Do escorts prefer regular clients?

[Guest SFJEFF]

I am curious to hear from escorts if they prefer regular clients that they can see often or a bunch of one time only clients? I tend to focus on one escort who I can get to know and then the experiences tend to get better and better. But some escorts that I have met don't seem to be conducive to that arrangement, others do. I'm just curious as to what escorts prefer and why?

[Guest SFJEFF]

I am curious to hear from escorts if they prefer regular clients that they can see often or a bunch of one time only clients? I tend to focus on one escort who I can get to know and then the experiences tend to get better and better. But some escorts that I have met don't seem to be conducive to that arrangement, others do. I'm just curious as to what escorts prefer and why?

[Guest red]

Great question, Jeff. I prefer seeing an escort on a "repeat" basis, because I learn more about him, as well as myself. Intuitively, it would seem that an escort would feel the same way about a client. I also wonder whether some escorts refuse to see certain clients a second time----for reasons other than physical safety, non-payment or bad personal hygiene. And, if so, why? Hope to hear from the escorts on both of these questions.

[Guest red]

Great question, Jeff. I prefer seeing an escort on a "repeat" basis, because I learn more about him, as well as myself. Intuitively, it would seem that an escort would feel the same way about a client. I also wonder whether some escorts refuse to see certain clients a second time----for reasons other than physical safety, non-payment or bad personal hygiene. And, if so, why? Hope to hear from the escorts on both of these questions.

[Guest NYCMuscBoy]

From my days of escorting, the answer is an unqualified YES. I actually became friends with some clients, and still keep in touch with them though I don't see them on a sexual basis anymore.

 

I always found it stressful meeting a new client -- every single one was so different, and sometimes the surprises were pleasant, sometimes not so pleasant. I must say they were usually pleasant, and the great percentage of clients were kind people. It's much easier going to the known than the unknown.

 

And there were definitely clients I refused to see again. Some because of hygiene problems, some because they were a bit on the mean side, and some because they had unrealistic expectations as to what our relationship meant.

 

I think, if I'm not mistaken, that most escorts cultivate regular clients. For me, the sex got better as we got to know each other, and the time got more and more enjoyable.

[Guest NYCMuscBoy]

From my days of escorting, the answer is an unqualified YES. I actually became friends with some clients, and still keep in touch with them though I don't see them on a sexual basis anymore.

 

I always found it stressful meeting a new client -- every single one was so different, and sometimes the surprises were pleasant, sometimes not so pleasant. I must say they were usually pleasant, and the great percentage of clients were kind people. It's much easier going to the known than the unknown.

 

And there were definitely clients I refused to see again. Some because of hygiene problems, some because they were a bit on the mean side, and some because they had unrealistic expectations as to what our relationship meant.

 

I think, if I'm not mistaken, that most escorts cultivate regular clients. For me, the sex got better as we got to know each other, and the time got more and more enjoyable.

[Guest allansmith63]

Another client responds...

 

As a client, I've only been with one escort, and I know from my perspective, that I really appreciate the efforts my guy has made to get to know me - we can carry on conversations about our lives from visit to visit. I think that as we age (I'm 42) our need for sexual gratification undergoes a change (mine has). While I still crave the raw sexual experience, the walking, touching, kissing, cuddling, and talking into the wee hours of the mornings together have come to mean just as much as the wild sex. I think that for me, sex has become as much "head" as

"body" - and I know that I can only achieve this level of satisfaction with an escort that knows me, and I him. If I just wanted sex, I can get that anywhere, anytime - but I want so much more.

 

If I may, I would like to add an addendum to this question - how do you as escorts avoid or manage to prevent emotional attachment to regular clients, or is emotional attachment even an issue? (Some of us are pretty wonderful, and easy to get attached to (tongue in cheek, my own!).

 

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[Guest allansmith63]

Another client responds...

 

As a client, I've only been with one escort, and I know from my perspective, that I really appreciate the efforts my guy has made to get to know me - we can carry on conversations about our lives from visit to visit. I think that as we age (I'm 42) our need for sexual gratification undergoes a change (mine has). While I still crave the raw sexual experience, the walking, touching, kissing, cuddling, and talking into the wee hours of the mornings together have come to mean just as much as the wild sex. I think that for me, sex has become as much "head" as

"body" - and I know that I can only achieve this level of satisfaction with an escort that knows me, and I him. If I just wanted sex, I can get that anywhere, anytime - but I want so much more.

 

If I may, I would like to add an addendum to this question - how do you as escorts avoid or manage to prevent emotional attachment to regular clients, or is emotional attachment even an issue? (Some of us are pretty wonderful, and easy to get attached to (tongue in cheek, my own!).

 

A

[Guest Shamus]

Regular clients are waaaay preferable! In fact, I'd be surprised to learn that cultivating regulars wasn't every escort's objective. Regulars are so much less stressful --- I would think for both parties --- and yes, you can become sort of "work friends" with your regulars, and naturally that enhances the experience all around.

 

I do have to note one tiny problem with regulars, however: I've had a couple of regulars who thought that because they were regulars, they could just call up last minute and I'd pop them in somewhere --- in fact, sometimes, I've had the sneaking feeling that they were doing so kind of to "test" just how special their status was with me. Well, fine. I guess we all do things like that to reassure our fragile egos now & then. I'm certainly guilty. Of course, if that works out & I can fit them in --- even with a little

re-arranging --- than I would gladly do so. But what if there's some new client who has been planning this for months and this is his only chance to see me during a short trip to NY, and he's totally looking forward to it & awfully sweet to boot? Am I supposed to cancel or try to reschedule him, so that I can see a regular, even if the regular happens to be one of my secret favorites? I have a policy that I just won't "bump" one client for another, no matter what, and sometimes regular clients can get a bit miffed if they perceive that they are not getting special scheduling consideration. Which I guess I can understand, but hey, regulars! It doesn't mean you don't still have a star next to your name in my book, ok?

 

Other than that, regulars rock.

 

Shamus

[Guest Shamus]

Regular clients are waaaay preferable! In fact, I'd be surprised to learn that cultivating regulars wasn't every escort's objective. Regulars are so much less stressful --- I would think for both parties --- and yes, you can become sort of "work friends" with your regulars, and naturally that enhances the experience all around.

 

I do have to note one tiny problem with regulars, however: I've had a couple of regulars who thought that because they were regulars, they could just call up last minute and I'd pop them in somewhere --- in fact, sometimes, I've had the sneaking feeling that they were doing so kind of to "test" just how special their status was with me. Well, fine. I guess we all do things like that to reassure our fragile egos now & then. I'm certainly guilty. Of course, if that works out & I can fit them in --- even with a little

re-arranging --- than I would gladly do so. But what if there's some new client who has been planning this for months and this is his only chance to see me during a short trip to NY, and he's totally looking forward to it & awfully sweet to boot? Am I supposed to cancel or try to reschedule him, so that I can see a regular, even if the regular happens to be one of my secret favorites? I have a policy that I just won't "bump" one client for another, no matter what, and sometimes regular clients can get a bit miffed if they perceive that they are not getting special scheduling consideration. Which I guess I can understand, but hey, regulars! It doesn't mean you don't still have a star next to your name in my book, ok?

 

Other than that, regulars rock.

 

Shamus

[Guest TravisNYC]

Some clients will always, or frequently, seek out a new escort for the thrill of opening the door and the anticipation. Doesn't this thrill also occur on the escorts side? Regular client means they will show up, pay, and you know the script ahead of time. New client equals a little bit of adventure. What will happen? What will he look like? I think it depends on the day as to what most would prefer. Probably a good mix of both.

[Guest TravisNYC]

Some clients will always, or frequently, seek out a new escort for the thrill of opening the door and the anticipation. Doesn't this thrill also occur on the escorts side? Regular client means they will show up, pay, and you know the script ahead of time. New client equals a little bit of adventure. What will happen? What will he look like? I think it depends on the day as to what most would prefer. Probably a good mix of both.

[Guest DCTony]

As a client, I agree with both opinions.

 

Yes, I do see a few regular escorts because of the familiarity and relationship that has developed - the "comfort" level.

 

On the other hand, I also seek out a new escort from time to time for the "adventure" aspect - those that catch your eye, so to speak.

 

DCTony

[Guest DCTony]

As a client, I agree with both opinions.

 

Yes, I do see a few regular escorts because of the familiarity and relationship that has developed - the "comfort" level.

 

On the other hand, I also seek out a new escort from time to time for the "adventure" aspect - those that catch your eye, so to speak.

 

DCTony

[Guest Aaron Lawrence]

Hiya,

 

I talk about this issue in my new book, The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way. Since Hooboy was one of my advanced readers, he asked me to chime in on the discussion.

 

Regular clients are definitely the lifeblood of the business of most escorts. Besides bringing in a more steady source of income, they also help lower the escort's legal and health risks. As such, most escorts go out of their way to make regulars feel welcome.

 

That being said, it is critical for an escort to maintain a balance of regulars vs. new clients. Notice that I don't say one-time clients. Whenever I meet someone for the first time, I have no idea if I'll see them again. And if I do, it may be a day, week, month, or year later. Indeed, a few clients have even called me up over a year later to ask for a second appointment. The point of this being since I have no idea what is a one-time client, I treat them all as if they are potential regulars. And since the changing needs of regular clients means they will gradually attition out of my clientele, it is important to try to bring in new regulars.

 

So what we really have is regular and potential regular clients. Obviously both are necessary.

 

That being said, escorts are highly divergent on which of the two types of escorts they prefer working for. As several escorts have pointed out, knowing a client in advance means it is easier to meet their needs, and often more emotionally and physically rewarding for the escort. On the other hand, many escorts like being promiscous, and having constant access to new clients is a great source of sexual fun.

 

I prefer a balance of the two. I love my regular clients dearly, and work very hard towards meeting their needs. But I also enjoy the thrill of jumping into bed with someone for the first time, as I figure out what makes their brain and body tick. If I have a long string of new clients in a row, I become mildly depressed that my work is somewhat superficial and without depth. If I have a long string of repeat clients, I become somewhat bored with life and want a burst of excitement. If the two alternate with some frequency, I find myself mentally and physically at my peak.

 

Hopefully that gave you a bit of insight into your question.

 

--Aaron

[Guest Aaron Lawrence]

Hiya,

 

I talk about this issue in my new book, The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way. Since Hooboy was one of my advanced readers, he asked me to chime in on the discussion.

 

Regular clients are definitely the lifeblood of the business of most escorts. Besides bringing in a more steady source of income, they also help lower the escort's legal and health risks. As such, most escorts go out of their way to make regulars feel welcome.

 

That being said, it is critical for an escort to maintain a balance of regulars vs. new clients. Notice that I don't say one-time clients. Whenever I meet someone for the first time, I have no idea if I'll see them again. And if I do, it may be a day, week, month, or year later. Indeed, a few clients have even called me up over a year later to ask for a second appointment. The point of this being since I have no idea what is a one-time client, I treat them all as if they are potential regulars. And since the changing needs of regular clients means they will gradually attition out of my clientele, it is important to try to bring in new regulars.

 

So what we really have is regular and potential regular clients. Obviously both are necessary.

 

That being said, escorts are highly divergent on which of the two types of escorts they prefer working for. As several escorts have pointed out, knowing a client in advance means it is easier to meet their needs, and often more emotionally and physically rewarding for the escort. On the other hand, many escorts like being promiscous, and having constant access to new clients is a great source of sexual fun.

 

I prefer a balance of the two. I love my regular clients dearly, and work very hard towards meeting their needs. But I also enjoy the thrill of jumping into bed with someone for the first time, as I figure out what makes their brain and body tick. If I have a long string of new clients in a row, I become mildly depressed that my work is somewhat superficial and without depth. If I have a long string of repeat clients, I become somewhat bored with life and want a burst of excitement. If the two alternate with some frequency, I find myself mentally and physically at my peak.

 

Hopefully that gave you a bit of insight into your question.

 

--Aaron

[Guest Quinte]

"...If the two alternate with some frequency, I find myself mentally and physically at my peak"

 

Hear, hear Aaron. :-)

 

I also find there is less "wear and tear" on both sides. I am as yet to meet a client that I was so utterly disgusted with to go ahead with the meeting. This could mean my "screening" process works great, or I have been extremely lucky. I will settle for the later.

 

 

Quinte DuSoleil

 

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[Guest Quinte]

"...If the two alternate with some frequency, I find myself mentally and physically at my peak"

 

Hear, hear Aaron. :-)

 

I also find there is less "wear and tear" on both sides. I am as yet to meet a client that I was so utterly disgusted with to go ahead with the meeting. This could mean my "screening" process works great, or I have been extremely lucky. I will settle for the later.

 

 

Quinte DuSoleil

 

http://www.rentboy.com/quinte

http://communities.msn.com/qdus

nubiandreams@hotmail.com

[Guest bluboy]

Or you have no standards..is another option...blu

[Guest bluboy]

Or you have no standards..is another option...blu

[Guest ManhattanMan]

As a client, I like the best of both worlds. I have a few sexy regulars (chosen as much for attitude as anything else) that make me feel comfortable and know my hot buttons. But the thrill of experiencing new men is too great to resist! Were I only wealthy enough to make them ALL regulars. (I'm certainly piggie enuf) I hv a question for escorts tho: I'd be inclined to stick with one or two guys if they offered a price break to serious regulars (once a week, say). But I seldom run into such deals and don't want to bargain, fearing I'd insult them. Should I ask? What's the norm? Most of the better escorts here in NYC run abt $200/hr.

[Guest ManhattanMan]

As a client, I like the best of both worlds. I have a few sexy regulars (chosen as much for attitude as anything else) that make me feel comfortable and know my hot buttons. But the thrill of experiencing new men is too great to resist! Were I only wealthy enough to make them ALL regulars. (I'm certainly piggie enuf) I hv a question for escorts tho: I'd be inclined to stick with one or two guys if they offered a price break to serious regulars (once a week, say). But I seldom run into such deals and don't want to bargain, fearing I'd insult them. Should I ask? What's the norm? Most of the better escorts here in NYC run abt $200/hr.

[Bilbo]

I had a regular client who talked me into only charging him half in return for which he would come once or twice a week. Well, this kind of a relationship is the kind that is designed to go nowhere, basically, when it is working right. Seeing someone that often and the relationship not growing didn't work for me past the first two or three years. Then I started resenting the fact that sure, I could count on him but I was still working for half price. My time wasn't worth as much as I thought it should be. I started really getting upset between visits if he let any kind of a complaint fall at the end of his visit. Particularly as he often complained that my visits, which were designed for "up to 2 hours" weren't going the full two hours. (With most new clients they naturally petered out after about one and a half.) (Not talking overnights here.) There have been other threads on this same subject and I probably said the same kind of things on them. So, maybe it would have worked with only a 15% discount, or something? Who knows?

[Bilbo]

I had a regular client who talked me into only charging him half in return for which he would come once or twice a week. Well, this kind of a relationship is the kind that is designed to go nowhere, basically, when it is working right. Seeing someone that often and the relationship not growing didn't work for me past the first two or three years. Then I started resenting the fact that sure, I could count on him but I was still working for half price. My time wasn't worth as much as I thought it should be. I started really getting upset between visits if he let any kind of a complaint fall at the end of his visit. Particularly as he often complained that my visits, which were designed for "up to 2 hours" weren't going the full two hours. (With most new clients they naturally petered out after about one and a half.) (Not talking overnights here.) There have been other threads on this same subject and I probably said the same kind of things on them. So, maybe it would have worked with only a 15% discount, or something? Who knows?

[Guest Chris#2 - NYC]

I can answer that question with a big fat yes. Regulars are the bread and butter of what we do. They also are willing to come back again and again because once they are comfortable they can open up and they will try those things they have always wondered about without worrying about what your response will be.

 

Most of my clients are regulars and I do regard them as friends. I talk to many on a regular basis because they do like to know they are remembered. I like talking to them and seeing how they are doing.

 

It is easier to know what a client wants when you have seen him repeatedly. When you know his limits. It actually turns me on more to know that this person is repeatedly getting more turned on by me every time I see him.

 

Glad to see my friend Shamus agrees. He and I have the same views on the subject.

 

Thanks guys and hope to see you again.