First time renting

[jclimcaco]

Based in New York and finally taking the plunge. Tips, tricks, advice?

[+ azdr0710]

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/any-tips-for-first-time-booking.158181/

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/seeking-all-of-your-wise-guidance-for-a-newbie.154579/

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/suggestions-advice-for-someone-whos-new-to-hiring-an-escort.145483/

[+ StLouisOct]

Try putting your question in the Lounge section. The correct place to put it and you may get more responses.

[+ FrankR]

If @BluDay and @VictorPowers do not mind, I will supplement their thoughts:

 

1. Before you think of reaching out:

1.1. Only meet with companions that have been reviewed. Seriously - do your homework or at the very least plan to meet in a public place beforehand if you have doubts.

1.2 Do not waste a companion's time - only reach out if you are serious. Pic collectors and time wasters are rude and disrespectful. Don't do that.

 

2. When you are ready to reach out to a companion:

2.1. Use their preferred method of contact. If they prefer text, text them. Use a burner phone or the "burner" app on your mobile.

2.2. Tell them you saw their post on "RM" (I suggest initials - a lot have day jobs so it obscures a bit) "Hey, I found your profile on RM"

2.3. Say you would like to get together, be specific about city and location and ask when plans could be made. "Are you in San Fran and available this evening for an outcall?"

2.4. Know what you want, go for guys who like the same. If you want kissing, be sure kissing is in the profile. "I enjoy kissing, erotic body contact and generally a top guy"

2.5. When arranging, tell them anything special, such as "this would be my first time with an escort".

2.6. Be concise without being terse.

2.7. Follow the escorts lead if they go for longer conversation. As always, be careful what you say or agree to, remember, electronic communications can be retained and used against you. Never be explicit - the words "pay" and "sex" should never be used. "What is your rate for an hour of your time"

2.8. Agree to reasonable requests, say a phone call. Do not give money before. Skype if you are comfortable.

2.9. After making arrangements, confirm reasonably. The day before, the morning of, and an hour or so before is reasonable. I use "I look forward to visiting tomorrow/this evening/when I arrive in an hour".

2.10. If they confirm to you, reply as soon as you reasonably can.

2.11. Keep the appointment. This is important. Even if you don't go through with it, go meet him, and offer the full fee discreetly. He has invested time in this. He will understand if you get nervous.

2.12. Before the appointment, shower up, if you will bottom, douche. Leave off cologne.

2.13. If it's your first time, tell him you're nervous (if you are), ask him to take the lead.

2.14. Tell him what you're interested in (see 2.4).

 

3. When you meet with the companion:

3.1. Remember he's a person, be polite, and he's doing something very nice for you.

3.2. Honor his time. When it's over, it's over - be respectful. If you want to extend, ask if it is possible and don't be cheap; pay the rate commensurate with your meeting length.

3.3. Never be explicit about payment, consider not counting out bills or using electronic payment unless you have thought it through. Be discreet, when using cash, it is recommended that the rate agreed upon should be left in an envelope in plain sight so your companion can put thoughts of remuneration out of their mind and focus on you, you can always supplement with a tip later if you choose.

3.4. Tell him if you like or don't like something. Communicate with your companion; they will appreciate it and you will enjoy their companionship so much more.

3.5 Always send a discreet follow up text message thanking the companion after the meeting - it is polite and also builds goodwill if you want to see the companion again; like most folks they will move you to the top of the list if they enjoy spending time with you. See 3.1 above.