. Good luck out there!

Edited September 14, 2020 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[Hercules_lover]

Thank you all.

I know I should definitely talk to him but I just wanted a general idea of what an "overnight" was according to someone with more experience than me.

The guy is a navigated escort and I didn't want to look like the guy who doesn't even know what he's talking about.

[+ peterhung85]

First of all, I completely agree with every poster before me. Overnight is like Las Vegas = it is what you make out of it! ;-)

 

As previously written by others, it is your responsibility to articulate your needs and desires during a period of time you use to hire a companion. That way your companion can decide whether that is something he is willing to do or not. Discuss it in advance rather than have expectations that may not be met. It is completely up to the two of you to discuss what an overnight session is going to entail.

[HotWhiteThirties]

They are my favorite and the preferred and most enjoyable meeting in my book!

[HoseMaster]

So I don't have any experience on the subject and I definitely need some words of wisdom here.

 

What exactly is an "overnight" session? Does it means that the escort will come over and we'll spend the entire night doing... what? I know I sound very stupid asking this but I'm honestly not sure.

I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?! I know I sound ridiculous...

The way I imagine it is that he comes over, say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do". The in the morning he will leave.

Is this correct?

 

I honestly feel kind of embarrassed asking you guys this... and I think I've rambled on enough.

 

Thanks in advance

 

Be very, very careful on this. I have been doing overnights for nearly 15 years. I was naive at first, as I had several nice overnights for 12-15 hours as Benjamin Nicholas stated for anywhere between $500 and $1,500. The cheaper were off Craiglist, but were just as good as the $1,500 ones. Most of mine were around $1,000.

 

Fast forward to today. I've had several escorts from south of the equator want between $1,100 and $2,000 for an overnight. However, when you finally start asking start and stop times, these South American escorts seem to think that an overnight is only 5-6 hours. To me, that is an extended session, and not an overnight. More that one even had the audacity to ask that I buy them a hotel room for after the overnight. "After the overnight?" I thought the overnight was "over the night". To each his own though.

 

Always ask what constitutes his overnight, and what his limits are, and what your expectations are.

[D21howie]

I agree with the people above me. The first thing I will do is meet with an escort for a few hours and find out if you are compatible. What I mean is do you enjoy each other’s company, do you get along, and do you have things in common. If you are compatible then extend the date into an evening affair. If that goes well then do overnight. I will not do overnight with an escort who I have no comparability with. A lot overnights I do are with people who I know and trust.

[RandyVue]

I love hiring guys for overnight. I have a regular I do this with. Dinner, we talk, play games, get in the hot tub together, watch tv, cuddle, sleep, we have breakfast the next morning. He goes back home. I love it!

[+ smara]

So I don't have any experience on the subject and I definitely need some words of wisdom here.

 

What exactly is an "overnight" session? Does it means that the escort will come over and we'll spend the entire night doing... what? I know I sound very stupid asking this but I'm honestly not sure.

I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?! I know I sound ridiculous...

The way I imagine it is that he comes over, say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do". The in the morning he will leave.

Is this correct?

 

I honestly feel kind of embarrassed asking you guys this... and I think I've rambled on enough.

 

Thanks in advance

An overnight should definitely involve 6-7 hours of sleep for the entertainer & the entertained. Arrival at an an agreed time in evening; an hour of play & shower, 1.5 hours for dinner & conversation ; some lone time for the both should be included and desirable; an hour of play; cuddling & sleep for 6 to 7 hrs; wakeup and a morning play ; Breakfast & departure and of course I would think that any extra time spent beyond 12 hrs depends on the entertainer and extra tips will depend on the entertained. I think this is a realistic scenario for both.

 

Of course as others said earlier, a discussion and planning must be done prior to the appointment and an overnight is best with one whom you have seen once or more earlier

[Luv2play]

An overnight should definitely involve 6-7 hours of sleep for the entertainer & the entertained. Arrival at an an agreed time in evening; an hour of play & shower, 1.5 hours for dinner & conversation ; some lone time for the both should be included and desirable; an hour of play; cuddling & sleep for 6 to 7 hrs; wakeup and a morning play ; Breakfast & departure and of course I would think that any extra time spent beyond 12 hrs depends on the entertainer and extra tips will depend on the entertained. I think this is a realistic scenario for both.

 

Of course as others said earlier, a discussion and planning must be done prior to the appointment and an overnight is best with one whom you have seen once or more earlier

My only quibble with your scenario is the lone time for both in an overnight date. I definitely allow for it in a weekend date consisting of two nights but really only one full day. During that day I expect the escort will want to catch up on his cell phone and future arrangements so I leave him to do that in another room while I also occupy myself on e-mails etc. For a one night sleep-over, with the escort leaving soon after breakfast, I would resent having to provide time off for the escort to do his other business. After all, I am paying him for his time and the time when we are awake is not all that excessive in relation to when we are sleeping. I’ve never had any issues with this btw and I do a lot of overnights (got one scheduled tonight) and also weekends. For me it’s the only way to operate in this pandemic. I don’t see anyone in the 3-4 weeks between dates and wear my mask wash my hands etc in all outdoor errands such as shopping.

[xyz48B]

Sometimes providers hold off on telling you their ON rate til they hear what you’re looking for. It’s good to communicate.

[Ryan Roman]

If you search overnight, you'll see a plethora of this exact question, asked and answered (and argued).

 

Bottom line, overnights are a block of time that's yours to manage. I wouldn't recommend asking a group of random, faceless internet posters... Talk with your escort about your needs, wants, fantasies and what his own experiences have been like in an overnight situation. What you're really not going to find here is the end-all, definitive answer as to what an overnight constitutes.

 

The only thing I can say with some certainty is that in terms of time, an overnight is usually in the 12-15 hour range.

 

This should definitely be a dialogue between the two of you. Good luck out there!

 

Agree on all points made... And for me, an overnight is usually between 12-14 hours... Maybe longer if it's going really well.

[xyz48B]

And for me, an overnight is usually between 12-14 hours

I’m not interested in a provider who wants over $1000 for an ON under 12 hrs. I’ve had one prospective provider insist an ON was 6 hrs for all providers. I didn’t know anything about escorting when I insisted it’s at least 12 hrs. He also wanted $2500 for 6 hrs ?

[Ryan Roman]

I’m not interested in a provider who wants over $1000 for an ON under 12 hrs. I’ve had one prospective provider insist an ON was 6 hrs for all providers. I didn’t know anything about escorting when I insisted it’s at least 12 hrs. He also wanted $2500 for 6 hrs ?

 

For most of us, $2500 would be 3-4 days...

[xyz48B]

$2500 would be 3-4 days...

Depending on what’s provided, I’d say it’s a good weekend. But it’s a nonstarter for a SIX-HOUR “overnight”

[+ MysticMenace]

An overnight should definitely involve 6-7 hours of sleep for the entertainer & the entertained. Arrival at an an agreed time in evening; an hour of play & shower, 1.5 hours for dinner & conversation ; some lone time for the both should be included and desirable; an hour of play; cuddling & sleep for 6 to 7 hrs; wakeup and a morning play ; Breakfast & departure and of course I would think that any extra time spent beyond 12 hrs depends on the entertainer and extra tips will depend on the entertained. I think this is a realistic scenario for both.

 

Of course as others said earlier, a discussion and planning must be done prior to the appointment and an overnight is best with one whom you have seen once or more earlier

 

Agree with @smara here. I would also emphasize that it would be better if you have met the provider at least once or twice before doing the overnight. I was lucky when I took a plunge doing an overnight with one provider, and I still do overnights with him when he visits the area. But I had a meh experience recently, when I hired a relatively new provider who had me as his anchor client to visit my area. He insisted on an overnight with a reasonable rate and agreed on how the time was going to be spent. When the time came, he texted me 30 minutes before saying that he would be 3 hours late but said, in his words, "I am all yours," once he arrives. As horny as I was, I let my loins do the deciding and went through with it anyway. I waited as he took a shower, and put on a fresh pair of underwear, barely did a 5 minute massage and he fell right to bed. He slept for 12 hours and when he woke up started packing up and expected me to pay the whole ON rate. He promised to make it up to me the next day but was MIA and unresponsive afterwards.

 

Lesson Learned: Get to know the provider first before investing big money into a session.

[PetetKsfo]

So true confession time - I have not offered any overnight appointments mainly because I have a sleep apnea issue and use a cpap. That would sure be awkard to use with a client. But without it, i'd probably make lots of noise and keep him awake.

 

I have had a few long appointments (5-6 hours) but always leave before the witching hour! Though I have good stamina, most guys don't want to keep going for 6 hours straight. But what I find most beautiful and tender about these appointments is just spending time holding my client. I find that may guys want/crave/need just being held and touched.

 

As others have posted here, you should feel comfortable to share with your provider what you're looking for. And also important is to ask if that is something that he can offer. I had a guy the other day saying that he wanted lots of kink and bondage work. I respoctelly said that I am not that experienced with that kind of play and that I didn''t think we'd be a good match. I don't want to accept a client who wants what I can't give and then disappoint him. A great provider will be honest with you and not try to take your money for something that he can't deliver.

Edited December 6, 2020 by PeterMxM

[+ RJD]

But what I find most beautiful and tender about these appointments is just spending time holding my client. I find that may guys want/crave/need just being held and touched.

 

This x 100. I love sex, but what I find most satisfying, and why I love overnights, is the intimacy and human touch. I’m a cuddler. I find being held or holding someone while drifting off to sleep so relaxing and comforting.

[mike carey]

So true confession time - I have not offered any overnight appointments mainly because I have a sleep apnea issue and use a cpap. That would sure be awkard to use with a client. But without it, i'd probably make lots of noise and keep him awake.

 

I have had a few long appointments (5-6 hours) but always leave before the witching hour! Though I have good stamina, most guys don't want to have sex for 6 hours straight. But what I find most beautiful and tender about these appointments is just spending time holding my client. I find that may guys want/crave/need just being held and touched.

 

As others have posted here, you should feel comfortable to share with your provider what you're looking for. And also important is to ask if that is something that he can offer. I had a guy the other day saying that he wanted lots of kink and bondage work. I respoctelly said that I am not that experienced with that kind of play and that I didn''t think we'd be a good match. I don't want to accept a client who wants what I can't give and then disappoint him. A great provider will be honest with you and not try to take your money for something that he can't deliver.

Being held and cuddled is truly an amazing thing.

[Islesguy]

So true confession time - I have not offered any overnight appointments mainly because I have a sleep apnea issue and use a cpap. That would sure be awkard to use with a client. But without it, i'd probably make lots of noise and keep him awake.

 

But what I find most beautiful and tender about these appointments is just spending time holding my client. I find that may guys want/crave/need just being held and touched.

I'm sure there are guys out there who are heavy sleepers and won't be annoyed with a CPAP. Plus there are also guys who wear hearing aids and might not really hear much when they take them out. Don't be afraid to offer an overnight while being upfront about it. You never know, the client might also use one and be self-conscious about it also.

 

Cuddling, talking and caressing each other is my favorite part of any session especially after "playtime."

[+ MysticMenace]

surprise "poking" either by finger(s) or morning wood while still "asleep" on an ON - yay or nay?

[+ AntonGraza]

So true confession time - I have not offered any overnight appointments mainly because I have a sleep apnea issue and use a cpap. That would sure be awkard to use with a client. But without it, i'd probably make lots of noise and keep him awake.

 

I have had a few long appointments (5-6 hours) but always leave before the witching hour! Though I have good stamina, most guys don't want to have sex for 6 hours straight. But what I find most beautiful and tender about these appointments is just spending time holding my client. I find that may guys want/crave/need just being held and touched.

 

As others have posted here, you should feel comfortable to share with your provider what you're looking for. And also important is to ask if that is something that he can offer. I had a guy the other day saying that he wanted lots of kink and bondage work. I respoctelly said that I am not that experienced with that kind of play and that I didn''t think we'd be a good match. I don't want to accept a client who wants what I can't give and then disappoint him. A great provider will be honest with you and not try to take your money for something that he can't deliver.

Your sir would be a perfect provider for me. It is difficult to find a guy who as we both get sleepy will smile and understand it is time reach over and put on the cpap mask as you drift off. If you put mine on, I will put on yours AND fill your humidity water tank ; )

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

So I don't have any experience on the subject and I definitely need some words of wisdom here.

 

 

What exactly is an "overnight" session?

Does it means that the escort will come over and we'll spend the entire night doing... what? I know I sound very stupid asking this but I'm honestly not sure.

I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?! I know I sound ridiculous...

The way I imagine it is that he comes over, say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do". The in the morning he will leave.

Is this correct?

 

I honestly feel kind of embarrassed asking you guys this... and I think I've rambled on enough.

 

Thanks in advance

 

I = me/other typical escort

 

Q: What exactly is an "overnight" session?

A: We meet at some point in the evening, usually have dinner and then it's off to the races. I spend the night and then in the morning after some interaction we shed tears and bid our fond farewells until next time.

 

Q: We'll spend the entire night doing... what?

A: It won't be having sex, if that's what you're asking. You wouldn't want that, and I can't do that (and most escorts can't either), so imagine having a guest over for 12 hours and what you might do to fill the time.

 

Q: I'm currently in touch with this guy who I want to hire, and he suggested the "overnight" option...

A: Imagine 12 hours of fun with a friend, because you guys know things about each other, share things in common, communicate well, and so on. Now imagine 12 hours of awkward silence punctuated with brief bursts of single-word answers to your questions, followed by however long you'll be filled with regret for paying for that 12 hours. Now imagine talking on the phone for 15-30 minutes getting to know someone to see if A or B is more likely (which should have already given you insight into how your first question should be answered).

 

Q: Are we suppose to have some fun but he will eventually expect some "off time" to get some rest?!

A: It depends on how you define "off time." When I did an overnight with a client, the only off-time I had was being asleep because I was a guest. A guest for 12 hours doesn't get "off-time," and I didn't want off-time. I agreed to do an overnight because they seemed fun. If you're defining "off-time" as a break from a particular activity, that doesn't mean your escort should go trot his ass into another room to answer emails or phone calls or have some "me" time. You guys can talk, laugh, eat something, watch tv, etc.

 

Q: ...say 11 pm

A: This is too late in the evening to get started for an overnight.

 

Q: ...say 11 pm, and we will spend the entire night doing what "I want" or rather "what I hired him to do"

A: In my opinion, you don't want an overnight as much as you want an extended late-night session for 3-4 hours. If an escort is trying to convince you to hire them for an overnight that starts at 11pm, here's what will happen.

 

11:30 pm

You: Well that was amazing!

Escort: Yes, it was. I'm sleepy. Good night!

 

There are a gazillion threads on this forum and just as many opinions on what an overnight is, and what an overnight should be. IMHO, sex is one component but not the only one. You'd be amazed at how quickly you can get bored with someone you don't know in less than 90 minutes.