When you are asked for your stats

[Enronnja]

When a provider you are interested ask for ‘stats’, what exactly are they asking for?

[Smurof]

It means they are trying to treat you as if you're the one being hired. Don't bother. A true professional would never ask that kind of a question.

[orville]

When a provider you are interested ask for ‘stats’, what exactly are they asking for?

From what I got as an answer to this exact same question, they are trying to get an idea about you. I have zero problems telling my age and ethnicity. Height, weight if they ask (in case they have to lift me, you know what I mean). It takes two to tango. I discriminate against escorts for one or another reason. Escorts are human beings too, not sex machines that have an obligation to take anything that's put in front of them as long as there is money involved. I prefer to know he's sure he might be ok with me being me so the service is decent, rather than me being an unexpected surprise for him and spending money on a mediocre service. With that being said, I do not send pictures of me or upfront deposits, and if an escort asks for that, I move on.

Edited December 6, 2020 by orville

[AshburyGuy]

Age, Height, Weight, Race.

[marylander1940]

When a provider you are interested ask for ‘stats’, what exactly are they asking for?

 

Age, height and pounds... Unfortunately some ask ethnicity too. I guess the providers may not be into all kind of men. Unfortunately some clients describe themselves as if they were in a hook up app/site 10 years younger and lighter.

 

It means they are trying to treat you as if you're the one being hired. Don't bother. A true professional would never ask that kind of a question.

 

You do have a point but maybe the provider just can't enjoy the company of all kind of men and prefers NOT to take the money of some based on their: ethnicity, age and size...

 

I do agree that it's a huge red flag but if a gentleman is overweight and wants to bottom he should tell the escort about it upfront to see if he replies or just says he's booked up all week.

[cany10011]

I think it is best to provide a “visual” description of oneself as part of the introduction along with likes and dislikes and how you envision your encounter to proceed (provided the price is right) along with where you are located and potential dates for meeting. It just helps being more transparent and gives the provider enough information to make an informed decision.

[former lurker]

Forewarned is forearmed, for both the client and the escort. Provide as much info as you're comfortable sharing. Generally, the things you are most sensitive about (both your appearance/physical condition and your interests/activities) are the ones most helpful to share. If it serves no other purpose, it should make you less self-conscious when you do meet up because you have a sense that nothing about you is going to be a problem about the escort.

 

As to ethnicity, etc, I find it difficult not to form an impression of the person asking, but I'd rather they do if it's going to affect any meeting.

 

Finally, I agree with those who say don't send pictures or other identifying items. You don't have control over those things once you give them to someone else.

[Epigonos]

I agree totally with cany10011. In my second text/email to an escort I offer a full description of myself as well as my sexual likes and dislikes. In my case I consider giving my age important. I'm 79 and if the escort is an ageist I'd rather have him turn me down by text or email rather than slam a door in my face. In eighteen years of hiring escorts only ONE escort terminated communication with me once I gave him my age - that's damn goods odds.

P.S. Now if the escort requests a photograph I'm gone without further communication.

[Todd Jenkins]

They want to make sure they will enjoy the moment – and those that ask me this are told that this is a service and if I have to meet certain qualifications, I think they are in the wrong biz. I am not an ugly man but I don't participate in this. It only means they're going to be half-assed at their job.

 

Do you tell your chiropractor, barista, store clerk, insert other professional service here, what you look like? HELL NO! They are providing a service. If they ONLY want to see and fuck around with 'pretty people' they should get another job. Otherwise, shut up, take the money and bend over or stick it in (whatever the customer wants).

[MikeBiDude]

Do you tell your chiropractor, barista, store clerk, insert other professional service here, what you look like? HELL NO!

[Todd Jenkins]

True but it's my choice to see things that way.

[cany10011]

They want to make sure they will enjoy the moment – and those that ask me this are told that this is a service and if I have to meet certain qualifications, I think they are in the wrong biz. I am not an ugly man but I don't participate in this. It only means they're going to be half-assed at their job.

 

Do you tell your chiropractor, barista, store clerk, insert other professional service here, what you look like? HELL NO! They are providing a service. If they ONLY want to see and fuck around with 'pretty people' they should get another job. Otherwise, shut up, take the money and bend over or stick it in (whatever the customer wants).

 

 

You are quite right, there are escorts that will meet anyone. A cock is a cock; and cash is cash. But, for those escorts who can pick and chose who they meet, perhaps extra details help to distinguish you from others.

[Enronnja]

I provided my age, height, weight and told him I’m on PreP (negative); I was uncomfortable with telling my race, but I probably should have just to gauge if its an issue or not. I guess some providers can be selective and to be honest, he is a handsome guy. If this was not down to money and we were in Grindr would a guy like him even engage? Maybe, maybe not, I don’t think of myself as bad looking, but I‘m average in body size - don’t have time for a gym to tone up, but I am not overweight either.

 

Heck, I work 8 hours a day, when I come home in the evenings, its cook dinner, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat. The last time I had sex was back in December. Been jerking off ever since (I have to admit, its cheaper, too). But seriously, I am desperate for some body contact. Porn can only go so far. At times, you can sense like your body is calling for an intimate embrace thats beyond a Hugh. Even though I am desparate, I want it to be meaningful and engaged.

 

Since I started talking to this guy, he’s not been as responsive, so, I likely will not push it. Besides, I am see an even better potential option in Morgxn - look for his Twitter. I asked him if he would be willing to visit Seattle. Also, he is not hung up on race and looks and is just absolutely handsome.

[marylander1940]

You are quite right, there are escorts that will meet anyone. A cock is a cock; and cash is cash. But, for those escorts who can pick and chose who they meet, perhaps extra details help to distinguish you from others.

 

Been picky doesn't mean they're selective it means they can't perform with just anyone. Yes, cash is cash!

 

 

Agreed, you can't compare a bar tender, a dentist and a Doctor to someone making love to you, that's waaaay more personal.

 

Do you share your age, ethnicity and weight with providers and amateur guys willing to escort before meeting them?

 

I always do!

[Todd Jenkins]

Do you share your age, ethnicity and weight with providers and amateur guys willing to escort before meeting them?

NOPE. They are providing a service. If you can't find something attractive about every person, you should get into a different business. I once asked an escort – that I had hired multiple times – how he 'did it' with guys he did not find attractive and I LOVED his answer: "there is always something about a person that you can find attractive – you have to find the beauty in every person. UNLESS, they're just a jerk!"

[MscleLovr]

It just helps being more transparent and gives the provider enough information to make an informed decision.

In...text/email to an escort I offer a full description of myself as well as my sexual likes and dislikes. In my case....I'd rather have him turn me down by text or email rather than slam a door in my face.

 

Very much agree with @cany10011 and @Epigonos. When I hired, I described myself fully. I’d rather be rejected than suffer and pay for a bad experience.

[coriolis888]

 

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I LOVED his answer: "there is always something about a person that you can find attractive –

 

 

 

Even if that "something" is the cash the client will pay to the escort.

[marylander1940]

NOPE. They are providing a service. If you can't find something attractive about every person, you should get into a different business. I once asked an escort – that I had hired multiple times – how he 'did it' with guys he did not find attractive and I LOVED his answer:

 

 

I understand your point of view and I think the best providers won't ask for stats but there are some providers who can't perform with them and would rather not get their money.

 

We had an Annapolis escort who said in his ad "no blacks", I stayed away from him.

 

A frequent poster started a thread proclaiming he wouldn't date, have or hire "men of color". I don't know why folks think that way but that's what it is.

 

"there is always something about a person that you can find attractive – you have to find the beauty in every person. UNLESS, they're just a jerk!"

 

That's why I always hire gay men! I don't want to pay for someone who is thinking of a woman when he's with me... Besides when I served I had plenty of sex with truly straight men.

 

Even if that "something" is the cash the client will pay to the escort.

 

The secret is NOT making it look as if it's all about the $. Good escorts accomplish it!

[JamesMorris]

They are probably just making sure you are not 350lbs

They get picky sometimes

[+ DrownedBoy]

When I get a request for a photo for a provider, I just give my age/height/weight.

 

Some providers ask for my race as well. The last time that happened, I gave it, then stopped responding to any of his future texts.

[cany10011]

They are probably just making sure you are not 350lbs

They get picky sometimes

 

 

Even on regular dating apps, there ones that claim they “can’t get hard for lard”... so i don’t see why people should not disclose as much as possible to ensure the provider will be able to perform given the client’s detailed profile.

[+ Charlie]

Perhaps the best response would be: "Which stats would you like to know?" Then you can decide whether you want to provide them.

[cany10011]

Perhaps the best response would be: "Which stats would you like to know?" Then you can decide whether you want to provide them.

 

Good point, but I find extensive email back and forth diminishes interest.

[Todd Jenkins]

Even if that "something" is the cash the client will pay to the escort.

Yep!

[Daverwr]

That’s one of the reasons I prefer a site such as rm that requires everyone have a profile. That way before the provider responds to you they can check your profile. I find it a huge turn on when I can tell in the provider’s response that they first read my profile.