Any tips for first time booking?

[crazyivan]

I just made my first booking. Is there anything I should know/ask before heading over, like, who should bring lube, etc.?

 

Any tips would help.

[+ azdr0710]

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/suggestions-advice-for-someone-whos-new-to-hiring-an-escort.145483/

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/dos-and-donts.150718/

 

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/advice-for-a-newbie-please.121765/

[+ Pensant]

The search function is your research friend!

[+ DERRIK]

Crazyivan

 

Welcome to the forum

[LivingnLA]

@crazyivan, welcome to the forum! @azdr0710 provided some good links.

 

Have you been tested? Have you been vaccinated? Have you considered PrEP? Do you have condoms and lube? Have you communicated your interests and established the ground rules? How did you find this escort? How do you know they're real and trustworthy? Where are you meeting? Have you planned for your safety?

 

Sorry for the barrage of questions but the answers to these and many others is how you make sure you're informed and prepared for a great experience for you and the escort. My first experience wasn't great, but it was very educational. When I was ready for the next experience, I found an amazing guy who made it memorable. Good luck. I hope you have a safe hot time!

[carnalvore]

Wash your ass

[crazyivan]

@crazyivan, welcome to the forum! @azdr0710 provided some good links.

 

Have you been tested? Have you been vaccinated? Have you considered PrEP? Do you have condoms and lube? Have you communicated your interests and established the ground rules? How did you find this escort? How do you know they're real and trustworthy? Where are you meeting? Have you planned for your safety?

 

Sorry for the barrage of questions but the answers to these and many others is how you make sure you're informed and prepared for a great experience for you and the escort. My first experience wasn't great, but it was very educational. When I was ready for the next experience, I found an amazing guy who made it memorable. Good luck. I hope you have a safe hot time!

Tested and vaccinated(HPV, Hep B), but not on PrEP. The provider said he is neg on PrEP.

I do have condoms, but not lube.

Found it on RM, also have a few positive reviews from Daddys but a little bit old.

Going to meet at a hotel - I have no idea what to plan for safety. Be prepared to run at first sign of trouble?

[former lurker]

Tested and vaccinated(HPV, Hep B), but not on PrEP. The provider said he is neg on PrEP.

I do have condoms, but not lube.

Found it on RM, also have a few positive reviews from Daddys but a little bit old.

Going to meet at a hotel - I have no idea what to plan for safety. Be prepared to run at first sign of trouble?

 

You should talk to the provider about what to bring and how to prepare. A lot depends on what you plan to do. If you plan to bottom or may bottom if the mood fits, you'll want to clean out and clean up. Bringing condoms and lube is always a good idea. If you want the provider to top, he may have a condom preference. Any other interests you have for the session you should also discuss with the provider. Do you want him to be aggressive/controlling? Give him as thorough a list of your likes/dislikes as you can so he can seamlessly adapt during the session.

 

As to safety, that's tougher because a lot of providers don't want to meet in a public spot, but you could always ask him to meet you in the bar/restaurant/lobby/parking lot and chat for a few moments before adjourning to the room. My guess is that doesn't really accomplish much. You could, I suppose, put the hotel's front desk number in your cell phone contacts so you can quickly place a call for security if need be, but I'd be surprised if a guy whose been around for a while and has reviews on Daddy's would pose a threat or try to keep you from leaving if you were uncomfortable, especially if you are still willing to pay even if you back out of the meeting.

[LivingnLA]

@crazyivan thanks for replying. People often have preferences around condoms and lube. Make sure whatever you bring is what the escort likes. Even if the escort says they'll bring supplies, you should have some too. You don't want to be about to fuck and suddenly discover no condoms or lube. Regarding condoms, know your risks and make your choices. Oral without condoms is risky because of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. Infected men are often asymptomatic, especially if they have a throat or rectal colony which won't show up in blood or urine STI tests. Only swabs will discover them.

 

@former lurker offers great advice above. I strongly prefer meeting in public for an initial meeting, but that's because my first time was not a good experience and he'd been well reviewed. Only you know what you're comfortable with and how you want to handle things. Since you're meeting at a hotel, does the room have a safe? You may want to strongly consider having all your personal valuables in the safe, excluding an envelope with the payment in the bathroom or another discreet location.

 

If you're going to have a drink or something, don't get drunk. Being relaxed is okay, but you want to be sober enough to be aware of your surroundings and what's going on. Do not accept drinks you do not watch being made. I was slipped "something to help me relax." I was blacked out for 7 hours. I doubt that'll happen to you, but I mention it because it can and does happen. Also, if you are bottoming, know how to safely clean yourself and make sure he wears a condom unless you've explicitly agreed to bareback. If he pulls out, you'll want to touch his cock to make sure he didn't slip off the condom. It's called stealthing and some guys are into it. Again, I doubt this will happen especially since you mentioned he's well reviewed on Daddy's, but I'm covering the bases so you know the risks.

Edited June 17, 2020 by LivingnLA

[AceHardware]

All good, solid advice for you here, CrazyIvan. But somehow you have to balance it with the advice to "keep your communication short & sweet or you'll get yourself blocked by the provider as a timewaster." And no, I don't know the magic way to balance that either.