Clients with Disabilities

[Daverwr]

It doesn’t appear that this topic has been discussed recently. I’d like to address the subject of clients with disabilities a little differently. Recently, I had a provider cancel on me when he learned of my disability. While I can appreciate his honesty (I guess), I did think it was extremely rude. After all, I was going to pay him almost $500, before tip. The least he could do was buck up! Actually, I have never had a provider say “Never Mind”. What I’d like to know is What are some disabilities of your clients you have dealt with? What disabilities were involved if you ever said, “Never mind.” What would be on you “Never Mind” list?

[Kevin Slater]

On the flip side, would you have rather he'd gone through with it begrudgingly? It's a shame he couldn't accommodate, but I'd rather someone tell me that upfront than put the both of us through an unpleasant experience.

 

Kevin Slater

[Thomas_Belgium]

Hi, are only escorts supposed to answer this question please?

[Armann]

I do have clients with dissabilities and i have no problem at all taking care of them. Personally i like to be told in advance about your dissability so i can be prepared for the service, we all need and deserve human touching and companion regarless of any dissabilities.

[+ peterhung85]

It doesn’t appear that this topic has been discussed recently. I’d like to address the subject of clients with disabilities a little differently. Recently, I had a provider cancel on me when he learned of my disability. While I can appreciate his honesty (I guess), I did think it was extremely rude. After all, I was going to pay him almost $500, before tip. The least he could do was buck up! Actually, I have never had a provider say “Never Mind”. What I’d like to know is What are some disabilities of your clients you have dealt with? What disabilities were involved if you ever said, “Never mind.” What would be on you “Never Mind” list?

 

I have had many clients with disabilities in the past although I prefer not to disclose the particulars. I can't possibly see why that may be an issue for someone, but we are all different I guess.

It is also better for someone to back out from seeing you than taking your money and provide you with an at best "sub-par experience". The only thing is that a provider should be aware of the disability prior to meeting. For me, that information would help me to figure out how I can make your experience a more enjoyable one. There are many types of disabilities and some imposes certain type of limitations on a session, so if I know in advance what the actual disability is, it allows me to provide a more "custom-tailored experience" and to ensure that my client will thoroughly enjoys out time together. There is no "never mind" list for me and I welcome any and all inquiries from clients with disabilities.

[+ Reisr30]

It doesn’t appear that this topic has been discussed recently. I’d like to address the subject of clients with disabilities a little differently. Recently, I had a provider cancel on me when he learned of my disability. While I can appreciate his honesty (I guess), I did think it was extremely rude. After all, I was going to pay him almost $500, before tip. The least he could do was buck up! Actually, I have never had a provider say “Never Mind”. What I’d like to know is What are some disabilities of your clients you have dealt with? What disabilities were involved if you ever said, “Never mind.” What would be on you “Never Mind” list?

Sorry to hear that. From my perspective really good professional companions would not back out because of a disability. I agree with the other comments that you probably dodged a bullet...

[Thomas_Belgium]

Last year I wanted to meet a guy with over fifty good reviews and not a single bad review. In his profile he wrote „I’m doing this job to help people” so I sent him this message:

 

 

„Hi, I’m 39 & in a wheelchair. If you have any questions about that, please don’t hesitate to ask me. To show that I'm a serious customer, I can pay an advance and I can pay on arrival. Also, I can pay extra. Looking forward meeting you, regards, Thomas.”

 

 

He didn’t reply, do you guys think my message is OK?

[Daverwr]

Last year I wanted to meet a guy with over fifty good reviews and not a single bad review. In his profile he wrote „I’m doing this job to help people” so I sent him this message:

 

 

„Hi, I’m 39 & in a wheelchair. If you have any questions about that, please don’t hesitate to ask me. To show that I'm a serious customer, I can pay an advance and I can pay on arrival. Also, I can pay extra. Looking forward meeting you, regards, Thomas.”

 

 

He didn’t reply, do you guys think my message is OK?

We’ll let the providers answer, but I think your initial message was excellent. I generally don’t lead with my issue. But, my issue requires nothing from the provider. In fact, my disability should make life infinitely easier for them. So, good for you!

Edited September 18, 2020 by Daverwr

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Last year I wanted to meet a guy with over fifty good reviews and not a single bad review. In his profile he wrote „I’m doing this job to help people” so I sent him this message:

 

 

„Hi, I’m 39 & in a wheelchair. If you have any questions about that, please don’t hesitate to ask me. To show that I'm a serious customer, I can pay an advance and I can pay on arrival. Also, I can pay extra. Looking forward meeting you, regards, Thomas.”

 

 

He didn’t reply, do you guys think my message is OK?

 

You were straight-forward, kind and put it together in a clear, concise way. It appears the escort was the real loser on this.

 

You don't need to 'pay extra' or upfront to entice: A pro- a real pro- will gladly schedule the time if he's got it.

Edited September 18, 2020 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[Thomas_Belgium]

Thanks for the advice.

[Kent1972]

I am disabled and always tell a provider when scheduling a session. My disability is easy to accommodate. In 30 years as a client I have only been turned down once because of it and that was in the 90s.

[Jamie21]

I see disabled clients. I need to know beforehand but it’s fine if I know.

I once saw a client who was new to me and I’d not been told of any issues beforehand. I was undressing her (Im bi, the session was with her and her husband although he mostly watched) and I felt something hard under her clothes on her thigh.

 

As I pulled down her leggings there was a small box attached to a plaster on her side by a wire. She said nothing so I carried on undressing her until we were both naked and all she “wore” was this box strapped to her thigh by an elastic strap and the large plaster with the wire between.

 

It was going to get in the way so I asked if I could remove it. She then realised and said “oh sorry yes” and she detached the wire and removed the box leaving just the plaster with a small silver knob where the wire attached. Then we carried on with the session which went fine.

 

Afterwards when she was in the shower and I was cleaning up I asked her husband what it was and he said she was diabetic and it regulated her sugar level.

 

I guess she just had got so used to it that she had almost forgotten it was there. It did surprise me briefly but I’ve got used to expecting the unexpected when escorting so nothing much surprises me now!

[+ poolboy48220]

Early in my hiring, I got a massage from a guy who had a colostomy bag. I had no idea what it was, I asked him and he said something innocuous like "I wear a bag down there'.

[NikoLeto]

It doesn’t appear that this topic has been discussed recently. I’d like to address the subject of clients with disabilities a little differently. Recently, I had a provider cancel on me when he learned of my disability. While I can appreciate his honesty (I guess), I did think it was extremely rude. After all, I was going to pay him almost $500, before tip. The least he could do was buck up! Actually, I have never had a provider say “Never Mind”. What I’d like to know is What are some disabilities of your clients you have dealt with? What disabilities were involved if you ever said, “Never mind.” What would be on you “Never Mind” list?

 

I haven't encountered many clients with disabilities, but I do see a client who is paraplegic due to cerebral palsy - I'm sure there's specificity to the problem that I'm not privy to. That is, he might not technically be paraplegic, due to a technicality, but I have to physically manage him from his wheelchair to the bed and so on.

 

Specifically to answer your point: I'm not certain there is a disability I would say "never mind" to. I consider the client I see now to be the far-end of potential disabilities.

[+ carlos45]

I have mild cerebral palsy, affecting the way I walk. I hired escorts for a long time and was never made to feel uncomfortable. Please know I appreciate the compassion and understanding bestowed upon me by escorts and masseurs.

[Zeehr0]

Client here: I have an incomplete spinal cord injury and use a wheelchair, but otherwise I’m fully functional. I tell everyone I hire beforehand about it and ask if it’s ok. I don’t want someone to be surprised by it. Most of the time it is fine, but there are others that just don’t respond. The escorts are usually sensitive and accommodating about it. Actually, I find that they give me more time or go further (in massage contexts) than they normally would. It might be a combo of pity or the fact that I’m pretty cute, but I’ll take it either way! Lol

 

As an aside, I first became a client after my injury because hiring a professional takes the pressure off my mind about being self-conscious. So, I really appreciate escorts who are open and honest about their questions and reservations.

[Thomas_Belgium]

Weeks ago I sent a message to an escort for a videochat I will pay for. He has many good reviews and in his ad he wrote he does videochat. No answer (yet) I seem to be very good in finding escorts who ignore me.

[orville]

There is no "never mind" list for me and I welcome any and all inquiries from clients with disabilities.

Well said but this would be the best slogan for an insurance company - that doesn't exist ?