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I have a gay friend and we were discussing with him how these visible, non-contagious skin conditions have left him with basically zero sex-life.

His lesions are visible all over his chest, arms and back. I was thinking of recommending him trying escorts but thought of asking here first.

If any client or provider with experience in the topic can provide some guidance on how he could introduce himself to a provider regarding this topic it would be immensely appreciated. Fell free to PM also. He has already been rejected when approaching "regular" folks on dating context so he would expect a more understanding and compassionate approach from a professional. I don't think there would be many other opportunities for him to experience sex besides hiring providers.

 

Thanks in advance for your help.

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Well, for one, he could try dating someone slowly, and explaining that his skin condition(s) isn't/aren't contagious. Which does he have? Also, these two conditions have highly effective treatments, so there's no reason to have a lot of visible lesions.

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Well, for one, he could try dating someone slowly, and explaining that his skin condition(s) isn't/aren't contagious. Which does he have? Also, these two conditions have highly effective treatments, so there's no reason to have a lot of visible lesions.

 

Not an expert here but from what I know, both psoriasis and eczema are autoimmune diseases. Treatment involves medication that lower the body’s immune response. Wouldn’t that be risky in a sex situation with a provider?

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I had a client once, recently actually, who did not disclosed his condition to me until he undressed and told me about it, i was really hesitant and about to not service him, but felt bad for the guy and went on with it, very nervous about it, he assured me it was non contagious, i do travel with medications for every ocassion, so after he left i took some antibiotics just in case but never got anything.

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I have a gay friend and we were discussing with him how these visible, non-contagious skin conditions have left him with basically zero sex-life.

His lesions are visible all over his chest, arms and back. I was thinking of recommending him trying escorts but thought of asking here first.

If any client or provider with experience in the topic can provide some guidance on how he could introduce himself to a provider regarding this topic it would be immensely appreciated. Fell free to PM also. He has already been rejected when approaching "regular" folks on dating context so he would expect a more understanding and compassionate approach from a professional. I don't think there would be many other opportunities for him to experience sex besides hiring providers.

 

Thanks in advance for your help.

 

I'm sure it happens, clients should be upfront about it and tell the escort before they get together. I'm sure most escorts would be accommodating with clients with similar conditions.

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I’d suggest you refer him to a medical professional - perhaps even a nutritionist. An example: the picture labeled eczema also has similarities to dermatitis herpetiformis...something commonly correlated to celiac disease, but rarely with a quick and correct diagnosis. For me, a sufferer, once I stopped eating gluten, the condition cleared up immediately. Anecdotally, I know there are other options for psoriasis

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Hey! I used to get eczema like @BnaC because of gluten. Some years ago it up and vanished. Treatment for me (while I had it) was corticosteroids (like hydrocortisone cream) and 2x dose of Zyrtec.

 

I think its best for him to be honest. Its a tough situation to be in but trying to hide it may come off negatively. Something like: "Hi, I've got psoriasis/eczema, its non-contagious. I just need to be careful with touching / rough activity in those areas."

 

I hope most providers are non-judgmental... but if not, on the bright side, he'll have weeded out the ones with less-than-great attitudes.

 

I'd be excited if he were my client ? It'd be a great opportunity to provide kindness and affection when he's experienced otherwise.

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I have eczema myself and I don’t usually say anything unless I’m getting a massage. I’ve never had anyone gross out and tell me to leave. I try to keep it under control with moisturizers and steroids but sometimes even that’s not enough. One guy felt it and asked me what it was and I told him and he was like okay. Skin stuff looks bad but most of the time it’s not contagious.

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@asianmusclebttm, if you established the cause/effect to gluten, then it was likely dermatitis herpetifomis and may be celiac.

 

Hmmm doesn't look like what I had, in fact that looks much more severe. I had eczema in a couple places on my body every time I would eat any sort of gluten or bread product.

 

Luckily its all gone now! I'd started thinking "I can eat bread and have perfect skin" over and over... I know its a little new age but maybe it worked ??

 

In any case the first thing I went and ate was a slice of pizza at Joe's in NYC. It was heaven ?

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@BnaC makes some good suggestions.

 

Psoriasis is thought to be an autoimmune disease. The question becomes what is triggering the overactive immune response. In some people it's nutritional or environmental or some combination provoking the allergic response. Stress and depression may be involved. Inflammation may be an issue too. Consulting a doctor is important to make sure it isn't a symptom of something serious like diabetes or heart disease. Treatments range from topical creams and ointments to UV treatments or even immune suppressants. Once the serious stuff is ruled out by the doctor, then take the conservative approach and explore nutritional changes, stress management, inflammation management, and environmental changes. Depending on how extensive it is, other more aggressive treatments may be required.

 

Dermatitis (aka, eczema) is typically thought of as an inflammatory condition of the skin. Like psoriasis, there's likely a genetic component and environmental/nutritional triggers for it. Gluten should be reduced or eliminated since one type of dermatitis is usually associated with Celiac Disease (gluten allergy). Again, consult with a doctor to rule out big concerns and then take a conservative approach. Patience matters, mindfulness helps, because stress management is likely important for both conditions.

 

Talking to a good Dietitian might help for either condition. A nutritionist is okay if that's the only option, but a Dietitian is the better choice.

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Vitiglio and hyperpigmentation are also genetic, harmless, noncontagious and incurable skin condition that effect many people and many parts of the body (including the genitals). I had an escort once almost refuse to see me because of my skin condition. He ended up requiring me to wear a condom for receptive oral sex. Obviously this isn't a great feeling and I doubt he made many other clients wear a condom for oral and didn't wear one when it was reciprocated.

 

Thanks for bringing this up. Remember that most skin conditions are not contagious and harmless. Meanwhile, you're probably getting HPV and oral chlamydia from guys whose dicks and skin look absolutely normal.

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Each person is different. Each persons triggers are different, stress is an important one The treatment for each is different. For me what works:

 

1) Moisturize! Moisturize! Moisturize!

2) Small dosage of Doxycycline 100mg once per day

3) Sedium (GNC Mega Men 50 Plus) twice per day

 

The Doxycycline is a off-book use to reduce inflammation. That in return

reduces the plaque.

 

I don't have the funds to try the more "Modern" cures as they tend to run

in the thousands of dollar.

 

@BnaC makes some good suggestions.

 

Psoriasis is thought to be an autoimmune disease. The question becomes what is triggering the overactive immune response. In some people it's nutritional or environmental or some combination provoking the allergic response. Stress and depression may be involved. Inflammation may be an issue too. Consulting a doctor is important to make sure it isn't a symptom of something serious like diabetes or heart disease. Treatments range from topical creams and ointments to UV treatments or even immune suppressants. Once the serious stuff is ruled out by the doctor, then take the conservative approach and explore nutritional changes, stress management, inflammation management, and environmental changes. Depending on how extensive it is, other more aggressive treatments may be required.

 

Dermatitis (aka, eczema) is typically thought of as an inflammatory condition of the skin. Like psoriasis, there's likely a genetic component and environmental/nutritional triggers for it. Gluten should be reduced or eliminated since one type of dermatitis is usually associated with Celiac Disease (gluten allergy). Again, consult with a doctor to rule out big concerns and then take a conservative approach. Patience matters, mindfulness helps, because stress management is likely important for both conditions.

 

Talking to a good Dietitian might help for either condition. A nutritionist is okay if that's the only option, but a Dietitian is the better choice.

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I have a gay friend and we were discussing with him how these visible, non-contagious skin conditions have left him with basically zero sex-life.

His lesions are visible all over his chest, arms and back. I was thinking of recommending him trying escorts but thought of asking here first.

If any client or provider with experience in the topic can provide some guidance on how he could introduce himself to a provider regarding this topic it would be immensely appreciated. Fell free to PM also. He has already been rejected when approaching "regular" folks on dating context so he would expect a more understanding and compassionate approach from a professional. I don't think there would be many other opportunities for him to experience sex besides hiring providers.

 

Thanks in advance for your help.

 

Your friend's condition sounds like it looks like a severe skin condition. Based on that, I think your friend should flag his condition to the escort when making an appointment. That gives the escort time to research your friend's condition and decide whether to take the appointment.

 

It would be unreasonable to expect a "more understanding and compassionate approach from a professional" on the spot if that professional is not given a heads up and a chance to educate himself. The escort is also a person with an innate sense of self preservation, so he has the right not to take a new client (essentially a stranger) at his word about whether a severe-looking skin condition is not contagious under any circumstances.

 

Not giving the escort a heads up would at best set your friend and the escort up for an awkward interaction during the session. Does your friend want to spend his money on a sexual encounter with a person who will provide that service in a way that kills the mood (similar to what @keroscenefire unfortunately had to experience)? I doubt it. So your friend should focus on finding an escort who will not be bothered by your friend's condition and will treat your friend warmly, which will hopefully help build up your friend's confidence.

 

Alternatively, if your friend simply does not want to bring up his condition before an appointment, maybe he can find an escort who is (or at least claims to be) a licensed massage therapist. They are the type of professional that one could maybe expect to be understanding on the spot because one can assume they have had enough structured training to understand those skin conditions.

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I have both psoriasis and eczema and its a constant struggle. I hate my skin and it makes me very insecure. I've had clients and hookups turn me away because they thought I had Syphilis. Smoking makes it worse. Stress makes it worse. Not drinking enough water makes it worse. Honestly, if it weren't for my skin problems I wouldn't have spent so much time developing a healthier lifestyle and habits...

 

Topical prescription steroids are the best. Spray for easy application, or an ointment you can mix into lotion for larger areas.

Using too much soap or the wrong soap can perpetuate the problem. For Psoriasis, T-Gel from Neutrogena (with Tar Oil) shampoo works on your scalp but just as well on problem skin area. Body wash with Salicylic acid works as well. I wash my elbows, lower legs, and scap with these. Depending on their water, a filter in their shower and kitchen (not just Britta) can make a difference.

 

Intermittent fasting does wonders for Psoriasis, inflammatory, and autoimmune disorders.

 

If their skin is dry or combo (not oily) I recommend more organic and super-rich products like shea butter and products marketed towards "ethnic" skin and hair. It's best to moisturize your entire body - not just the problem areas. This will also keep them looking younger longer. The women in our life were never joking about that. The single best OTC remedy and moisturizer I have found for psoriasis is Organic Olive Oil. You'll smell like a salad, but you'll shine like gold and it really calms your skin.

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I have both psoriasis and eczema and its a constant struggle. I hate my skin and it makes me very insecure. I've had clients and hookups turn me away because they thought I had Syphilis. Smoking makes it worse. Stress makes it worse. Not drinking enough water makes it worse. Honestly, if it weren't for my skin problems I wouldn't have spent so much time developing a healthier lifestyle and habits...

 

Topical prescription steroids are the best. Spray for easy application, or an ointment you can mix into lotion for larger areas.

Using too much soap or the wrong soap can perpetuate the problem. For Psoriasis, T-Gel from Neutrogena (with Tar Oil) shampoo works on your scalp but just as well on problem skin area. Body wash with Salicylic acid works as well. I wash my elbows, lower legs, and scap with these. Depending on their water, a filter in their shower and kitchen (not just Britta) can make a difference.

 

Intermittent fasting does wonders for Psoriasis, inflammatory, and autoimmune disorders.

 

If their skin is dry or combo (not oily) I recommend more organic and super-rich products like shea butter and products marketed towards "ethnic" skin and hair. It's best to moisturize your entire body - not just the problem areas. This will also keep them looking younger longer. The women in our life were never joking about that. The single best OTC remedy and moisturizer I have found for psoriasis is Organic Olive Oil. You'll smell like a salad, but you'll shine like gold and it really calms your skin.

Nothing more helpful and constructive than getting advice from the horse’s mouth. You are to be congratulated on being so candid.

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best be upfront with the provider including the impacted area. would guess that the provider would not want surprises as to the extent of the condition (a small spot on the thigh vs. having 25-40% of the body affected by the condition), so the more transparent your friend is the better. although would say to disclose this closer to having the booking confirmed - no need for the friend to disclose something when the provider or client could reject booking for other reasons (e.g., rate, compatibility of services requested vs. offered)

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Setting aside my unwillingness to meet with someone during Covid, due to my age, and health history, a masseur I so wanted to see again came to town. Dispite Covid, I thought of meeting, since it was just a massage, but at the time I had eczema on my lower legs. Itched like crazy. I thought it best not to meet.

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Setting aside my unwillingness to meet with someone during Covid, due to my age, and health history, a masseur I so wanted to see again came to town. Dispite Covid, I thought of meeting, since it was just a massage, but at the time I had eczema on my lower legs. Itched like crazy. I thought it best not to meet.

If you are at risk for serious illness with Covid, I wouldn't be in the same room with someone for an hour. That's enough to get it. The fact that you aren't having sex won't help. Maybe if you were both wearing masks without exhale valves and kept them on the whole time, I guess you'd be pretty safe, but what fun is that?

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