Incall at your place

[+ Reisr30]

Curious about others experience inviting a companion to their place. How do you determine when it’s ok to do so? Any tips to decide when it’s ok?

[+ azdr0710]

I've only had one provider at my house and that was only after years (!) of building trust! I much prefer the anonymity and neutrality of a comfortable hotel room. And I don't have to clean the house!

 

I know many here, however, typically have companions in their homes and never have a problem.

[liubit]

I have been hiring for 25+ years now. I used to always host at my place and never had any problem but now that I am in a relationship, I mostly hire on trips and then use my hotel room. In case you are wondering, my partner knows everything. ?

[+ RJD]

I prefer hosting in my home. It’s easier for me, no traveling, I control the environment, no surprises or unknown guests. I guess I consider it home field advantage. With all that said, I also treat these men as guests in my home and not as hired help. Drinks, food (especially if doing an overnight) and making them feel comfortable. I also do my due diligence, i.e., this forum and Daddy’s, before reaching out to them, so I have a pretty good idea of their reputation. I don’t have a ton of hiring experience, but I’ve had two companions here multiple times and I’m sure if asked would say they feel comfortable in my home.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I prefer not to host in my residence. Some years ago I hosted a very popular local DC guy at my place. The session was fantastic and he certainly lived up to his well deserved reputation. As he was leaving picking up his backpack a set of brass knuckles fell out making a loud ping as it hit the floor. We were both taken aback and there was an awkward silence for a moment. We looked at each other and he scooped up the knuckles stuffing them into the backpack and quickly left. I decided then I would no longer hire and host in my home.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've done some in calls and never had a problem. With local guys, it seems to be a roll of the dice how comfortable I will be in their residences. When I'm hosting, I do take extra care to make sure things are clean and tidy. (Maybe scheduling something soon will help motive me to do the spring cleaning.)

[+ Axiom2001]

In 2005 after I had had surgery for a torn ligament in my right leg- I invited my then "go to" escort to my place (townhouse) on two occasions. I didn't give it any undo thought, and it worked. He drove from the San Jose area to Monterey, CA and "did the deed!"

 

Prior to that, I had a guy visit me. He, too, drove to me, for we have no scene in the Monterey, Carmel, Pacific Grove, (Monterey Peninsula) area.

He came to me, continuously admired my decor (which bothered me) but did give me a memorable time.

 

To date (05.23.20), I vividly recall our session. Wow!

 

...have NOT had any other visitors to play in my place, for I've always gone to San Francisco or San Jose for my play. ...have visited a few in their space, but for the most part, almost all of my fun has occurred either in my or their hotel room or respective lodgings. I prefer the former...

Edited May 27, 2020 by Axiom2001

[+ Reisr30]

Thanks for everyone who responded. I prefer to host in my hotel but I was wondering about hosting in my home. I think I will just be really cautious and make sure I know the person well before I take the leap.

[Daverwr]

Curious about others experience inviting a companion to their place. How do you determine when it’s ok to do so? Any tips to decide when it’s ok?

I prefer hosting in my home. It’s easier for me, no traveling, I control the environment, no surprises or unknown guests. I guess I consider it home field advantage. With all that said, I also treat these men as guests in my home and not as hired help. Drinks, food (especially if doing an overnight) and making them feel comfortable. I also do my due diligence, i.e., this forum and Daddy’s, before reaching out to them, so I have a pretty good idea of their reputation. I don’t have a ton of hiring experience, but I’ve had two companions here multiple times and I’m sure if asked would say they feel comfortable in my home.

I always host in my home or hotel room when traveling. I may be wrong (don’t burst my bubble) but I feel safer doing it this way. I feel more in control. And, I can end it when I feel it’s necessary. Plus, it adds to my BFE, which I always request.

[+ Pensant]

Mostly host at home. Never had an issue. My spidie-sense is very good, it seems. I like to control the environment and since I like role-play, my stage is always set!

[rvwnsd]

Mostly host at home. Never had an issue. My spidie-sense is very good, it seems. I like to control the environment and since I like role-play, my stage is always set!

I would answer verbatim ,except for me it isn't role-play, it is watersports and watching a guy show off. Everything is set up when a guy comes over. However, I'm OK with going to a guy's place, especially when it facilitates him answering the door naked.

[+ WilliamM]

I prefer hosting in my home. It’s easier for me, no traveling, I control the environment, no surprises or unknown guests. I guess I consider it home field advantage. With all that said, I also treat these men as guests in my home and not as hired help. Drinks, food (especially if doing an overnight) and making them feel comfortable. I also do my due diligence, i.e., this forum and Daddy’s, before reaching out to them, so I have a pretty good idea of their reputation. I don’t have a ton of hiring experience, but I’ve had two companions here multiple times and I’m sure if asked would say they feel comfortable in my home.

 

The first guy I hired traveled from Long Island to where I live in Philly, and stayed for over 24 hours. Tried to follow that successful fun time ever since. To be fair, I did meet him by accident in NYC first, but nothing much happened.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I prefer not to host in my residence. Some years ago I hosted a very popular local DC guy at my place. The session was fantastic and he certainly lived up to his well deserved reputation. As he was leaving picking up his backpack a set of brass knuckles fell out making a loud ping as it hit the floor. We were both taken aback and there was an awkward silence for a moment. We looked at each other and he scooped up the knuckles stuffing them into the backpack and quickly left. I decided then I would no longer hire and host in my home.

 

So...would it have made you feel safer if you went to his place, and the brass knuckles fell out of the bag? Maybe it’s for protection of sorts?

 

I’m aware some people feel it’s more safe to go visit someone’s place than their own, and it some ways it “can” be. However, in my experience...all of my most close calls where I felt in imminent danger, happened to all have been outcalls. Just food for thought, not swaying your decision 1 way or another.

 

Actually I’ll add an interesting caveat: it seems like freebie hookups are generally the ones who want me to come over, whereas it’s clients who generally want me to host. My biggest pet peeve is when I go out my way to get a hotel room all to myself for a couple days, and spend all day trying to get some, but nobody wants to come over. They want me to leave my hotel room and come to them (happened on my 1 night trip to San Diego over Veterans Day) That’s why I mainly only host “by appointment only”.

Edited May 25, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut

[BluDay]

I meet my regulars at my place, it's easier on all of us. That being said, I had good, comfortable relationships with those guys, so I did not worry.

 

Where I have invited 1 guy I didn't know, I doubt I'd do that again. He was fine, but I'm so much more comfortable knowing the guy I don't want to change.

[GTMike]

I prefer hosting in my home. It’s easier for me, no traveling, I control the environment, no surprises or unknown guests. I guess I consider it home field advantage. With all that said, I also treat these men as guests in my home and not as hired help. Drinks, food (especially if doing an overnight) and making them feel comfortable. I also do my due diligence, i.e., this forum and Daddy’s, before reaching out to them, so I have a pretty good idea of their reputation. I don’t have a ton of hiring experience, but I’ve had two companions here multiple times and I’m sure if asked would say they feel comfortable in my home.

 

I agree with you on everything though have met a couple times in hotel rooms when i was traveling in Vegas and London. Based on your comment i probably have more of hiring experience and much prefer hosting as well, but that's how I am with friends in general so it comes naturally regardless. I just don't think i could relax at someone's place who i didn't know because of the potential of too many unknown variables to me. (Oh just remembered i did go to a gentlemen's place once) but we were already good friends by then. Prolly sounds silly but honestly for a 1st time meeting, i'd almost rather pay the extra expense and get a hotel room independently in the city i live in, than feel vulnerable going to their place until i knew them better.

[GTMike]

I prefer hosting in my home. It’s easier for me, no traveling, I control the environment, no surprises or unknown guests. I guess I consider it home field advantage. With all that said, I also treat these men as guests in my home and not as hired help. Drinks, food (especially if doing an overnight) and making them feel comfortable. I also do my due diligence, i.e., this forum and Daddy’s, before reaching out to them, so I have a pretty good idea of their reputation. I don’t have a ton of hiring experience, but I’ve had two companions here multiple times and I’m sure if asked would say they feel comfortable in my home.

 

I agree with you on everything though have met a couple times in hotel rooms when i was traveling in Vegas and London. Based on your comment i probably have more of hiring experience and much prefer hosting as well, but that's how I am with friends in general so it comes naturally regardless. I just don't think i could relax at someone's place who i didn't know because of the potential of too many unknown variables to me. (Oh just remembered i did go to a gentlemen's place once) but we were already good friends by then. Prolly sounds silly but honestly for a 1st time meeting, i'd almost rather pay the extra expense and get a hotel room independently in the city i live in, than feel vulnerable going to their place until i knew them better.